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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Joshuazedd(m): 12:55am On Mar 21, 2019
The previous post had similar lines except gender difference. You look at the replies and likes... Double standard and we wonder why we have feminists

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by LordAdam16: 12:55am On Mar 21, 2019
darkelf:


I think this has passed our powers here.

Bro, go and see a pastor. Tough nut ke

I'm signing off bro. Your own son pass be careful....

I saw that and I'm like he's either trolling or he actually needs more of this to happen to him to learn from experience.

Society probably needs him to foster other people's kids and support struggling guys. Believe me there are several guys like that in the real world. Not dumb enough to be completely useless, so they can hold down a job and be contributing members to society. But in relationships, they're massive cucks.

The common cuckoo exists for a reason.

-Lord

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by oyinboboi69: 12:57am On Mar 21, 2019
A cheater will always be a cheater leave her and move on, you are not responsible for her well being
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Nobody: 1:03am On Mar 21, 2019
Having read most of the responses and seen that most men are calling for you to break up with her if you have never ever cheated without being caught or disgraced then by all means go ahead but If you have and have been less than honest give her another chance.

The devil you know is better than the one you don’t know people do change and it’s always truly because of love nobody wants to be cheated on but in some very rare cases it’s inevitable especially when your not really getting the attention because you guys feel you can punish but it’s an abomination to be done to you we do get what we give. Even when we are the purest in love we still get screwed but where is your courage if you are going to run after every hitch you will always run but if your able to inspire someone to change because of love you will know deep in your soul if the person can and make your decision you can’t force it but best believe they will know when they have someone good they always shape up

Just continue to do you
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Holocene(m): 1:05am On Mar 21, 2019
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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?


Bros, the reason she de beg with her life is cos you have a bright future in front of you. A cheating bitc.h will always go back to her vomit....sorry sha

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Nobody: 1:06am On Mar 21, 2019
Nawa oh, the girl get dangerous unrepentant mind. How do I know? She brought him to her house, spent days and even a week. Plus the one they are doing outside, fvcking him and lying to you. And still tell you she loves you! Then have the guts to lie about him as her cousin. Chei, she's evil. She's only crying because of what she will loose and it's obvious you provide for her and take care of her. Move on please, she's a cheat, she no dey learn work.

But I advise you get someone abroad with you, how can you date a student with all the fine boys and gee soft boys way full ground for school that won't allow your woman rest. You don't know that pvssy dey scratch women sometimes? The same way to fvck dey hungry you na so e dey hungry them. Forget the pretense that is why long distance relationship hardly work! She's using the guy to service and unclog the pipes since you're not there to do your work. But cheating is a No No! There other options like vibrators if she was truly open to you, but since she choose to cheat and do it comfortably she'll do it again. It's something she's used to.

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Holocene(m): 1:07am On Mar 21, 2019
solasoulmusic:
Having read most of the responses and seen that most men are calling for you to break up with her if you have never ever cheated without being caught or disgraced then by all means go ahead but If you have and have been less than honest give her another chance.

The devil you know is better than the one you don’t know people do change and it’s always truly because of love nobody wants to be cheated on but in some very rare cases it’s inevitable especially when your not really getting the attention because you guys feel you can do it but it’s an abomination to be done to you we do get what we give. Even when we are the purest in love we still get screwed but where is your courage if you are going to run after every hitch you will always run but if your able to inspire someone to change because of love you will know deep in your soul if the person can and make your decision

Which kind devil you know ko, devil you dont known ni.....cheating is cheating. And she had the guts to tell him it was her cousin...dang...

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Macon1212: 1:10am On Mar 21, 2019
United Nations recently reports that there are 7.8 billions people on Earth, 2.2 billions men and 5.6 billions women. I won't be able to break all the statistics down here. 3.6 billions women are available but only 1 billion men are available for women. Either some men are married, above 66 years, in prison, jobless so likewise women. So why killing yourself because of one girl?

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Nobody: 1:10am On Mar 21, 2019
hmmmm..... I've been there, done that!
the STUPIDEST thing you'll ever do is to continue
with the hoe!

the biggest "SCAM LINE" from most hoes is

"I'll commit suicide if you leave me"


#A WORD IS ENOUGH!

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by MrOldskoolJP(m): 1:10am On Mar 21, 2019
daddytime:
Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...





I just reregistered into nairaland to like your post. You said it all and it's as dope as this pix

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by captainking(m): 1:11am On Mar 21, 2019
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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?
it might not be my business.. But dump that girl if you know what's good for your heart..
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Nobody: 1:12am On Mar 21, 2019
Holocene:


Which kind devil you know ko, devil you dont known ni.....cheating is cheating. And she had the guts to tell him it was her cousin...dang...


But you guys introduce cousins you guys roll with to us all the time as well. You spent time and energy wooing her once she falls you ghost in and out she will cheat body is not firewood but what did she do after.. we all mess up but what we do after counts was she sober about it. You never know what withdrawal feels like as a woman and sometimes another man just fills that void you are happy to leave if you love her you forgive if you don’t move ahead

She’s a lying hoe but every Friday una dey enter hole o come dey church thanksgiving with family

It hurts but women are not objects they have feelings too she even tried only 4 times the hardest thing is admitting you were unfaithful it’s even harder when it happens because the person you love is simply not there

You guys can watch porn and your done it’s not the same for us women as your physical presence free my sister Biko we call that one electric current discharge when the main supply was stalling if she truly loves him and vice versa they will find common ground

Because she fell doesn’t mean it will happen again sometimes you just need to see what you risk losing to never fall again

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by hilaryCU(m): 1:17am On Mar 21, 2019
[quote author=starring post=76836134]Though nut to crack

Tough nut to Crack after all this suggestions. It seems you have very low self esteem. You will regret your life if you have anything serious to do with that girl henceforth. Her actions are premeditated and cold blooded, there are circumstances you might consider forgiveness but not here.

I am tempted to call you a '' FOOL'' but gather yourself together and make us proud as a man. I have never advised anyone on relationships matter here on nairaland but it seems to me that you have a genuine intentions towards her.

Don't worry, you will get a better girl and then all her thoughts will be long gone. There is nobody you cannot do without if you truly love yourself, don't give up yourself easily next time when getting into relationship, with that you won't easily get hurt till you are quite sure of who you are dealing it.

Don't let yourself and those that love you down, you deserve better.

Take care and take charge of your life emotional.

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Bigii(m): 1:18am On Mar 21, 2019
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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and lef8t the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?


Me, I cant forgive cheating because even if I try to forget it will still be ringing in my head anytime i see the beb. It will anger me to do sh!t so its beter i let her go.


Brother, a bleeped pvssy cannot be unfucked. Advice yourself and move on.

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Holocene(m): 1:21am On Mar 21, 2019
solasoulmusic:



But you guys introduce cousins you guys roll with to us all the time as well. You spent time and energy wooing her once she falls you ghost in and out she will cheat body is not firewood but what did she do after.. we all mess up but what we do after counts was she sober about it. You never know what withdrawal feels like as a woman and sometimes another man just fills that void you are happy to leave if you love her you forgive if you don’t move ahead

She’s a lying hoe but every Friday una dey enter hole o come dey church thanksgiving with family

It hurts but women are not objects they have feelings too she even tried only 4 times the hardest thing is admitting you were unfaithful it’s even harder when it happens because the person you love is simply not there

You guys can watch porn and your done it’s not the same for us women as your physical presence free my sister Biko we call that one electric current discharge when the main supply was stalling if she truly loves him and vice versa they will find common ground

Because she fell doesn’t mean it will happen again sometimes you just need to see what you risk losing to never fall again


Wait oh, so it's ok to cheat on your guy when he ain't around?

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Humanaces: 1:22am On Mar 21, 2019
solasoulmusic:



But you guys introduce cousins you guys roll with to us all the time as well. You spent time and energy wooing her once she falls you ghost in and out she will cheat body is not firewood but what did she do after.. we all mess up but what we do after counts was she sober about it. You never know what withdrawal feels like as a woman and sometimes another man just fills that void you are happy to leave if you love her you forgive if you don’t move ahead

She’s a lying hoe but every Friday una dey enter hole o come dey church thanksgiving with family

It hurts but women are not objects they have feelings too she even tried only 4 times the hardest thing is admitting you were unfaithful it’s even harder when it happens because the person you love is simply not there

You guys can watch porn and your done it’s not the same for us women as your physical presence free my sister Biko we call that one electric current discharge when the main supply was stalling if she truly loves him and vice versa they will find common ground


Shut up for CHRIST if u jave no better advice to say.....would you have adviced the same if he were your brother.....please stop spreading this nonsense .....being close to your partner or not doesnt give you the right to be less discipline and that is vice versa .....for her to open lie to him showed she took him for a fools jolly ride all along....oga dump that LovePeddler

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Nobody: 1:25am On Mar 21, 2019
Humanaces:



Shut up for CHRIST if u jave no better advice to say.....would you have adviced the same if he were your brother.....please stop spreading this nonsense .....being close to your partner or not doesnt give you the right to be less discipline and that is vice versa .....for her to open lie to him showed she took him for a fools jolly ride all along....oga dump that LovePeddler

Of course because even OP can’t say away from her he has never ever cheated or had flings distance is real and you will fall if the love is not deep and it doesn’t get deep automatically it’s by errors we correct ourselves. Out of sight is out of mind if your not sure of the loyalty but once your sure or are reassured it gets better

Meet a guy from abroad you know there can be stories to touch so you don’t put all eggs in the basket that’s what happened
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by mechanics(m): 1:33am On Mar 21, 2019
Forgive her since she has confess and tell her not to do that again.
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by leofab(f): 1:41am On Mar 21, 2019
solasoulmusic:


Of course because even OP can’t say away from her he has never ever cheated or had flings distance is real and you will fall if the love is not deep and it doesn’t get deep automatically it’s by errors we correct ourselves. Out of sight is out of mind if your not sure of the loyalty but once your sure or are reassured it gets better

Meet a guy from abroad you know there can be stories to touch so you don’t put all eggs in the basket that’s what happened
mumu girl.. see your weak reason for cheating.. who even knows if the guy you introduced as brother is not still nailing you...!

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by ddeola: 1:42am On Mar 21, 2019
Love across the sea na big time wahala my brother. embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided


The story don't always add up. embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by kunkelhanspeter(m): 1:43am On Mar 21, 2019
What do you expect bro living abroad and u want to have a faithful relationship in Nigeria with a Nigerian girl wey love dick pass life?
Move on bro let her go and hang herself which I doubt
She just crying and begging her paying client don cast bcoz e no easy to get paying client dis day
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by paranod123(m): 1:45am On Mar 21, 2019
shit deep.. this is the kind of love i want..but this is what am getting lol \ but my advice for you is you keep her if you are sure the feelings are real and the repentance is important to be sure of first

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable? [/quote]
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by paranod123(m): 1:54am On Mar 21, 2019
nice word here bro
[but not all} cos some swamp turn Land forever and some land become hole
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by abdulkabirO(m): 2:13am On Mar 21, 2019
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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

The Best thing is to let her go and live with her sex mate. Whether you forgive her or not, that episode that she had sex with someone else will hurt and hunt you forever. In other words, let her go.
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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by lordwizzy09(m): 2:31am On Mar 21, 2019
grad2012:
its takes a strong person to go through a long distance relship.

Am not in the position to tell you to forgive or not to forgive her. Its decision you need to make on your own and ask God to help you with.

Why you dey scope the guy
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by jerryvyne(m): 2:39am On Mar 21, 2019
An answer to the last part of your post OP..
Sure, you can forgive her and Forget the situation.
Moving on is inevitable!
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by bezimo(m): 2:41am On Mar 21, 2019
daddytime:
Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...


Gbagam
Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Aluobe1(m): 2:42am On Mar 21, 2019
Move on bro, I repeat move on.... This is coming from your fellow abroad guy that has gone through the same thing you are passing through. She won't change and she won't commit suicide, just dump her ass. When you travel back to base she'll keep on hoeing. Forget about the crappy saying that the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know, the devil is always the devil nothing good comes from the devil, run asap

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Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Kirinwa: 3:11am On Mar 21, 2019
Op I will say forgive although I understand how you feel but get her tested for sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy test.

The devil you know is better than an unknown angel.

Forgive... You nah man.

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