| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by badadvice(f): 10:50pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
To get her back, i'll advise you start by getting her little gifts like a land, house, phone or even a car.
That way, you'll be showing her that your serious this time around. 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Sadiqali24(m): 10:51pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
what's this insecurity in a relationship? 1 Like |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Nobody: 11:23pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.
Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.
The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).
Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"
We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.
Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me. 1 Like |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by PrimadonnaO(f): 11:26pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
ElsonMorali:
Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.
If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.
Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.
Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.
She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck. This would get me back, too. Perfecto!  OP, here's your advice served on a platter of gold! 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Topmaike007(m): 11:26pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
All this lies wey mynd44 and lalasticlala dey push online today,dey alarming oo |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by tosyne2much(m): 11:27pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
If you chase a good girl away, believe me, the memories of how you spent time together will always trouble you 15 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by PrimadonnaO(f): 11:28pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
BalleyB:
I'm improved. Are you? Why you wasting your time replying trolls? 1 Like |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Flight90: 11:30pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
Jcole1985:
Yeah,you just got to my past level  past level....savage you!!! 4 Likes 
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| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by PrimadonnaO(f): 11:31pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
6660M0666:
BalleyB,
Are you in Lagos?.
It sounds like we are in a relationship with the same person? Without mincing words, I feel I'm the girl. But he said he texted yesterday... I didn't get that kind of text yesterday. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by amokeme(f): 11:31pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
greatnaija01:
IF SHE HAS MOVED ON then she NEVER LOVED U.
so relax and plan your shot well.
Wow.. so a woman should stay in a toxic situation (in this case, go back to it) to prove her initial love? I honestly hope she has moved on, doesn't have to be with another man, but moved on enough to know she deserves better. The OP thinks he has changed, but he will still do worse this time. Please go and be better with someone else and leave her alone. Insecure men are the worse to deal with. Manipulative lots (talking from personal experience) 16 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Flight90: 11:32pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
badadvice:
To get her back, i'll advise you start by getting her little gifts like a land, house, phone or even a car.
That way, you'll be showing her that your serious this time around. Someone who was blocked on whatsapp. 1 Like |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Mariangeles(f): 11:33pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
[s] ElsonMorali:
Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.
If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.
Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.
Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.
She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck. [/s] She's not missing any bullsh!t ! Men think they can have their cake and eat it...or is it eat their cake and have it sef ??  He should leave omolomo alone ! 8 Likes |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Flight90: 11:34pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
PrimadonnaO:
Without mincing words, I feel I'm the girl. But he said he texted yesterday... I didn't get that kind of text yesterday. @op...bursted!!! I hope dis is her o He probably twisted the story so dat u wouldn't know he was the one, if in case you are also on Nairaland. 2 Likes 
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| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by kiddoiLL(m): 11:34pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
BalleyB:
I placed a lot of value on her. I was only being childish with the way I get jealous and create issues where there was none. I feel you bro, I did the same exact thing you did years ago..the only way for you to get her back is to open up totally to her, your insecurities, your worries and fears, admit all your mistakes, nd show re u really need her back n need just a chance back because you love her too much. Guy don't give up on her, she'll come back but when she does, don't ruin it again, if you do, then forget her 8 Likes |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by badadvice(f): 11:35pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
Flight90:
Someone who was blocked on whatsapp. yes, buying her those little gifts would ensure he gets unblocked from whatsapp and unblocked from her heart. Literally! He could surprise her with the car, land, house or even phone. And voila, he's back into her whatsapp and heart. As easy as ABC. 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Mariangeles(f): 11:35pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
[s] BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.
Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.
The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).
Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"
We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.
Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me. [/s] You will NEVER get her back ! Do you know why ?? YOU DON'T DESERVE HER BECAUSE YOU'RE OLOSHO ! A LOVE PEDDLER! |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Odelhorno1990: 11:38pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
Bros you can as well get her back with your Attitude provided you have cleansed yourself of negative of all sorts. |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Viking007(m): 11:38pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
BalleyB:
I was hoping to text her tomorrow about a spot we visited sometimes 2018 which I revisited earlier today. Then if she replies, I'll ask her if it is alright to call.
From there I might convince her to unblock me on whatsapp then proceed with the rapport for a week maybe before asking for a date.
I don't want her giving me the red signals yet. Good idea? Dude, move on with your life. She's probably into someone else. We always deceive ourselves thinking our ex(es) are irreplaceable, not until we meet the perfect partner. 24 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by anonymuz(m): 11:41pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.
Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.
The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).
Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"
We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.
Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me. go and meet her and Express yourself. I guess that's what she needed. For you to have realised your mistakes that will make her to forgive you. Mind you, women hates men that feel insecure around them...I have once been in the same position as yours and same experience too, but I outgrown it since. So you too outgrow it |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by LadyHeaven(f): 11:42pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
Kikikikikikiki, this one has allowed NL mu.mu boys association comments derail and destroy his beautiful relationship NL romance Topic- My girl answered a phone call weirdly what do i do? MBAC- kick the cheating farm tool to the curb, pound d shi outta her & kick her away bro, gf isn't wife plenty fishes in the river, amongst other childish comments. Gullible "boys" swallow it hook line and sinker and f up their good relationships and come back to NL crying while on the flip side those MBA commentators are enjoying their relationship in secret and handling issues maturely while deceiving other naive boys them.  Enjoy your regrets OP 21 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Biglittlelois(f): 11:46pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
tosyne2much:
If you chase a good girl away, believe me, the memories of how you spent time together will always trouble you True. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Nobody: 12:25am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Curvinus:
Op this is the best answer you can get here. Obviously your instincts convinced you that the girl you had high hopes for was slipping away and you turned possessive based on what you observed. So saying you acted out of order just because you feel lonely and miserable now is in effect trying to say your intuition is wrong, which usually is not true in most cases.
For instance, if truly as you said, she is what every man would want to keep, what then makes you think other men are not trying hard to get hold of her and she not stylishly entertaining these men?
But, it would seem that you have managed to convince yourself that neutering your gender alliance is what will eventually get to keep her. Well, not everyone will agree with you on that but its your choice to make. The only person making sense here. |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by greatnaija01: 12:46am On Mar 21, 2019 |
pls read in context.... MOVE ON does not mean what you take it to be. the guy meant MOVE ON TO ANOTHER GUY. Stop being edgy about it... MARRIAGES suffer these same things.... RING does not change character... so if they were already married nko? she should leave without trying to give chances to make things work.... pls I do not like how you ladies define love... IF IT WAS THE LADY... you would have said the guy does not love her if he went for another lady so quick... NOW the guy is remorseful.... he needs to see the reality of things. anyway its all based on maturity..... MAYBE you have never had issues with someone and over the years you miss them and cant remember what made you both fight... because at the older age... IT WOULD MEAN NOTHING. amokeme:
Wow.. so a woman should stay in a toxic situation (in this case, go back to it) to prove her initial love? I honestly hope she has moved on, doesn't have to be with another man, but moved on enough to know she deserves better. The OP thinks he has changed, but he will still do worse this time. Please go and be better with someone else and leave her alone. Insecure men are the worse to deal with. Manipulative lots (talking from personal experience) 2 Likes |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by King19957(m): 1:13am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Thank God u know dat d topic is irrelevant.. 
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| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Nanatrendy(f): 1:17am On Mar 21, 2019 |
What about the other relationship you had? How did it end ? Are you sure you've changed? What we're you insecure about? Perhaps if you gave us more details of what ensued between you that led to the breakup you'd get a good advice. I honestly think you should ask to be her friend for a while until she is convinced you have changed because as at now am sure she'll be scared to have a relationship with you because two months is a short time for attitudinal change. 4 Likes |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by sacramento1212: 1:26am On Mar 21, 2019 |
BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.
Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.
The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).
Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"
We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.
Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me. And how about the relationship you had after the break up? Are you sure you aren't a confused man? 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Destinychigozie: 1:41am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Some people don't know the value of what the have until the loose it. Is really bad. 1 Like |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Carlyboi(m): 1:54am On Mar 21, 2019 |
LadyHeaven:
Kikikikikikiki, this one has allowed NL mu.mu boys association comments derail and destroy his beautiful relationship
NL romance Topic- My girl answered a phone call weirdly what do i do?
MBAC- kick the cheating farm tool to the curb, pound d shi outta her & kick her away bro, gf isn't wife plenty fishes in the river, amongst other childish comments.This girl sef lol Nairaland mumu boys hahaha
Gullible "boys" swallow it hook line and sinker and f up their good relationships and come back to NL crying while on the flip side those MBA commentators are enjoying their relationship in secret and handling issues maturely while deceiving other naive boys them.
Enjoy your regrets OP 1 Like |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Souqwaqif: 2:09am On Mar 21, 2019 |
ElsonMorali:
Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.
If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.
Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.
Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.
She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck. I think you spoke well,this option is good. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by lasisi69(f): 2:33am On Mar 21, 2019 |
tosyne2much:
If you chase a good girl away, believe me, the memories of how you spent time together will always trouble you |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Shawlambivert(m): 3:21am On Mar 21, 2019 |
This song by Taylor Swift will help you. How you get the girl. Just try to listen to it. BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.
Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.
The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).
Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"
We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.
Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me. |
| Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by guru03(m): 3:27am On Mar 21, 2019 |
greatnaija01:
dude to be able to know U were wrong and OWN up to it, mehn... YOU BE REAL MAN. I salute you.
BUT the issue is complex a little.
QUESTIONS that may make her not want to "try again" with u
1) Have you dealt with your insecurites and issues OR you miss her because she had a better way of COPING with you?
2) In the last two months, HAVE U MATURED psychologically? HAVE U stopped reacting childishly to things?
3) IF SHE GIVES YOU A SECOND CHANCE, what would you do differently that will ensure the FIRST break up does not repeat itself again?
4) Are you dating her with plans for the future or just to "KIP KIP" and see how it goes?
5) In what way would you help her HEAL and MOVE ON from the hurt you have caused her?
BRO, if you can critically answer these questions in YOUR HEART... you will get her back quickly.
SECURITY is very important to ladies in relationship o.
Nice advice. |
