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Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Tayor23(m): 1:41am On Apr 26, 2019 |
I was exactly like you before but everything changed when I started going to the gym...You can try it cos it works for me. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 1:52am On Apr 26, 2019 |
henmaris: Hmmm I like your kind of Wife oh, at least I know i won't be worried or Jealous about other men that would steal you away, just joking lol. Speaking of meeting people, so how did you now meet your husband then, since you meet no one? Abi he just came & told you he dreamt that God said you are his Wife?? |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by henmaris: 7:48am On Apr 26, 2019 |
truthsayer009:Facebook! We chatted everyday for 5 months without ever meeting each other. Random friend request from him. And we got married 2 months, yes 2 months after our first meeting. Almost 6yrs together now and waxing strong. Never a dull moment together. Not saying we are perfect, just happy together. I guess love happens when it happen because I don't know y Me of all people accepted a facebook friend request from a total stranger. 3 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by henmaris: 7:50am On Apr 26, 2019 |
MiddleSpot:Good question! |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 7:56am On Apr 26, 2019 |
henmaris: God knows who you are and sent you the right person, also made you open your heart to accept the request at that time. It wasn't a coincidence then. I happy that you admit it was Facebook, people always make it seems as if only Horror stories comes from Facebook dating. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 9:22am On Apr 26, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Do you intend to get married? How do you intend to carry this character into marriage and cope? Keeping in mind that the typical African man is egoistic and loves to win argument or have his opinion stand. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:55am On Apr 26, 2019 |
unicorn79: Not every African man. Speak only for yourself. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 10:16am On Apr 26, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: You have stated the same thing I did. Not every African man does, but the 'typical' African. Meaning perhaps only 2 out of 10 wouldn't. So back to the question, how do you intend to cope when married? Because life is not mathematics. There are chances all the men who will come your way may just be the typical African man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by AntiMCU: 11:59am On Apr 26, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:Me too and it's giving me headaches. Planning to resort to alcohol as a cure... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 12:49pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: This really made me laugh Try this tests online (at least for fun) what type of introvert am I? There is a spectrum of this Then Meyer Briggs’ personality test Know your type, it will help If you are happy with your life, why change it? Extroverts get recharged by being around other people, while introverts’ energies get drained by socialising Introverts get fuelled by aloneness and extroverts get drained by it So are you sure you want to change? Can you even change this? Introversion(normalcy) is different from depression or social anxiety, a type of neurosis(a disease/disorder) oo. When one is not comfortable with their make up, it might be time to consider an underlying mental/psychological issue? Cheers 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Viking007(m): 12:57pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Story of my life. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 1:01pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
henmaris: Now that’s a well adjusted introverted person You are comfortable in your own skin Social anxiety is a different thing from introversion. If someone has a problem with their version make up? Maybe it is time to consider an underlying mental/psychological disorder like depression, anxiety neurosis, other neuroses, etc It is very okay being an introvert (it is the other side of a coin, another way is being left handed). It is different from the majority but not wrong. Societal adjustments are usually made for the majority-extroverts and righties. For eg. machines are usually made for right handed people) however, story for another day What is bad and should be treated is depressive states, anxiety states, psychological problems Not introversion Which I actually think is great to be in our society. Nothing would faze you, at all 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 1:02pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
QueenSekxy: Hmmm honestly if you're a very beautiful lady. People, especially Guys will find you out. if you like write do not disturb on your Forehead in Camp, you must leave camp with about 2 to 3 Boyfriends unfailingly. One main & two other Attachments. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Nobody: 1:03pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
MiddleSpot: This is untrue If you are comfortable being a hermit, and have no underlying mental issues, why change your winning formula/make up? Do not judge another person’s lifestyle, live yours 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Viking007(m): 1:04pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Acidosis:This is probably going to be the best comment on this thread. 3 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by Viking007(m): 1:06pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Acidosis:Lol you just got one new |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by MiddleSpot: 1:19pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
merahki: Where did I judge? Quick to be critical innit. I simply said hgermitic lifestyle ca induce mental anxiety if the individual doesn't know how to manage the introversion that comes with it and how not to function under. The control of the voices of the persons head. Trust me I've been hgermitic for years.. It's close to the same mental anxiety it is aimed at addressing when improperly managed. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 2:52pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
truthsayer009:Lols. Funny but you really do not know me. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 2:55pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
merahki:Not that I'm not comfortable with it, I'm only scared it might affect me in the future. In the case of work relation and inlaws. I really try everything I can just to avoid people. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 2:56pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
AntiMCU:Alcohol can never cure anything, don't indulge in it please. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 2:57pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
truthsayer009:Lol. You are funny but I don't leave in Yoruba land. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 3:03pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
henmaris:Lol. You are a good woman. I pray that my husby wouldn't be the out going type, though most times, I enjoy going out in my mind and fantasize alot about what's gonna happen in that place, and even try reminding you About going to that place, but once it's time, I will develop cold feet and start giving gazillions of excuses. I have a big wedding tomorrow, have been disturbed by my family and friends, I was happy that atleast, I will visit somewhere since last two weeks but now, I have started developing cold feet. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by AntiMCU: 3:04pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:It's a short term at-the-moment cure! 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 3:05pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
generationz:Lol |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 3:06pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
PuZZyNegro:Lol. Thanks for your contribution. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 3:08pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
AntiMCU:Okay ooo. Goodluck though. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by ugnoble: 3:08pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
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Re: Please How Do I Stop This by GrossPrice: 10:38pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by CastingCrowns(f): 12:27am On Apr 27, 2019 |
u are an introvert... there are lots of people like u out there.. I used to be like this but improved myself now |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by GHoJes: 3:38am On Apr 27, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:It is sure going to affect you sooner or later as you fear but the good thing is that you want to be better. Its an introverted way worsened by an enforced isolated or restricted growing up or background. The issue is not greeting as someone up there was encouraging to continue but that you avoid people who you may in the future need their help or they may need yours which definitely will cause problem. I call the hiding, ostrich approach cos the bird buries its head in sand to hide from problem forgetting the big body is in the open. The moment you start avoiding being noticed you get noticed faster cos you are the one who didnt do what others did. I tell you with certainty, more people than you know has noticed you. The problem is that if you can comfortably do without people, some people need some things you have therefore will become problem .As for 'hernis' if not now that comfort zone may crash some day. A major disadvantage with the attitude is that you bereft yourself from some growth, information, warmth etc you could have gotten from people.Trust me, you could have gone higher than second best position in 300l but for the attitude. Way forward is to get close to a good friend who is sociable and learn how to relate cos you want to improve but you dont know how. Take it from me, you will meet people who really want to associate with you not necessarily closely just to express their like for you and the only way they express it is by greeting if you dont return the warmth you will become an enemy. 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 6:06am On Apr 27, 2019 |
GHoJes:What you said is true. I have outgoing friends, but I really do not want to be too associated with them cos I feel they are not towing my path in life My problem is how to start greeting and showing interest in people. Thanks for your help too. |
Re: Please How Do I Stop This by QueenSekxy(f): 6:07am On Apr 27, 2019 |
CastingCrowns:Woow!! How did you do it please. You mind sharing? |
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