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Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Anijay1212(m): 7:43am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:God please bless the op for me.She is a good woman. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Biggers82(m): 7:43am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Pregnancy is on the way coming you better send her back before she gets pregnant in your house and her mother will blame you for not taking good care of her daughter If she refused to hear advice send her home because their type learns better after her first pregnancy. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Donjcco(m): 7:46am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: Rubbish reconsideration... Why would you send her back because she's keeping boy friends?.. Is she not human being that blood flows through her vains too... Better you just guild her and her boyfriend so she won't go astray. Teach her to keep just one boyfriend, you can't totally keep her away from boys, even your children self may do worse. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Donjcco(m): 7:48am On Apr 06, 2019 |
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Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by aladinrin(m): 7:59am On Apr 06, 2019 |
What are her parents view in all these. Are they also in the picture as nairalanders. I know of a similar case who only saw the reason after getting pregnant. You have tried your best keep trying on her. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 8:02am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Qokie:women are just too emotional to make a logical decision. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by varyo: 8:10am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Exactly!!!! her people won't be happyTry more with prayers before you consider taking her back. quote author=waleyp post=77274277]You have done your own part, you can’t kill yourself na, just leave her to do whatever as per say you don try your best, inform her parents, it will be bad if she gets pregnant under your watch...[/quote] |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Xano(m): 8:16am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: Interesting My advice: do not cain her. Inform her parents or guardians with a warning in her presence. If the maid, continues, send her home to parents/guardians. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Hades2016(m): 8:16am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:just know if you keep her till SS3 she will be pregnant and pls don’t come here and start shouting or crying again ... Better you send her back to her people now before she put you in big trouble |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by OgogoroFreak(m): 8:17am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Have you considered breaking her leg? 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by varyo: 8:17am On Apr 06, 2019 |
You have not done any wrong.don't spare the rod and spoil the child. quote author=lacapine post=77288373]. Even my biological child, I flog. She doesn't see herself as an outsider and we have such a good relationship. If we didn't, she wouldn't have stayed 6 years and refusing to go. Mind you, she travels home.once in a while and comes back on her own accord. She understands the reason why she is being flogged and this morning, I sat her down and was talking to her again even though I was tired of talking. [/quote] |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Hades2016(m): 8:20am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Donjcco:Mr adviser continue advising him until she get pregnant and put the guy in trouble ooooo... Better she send her back to her people and be sponsoring her school at her peoples place girls of this days can put someone in trouble I da tell you |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 2T215: 8:25am On Apr 06, 2019 |
First, notify her parents and let the parents also advice her....watch and see if any change occurs. If no change occurs, send her back home. You could support her through school while she is with the parents. Your good intentions won't be remembered if she gets pregnant under your roof. Hades2016: 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by oyekanwahab(m): 8:26am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine you coming to this forum to ask for advice is secondary, deep down in you, you know what to do, that girl has been living with you for a while now, you know her behavior more that any of us on this thread, Am assuming she someone that is of good character OR ELSE SHE WOULD NOT HAVE STAYED WITH YOU TO THIS EXTENT, you know her very well, She is an adolescence now , this things a bound to happen, just guide her, you can't tell her to not have boyfriend, even do she does not want to have boyfriend , there are some that would come to still disturb her, Try make connection with her, when you are together, tell her about you own past experience with boys when you were in you teenage years, how you able to deal with them AS for talking to her parent that if she get pregnant, that you would send her back to her village, is the worst thing you can do, IF SHE GET PREGNANT WITHOUT YOU KNOWING AND SHE TRIES ABORTING IT AND COMPLICATION ARISES FROM IT WHICH LEAD TO DEATH, GOD FORBID THAT, NA SERIOUS WAHALA FOR YOUR HEAD, she is an adult, threatening her with that statement could very dangerous TRY AND DEAL WITH THIS AS IF SHE WAS YOUR BIOLOGICAL DAUGHTER,PRAY GOD WILL GUILD YOU |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Hades2016(m): 8:30am On Apr 06, 2019 |
2T215:yes I said it already they should send her back to her parents and continue paying or sponsoring her school... And I still insist if they don’t send her to her parents now trust me she will get pregnant and put them in trouble, little girls of this days don’t have sense believe me bro all they know is men and sex |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by missyblissy: 8:31am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: Op you better send that maid away immediately to aviod future problems. Fly wey no dey hear, dey follow deadbody enter grave. Be wise!!!! If that girl gets pregnant, her Parents will not be happy qith and will blame you and your husband or even accused your husband of being the one responsible. She may get pregnant and try to abort it eeeeeeehn... Send her packing and ensure you drop her at her parents place or where you picked her from personally cos her type fit to leave with her bf if you give transport back home |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by paulibling(m): 8:35am On Apr 06, 2019 |
I will not insult you madam holding brief for her when comments of sending her home arises but I will open your eyes small. What if she gets pregnant and you then decide to send a pregnant girl back to her parents against unpregnant daughter they gave you and when she gets home and tell her parents that you and your husband were using her for sex trade occasionally without condoms which resulted to her state. How would you convince a judge that you and your husband did not trade her for money. You better refuse your village people from dragging your name in the mud cos your story will come to this same nairaliand and the peeps here will call your side of story a cheap lie from pit of hell. Be warned! 2 Likes |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Goalnaldo(m): 8:42am On Apr 06, 2019 |
legendarygeo:too much wisdom from a 23 year old..I like your advice. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Topnotch1402(m): 8:47am On Apr 06, 2019 |
just try to have another heart to heart discussion again and try to involve her parents and even your pastor if you're christians and above all pray about no mountain is unsurmountable with God..I believe she will change if you apply the above measure.. good luck dear |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by bigtt76(f): 8:53am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Handle her like you would your daughter. Its a life training you're undergoing now don't fail. lacapine: |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by victorian(f): 8:57am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Op jejely send her back home, before one becomes two. But some guys sha I have a neighbor, she's a pensioned widower ,all her kids resides abroad, married. she brought a househelp from Cotonou When the girl was just 8Years. She stayed till 18 years, she learnt how to fix hair alongside then Later another male neighbor from the same street came to meet the madam and said he wishes to marry her. The madam made more enquires about the neighbor and realised the man is OK, from a good family with a good job. The widower gave her blessings, told the girl family and they came to Lagos, They are married and sometimes she comes over to help the madam in house Chores when she's chanced. Shes now madam in her hairdressing shop which the husband opened for her So all these boyfriends deceiving your househelp and collecting their share, should have conscience for God sakes! Biko send her to family. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by bukatyne(f): 8:58am On Apr 06, 2019 |
ireneidiva: Really? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by isan(m): 9:00am On Apr 06, 2019 |
give her one week ultimatum if she doesn't change her way send her back immediately |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by ireneidiva(f): 9:16am On Apr 06, 2019 |
bukatyne:Emmmm, injure her and get a pat on the back? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by ireneidiva(f): 9:17am On Apr 06, 2019 |
justli:Discipline her with other ways. You don't flog someone's child. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by ireneidiva(f): 9:18am On Apr 06, 2019 |
samydo:Kindly read the story again. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Ezyp(m): 9:18am On Apr 06, 2019 |
1Sharon:Are you the maid....take it or leave it at 18 one is still under the authority of their parents/guardians. So if the guardian says other wise the maid has to obey. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Klington: 9:22am On Apr 06, 2019 |
In addition, when sending her home make sure you or someone takes her by hand to her parents. She's over grown and you may end up in regrets. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by rayval(m): 9:23am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: Beating her was very wrong. She is 18 for God sake. No matter how hard you try, biology will happen. I bet you weren't different at that age. The only thing you can give her is advise. If really she has become family, then be her friend and let her tell you all she has to..once you put fear in her mind, you will always be lied to. She has come of age. Handle with care. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by AK481(m): 9:24am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Discuss with her parent about it Incase of tomorrow. Also what are the services you will miss if you send her packing? Is she a nice girl? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 9:25am On Apr 06, 2019 |
isan:what if she does the do within that period and get pregnant? the girl remind me of Nigeria as a country, her leaders and her problems. 1 Like |
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