MrDebonair:
Michelle55. You are not seeing the true picture. On one hand it looks like rules, On the other hand it's what you call freedom. Means she has less to worry about me from all indications.

I guess you will like that.

She will have less to worry about you if truly you are the faithful type. Problem solved then! the reason why some ladies are skeptical about giving their all to guys in a relationship has to do with the guys not being faithful after she must have invested all of her heart to the relationship .. Truth is, you guys are just unpredictable!

Michelle55, That's why she has nothing to invest in me, should everything go south pole. In that way, there won't be statements like "After all I have done for you".

gloria34:
Sure. Why invest all these when you are not even sure you will end up together?

.. the rule of love/relationship demands it..

MrDebonair:
Michelle55, That's why she has nothing to invest in me, should everything go south pole. In that way, there won't be statements like "After all I have done for you".

Guess you're right about that which also means that you don't want to be monopolized by her right? More like an open relationship

biGDhAp:
.. the rule of love/relationship demands it..

Gone are those days of blind love, now if you fall Mugu guy man/babe go chop you. I'm in a relationship and its not that crazy love thing. We go out on dates, we Dont spend more than 5k sometimes, all these go shopping, suprise gift bla bla bla nor join abeg. If you need a change of wardrobe, do it yourself

Michelle55. Not open relationship. Just that she has no worries investing in me.
No financial links like money exchange, gifting.
No domestic volunteering like house chores, cooking,laundry.

In that way, nothing to point at if it goes down south.

MrDebonair:
Michelle55. Not open relationship. Just that she has no worries investing in me.
No financial links like money exchange, gifting.
No domestic volunteering like house chores, cooking,laundry.

In that way, nothing to point at if it goes down south.

Well understood.. Sounds weird to me though but you know what's best for you. At the end of the day your happiness and peace of mind is paramount

gloria34:
Gone are those days of blind love, now if you fall Mugu guy man/babe go chop you. I'm in a relationship and its not that crazy love thing. We go out on dates, we Dont spend more than 5k sometimes, all these go shopping, suprise gift bla bla bla nor join abeg. If you need a change of wardrobe, do it yourself

... well in my opinion .. e follo join but not to the extreme. the things is at a particular someone would feel like , "hey" lemme get this nice looking shoe for my partner, like maybe once in a while ,you know that kind of stuff .. although it should not be a necessity .. if you have the money , buy whatever, take him to wherever and stuffs like ..


things like this makes relationship a relationship .. you get.

biGDhAp:
... well in my opinion .. e follo join but not to the extreme. the things is at a particular someone would feel like , "hey" lemme get this nice looking shoe for my partner, like maybe once in a while ,you know that kind of stuff .. although it should not be a necessity .. if you have the money , buy whatever, take him to wherever and stuffs like ..


things like this makes relationship a relationship .. you get.

These are the kind of things that makes up a relationship and they are voluntary not that ten commandment the op wrote up there

obembet:
As long as the guy is a Nigerian, He will still mess up. Sell all your father's properties amd give him, he will stil cheat on u. Its beta to be alone. Guys...

Which one have you done?

gloria34:
These are the kind of things that makes up a relationship and they are voluntary not that ten commandment the op wrote up there

.. those are also list of tthings that makes up a relationship ..

you do them when you feel like as long same applies to the guy..

Korllami007:
For our naija girls, Number 1 is impossible continuous tense.

Lwkmd

you're right

without sex its nothing to the guys out there.the world evolves things have changed

gloria34:
Is he my husband? Any girl that do this for a guy she is not married to needs brain check-up. oya come and quote me with your nonsense

But a guy that does that to a girl he is not married to does not need brain check-up, abi?

My guy you are indeed, pragmatic in your Statement.

noble2faith:


But a guy that does that to a girl he is not married to does not need brain check-up, abi?

Have you ever seen any of my post asking a guy to do all these for a girl?

noble2faith:


But a guy that does that to a girl he is not married to does not need brain check-up, abi?

Don't mind them.

Michelle55:

Odozi Aku=Keeper of wealth(to my own understanding except my igbo brethren says otherwise while
Ori Aku= eater/consumer of wealth Please forgive my understanding of the igbo language Ndi igbo over to una biko, epp us with the correct translation.

You try.

gloria34:
Sure. Why invest all these when you are not even sure you will end up together?

How will you end up together if you don't invest all these things? Only to complain that he dumped you?

obembet:
As long as the guy is a Nigerian, He will still mess up. Sell all your father's properties amd give him, he will stil cheat on u. Its beta to be alone. Guys...

u sound like a fool if am not mistaking, some time use ur brain Not ur stupidity to tink. I will not say mor than dis.

princfred:
How will you end up together if you don't invest all these things? Only to complain that he dumped you?

He will still dump you after investing all these if he wants to. Same applies to a girl, give her the world and if she Dont like you, she will dump you for a guy who may even have nothing.

gloria34:
He will still dump you after investing all these if he wants to. Same applies to a girl, give her the world and if she Dont like you, she will dump you for a guy who may even have nothing.

Actually, more likely, if you "invest" nothing even if he/she likes you, he will dump you faster if he meets another girl who does half of those since you offer only sex so he sees you not as a lover but a fuckmate.

Hey, if not for the default semi olosho mentality you shouldn't see those as investing but just loving. That's how men who do those and who are actually the real lovers unlike women see them.

To further confirm the semi olosho mentality, the same una that find it hard to invest with those things Op listed regularly invest open legs. How is that different from a full blown olosho?
If you are so afraid of investing little monetarily but not opening legs what is not olosho-like there. Infact this is why i value a womans little monetary input that her pussy cos i know the one they value more and which if they give reflects true love.

That 5 mins call says more "i love you" to me than all night opened legs and this applies to many men atleast on the subconscious level. But i bet mama's nor your fellow girls don't teach that .

princfred, i just have to laugh at that long epistle you wrote up there. Who talked about offering sex? I indulge in sex when i want to not as a gift, Lol, when i have an itch, i fvck. Is it by force to feed a man? I Dont want to na, or do i sound like a girl who depend on a guy for survival? Hell no, i work and take care of my bills and support my immediate family the way i can. I Dont need an handicap in the name of a boyfriend . I'm in a healthy relationship, Nobody is depending on the other for survival, if you need a girl that will foot your bill, i'm sure you will find them somewhere. Good luck with your hunt

gloria34:
princfred, i just have to laugh at that long epistle you wrote up there. Who talked about offering sex? I indulge in sex when i want to not as a gift, Lol, when i have an itch, i fvck. Is it by force to feed a man? I Dont want to na, or do i sound like a girl who depend on a guy for survival? Hell no, i work and take care of my bills and support my immediate family the way i can. I Dont need an handicap in the name of a boyfriend . I'm in a healthy relationship, Nobody is depending on the other for survival, if you need a girl that will foot your bill, i'm sure you will find them somewhere. Good luck with your hunt

So you "invest" nothing? not what the op list nor sex (since you only do it for your selfish easing and claim to love? Tell your self the truth you are only selfishly in love with yourself so why should a man commit to you long term or any unmarried lady who toes your line? Why not the guy take you as you take him - a fuvkmate?

Who is talking about footing bills or being handicap boyfriend ? Abi is that what you wrongly interpret making 5 mins call or doing what the Op listed to be or how does that make the guy you do those things to a handicap?

I do all .. no big deal

Thegents6:
Dear ladies,
Some of you do not know how to show love to the guy you are dating. Some ladies think that the
only way to show a guy love is by having SEX with
him; that is why some ladies do not have anything
to offer a guy except sex. SEX is not a PROVE of
LOVE. Don't use sex to prove that you love a guy. As
a lady, you can prove that you love a guy in the
following ways:
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1. Buy gifts for him. You can give him gifts of T-
shirts, shoes, wrist watches, undies, singlets or even a phone if
you have the money.
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2. Take him out for lunch and pay the bills at least
once in 2 months. It is not bad at all.
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3. Send him some love text messages occasionally.
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4. Give him phone calls daily at least once daily,
ask him how he is doing and tell him that you love
him.
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5. Occasionally you can cook a delicious meal for
him, maybe once in a week or once in two weeks,
but not everyday like a housewife.
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6. You can also help him financially when he is broke.
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7. Take him out for shopping at least once in a
year, YOU WILL NOT DIE.
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8. Pray for him
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9. Advise him
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10. Help him to build a bright future.
Be an ODOZIE AKU and not an ORI AKU
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I know some ladies will crucify me because of this
post, but this is the ideal thing to do for your guy,
not SEX! SEX!! SEX!!!
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Dear Guys, I hope say I talk una minds sha?

Do all these things is not a problem... most of 'em tho
Doing it for the wrong person is the problem..that's where the pain is.


Guys don't understand that if I woman actually loves you she will do anything for you.

franchasng:
Easy man! Easy! We will keep trying our best to enlighten and educate our ladies to know what's wrong and right until we get it right someday any time.

But don't be a villain pls lol

'' We will keep trying our best to enlighten and educate our ladies...'' Really? What's the work of their parents? Aren't they more educated and experienced than we the guy in terms of relationship stuff due to their promiscuous nature?

''...to know what's wrong and right...'' Man, we aren't talking about kids here, we're talking about adults/grown-up. Ladies knows what's wrong and right, they're just scrums.

''...don't be a villain...'' None is a saint, dude.

miidae:
I do all .. no big deal

Lovely babe there.

Sweetcrush:


'' We will keep trying our best to enlighten and educate our ladies...'' Really? What's the work of their parents? Aren't they more educated and experienced than we the guy in terms of relationship stuff due to their promiscuous nature?

''...to know what's wrong and right...'' Man, we aren't talking about kids here, we're talking about adults/grown-up. Ladies knows what's wrong and right, they're just scrums.

''...don't be a villain...'' None is a saint, dude.

Bro, their parents are part of the reasons they are like this by mainly druming into them directly or subconsciously, from childhood, not to bring home a non-millionaire so now their right or wrong is highly dependent on how much they snuffed what they learnt is right or wrong from their parents towards relationship. In reality sef, how many African parents even engage their children on regular relationship talks half as much as is espoused here? Maybe many of them are confused given that they also applied just what was past them to them from grand parent through their own parents.The little summary most parents do is ensure she can cook but get her to ensure that skill sgould be reserved for a rich man.
Also their female friends who learnt the same nonsense separately from their own parents reinforce the "rightness" of selfish, hypergamous, parasitic bent to them over time.
So you see, you are their only hope to see light before their pastor (who also fed and will feed them "sow not just a seed but your harvest and your husband is coming with a black limo in 3 days" buys jet on the cumulative shiloh offerings and seeds for husband when its too late.
So bro how will you deal, knock them out or knock them in? Your call, My call.

gloria34:
Have you ever seen any of my post asking a guy to do all these for a girl?

bimi lekan si

miidae:
I do all .. no big deal

BE MY DREAMGIRL