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Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 8:46am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Also, or rather most important stop talking to yourself. The voices in your head is leading yku6a wrong path. Subtle mental unfitness ![]() Start giving people the benefit of a doubt. Please study conflict avoidant behavior as its deeply rooted in this |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:47am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Phew. I know how you feel. The truth is, you can't totally leave that shell, but you can be a little more outgoing. I really don't have any corrective measures to prescribe for you because I'm exactly like you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 8:48am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: I suggest you both befriend yourselves. It can help you both... ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 8:48am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:God help us. Even where I'm working now, the Manager has called me severally on this communication issue, I gave him my own reply and it wasn't even looking like I heeded to his advise cos I will be leaving there soon. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Martin0(m): 8:49am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: eheh! this matter serious ooo! wait oo are you into any form of "Dating"? |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:50am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot: Thanks for your prescription. How do I practice silence and thought management? Are there books to read on that? |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 8:51am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Yours is special from hers o. Your a virgo an, you should understand yours is nature. Rather than try to kill it, men how did I undo mine o. Na long story. You're a virgo so it's this way for all of us. Try not to react to pictures your brain shows you. I use a sit down and wait approach for example. If anything happens, no matter if the house is burning, I simply say I'll wait for all sides to be heard before I hush. This enforces your inner core to be less frantic and more rational so it doesn't excessively throw you off balance. Cosmicdroid come view this thread please and back me up 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 8:51am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Nne, I pray things get better. I do go out with my day 1s friends, but in a very long time. Say, once in 4-6 months. Worst is that, ive started strategizing on how to avoid people when I go to camp. Lol |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 8:54am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Told ya, it forces you to see things before they happen. You have an escape plan hatched for everything. James bond ![]() |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 8:54am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:I Will, surely. Thank you so much. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 8:55am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:Lol. Funny but true. ![]() That's what have been going through my mind since this year. ![]() Lol |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:55am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Yea. Communication is often a problem for an introvert. In public places/gatherings, when I sit with people and they discuss, I just remain silent all through listening and listening and they wonder why I don't chip in to their discussions. Some think I'm dumb or totally clueless/unintelligent to join in the discourse, but to me, I find it a problem to talk or start talking over petty/trivial issues that don't concern me. People usually think I'm snobbish, cold or being proud but they're just totally wrong. 5 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 8:56am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Teachings of the soul. Mastering the soul. Google will help. As a Christian, I follow the Christianity way, and for this l only found two persons who wrote on this one is Watchman Née. Go find his book The Spiritual man |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 8:56am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: I can bet you've suspected me twice already ![]() |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 8:58am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Exactly. Lol, I remembered when I was in school, nobody knew me till 300level when the result was pasted and I was second best in GP. That was how I got noticed in dept. ![]() I had only one friend in school till I left 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:00am On Apr 25, 2019 |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:00am On Apr 25, 2019 |
Can we move this thread to Fp please for people with similar issues mods... 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:01am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Stop living for your thoughts. Your fears and insecurities are hindering you from forming meaningful relations with people. Start online, make friends outside your familiar zone. Begin the change you want offline online. Start engaging in practical meaningful discussions engaging new persons staying away from old friends if possible. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:02am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:I really need any Christian book that can help me. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Acidosis(m): 9:02am On Apr 25, 2019 |
There are no medals for greeting people. You are absolutely normal. You can have 1000 friends and 5000 WhatsApp contacts and be useless in life. You can have few and still achieve your purpose on earth. You're not on earth to associate with everyone you meet. Jesus Christ met a lot, had only 12 loyalists and his family, 3 close associates, and he achieved his purpose while on earth. Bottom line is that know why you are here. Understand your purpose in life and work in that direction. If you have the means, you can also consider moving to highly introverted countries like Austria, Denmark, Sweden, etc. where people love to mind their business. Nigeria is one of world's most extroverted countries, where people feel they have the right to your greeting, the right to come to your party/house uninvited, the right to train and 'untrain' your kids, and the right to insult you when you don't feed their ego. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:04am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Find the spiritual man by Watchman Née part one to three. Then though this one feels like marriage oh, but it will help you understand what's happening. Find this book, you will thank me for pointing you to it. Donald Harvey how to talk yourself to an intimate marriage 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:04am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:Yeah. True, I always want my bf to behave like me by avoiding people too. ![]() |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:05am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Oh yea. That's a trait of a loner. You do not feel pain/grief for a long time. The only reason i'll love for you to be more outgoing is because of the future connections you might have with people, especially business. You won't sell and make prospective clients if you keep being detached. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:07am On Apr 25, 2019 |
Acidosis:Thank you. Even without having much friends, I've succeeded in my endeavours, that's also why I think I really don't need much friends but then, I'm still scared of what the future holds cos I really have long way to go. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:10am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Smh. Find Donald Harvey his books addresses your concerns it's the ministry God gave him. Forget about finding his books in Nigeria though. You've got to buy them online . His information is golden. You will not forget this day if you read his books. Oh, he's a psychiatrist |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:10am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Same here. Mustn't even be my boyfriend. I will always be like 'come, make we pass the other street, I no wan greet that man' or 'no look that man side, I no wan greet am' or 'face front, no greet am joor'! Very crazy but true. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:10am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:My dear. Truth is this, my background too has made me a bit confident in myself and less dependent on people. But then, I really do not know what tomorrow holds. Hope you are trying to curtail yours? 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:10am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Scare..... Insecurity. Always monitor and confront what motivates your behavior each time you want to act that way. By telling yourself the motivation of my behavior is the fear of this person not that that person has done anything,you can begin to be more lenient. Remember Paul said something about capturing every thought that exalts itself above/against God. This is capturing your very thoughts that motivates and produces action in you |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Acidosis(m): 9:12am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: You only see this as a problem because you live in one of world's most extroverted countries. You are in a country where people believe they have the right to your greeting. You are not responsible for another man's insatiable greed to your greetings. What the future holds depends on how much effort you make to feed your ego, not another man's ego. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:12am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Lol. That's my everyday work oo. Looking sideways cos I don't want to see people I might know, or taking longer path to avoid meeting people. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:14am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Wow. Lucky you then! ![]() For myself, I just keep going back and forth, that is acting irredeemable. May God hep us all. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:18am On Apr 25, 2019 |
Acidosis:Lol. Thank you. I like you already ![]() 3 Likes |
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