The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by IkpuMmadu: 9:05pm On Apr 13, 2019 |
When I came to the knowledge of this truth way back in the secondary school, I made up my mind to marry before the age of 30 against all odds.
My had dad died at a retirement age of 64 when I was 7 and my younger brother was 4. The dead man left no plans or economic arrangements to train both the younger and far older children in school or in trade.
This mistake is being repeated today by even far more educated and exposed people. We do this and claim a non-existent covenant with God when we should have applied the common sense God gave us.
Don't say you didn't read this wise counsel from here. It is a knowledge so obvious but easily ignored to one's private regret.
I decided that I would not repeat the same mistake my father made hence my determination to marry at 30 which I later realized was even too late.
HARD FACTS FOR GUYS
Assuming you get married at 30 and your wife conceives and delivers your first child when you are 31, the following would likely play out:
Because the average age of graduation in the Nigerian universities these days is 26 then, you shall be 57 at the graduation ceremony of your first child.
Also assume that you have 3 kids with an average spacing age of 2 years then your last child would be 5 years younger than the first. Therefore, you shall be over 63 at the graduation ceremony of your last child.
ISSUES: Look around you and you shall notice the increasing rate of delayed conception and child mortality which is 1/400 (i.e one new born baby out of 400 to Nigerian parents dies in the hospitals) and if you factor in the possibility that there might be delays in conception and assign a number of years to this possibility say for instance, add 4years to that, then a man may be 67 years at the graduation of the last of his three children.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER 1. All civil servants must retire at 60 while professors and judges retire at 70.
2. Average life expectancy in Nigeria is now 47 years for men and 48 for women meaning that most Nigerian men die before the age of 48.
The above implies that you would be retired and may not be able to earn enough money to pay the school fees of your last child starting from his/her third year in the university.
It's worse for bankers because the Central Bank of Nigeria has capped the age of retirement of bankers at 60. Ninety percent of them are sacked before the age of 50.
Most banks now find reasons to retrench their staff once they clock 55.
HARD FACTS FOR LADIES
Hardships in the extended families and need to work to augment income, the pursuits of careers, feminism, long stay in school, sheer greed, materialism, choosiness and other factors have singularily or combined to make women delay in committing to marriage much earlier.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER :
1. Science says that the best age for a woman to have less complications during child birth is between 18 and 25 all things being equal.
2. Most professional ladies now marry at over 30 years of age and have difficulties either in conception or post delivery complications. This has posed great gynecological challenges for non-circumspective couples. They spend so much to get pregnant and sometimes the women die in so doing.
3. In most cases, fibroids occur when the womb lays fallow for so long a time without conception. This is not the only cause of fibrous growth.
ISSUES: Imagine both parents being retired and cannot provide for their undergraduate children.
The inability of well meaning children to cater for the financial needs of their intelligent children has fuelled student prostitution in civil service states of Enugu, Owerri, Abeokuta, Akure, and around university campuses.
AGE LONG ADVICE TO AN ONLY SON
If you are an only son or if your desire in marriage is to beget children, ensure that you marry a lady in her early twenties and never beyond 26 so that even if you have fertility challenges and it takes up to 10 years to be resolved, you still have a fertile wife.
Since the birth of Isaac and John de Baptist, no very old woman has ever given birth through natural means to a natural child.
Please note that IVF, Artificial Insemination and Surrogacy techniques are expensive with no assurance of success after huge expenditure.
GENERAL ADVICE
If you intend to have children in marriage, please marry early enough to avoid birth complications. You need to do so when you are capable of shouldering your responsibility before you port to the netherworld .
You can still achieve all you want with careful planning. Many women who married early have made it to the highest levels of their professions. Some are managing directors of big corporations and are doing well.
I know that some readers would start pointing at Abraham and Sarah, Hannah, the mother of Samuel and other isolated cases. The can continue.
However, a visit to fertility clinics and gynecological section of a teaching hospital shall speak common sense to a young girl and boy. A younger woman with fertility issues stand better chance of conception than a lady in her late 30s or 40s.
If you have problems with the facts I adduced, please consult a medical personnel for clarifications.
SCARY TRUTH
1. There is a disturbing likelihood that a child conceived at a later age would be born with Down Syndrome or Mongolia Disease. These children look alike irrespective of races.
2. Some women now approach menopause as early as 35. Why opt for treatment when it could be avoided?
3. Men's sexual libido reduces with age. A man is at his best when he is below 40. There is an extent Viagra and other performance-enhancing drugs can go. They may also make a man see his creator much earlier.
4. There is every likelihood that if you marry late to a sexually active woman and fail to satisfy her that you may lose her to intimacy gadgets or gigolos. Some of this type end up in a divorce.
5. Reminiscence of old couple of their early life great sex is sometimes enough for them to reach orgasm. You have great sex when your engines are new or fairly new.
NB Medicine records that females' sexual libido increases with age while the males' reduces with age. But age does not affect a man's ability to impregnate a woman but the act would be a mere inoculation for old men.
My first Degree is in medicine related course, so I know what I am saying. I also now that miracles occur but not for everyone or at our own choosing.
Please marry early if you can. https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/By Anayo M. Nwosu 144 Likes 18 Shares
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Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Jcole1985(m): 9:09pm On Apr 13, 2019 |
Say that to the lsdies not the men,We are all planning a Ned Nwoko-esque 63 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by matify83: 9:22pm On Apr 13, 2019 |
These permutations would only end up depressing your psyche if you ruminate on them too hard.
Make money Invest wisely Leave the rest to the ONE that governs the universe.
"First Class no be who collect extra sheets "" 491 Likes 35 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by starstaz(m): 10:06pm On Apr 13, 2019 |
Great article. Well researched.
I must confess this micro- jumbo resonated well with me. In some areas I so wish its me that do justice to this write up. I appreciate ur concoction as in our general local parlance in 100%.
My take away:
1) U know the subject matter very well as u said u have once experience the disadvantage of late marriage
2) The part that said ::: Men action gun is at best below 40 also tally with my advocacy
3) This advocacy must continue to be championed down down to the next generation. Ur ideas is unisexual as it is.
4) God bless u. cos u made my day. Richer. 93 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by starstaz(m): 10:15pm On Apr 13, 2019 |
However, this is not a plain check to do as u like. This principle of early marriage will only work for those who sufficiently have the means and resources. The means to settle ur bill and responsibilities. For those who God hasn't blessed yet, keep working harder , Ur Jerusalem or breakthrough is nearer. 139 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by ednut1(m): 10:32pm On Apr 13, 2019 |
Bros life no easy as u paint am. Many guys are over 30 earning peanuts. How den go marry. Average marriage costs 2m plus renting and pimping house 1m don waka. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 216 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 10:36pm On Apr 13, 2019 |
Good information to those who choose to listen. I should have married at 25 if i can turn back time. 39 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Emilokoiyawon: 2:16am On Apr 14, 2019 |
Rubbish. Its better to marry at 50 and last till death than to marry at 20 and divorce at 21. 145 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by iRepNaija1: 2:22am On Apr 14, 2019 |
What if the woman you marry before she turns 26 is infertile? What then? Your plan goes to ish that's what. 40 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Raalsalghul: 3:09am On Apr 14, 2019 |
IkpuMmadu:
When I came to the knowledge of this truth way back in the secondary school, I made up my mind to marry before the age of 30 against all odds. https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can
My had dad died at a retirement age of 64 when I was 7 and my younger brother was 4. The dead man left no plans or economic arrangements to train both the younger and far older children in school or in trade.
This mistake is being repeated today by even far more educated and exposed people. We do this and claim a non-existent covenant with God when we should have applied the common sense God gave us.
Don't say you didn't read this wise counsel from here. It is a knowledge so obvious but easily ignored to one's private regret.
I decided that I would not repeat the same mistake my father made hence my determination to marry at 30 which I later realized was even too late.
HARD FACTS FOR GUYS
Assuming you get married at 30 and your wife conceives and delivers your first child when you are 31, the following would likely play out:
Because the average age of graduation in the Nigerian universities these days is 26 then, you shall be 57 at the graduation ceremony of your first child.
Also assume that you have 3 kids with an average spacing age of 2 years then your last child would be 5 years younger than the first. Therefore, you shall be over 63 at the graduation ceremony of your last child.
ISSUES: Look around you and you shall notice the increasing rate of delayed conception and child mortality which is 1/400 (i.e one new born baby out of 400 to Nigerian parents dies in the hospitals) and if you factor in the possibility that there might be delays in conception and assign a number of years to this possibility say for instance, add 4years to that, then a man may be 67 years at the graduation of the last of his three children.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER 1. All civil servants must retire at 60 while professors and judges retire at 70.
2. Average life expectancy in Nigeria is now 47 years for men and 48 for women meaning that most Nigerian men die before the age of 48.
The above implies that you would be retired and may not be able to earn enough money to pay the school fees of your last child starting from his/her third year in the university.
It's worse for bankers because the Central Bank of Nigeria has capped the age of retirement of bankers at 60. Ninety percent of them are sacked before the age of 50.
Most banks now find reasons to retrench their staff once they clock 55.
HARD FACTS FOR LADIES
Hardships in the extended families and need to work to augment income, the pursuits of careers, feminism, long stay in school, sheer greed, materialism, choosiness and other factors have singularily or combined to make women delay in committing to marriage much earlier.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER :
1. Science says that the best age for a woman to have less complications during child birth is between 18 and 25 all things being equal.
2. Most professional ladies now marry at over 30 years of age and have difficulties either in conception or post delivery complications. This has posed great gynecological challenges for non-circumspective couples. They spend so much to get pregnant and sometimes the women die in so doing.
3. In most cases, fibroids occur when the womb lays fallow for so long a time without conception. This is not the only cause of fibrous growth.
ISSUES: Imagine both parents being retired and cannot provide for their undergraduate children.
The inability of well meaning children to cater for the financial needs of their intelligent children has fuelled student prostitution in civil service states of Enugu, Owerri, Abeokuta, Akure, and around university campuses.
AGE LONG ADVICE TO AN ONLY SON
If you are an only son or if your desire in marriage is to beget children, ensure that you marry a lady in her early twenties and never beyond 26 so that even if you have fertility challenges and it takes up to 10 years to be resolved, you still have a fertile wife. https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/
Since the birth of Isaac and John de Baptist, no very old woman has ever given birth through natural means to a natural child.
Please note that IVF, Artificial Insemination and Surrogacy techniques are expensive with no assurance of success after huge expenditure.
GENERAL ADVICE
If you intend to have children in marriage, please marry early enough to avoid birth complications. You need to do so when you are capable of shouldering your responsibility before you port to the netherworld .
You can still achieve all you want with careful planning. Many women who married early have made it to the highest levels of their professions. Some are managing directors of big corporations and are doing well.
I know that some readers would start pointing at Abraham and Sarah, Hannah, the mother of Samuel and other isolated cases. The can continue.
However, a visit to fertility clinics and gynecological section of a teaching hospital shall speak common sense to a young girl and boy. A younger woman with fertility issues stand better chance of conception than a lady in her late 30s or 40s.
If you have problems with the facts I adduced, please consult a medical personnel for clarifications.
SCARY TRUTH
1. There is a disturbing likelihood that a child conceived at a later age would be born with Down Syndrome or Mongolia Disease. These children look alike irrespective of races.
2. Some women now approach menopause as early as 35. Why opt for treatment when it could be avoided?
3. Men's sexual libido reduces with age. A man is at his best when he is below 40. There is an extent Viagra and other performance-enhancing drugs can go. They may also make a man see his creator much earlier.
4. There is every likelihood that if you marry late to a sexually active woman and fail to satisfy her that you may lose her to intimacy gadgets or gigolos. Some of this type end up in a divorce.
5. Reminiscence of old couple of their early life great sex is sometimes enough for them to reach orgasm. You have great sex when your engines are new or fairly new.
NB Medicine records that females' sexual libido increases with age while the males' reduces with age. But age does not affect a man's ability to impregnate a woman but the act would be a mere inoculation for old men.
My first Degree is in medicine related course, so I know what I am saying. I also now that miracles occur but not for everyone or at our own choosing.
Please marry early if you can.
https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/
By Anayo M. Nwosu Rubbish and balderdash. Got a fellow here, married before 30 and is a deadbeat. Whether 27 or 56, just leave a legacy for your kids. Simple! 154 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Mr2wealth: 5:54am On Apr 14, 2019 |
It is every man and woman's wish to marry and settle down early and have a good family life. However, the prevailing economic, sociopolitical conditions is making that dream not to come through. The worse factor is always from within the mind and the family one comes from. So, it is easier said and written than done. ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) 68 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by anthonyuncle(m): 6:01am On Apr 14, 2019 |
nice write up.
me too love early marriage.
but plz have plans for sustainability before getting married or pregnant 24 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by babyfaceafrica: 7:13am On Apr 14, 2019 |
too .many generalizations..... people should marry when they are ready... simple!, 107 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Goddys(m): 7:37am On Apr 14, 2019 |
IkpuMmadu:
When I came to the knowledge of this truth way back in the secondary school, I made up my mind to marry before the age of 30 against all odds. https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can
My had dad died at a retirement age of 64 when I was 7 and my younger brother was 4. The dead man left no plans or economic arrangements to train both the younger and far older children in school or in trade.
This mistake is being repeated today by even far more educated and exposed people. We do this and claim a non-existent covenant with God when we should have applied the common sense God gave us.
Don't say you didn't read this wise counsel from here. It is a knowledge so obvious but easily ignored to one's private regret.
I decided that I would not repeat the same mistake my father made hence my determination to marry at 30 which I later realized was even too late.
HARD FACTS FOR GUYS
Assuming you get married at 30 and your wife conceives and delivers your first child when you are 31, the following would likely play out:
Because the average age of graduation in the Nigerian universities these days is 26 then, you shall be 57 at the graduation ceremony of your first child.
Also assume that you have 3 kids with an average spacing age of 2 years then your last child would be 5 years younger than the first. Therefore, you shall be over 63 at the graduation ceremony of your last child.
ISSUES: Look around you and you shall notice the increasing rate of delayed conception and child mortality which is 1/400 (i.e one new born baby out of 400 to Nigerian parents dies in the hospitals) and if you factor in the possibility that there might be delays in conception and assign a number of years to this possibility say for instance, add 4years to that, then a man may be 67 years at the graduation of the last of his three children.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER 1. All civil servants must retire at 60 while professors and judges retire at 70.
2. Average life expectancy in Nigeria is now 47 years for men and 48 for women meaning that most Nigerian men die before the age of 48.
The above implies that you would be retired and may not be able to earn enough money to pay the school fees of your last child starting from his/her third year in the university.
It's worse for bankers because the Central Bank of Nigeria has capped the age of retirement of bankers at 60. Ninety percent of them are sacked before the age of 50.
Most banks now find reasons to retrench their staff once they clock 55.
HARD FACTS FOR LADIES
Hardships in the extended families and need to work to augment income, the pursuits of careers, feminism, long stay in school, sheer greed, materialism, choosiness and other factors have singularily or combined to make women delay in committing to marriage much earlier.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER :
1. Science says that the best age for a woman to have less complications during child birth is between 18 and 25 all things being equal.
2. Most professional ladies now marry at over 30 years of age and have difficulties either in conception or post delivery complications. This has posed great gynecological challenges for non-circumspective couples. They spend so much to get pregnant and sometimes the women die in so doing.
3. In most cases, fibroids occur when the womb lays fallow for so long a time without conception. This is not the only cause of fibrous growth.
ISSUES: Imagine both parents being retired and cannot provide for their undergraduate children.
The inability of well meaning children to cater for the financial needs of their intelligent children has fuelled student prostitution in civil service states of Enugu, Owerri, Abeokuta, Akure, and around university campuses.
AGE LONG ADVICE TO AN ONLY SON
If you are an only son or if your desire in marriage is to beget children, ensure that you marry a lady in her early twenties and never beyond 26 so that even if you have fertility challenges and it takes up to 10 years to be resolved, you still have a fertile wife. https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/
Since the birth of Isaac and John de Baptist, no very old woman has ever given birth through natural means to a natural child.
Please note that IVF, Artificial Insemination and Surrogacy techniques are expensive with no assurance of success after huge expenditure.
GENERAL ADVICE
If you intend to have children in marriage, please marry early enough to avoid birth complications. You need to do so when you are capable of shouldering your responsibility before you port to the netherworld .
You can still achieve all you want with careful planning. Many women who married early have made it to the highest levels of their professions. Some are managing directors of big corporations and are doing well.
I know that some readers would start pointing at Abraham and Sarah, Hannah, the mother of Samuel and other isolated cases. The can continue.
However, a visit to fertility clinics and gynecological section of a teaching hospital shall speak common sense to a young girl and boy. A younger woman with fertility issues stand better chance of conception than a lady in her late 30s or 40s.
If you have problems with the facts I adduced, please consult a medical personnel for clarifications.
SCARY TRUTH
1. There is a disturbing likelihood that a child conceived at a later age would be born with Down Syndrome or Mongolia Disease. These children look alike irrespective of races.
2. Some women now approach menopause as early as 35. Why opt for treatment when it could be avoided?
3. Men's sexual libido reduces with age. A man is at his best when he is below 40. There is an extent Viagra and other performance-enhancing drugs can go. They may also make a man see his creator much earlier.
4. There is every likelihood that if you marry late to a sexually active woman and fail to satisfy her that you may lose her to intimacy gadgets or gigolos. Some of this type end up in a divorce.
5. Reminiscence of old couple of their early life great sex is sometimes enough for them to reach orgasm. You have great sex when your engines are new or fairly new.
NB Medicine records that females' sexual libido increases with age while the males' reduces with age. But age does not affect a man's ability to impregnate a woman but the act would be a mere inoculation for old men.
My first Degree is in medicine related course, so I know what I am saying. I also now that miracles occur but not for everyone or at our own choosing.
Please marry early if you can.
https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/
By Anayo M. Nwosu You think your post is wise but you are ignorant if you think all there is to life is to have and train children. 129 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 7:45am On Apr 14, 2019 |
Get your baby mama pregnant, the rest na history 9 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Raalsalghul: 7:50am On Apr 14, 2019 |
Goddys:
You think your post is wise but you are ignorant of you think all there is to life is to have and train children. 68 Likes 4 Shares
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Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by MelaninGold(f): 12:07pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
Op is making some points here. But you need to be financially, emotionally and psychologically prepared before going into marriage.
A young man of 25 is old enough to get married but the economy of our country is very disabling. You will agree with me that some 25 year olds are still searching for admission due to the almighty JAMB or even finance. For those who are in school already,may be in 200l or 300l. Now, after graduation,NYSC.. looking for a job. This could take 2,3,4,5 years. When they finally get a job,they have to save enough before thinking of marriage.
Let's be sincere here..most men of 25-30 are not even serious-minded people. Take Nairaland for example, I have observed that most young men and women are more interested in sex, violence, tribalistic threads than those that promote unity, innovation, education entrepreneural skills. Imagine if this peolpe choose to get married now.
Just to give an example of the disadvantage of late marriage. I know a family where the parents got married late. Mom was around 33,dad was about 36.They got married and had to start having kids. They have 5 children now, Their eldest child is 26, about to graduate. The other children are undergraduates. Parents are no longer working. Everyone now depends on the first born - soon to be medical doctor.
In a nutshell... early marriage is good y'all. 81 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by millionboi2: 12:14pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
OP get a Job IkpuMmadu:
When I came to the knowledge of this truth way back in the secondary school, I made up my mind to marry before the age of 30 against all odds. https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can
My had dad died at a retirement age of 64 when I was 7 and my younger brother was 4. The dead man left no plans or economic arrangements to train both the younger and far older children in school or in trade.
This mistake is being repeated today by even far more educated and exposed people. We do this and claim a non-existent covenant with God when we should have applied the common sense God gave us.
Don't say you didn't read this wise counsel from here. It is a knowledge so obvious but easily ignored to one's private regret.
I decided that I would not repeat the same mistake my father made hence my determination to marry at 30 which I later realized was even too late.
HARD FACTS FOR GUYS
Assuming you get married at 30 and your wife conceives and delivers your first child when you are 31, the following would likely play out:
Because the average age of graduation in the Nigerian universities these days is 26 then, you shall be 57 at the graduation ceremony of your first child.
Also assume that you have 3 kids with an average spacing age of 2 years then your last child would be 5 years younger than the first. Therefore, you shall be over 63 at the graduation ceremony of your last child.
ISSUES: Look around you and you shall notice the increasing rate of delayed conception and child mortality which is 1/400 (i.e one new born baby out of 400 to Nigerian parents dies in the hospitals) and if you factor in the possibility that there might be delays in conception and assign a number of years to this possibility say for instance, add 4years to that, then a man may be 67 years at the graduation of the last of his three children.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER 1. All civil servants must retire at 60 while professors and judges retire at 70.
2. Average life expectancy in Nigeria is now 47 years for men and 48 for women meaning that most Nigerian men die before the age of 48.
The above implies that you would be retired and may not be able to earn enough money to pay the school fees of your last child starting from his/her third year in the university.
It's worse for bankers because the Central Bank of Nigeria has capped the age of retirement of bankers at 60. Ninety percent of them are sacked before the age of 50.
Most banks now find reasons to retrench their staff once they clock 55.
HARD FACTS FOR LADIES
Hardships in the extended families and need to work to augment income, the pursuits of careers, feminism, long stay in school, sheer greed, materialism, choosiness and other factors have singularily or combined to make women delay in committing to marriage much earlier.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER :
1. Science says that the best age for a woman to have less complications during child birth is between 18 and 25 all things being equal.
2. Most professional ladies now marry at over 30 years of age and have difficulties either in conception or post delivery complications. This has posed great gynecological challenges for non-circumspective couples. They spend so much to get pregnant and sometimes the women die in so doing.
3. In most cases, fibroids occur when the womb lays fallow for so long a time without conception. This is not the only cause of fibrous growth.
ISSUES: Imagine both parents being retired and cannot provide for their undergraduate children.
The inability of well meaning children to cater for the financial needs of their intelligent children has fuelled student prostitution in civil service states of Enugu, Owerri, Abeokuta, Akure, and around university campuses.
AGE LONG ADVICE TO AN ONLY SON
If you are an only son or if your desire in marriage is to beget children, ensure that you marry a lady in her early twenties and never beyond 26 so that even if you have fertility challenges and it takes up to 10 years to be resolved, you still have a fertile wife. https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/
Since the birth of Isaac and John de Baptist, no very old woman has ever given birth through natural means to a natural child.
Please note that IVF, Artificial Insemination and Surrogacy techniques are expensive with no assurance of success after huge expenditure.
GENERAL ADVICE
If you intend to have children in marriage, please marry early enough to avoid birth complications. You need to do so when you are capable of shouldering your responsibility before you port to the netherworld .
You can still achieve all you want with careful planning. Many women who married early have made it to the highest levels of their professions. Some are managing directors of big corporations and are doing well.
I know that some readers would start pointing at Abraham and Sarah, Hannah, the mother of Samuel and other isolated cases. The can continue.
However, a visit to fertility clinics and gynecological section of a teaching hospital shall speak common sense to a young girl and boy. A younger woman with fertility issues stand better chance of conception than a lady in her late 30s or 40s.
If you have problems with the facts I adduced, please consult a medical personnel for clarifications.
SCARY TRUTH
1. There is a disturbing likelihood that a child conceived at a later age would be born with Down Syndrome or Mongolia Disease. These children look alike irrespective of races.
2. Some women now approach menopause as early as 35. Why opt for treatment when it could be avoided?
3. Men's sexual libido reduces with age. A man is at his best when he is below 40. There is an extent Viagra and other performance-enhancing drugs can go. They may also make a man see his creator much earlier.
4. There is every likelihood that if you marry late to a sexually active woman and fail to satisfy her that you may lose her to intimacy gadgets or gigolos. Some of this type end up in a divorce.
5. Reminiscence of old couple of their early life great sex is sometimes enough for them to reach orgasm. You have great sex when your engines are new or fairly new.
NB Medicine records that females' sexual libido increases with age while the males' reduces with age. But age does not affect a man's ability to impregnate a woman but the act would be a mere inoculation for old men.
My first Degree is in medicine related course, so I know what I am saying. I also now that miracles occur but not for everyone or at our own choosing.
Please marry early if you can.
https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/
By Anayo M. Nwosu 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by franchasng: 12:17pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
matify83: These permutations would only end up depressing your psyche if you ruminate on them too hard.
Make money Invest wisely Leave the rest to the ONE that governs the universe.
"First Class no be who collect extra sheets "" fact. Besides late marriage for a man start from 40+ For a lady it starts from 36+ If you are a guy, if u marry between 30 - 39yrs you didn't marry late but pls don't give birth to more than 3 kids. If you are a lady, if u marry between 28 - 36yrs, you didn't marry late, but don't give birth to more than 3 kids! Marriage of today requires finance unlike in the days of our fathers. Back in the days, you don't need a TV, a flat, a mobile phone, a freezer, a generator, a fridge, a washing machine, etc to get married but today, if u marry without the aforementioned things plus a satellite TV+ subscription, your so called wife may run leave you or cheat on u. Back in the days, it doesn't cost to get married, u don't need pre wedding shoot, bridal shower, baby shower, this shower that shower, big wedding, etc. Weddings cost less in the time of our fathers. A man today needs a stable income to settle down into marriage. At least in Nigeria, you need a steady income of at least 150,000naira to maintain a healthy, average family of 3 or 4, now tell me how many Nigerian guys of marriageable age (28 - 37yrs) earn 150,000naira monthly ![](/faces/huh.png) With high rate of unemployment and inflation, earning money has become almost difficult for many youths in Nigeria. Most still squat with friends, relatives or living with parents because no job, no viable business and those that have job are earning peanut that cannot take care of them fully to talk of taking care of a woman and a child. Nigeria's situation is getting worse by the day, reason every youth is doing all they can to migrate out of Nigeria, so don't blame youths of today, its not their fault, our fathers who are the leaders failed us woefully; we the youths ought to revolt and send them packing and round them all and kill them; starting from the President to the LGA Chairman ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) 52 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 2:51pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
I agree with you but the economy no de help matters at all.
This is the reason men and even women are hunting for working class.
All we pray is long life, marry when you are ready so you don't regret the marriage.
I have a better example of an uncle that married 37years and had the first child 38years. At 23 the first child who was a graduate got married and had the grand child the next Year. All 4 children are graduates and working and he is 72years this year.
The beauty in marriage is peace and peace is not possible in the absence or inability to meet basic daily needs. 112 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 3:00pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
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Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by lereinter(m): 3:17pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
the men that may be over 35, and unmarried insulted the writer
Pained
they say go make money
even the life you have is borrowed... Akon 11 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nostradamus: 3:24pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
Still thinking about how to hit my dream $1b networth,now o.p. came with this marriage ish. 3 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by MelaninGold(f): 3:38pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
lereinter:
the men that may be over 35, and unmarried insulted the writer
Pained
they say go make money
even the life you have is borrowed... Akon You are right...the men complaining here are well over 30 but have little or nothing to show for it and are not willing to settle down. That's why they are pained. The truth hurts. 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Hardrive(m): 6:02pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
Valid points. But the most important thing is for us to look for a solution to the prevailing socio-economic problem facing us as a nation before we start talking about settling down early. We have a long way to go. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by lereinter(m): 10:15pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
MelaninGold:
You are right...the men complaining here are well over 30 but have little or nothing to show for it and are not willing to settle down. That's why they are pained. The truth hurts. it's not their fault humans 3 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by DonroxyII: 10:29pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
It doesn't matter Life in Nigeria is too risky and people that failed to emancipate economically before marriage may never have the chance again ... Also, Marrying early is good but it is not a guarantee that your child can't be fatherless at any point in time either due to nature or man-made circumstances (SARS, Accident, Kidnapping etc) May these vices not be our portion. My advice is that start early and do what works for you, you can marry and grow with marriage or you grow first and marry later then develop with marriage ..... regardless of age .... Marriage is a call to Responsibility and when you ain't a man enough to lead a home, your head fit dey touch oooooo ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 43 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Mrmahan: 10:41pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
Exactly!!! anthonyuncle: nice write up. me too love early marriage. but plz have plans for sustainability before getting married or pregnant 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by technuel: 10:42pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
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Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by DonroxyII: 10:44pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
ejibaba:
The beauty in marriage is peace and peace is not possible in the absence or inability to meet basic daily needs. Word 4 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by OgbanjeProphet: 10:44pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
Op, you have valid points. But marriage is not what one should rush into. If it is at the age of 40 you are financially capable, it's better than marrying early. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by baby124: 10:46pm On Apr 14, 2019 |
What a dumbass. Some ladies that married at 18 and as virgins are infertile while some that married at 40 are very fertile. Infertility is mostly biological and not age related. Some women are biologically men and vice versa but they look like women or men on the outside. If you like marry them at 15, no child for you. Everyone should marry when they feel ready. Young or old marriage. See this muni writer just writing rubbish. 17 Likes 3 Shares |