I have this lady friend that doesn't joke with money even to the last kobo.
When we go out I am someone that loves to dash the little change to workers that do serve me but she deosnt like it and would ask for the change no matter how small it is and she will keep it in her purse.
The truth here is that she isn't a broke girl if not I would have said maybe its probably because of that but this is a girl that whenever she starts complaining she is broke you will know that her account is like 100k.

Some people always see it as being stingy but somehow I try to figure out that she might just be a very good manager who doesn't joke with any single kobo no matter how small it is she feels there could always be a need for it.

What do you guys think about this?

If she keeps your change for herself, perhaps it's time for you to check her. I dislike people like that with passion. They budget & save through other people's monies.
I'm also very generous with friends, but once I notice that someone is a little tight-fisted, I go 50/50 or nothing with them. Some people see you as a chump when you're giving. I never could understand why.

XhosaNostra:
If she keeps your change for herself, perhaps it's time for you to check her. I dislike people like that with passion. They budget & save through other people's monies.
I'm also very generous with friends, but once I notice that someone is a little tight-fisted, I go 50/50 or nothing with them. Some people see you as a chump when you're giving. I never could understand why.

The girl per say is loaded. This is a girl sometimes I want to do a business and my money isn't complete I can tell her to borrow me 500k and she will give me but I normally and some interest on it not that she asked me to but she will collect it with the interest I put.

To me she isn't tight handed but when it comes to dashing change she will never agree. Most times when we go out to buy anything, I normally give her the cash to pay because if I do myself I know for sure I don't collect any change lower than N200 and I always feel embarrassed when I leave the change for the person and she immediately tell the person to bring the change sharp sharp.

And you stand there and don’t call her out when she has the audacity to take the change that is not hers and put it in her wallet?
You are also enabling her behaviour.

She's just showing her true colours as regards giving to others, maybe it's time for you to school her on giving out alms to the less privileges. And if she doesn't change then know when you run out of cash she could treat you just the way she's treating people now.

MissRaine69:
And you stand there and don’t call her out when she has the audacity to take the change that is not hers and put it in her wallet?
You are also enabling her behaviour.

You see that's the problem. I know the girl is not after my money and she doesn't give it to me when she collects it because she knows I won't take it. She doesn't just like the idea of dashing people change. But she is someone that even if you are a stranger in need of help she can give you money at any time if she knows you really need it. But as for that dashing of change issue, I just don't know.
Okay I remember a time she collected the change back from somewhere we bought something, on our way there was a little boy that begged us for food and she just brought out the change she collected and gave the little boy.
So its quite confusing why she hates dashing people that sell something to us change but she can give it to any other person or keep it to herself.

Jayneek:


The girl per say is loaded. This is a girl sometimes I want to do a business and my money isn't complete I can tell her to borrow me 500k and she will give me but I normally and some interest on it not that she asked me to but she will collect it with the interest I put.

To me she isn't tight handed but when it comes to dashing change she will never agree. Most times when we go out to buy anything, I normally give her the cash to pay because if I do myself I know for sure I don't collect any change lower than N200 and I always feel embarrassed when I leave the change for the person and she immediately tell the person to bring the change sharp sharp.

Well, if you have no issue with that, then there's nothing left to say lol. It sounds like she's the more dominant one, while you come across a little passive. Perhaps that's the secret formula to why this friendship works.

Olalan:
She's just showing her true colours as regards giving to others, maybe it's time for you to school her on giving out alms to the less privileges. And if she doesn't change then know when you run out of cash she could treat you just the way she's treating people now.

As regards giving out arms she does not joke with that at all. Am sure she even does that more than me self.

XhosaNostra:


Well, if you have no issue with that, then there's nothing left to say lol. It sounds like she's the more dominant one, while you come across a little passive. Perhaps that's the secret formula to why this friendship works.

Yeah something like that. I call her my soldier hahahahaha. There are places we go to they already know us, when they see she doesn't like what they gave her, they come to me to start begging so that she doesn't just talk and I have to calm her down because her head really shakes sometimes but in all she is very nice. Am very gentle so I guess that's why she is my iron lady friend.

Jayneek:


Yeah something like that. I call her my soldier hahahahaha. There are places we go to they already know us, when they see she doesn't like what they gave her, they come to me to start begging so that she doesn't just talk and I have to calm her down because her head really shakes sometimes but in all she is very nice. Am very gentle so I guess that's why she is my iron lady friend.

Sounds like a match made in heaven I'm sure she doesn't have that many people that can stomach her Just don't become anyone's sidekick or lapdog lol. Stand your ground when you have to.

XhosaNostra:


Sounds like a match made in heaven I'm sure she doesn't have that many people that can stomach her Just don't become anyone's sidekick or lapdog lol. Stand your ground when you have to.

Hahahahaha lapdog. Naaaaa she knows her boundary and respects that a lot. You know what they always say about quiet and gentle people? You wouldn't want to ride on them right.

Jayneek:


Hahahahaha lapdog. Naaaaa she knows her boundary and respects that a lot. You know what they always say about quiet and gentle people? You wouldn't want to ride on them right.

Just looking out for you, but that's good to know

Very true @ bolded lol. Believe it or not, I'm also a bit of a pushover with friends. Only a bit though because I don't really care to be a leader as if I'm getting paid for it I let my BFF make most of the decisions about where to go etc. I have no problem letting someone else take the lead. Now if I don't agree with something, I don't budge, solely because I'm agreeable most of the time & do like things to go my way too once in a blue moon.

I wanted to tell you something about focusing on how a woman treats others, but you said she gives to the needy and supports your business...just doesn't buy the idea of forfeiting her balance.

If that is the case, she has no issue.

I believe her problem is the entitlement mentality. Lots of these traders, security men, cashiers...have developed this entitlement mentality. It is worse when they see you with a ride. They feel N100 is too small for you to wait for, yet they will never leave it for you.

When you don't leave your balance for them, you will see their expression change and the next time you come, the way they'll greet you go tell you say you done fall hand.

I stopped somewhere to pump my tyre, gave the man money, rather than giving me my balance, he said "make I use am drink malt na". What nonsense malt?

how is that a problem?....

AntiBrutus:
I wanted to tell you something about focusing on how a woman treats others, but you said she gives to the needy and supports your business...just doesn't buy the idea of forfeiting her balance.

If that is the case, she has no issue.

I believe her problem is the entitlement mentality. Lots of these traders, security men, cashiers...have developed this entitlement mentality. It is worse when they see you with a ride. They feel N100 is too small for you to wait for, yet they will never leave it for you.

When you don't leave your balance for them, you will see their expression change and the next time you come, the way they'll greet you go tell you say you done fall hand.

I stopped somewhere to pump my tyre, gave the man money, rather than giving me my balance, he said "make I use am drink malt na". What nonsense malt?

Hahahahaha its really what nonsense malt.

Nothing I'd wrong with your girl she is just been protective
That's all .

Jayneek:
I have this lady friend that doesn't joke with money even to the last kobo.
When we go out I am someone that loves to dash the little change to workers that do serve me but she deosnt like it and would ask for the change no matter how small it is and she will keep it in her purse.
The truth here is that she isn't a broke girl if not I would have said maybe its probably because of that but this is a girl that whenever she starts complaining she is broke you will know that her account is like 100k.

Some people always see it as being stingy but somehow I try to figure out that she might just be a very good manager who doesn't joke with any single kobo no matter how small it is she feels there could always be a need for it.

What do you guys think about this?

XhosaNostra:


Just looking out for you, but that's good to know

Very true @ bolded lol. Believe it or not, I'm also a bit of a pushover with friends. Only a bit though because I don't really care to be a leader as if I'm getting paid for it I let my BFF make most of the decisions about where to go etc. I have no problem letting someone else take the lead. Now if I don't agree with something, I don't budge, solely because I'm agreeable most of the time & do like things to go my way too once in a blue moon.

That's nice, I like that.

ask her y she does that. tell her that it's sometimes embarrassing to u

Jayneek:


You see that's the problem. I know the girl is not after my money and she doesn't give it to me when she collects it because she knows I won't take it. She doesn't just like the idea of dashing people change. But she is someone that even if you are a stranger in need of help she can give you money at any time if she knows you really need it. But as for that dashing of change issue, I just don't know.
Okay I remember a time she collected the change back from somewhere we bought something, on our way there was a little boy that begged us for food and she just brought out the change she collected and gave the little boy.
So its quite confusing why she hates dashing people that sell something to us change but she can give it to any other person or keep it to herself.

Correct behaviour that’s out of sync
Why do you not challenge her? Are you not friends?

MissRaine69:

Correct behaviour that’s out of sync
Why do you not challenge her? Are you not friends?

I have done that a lot and had to give up. So normally if we go anywhere together to get anything I ensure she pays herself. Either she uses her money or I have to give her the money to pay and just don't bother myself because that's even better, if I am the one who gave her the money she will give me my change once she collects it.

AntiBrutus:

I stopped somewhere to pump my tyre, gave the man money, rather than giving me my balance, he said "make I use am drink malt na". What nonsense malt?

Chaiiii smh, Errrm Pls check your mail oh!

Jayneek:


I have done that a lot and had to give up. So normally if we go anywhere together to get anything I ensure she pays herself. Either she uses her money or I have to give her the money to pay and just don't bother myself because that's even better, if I am the one who gave her the money she will give me my change once she collects it.

Some people are peculiar
I guess her reasoning is those that are working get a salary so they don’t need to “keep” the change and yet she gave the young boy who was begging as he did not have any means.

MissRaine69:

Some people are peculiar
I guess her reasoning is those that are working get a salary so they don’t need to “keep” the change and yet she gave the young boy who was begging as he did not have any means.

Yes that's like one of the points I see. And you know there are some places you go to they will always say no change so you have to leave the change for them so its like that really pisses her off when it comes to workers and dashing of change as well.

Your friend is tightfisted in that area. Have you asked her why she does that? It could be that she has had an experience in the past.

Jayneek:


Yes that's like one of the points I see. And you know there are some places you go to they will always say no change so you have to leave the change for them so its like that really pisses her off when it comes to workers and dashing of change as well.

So you have a problem that’s not really a problem?

ImaIma1:
Your friend is tightfisted otherwise called stingy. She needs to be free so that she can receive freely. All those little change being giving out has a way of coming back to people in one sort of help or the other when they are in need.

But when you are gathering everything and not allowing anyone drop, how does it grow into a seed and come back to you?

You will find some of the wealthiest people are very tight with money. They don’t believe in all that karma malarkey.

MissRaine69:

You will find some of the wealthiest people are very tight with money. They don’t believe in all that karma malarkey.

There's a different between being stingy and being prudent. I am sure the wealthiest people give tips and help in some causes and projects to make life better for people in less developed and privileged areas. And most of them give to charities.

ImaIma1:


There's a different between being stingy and being prudent. I am sure the wealthiest people give tips and help in some causes and projects to make life better for people in less developed and privileged areas. And most of them give to charities.

Seems you only read the post and didn't read most of the other comments

Jayneek:


Seems you only read the post and didn't read most of the other comments

Yeah.

I just saw your comments afterwards

Stop making yuh problem a general problem.... She x yuh lady friend not ours..

Headlesschicken:
Stop making yuh problem a general problem.... She x yuh lady friend not ours..

How about not commenting on a thread you don't like and move on Mr man?

ImaIma1:


Yeah.

I just saw your comments afterwards

Alright dear