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| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 5:04pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
AloneTK: It was an absolute pleasure and an honour. Love&Light |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by calebify1(m): 5:23pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Guest007:Thanks a lot for this. It is much appreciated. 2 Likes |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 5:25pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
calebify1:I'm happy if it helps. Thank you  1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by DeeMain(m): 11:03pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
AceRoyal: How exactly did you come to this presumptuous conclusion? 1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 1:52am On Apr 24, 2019 |
SBL28: Madame I have seen your post, Is there no child support law in Nigeria. Is it that there are no Lawyers to fight for you? When would your husband leave your kids and not provide monthly for them. Whether he likes the children or not, there should be a law guiding them. I think you need to contact the proper authorities. |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 2:34am On Apr 24, 2019 |
Guest007: What does this even mean  |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 2:38am On Apr 24, 2019 |
FAWZ: My guy, Abeg. Please, Biko, Dalu. Go and rest, buy Suya with Cold Origin & be happy. If Women dumping you are your problems. I swear you don't have one single problem, take it from me. I get plenty experience for this area. 1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 2:38am On Apr 24, 2019 |
Guest007: Badosky! You have enjoyed life to the fullest  |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AloneTK: 9:45am On Apr 24, 2019 |
truthsayer009: You don't have to be religious to rate your spirituality. One might feel WHOLE while feeling that the ESSENCE is lacking. There are some who create a picture of being a model, people who are seen by many as a template, they don't miss worship/services/vigil and other church/mosque activities, yet their communication with God is VERY poor. They portray AB but exhibit BC, you know. On the other hand, you may not even cross people's mind as a serious follower of whatever God/god you serve yet you maintain a very close relationship with your God. Don't know how I could make it simpler than that but I hope that makes the picture a lil bit clearer. 5 Likes |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AloneTK: 9:59am On Apr 24, 2019 |
Guest007: I l truthsayer009: Being reckless with one's body does not mean sleeping around (if that's what you interpreted her words to mean). Not peculiar to individuals with multiple partners and the likes. You could be reckless with your body when you promote the habit of taking more than the prescribed dosage of your medication. Intake of food/alcohol/beverages that are in excess or not good enough for health reasons. When you ignore signs that shows you that your body needs rest. A whole lot of things.... body count is not an exception too. 2 Likes |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 10:07am On Apr 24, 2019 |
AloneTK: No sir, I'm not getting you. Perhaps she should come & defend herself lol. Spirituality is a belief system that there is some supreme power which is out of our control -- Which is God, so which God have you chosen that doesn't specify a Religion tied to it? |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 10:08am On Apr 24, 2019 |
AloneTK: Are you speaking for her, in her absence or how? So It means me too have lived a Reckless life with my body then. So no p. |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AloneTK: 11:17am On Apr 24, 2019 |
truthsayer009: I apologize if you felt offended. I shouldn't have tried to clarify issues not directed at me. Kindly overlook my error and let's not go further. Thanks 5 Likes |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by CoolJul: 4:42pm On Apr 24, 2019 |
my family. |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 5:02pm On Apr 24, 2019 |
I've got this inner fear of settling for less, marital wise. The committed ones I don't want and the one I want ain't committed. I just pray my next level won't be ravaged with suffering cos God knows I've suffered enough 2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 5:16pm On Apr 24, 2019 |
AloneTK: Thank you for your efforts... I trust you are well today |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AloneTK: 8:41am On Apr 25, 2019 |
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| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 12:01pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
Oyindidi:I'm not inconclusive bro...it is better to die in the battle field than not trying at all. Second law of karma on my mind Ain't settling for less.... |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Babeme: 8:00pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
Am torn between the devil and the deep blue sea. my husband wants me to resign and meet him up at his station.he isn't ready to help me get a job or start a business. He is this type that is very controlling. he is the type that refuses to provide food or school fee when he is angry.(I have to pay).he cheats without remorse . This job has been my distraction .if I resign I would just die of boredom. I have explained, i have begged.but to no avail.instead he parked everything (clothes, toiletries, furniture, everything to his station) to his station. Right now am with a friend and I have to get a new place.pay up the kids fees,and furnish our new place i have tried talking to my mil but she see nothing wrong since she is a full time house wife. I have even offered to visit his station more often but he is insisting I resign or he gets a new family over there.am confused. |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Mizwisdom(f): 8:29am On Apr 26, 2019 |
Babeme: In line with the direction "what God has joined together, let no man put asunder" Just move, trust God. I don't know why you thought your mil will take your side, you only have a chance with your fil 1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Baxtier: 8:33am On Apr 26, 2019 |
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| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 8:44am On Apr 26, 2019 |
Babeme: Why the power struggle? You must've known each others faults and still accepted each other so why rock the boat... Do you like books? Get yourself some self help books and work on your own growth. Him disrespecting you and cheating is a bigger issue in the home than where you live, no? I think this battle may not be worth fighting. If you can adjust then do so as it will only strengthen you. Hubby sounds like he has some kinda personality disorder. He's feeding off the control and power. As kids when a toy is dragged with us and we let go off the toy, what happened; the other child hurts themselves by themselves. I hope you understand my metaphor there. My only advice is 1. Pick and choose your battles 2. Quit reacting to him and start responding to him. Very different skills, and if you could control yourself then you could disarm him. He Feeds of you like a troll does attention so manipulate that feed... give what you want rather than him triggering all your buttons, disable most of those buttons if you can. Worst case scenario, buy yourself time and resources and ghost him. Either way you must make a decision and a plan... figure out what you need and how to get it. I hope this helps... good morning. 3 Likes |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AloneTK: 11:49am On Apr 26, 2019 |
Babeme: You seek advice and words of wisdom from people on this platform. You'd get several but you need to come to terms with what you really want. 1. Only you can figure out how best to attend to this. 2. Your happiness matters though, but your kids deserve a home with both parents if you can continue to gift them that (as long as yours is not an abusive relationship nor that which threatens your life). 3. Which would you be ready to sacrifice between your JOB and your HOME (family unit) if you find yourself at a crossroad? I am a man. I have my ego but I do not support a man neglecting his responsibilities as both a father and a husband nor CHEATING on one's spouse like you stated above but maybe you can at least try to talk to him, to know what he really appreciates in you, what would endear you to him more. See, sometimes, having married could make one to concentrate less on things that earns you the attraction (desire to bond with you before marriage) in the first place.Perhaps those things are missing now. I understand that some men would still go out to cheat even if they have Beauty Queens as wives but it doesn't harm to do a kind of re-assessment. I support women exercising their rights but you tend to achieve more when you are diplomatic about it. Your hubby wont even know it until you've both resolved whatever it is on ground. Quitting one's job isn't advisable judging by the present day situation in Naija. You keeping it and traveling down on weekends isn't okay by me. A man should do that, unless he is the one with the kids. But trust me, staying apart doesn't help either as there will be allegations upon allegations bordering on infidelity and its likes. There's a higher percentage of ruining your marriage from a distance. An adage in yoruba land says "Miscreants and wayward children still attempt to beat a drum firmly held on to by the owner, let alone the one left hanging on the wall unattended". If you are to quit a paid employment, what kind of business would you like to go into? Figure that out and then work towards saving or sourcing funds for it (having made it clear that he isn't a responsible man). Then give him a timeline, a period that would allow you to resign properly and establish yourself over there so the burden won't be too much on him. Who knows, he may reconsider and thereafter change towards you and the kids for better. That way, you get to keep your home (family) and a means of lively-hood is there for you as well. Though all these doesn't guarantee him being 100% faithful to you but you would have provided your kids with that opportunity of growing up with both parents under the same roof. 1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AntiMCU: 2:16pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:Your penchant for marriage though.... Wonder what it is that got you so freaked about that institution..... 1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 2:20pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
AntiMCU:Well, that's the next level. I've passed other level, remaining that to get balanced. U may not understand Padre |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 2:22pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Babeme:Real life experience like this got me thinking, God knows I can't even swallow this kinda stress. Aunty go be your husband. It's better Or worse ryt? |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by ogashman(m): 2:31pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Finished serving in the east last year....would i say i was lucky to get a small job in a school over there. though the pay is meager. I have been with them for six months and i just realised that i can't make head way in life with such pay. So I'm currently in abj for the holidays.i have submitting CVs all over the places here in abj but no call for interview yet. Sometimes i feel down.....but i know all will be well very soon 1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AntiMCU: 2:51pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:My advice.... Pipe down! 1 Like |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AntiMCU: 2:53pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
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| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 6:08pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
AntiMCU:Well, don't get d fact that I make reference to that institution here twisted. My brain is functioning OK. Thanks |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 6:09pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
AntiMCU:Well, don't get d fact that I make reference to that institution here twisted. My brain is functioning OK. Sincerely I don't even have anything causing depression in my life now. |
| Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 6:10pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
ogashman:Abuja ain't easy but keep hope alive. |
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