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Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:20am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:Mmmm. Deep thought. Thank you |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:22am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:Really?? How do I get this book? |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:24am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Amen ooo. Thanks so much 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:24am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Google it. Any store willing to ship to Nigeria will sell. Easy beezy. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:27am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:No problem thanks alot. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:33am On Apr 25, 2019 |
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Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Maverickking1(m): 9:38am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot: Even i struggle with it from time to time. Being an introvert no easy at all |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 9:39am On Apr 25, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:Alright dear. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:42am On Apr 25, 2019 |
Maverickking1: Follow the instructions. Read on how to become ambivalent |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:42am On Apr 25, 2019 |
Maverickking1: Follow the instructions. Read on how to become ambivalent. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 9:45am On Apr 25, 2019 |
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Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Ishilove: 10:13am On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:This is a very strange way of thinking. I greet everyone around me and we never go beyond that. What is the connection between greeting and friendship? You share the same geographical location with the people around you, so whether or not you greet, you are already connected on a level. I am introverted myself, and am even getting more reclusive as time passes, but that doesn't stop me from functioning withing the confines of social etiquette. How do you hope to be productive member of society if a simple thing as salutation is hard for you? You will run into problems in the future if you don't make an effort to be civil, and from what I am reading from you, you want to live like a hermit. 5 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Ishilove: 10:16am On Apr 25, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:That's quite incorrect. Don't let my jaguda on Nairaland fool you. I am introverted so I know what I talking about, 100%. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by iTearHerToto: 1:11pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:What if I say lemme be kind for once and grant you that favor ![]() |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Acidosis(m): 2:59pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:I know ![]() |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by tintingz(m): 3:26pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: See a psychologist 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Dolphin01: 6:15pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
Good evening the Lady with a good heart. We are designed to be social beings. Though we have exceptions. And as a human being here on earth you can't do without your fellow humans. In dealing with people, you will come across the good ,the bad and the ugly. While for relationship aspect ,kissing of frogs before meeting one's prince charming/adorable queen is a normal thing. But will this stop one from associating with his fellow humans? No of course. There is always a principle behind every thing/system that works .This also applies to us as human beings One of the Principles of Social Interaction is Love. Why do I say so,people must hurt you. Your family members are not exempted. But with love in place,you will overlook the hurts. Another Principle is Being Friendly. That is having a likeable personality. In this your case,how can you overcome this challenge? After all,every challenge is meant to be overcome. If you attend a church, why not join a service unit,for example the ushering unit. This is an area where you can develop your interpersonal skill. Remember what I said earlier on. You must be hurt,but your principle of love will make you over look hurts. If you are a professional, you can be active in your professional association. This will greatly increase your interpersonal skills. Remember the Principle of being Friendly,with that principle imbibed ,saying hello to folks in your neighborhood and visitors to your house won't be an issue. That you greet someone hi doesn't mean you guys are friends, but is an attribute of a person with friendly personality. You are a lady with a good heart,so show it to the world. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by PuZZyNegro: 7:00pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: I have the same personality. I lived in school hostels during my university days but cannot tell the names of my roommates. I was forced to relate with my roommates in year 1 and the result afterwards made me cherish my isolation lifestyle and I carried that on until I graduated. Even when I went to off campus in my final year, same thing. Where I am living presently, outside the landlord and his wife and my immediate neighbors (elderly people), I don't greet or talk to anyone. About the fear of how to cope in a team working environment, that might be an issue because people will hate you for keeping to yourself at work which can lead to your co-workers conspiring against you which may eventually lead to your sack (I'm not wishing you bad, just typing from experience). The first teaching job I took pre-NYSC, the teachers conspired against me with several allegations ranging from inability to control the class, to the students not understanding me,etc. I was sacked after the first term. Guess what? I am doing very well today as a Freelancer that I can employ the principal of that school and pay him. My opinion - it's a behavioral disorder. Sadly you may not be able to come out of it completely as your happiness will be jeopardize if you force it. My suggestion - find a job that does not require physical contact with people. 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by generationz(f): 8:14pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: how old are you? With age , time and exposure your shyness will reduce. Apart from greetings do these people ask questions about your personal life which you don't want to reveal? I do this too. I avoid routes where I know people who love small talk and like asking stupid personal questions. They ask not because they like me but because they want to know how far you have gone in life to gossip about and compare with their kids. Even my facial expression when passing their shops makes them know they shouldn't ask me anything stupid other than "Good morning " However you must know that while there's absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert you might find yourself in situations where you will have to overcome shyness to succeed Eg if you are a business woman or you work in an industry where you meet people daily and your social intelligence is required. I'll advice you to start reading books on charisma . Never eat alone is one. You can look for the free PDF on google There are tons of videos on YouTube that you can watch. They will teach you confidence, how to make eye contact etc. Make sure you practice what you read or else its not worth it at the end of the day 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by jesmond3945: 8:46pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:you have a mental illness called social anxiety a byproduct of depression. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by generationz(f): 9:07pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: look at now You are chatting with uya and talking about personal stuff Its all about finding people you relate well enough with ? Then the conversations flood in |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by generationz(f): 9:14pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
Acidosis: And this is one of the reasons a lot of people are commuting suicide They want to conform to the expectations of society on how to act to prove they are confident and happy. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by henmaris: 9:15pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:My dear, I am exactly like u, and now that I'm married, I sometimes have issues with hubby because he is a peoples person. We'll get invited and I will not want to go because I don't want to meet anybody. When hubby even succeed in convincing me to come along, I want us to return almost as soon as we get there. Worst part is I'll exchange no with people because they ask but when they are calling me, I feel like they are irritating, sometimes I don't pick and I never call back. At work, I am just in my room. I don't go to the staff room at lunch because I don't want to meet people. I can go on and on but what I know is that to me, I need my space every time. My only interesting person whom I don't get bored chatting with is my husband. It's not the best way of life but interestingly I'm enjoying my life this way. Maybe it's just our own way of life. Atleast we are not hurting anyone are we? Don't worry my dear, if u can change then fine but if u cant, no worries, U are good the way you are. We are all unique. 4 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 10:31pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
PuZZyNegro: Still as an isolanist. Still lacking people skills |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 10:33pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
henmaris: What happens the day we need help but since we lack social bond with people, how do we get the help we will very much need in our day of need. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 10:33pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
generationz: Doesn't validate the lifestyle of an hermit. Excessive self indulgence leads to mental problems too |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 10:36pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
Dolphin01: Flatter her too much and she may cave in. People in this spot most terms don't want to be called by their good attributes. If you know, you know |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by crunchyg: 12:17am On Apr 26, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:You said the bolded at the begining and you contradicted yourself at the end, what do you mean by telling her she is very normal because she is like you and later on you said you think you have mental issues? |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:30am On Apr 26, 2019 |
crunchyg: Learn how to mind your business. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by crunchyg: 1:40am On Apr 26, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:So calling your attention to your contraction now is me not minding my business, is that how you used to do?? 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 1:40am On Apr 26, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: I suspect this group of people you are Ignoring are Yo-luba people, not to be tribalistic but these set of people always want greetings. Once you pass by them & you don't greet, you will hear " Efe ki wa ni" -- Very disgusting attitude. Please there is nothing wrong with you, those people you don't greet are not feeding you, they can all get lost. 1 Like |
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