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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 8:25am On May 01, 2019
Just finished reading....


Thank you...Hope the kids belong to the man because this is not your first escapades, is only sense of guilt that is disturbing you...

I don't give advise on a clear situation like this.

Just don't kill your husband in the future to have ur way all through.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by pocohantas(f): 8:25am On May 01, 2019
yettymuse:
Small cheat wey woman cheat we don reach page 3! undecided undecided undecided. Double standard!
Op! Na knack you knack, you no kee person
.
.
Just dead the relationship with the dude.. If you wanna cheat, long distance with no strings. Don't dare talk about it to your husband.
With all your husband is and more, I'd advise you stay contented to avoid doom. Have more sexual discussions. Tell him what you want and how you want it. Age has got nothing on a man.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Isoduwa(m): 8:25am On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.




Na prick go kill you one day � useless 69
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by frozen70(f): 8:25am On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

I understand how bad and guilt you have been feeling about it

Just seat down and talk to yourself, take a transfer out of their to another location, just let your lover know that your relationship with him is affecting you psychologically

Try and live a new decent life, it all depends on your state of mind

Beg God to forgive you so far you know that you won't try it with another man again

Aa for your husband, don't tell him to avoid mistrust but teach him tjose sex skills so that you wont have any reason to search else where

Atimes in marriage you don't get exactly what you wish to have in your partner and once a single thing is missing, you keep searching for it, despite you are already hooked

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by prettysassygirl(f): 8:26am On May 01, 2019
Forgive yourself and don't repeat it again.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by stanliwise(m): 8:27am On May 01, 2019
Realdeals:
Someone has said it 'forgive yourself and move on'
move on to where. She has to learn an important lesson here. This event is a reflection or her wrong marriage decision. and how the marriage would fall.
She need to fix sexual pleasure in her marriage.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by mark2sunny(m): 8:29am On May 01, 2019
Evtspez:
Getting more reasons why I won't marry lipsrsealed

If you knew your conscience will hunt you like you described why cheat on your hubby? You should have analyse the long term effect of your actions instead of the 10minutes of pleasure.

Anyways, forgive yourself and turn a new leaf. Love you husband unconditionally and advice him to visit the gym occasionally grin
Cheers.

It was more than 30 minutes �

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Slyprof: 8:29am On May 01, 2019
This is why some men insist on full housewife, the dangers of intermingling between men and women are enormous. Had it been u were not working in that office this would not have happened. My advice is that u steer clear of that guy cos u will eventually loose ur husband and perhaps the guy also cos he will probably have a fiancee. If possible start a business or get a transfer to another branch.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by cardoctor(m): 8:29am On May 01, 2019
Confessions of a cheating wife. Nothing new here.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by mark2sunny(m): 8:29am On May 01, 2019
Evtspez:
Getting more reasons why I won't marry lipsrsealed

If you knew your conscience will hunt you like you described why cheat on your hubby? You should have analyse the long term effect of your actions instead of the 10minutes of pleasure.

Anyways, forgive yourself and turn a new leaf. Love you husband unconditionally and advice him to visit the gym occasionally grin
Cheers.


It was more than 30 minutes �

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by oboy81: 8:30am On May 01, 2019
Mad Girl
Sometimes I wonder if this People are Practicing Christians
Like I don't Get
IjebuWarrior abeg Con put Mouth for this matter

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by 27Pushing30: 8:30am On May 01, 2019
tessytessy:
OP,

Thanks for sharing your problems here. You are human at most. However, the problem is that, you are hooked on that sex like opium. Two things will happen; its either you tell your husband or you tell a close friend who will ensure this ends. Trust me it will not end with a transfer, it will not end with blocking him. The problem is, if your husband gets to find out, your life will be messed up, your kids life will be messed up. Your parents will never respect you again.

Its better to hit a night stand with a stranger (if the thing dey hold you badly) than to be in a relationship with a colleugue.

I saw this happen to a couple, whose wife was hooked up to her EX. The discovery shattered that home for good. The woman lost her job, husband lost his job. Kids had to withdraw from the high brow school. Once those kids discover why their lives became messed up they will never , ever forgive you.

Forget about that guy and face your husband. You will be amazed that your husband can even toss your body upandown but he feels you are too holy for that sh*t. Madam, just talk tour husband. Adultery never ends well. You might even get pregnant,

What you stated up there made No sense.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by topstone4: 8:31am On May 01, 2019
Chubhie:
Sweetest taboo

Hmmmm.... Shade Adu must have been there before

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by anonymous1759(m): 8:31am On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

... The problem is not taking a transfer, you'll always find attractive men in anywhere you find yourself. The main issue is if you're ready to change or ask your husband to up his game. It's that's impossible better ask for a divorce before you kill him with the abomination you're committing. Don't be selfish with yourself, your husband and the kids. It's better you divorce him if you're not willing to control yourself than killing him or allowing nemesis to take course on your kids. And remember your husband, your kids are on a death trap if you don't confess to him. Anything bad might happen.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Adewunmibaba(m): 8:31am On May 01, 2019
More reason I prefer to be alone and have my peace.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Kakamorufu(m): 8:32am On May 01, 2019
anty cheetah. weldone oooo
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by JoeOdion(m): 8:32am On May 01, 2019
Never marry a man or a woman who doesn't have the fear of God or the holy spirit in them..They have nothing speaking sense to them!

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by samcus(m): 8:32am On May 01, 2019
I don't know why God kept on providing husbands 4 some hoe in dis country while d decent ones re unmarried? but who am I 2 question God,pls countine ur adventure with dat ur unfortunate boyfriend,useless wife.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Orientalbrother: 8:32am On May 01, 2019
Shameless dog, just don't bring misfortune to your husband with your promiscuity.






Better get a divorce, he doesn't deserve such.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 8:32am On May 01, 2019
This is what you get when women of nowadays marry because of riches alone. At first they will be deceiving themselves here and there like this little Regina Daniels who married a man 40years older than her. After they become comfortable with the old man's wealth over the years, then they will start speaking and acting like this OP is doing now.

Marriage is more than money please. Women take note. Money is good, but not the only factor to consider in marriage. Most women envy my wife when they see me. Financially ok, physically fit, social, handsome, and young like her too. Just difference of 6years.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by watchindelta(m): 8:32am On May 01, 2019
That why i always train my body. At the same time bang any lady very wel cool my future wife wil enjoy me when it come to sex. Energia. Tell ur husband to hit the gym jor stop cheatin

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by PennywysCares(m): 8:32am On May 01, 2019
Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.
buy one can of sniper for urself ashawo
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by mark2sunny(m): 8:33am On May 01, 2019
frozen70:


I understand how bad and guilt you have been feeling about it

Just seat down and talk to yourself, take a transfer out of their to another location, just let your lover know that your relationship with him is affecting you psychologically

Try and live a new decent life, it all depends on your state of mind

Beg God to forgive you so far you know that you won't try it with another man again

Aa for your husband, don't tell him to avoid mistrust but teach him tjose sex skills so that you wont have any reason to search else where

Atimes in marriage you don't get exactly what you wish to have in your partner and once a single thing is missing, you keep searching for it, despite you are already hooked

Her husband has to forgive her first before God's forgiveness. That guilt will never go away until that is done. However, that might be the end of the marriage. That's what a good man would do. That way she can explore sex.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by oboy81: 8:34am On May 01, 2019
JasonScoolari:
Dear Marbella003,

I don't advice cheats, infact, I hate cheats whether a Man or Woman.... You did not advice yourself when your pussy was itching you.

Now you seek our advice after cheating on a good man. And you still feel like offering your pussy to the guy as a useless sex slave.

What a promiscuous Dog.


Get Lost. Filthy animal.
Lmao!!! guy No Kill Me Abeg grin
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Jasmine360(f): 8:34am On May 01, 2019
You better ask God for forgiveness.


Leave that young man alone or you will wreck your life and marriage.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by ednut1(m): 8:34am On May 01, 2019
yettymuse:
Small cheat wey woman cheat we don reach page 3! undecided undecided undecided. Double standard!
Op! Na knack you knack, you no kee person.
.
Just dead the relationship with the dude.. If you wanna cheat, long distance with no strings. Don't dare talk about it to your husband.
With all your husband is and more, I'd advise you stay contented to avoid doom. Have more sexual discussions. Tell him what you want and how you want it. Age has got nothing on a man.
hahahahaa arabinrin. Woman don dey catch up for the game make we guys too accept am lol

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Damfostopper(m): 8:35am On May 01, 2019
since ur married..... sorry cheater...... at my age.... I don't comment on stewpid post
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Snow02: 8:35am On May 01, 2019
this is why I can't get married in this kinda generation

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Philadelphia: 8:36am On May 01, 2019
REGINA DANIELS...
Come and see your future. If you're looking for that young man to satisfy you sexually, pm me.
Lol kiss
But on a serious note, OP, you are shameless.
I spit on your mistake and you still wanting another encounter with your colleague.
You obviously married a man twice your age simply because of his money.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Neon66(m): 8:36am On May 01, 2019
for what its worth, I dont see anything wrong in what you did , Sex personally to me is not a big deal, humans are meant to have sex

just know when to call it quit when the time is right in other not to ruin your marriage.

its good to spice things up a little.

p.s y'all shouldn't judge no one is perfect

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