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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by virago(f): 11:32am On May 01, 2019 |
truthsayer009: Love is not all about sex , what I have seen in most cases is that the person we have the best sex with is usually not the one. Ask anyone married who they had their best sex with and they'll tell you it was an ex or one casual sex they had , if other married couples can rein in their urges and fight whatever temptation that comes their way for a happy and peaceful home why not her , she even has the recipe for a peaceful home already but the only thing lacking is her inability to control her urge 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Katier00(f): 11:33am On May 01, 2019 |
virago:there are things better left unsaid for the cause of peace. Instead of tormenting her husband with this kind of truth. She loves her husband and wants her marriage to work. |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by DeeMain(m): 11:35am On May 01, 2019 |
cyrilamx: Hogwash, this your postulation has no new testament basis unless you are wiser than Jesus who forgave the adulterous woman and exposed the hypocritical Pharisees. Christianity is about the finished work of Christ at the cross. It is called grace. Her sins are all forgiven all she needs to do is believe in Christ and confess him as her Lord and saviour. You have ingrained within you an old testament mindset of tit for tat and an ear for an ear. A testament in which righteousness was based on the 10 laws and the 600 plus rules and regulations and if you disobeyed one you had disobeyed all. Such that no one could keep them and stand and so all sinned and had come short of the glory of God as a result. They had to resort to sacrificing the blood of animals to cleanse them from there sins. Whereas in the new testament righteousness is a gift. All that is required is believe and you are saved and when you sin you ask for forgiveness and the same blood that saved you will blot out all your sins. This is the gospel. No other gospel should any man preach. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by freethinker01: 11:35am On May 01, 2019 |
Shelumiel:What exactly does prayer have to do with this? All these overzealous folks self ![]() |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Katier00(f): 11:36am On May 01, 2019 |
Awe4luv:then that will be her choice and her consequences to bear |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by xyz123456: 11:37am On May 01, 2019 |
sisisioge: But when they reach old age nko?? How will a man of 65 who is still active sexually cope with a woman of 63 who is no more active?? 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by virago(f): 11:40am On May 01, 2019 |
femi4: Not like that for we ladies , the more the sex with him the more drawn we are to him , it is however the reverse for men 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by cyrilamx(m): 11:41am On May 01, 2019 |
DeeMain:It seems u don't even know the scripture u quoting. The adulterous her sin was obvious and probably her hubby would hv a hint of it. As per ur delusion that all sins re equal then u really a biblical novice. All have sinned doesnt mean all have equal sin. I even gave u two verses for u to read but anger in ur blood wont allow u. continue to deceive her that it not necessary to confess I to her hubby... |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Vyolet(f): 11:42am On May 01, 2019 |
Slyprof:Yinmu, who told you a full housewife cannot cheat if she wants to, not with the increase in jobless able bodied young men loitering every street. Cheating is in the mind, who will cheat will surely cheat irrespective of their work functions. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by mechanics(m): 11:43am On May 01, 2019 |
Since Christ forgives our sins, you should pray and ask God for forgiveness and tell your husband, with that he won't do anything stupid and all those guilt will vanish away, but I wonder what connect you to a man very older than you, maybe it was love at first sight, that's why one has to be very careful in this aspect of selecting a life partner, and you should stop all forms of communication with that guy, he's ready to destroy your marital vows. 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Katier00(f): 11:43am On May 01, 2019 |
loswhite:wait until you walk in her shoes. Yes she made the wrong choice but willing to amend her ways. You can't just leave her because of that singular act 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by virago(f): 11:47am On May 01, 2019 |
sweetilicious: He's not being judgemental he's just saying the plain truth , if you steal my money you're a thief , no other way to put it or sugarcoat it. That being said I agree with him , she isn't going to stop any time soon as she really hasn't come to unburden her soul , she's merely here to acknowledge that she will do it again and again , so why shy away from the truth ? The earlier she accepts who she is the better 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 11:48am On May 01, 2019 |
greenguy: It's funny how most of these useless women don't realise this. Or maybe they do, but they're just hopeless like that. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by atiku07(m): 11:48am On May 01, 2019 |
Marbella003: My advice if u can actually request a transfer the better, however whatever happened in Rome should remain in Rome some secrets are best kept as secrets do not tell him anything try as much as possible to forgive urself for now and move on. But please not in distant future u might jokingly tell him when u feel like he must have gotten over it as a sign of restitution. in whatever u do never seek opinion of an outsider nor reveal whatever u have done to anyone ! have a nice day ! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by spiralwedge(m): 11:48am On May 01, 2019 |
Marbella003: Go for what makes you happy and do it discreetly and wisely. Stop carrying guilt bag on your head up and down. It's like masturbation, first few times you are ashame, but later you are good to go. Be happy and go about your life like nothing happened. My only advice is to stop it with your colleague. Do it far and again be wise. 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Iphone5: 11:50am On May 01, 2019 |
I know who the OP is and her main nairaland account ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by greatsodade(m): 11:51am On May 01, 2019 |
Islie: Best advice...the ball is in her court now to either be dignified or adulterous |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by RiyadhGoddess(f): 11:56am On May 01, 2019 |
All these men that will not go to a car dealer to buy a car but would rather prefer to enter another man's compound to take/steal their car. Madam poster Adultery is a Big Sin! Confess your Sin, Repent of it and then forgive yourself. Don't go back to it o. Sins like this dey sweet at the beginning but the end is always bitter... |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by jelel6: 11:58am On May 01, 2019 |
Personally, I don't think unfaithfulness is the gravest unforgivable thing a partner or wife can do to me. There are a few other things I dread of marriage than a cheating partner. The deed has been done. Looking forward, you don't EVEN KNOW what it is that you want. That's the real problem I see. You still want your BLOW buddy! And you still want your husband and marriage! But I don't think you can have them both. At least, it's not fair on your husband to keeping banging another guy while you're still married to him without his knowledge. So, Marbella003. What do you want? Blissful Sex with this guy who may or may not have all the GOOD QUALITIES you've mentioned above OR A blissful marriage with husband and all the goods that come with him, bar the bedroom prowess? Besides, have you ever come to think of the possibility that you have not been satisfying your husband sexually too? How are you sure you yourself is good in bed? Who knows? He might be complaining about your lack of sexual adventure to some of his buddies. Saying his wife seem too dignified and holy and educated to try CRAZY THINGZ with. As for his physical traits, you have no complaints there as you saw him with your two eyes before marrying him. He didn't create himself. I'm sure he didn't look like Christiano Ronaldo before you married him, why do you now expect him to start looking like Anthony Joshua? I just hope you've maintained your original body shape from the first day you met him to this day otherwise we may as well add hypocrisy to your list of shortcomings. Apparently, sexual fulfilment is an important component of marriage where you stand and I have no problem with that. It sucks you believe your husband can't guarantee that you. I'll only encourage you to list out other good things you have with him. If you think ALL those good things are BASIC and every Tom, Dick and Harry can give them to you? Then it's settled. You have GOTTEN YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT. What's remaining is just the small matter of following the direction that leads you to them ( your priorities). Las Las, if not for the sake of the kids in a marriage, I don't have no problem with divorce. Heck, I intend to use it if I have to when I'm married. However, if you have any, don't forget to take their welfare and happiness into consideration too. I'm sure they trust mommy too do right by them, Do right by daddy, and THEN do right by herself. Good luck! 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 12:04pm On May 01, 2019 |
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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Raalsalghul: 12:09pm On May 01, 2019 |
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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by madridsta007(m): 12:09pm On May 01, 2019 |
GrossPrice: Thank you. Done so. 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by yesloaded: 12:09pm On May 01, 2019 |
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Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Theboss100(m): 12:15pm On May 01, 2019 |
I Pray Never To Meet Bi**ches Like U As A Wife. Ur Type Are Disgusting [quote author=Marbella003 post=77989360]I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity. I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity. I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by shege45: 12:16pm On May 01, 2019 |
Slyprof:funny you. A cheat is always a cheat. She could as well cheat with her neighbor when u go to work 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by TheiSchooler(m): 12:17pm On May 01, 2019 |
Marbella003, every adulterer (just as with other serious sins) also has a "justification." Please stop saying you did what you did cos you don't find your husband attractive. Those who steal blame the system or say they were hungry. Those who fight and kill say they were angered. A sin is a sin. No excuses with God. "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." (1 Corinthians 10:13). But He is a merciful God and we are in the age of grace. "Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you? “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” (John 8: 10-11). 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by sodiamond: 12:18pm On May 01, 2019 |
Marbella003:My dear don't go and kill yourself o. I will advice you stop now. Do not ever tell your husband anything. I don't support cheating but there are some situations you can not help. Men cheat everyday and nothing has happened so why is everybody crucifying a woman who still has a little remorse. We are too judgemental abeg! Do you know what the husband does behind her? Infact if you cannot hold yourself go and have sex as many times as you want with the guy until you are satisfied, then you can dump him and face your home! I'm sure that most of the guys criticizing her are real cheats, their anger is that it has to do with a woman. See the way they are analyzing it sef!! 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 12:21pm On May 01, 2019 |
Marbella003: You want to have ur cake and still EAT it?..... your main problem is greed. you are greedy and that goes for some of your female folks too. greed can destroy you for good if you don't leave it and learn to be contented. people are happy in their relationships and marriages not because they have everything they desire but because they learnt to be contented and not to be greedy. And let me warn you, in case you choose to add stupidity to your greediness. never you tell anybody about this, not even ur closest friend or family, cause one day they can use it against you. the safest secret is the one you keep to yourself. my piece of advice to you is, forget about this episode and never look back, keep your relationship with your colleague casual but cordial (you don't want him causing you trouble), he will move on eventually 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by profmallor: 12:22pm On May 01, 2019 |
Congratulations, Yes Congratulations cause you were first time lucky. Better to read the results/outcome of adultery on social media and news outlets that to be a victim. You may not be so lucky second time around. The disgrace and shame would far out weigh any sexual benefits you many every have thought you will get. Sex is good and is a strong compeling force but as soon as you keep going the wrong way, the end is always going to be disgrace. We have heard of men/women dying at hotel rooms, in vehicles etc so way out, you must now sit your man down and discuss some of these challenges you woud want addressed, you as a woman might even have to learn to ask for what you want and how you want it, note that most men this days feel the pressures of our economy coupled with numerous responsibilities which might adversely affect sexual prowess that is the reality, unlike your colleague who if you investigate might not have much to think about or is just plainly irresponsible. sin is sweet but as i said congratulations, you may not be second time lucky, something may just go wrong from someone secretly taping you for blackmail to even death. Try to move on, that's what wise people do. |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by AgreatMan: 12:23pm On May 01, 2019 |
virgoquin: You might need to change your bf, it can last a lot more that. S*x is is not food but a woman deserves to be taken somewhere she has never been before. Every woman always harbor a secret desire to be dominated s*xually. The OP has reached a point of no return. She had tasted tastted from d forbidden pot. She might temporarily rescue her marriage for d next 5 or 10 years but it won't last which doesn't make it a bad thing. An extremely important ingredient of her marriage is clearly missing n that is NOT her fault. Our over-religious, over-holy society frown at s*x but every single one of us will jump at it under d right opportunity. Our society put so much pressure on woman but men also need to step-up physically. I feel her pain where she inferred that the touch of her husband's skin is too soft. To d OP, hold on as much as u have to, if it doesn't work out, bounce. You have only one life, just one. Marbella003 My advice has it flaws but I care about people being happy over marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by MrDoGood(m): 12:23pm On May 01, 2019 |
Marbella003: Good morning madam. Let me quickly tell you this. what you're experiencing is LUST and the reason you feel you enjoyed it is simply because cheating (having sex with someone's who's not your partner) seems to be more fun but very destructive. And now, you're attaching emotions which is normal for any woman who is or has cheated. Reasons are: it keeps spinning in your head, you start finding the new man attractive and you probably want to have more wild sex with him and believe me, if you still settle for that man, as in get married to him, the same way you're feeling for your husband now will be same way you're going to feel with this your new Bed King after some time. Try taking your mind back to the very first sex experience you had with your husband before you got married and compare the pleasure you felt then and the one you're feeling now. All you need to do now is take the wheels and ride your husband the way you want and do crazy styles with him and not just missionary styles. Sometimes indulge in quickie sex ant crazy places with your husband and not just the bedroom. This will spice a lot of things and the attraction will start coming in. Now to the part on what to do.... Hmmmm 1. Work your transfer and kill the communications with him gradually. 2. Figure out a way to tell your husband because you alone knows your husband very well and you can tell if he's going to forgive you or not. But i believe he would. Please don't start by telling him you're sorry.... start by condemning yourself before him and how you don't deserve him and all that bla bla. Before you even say the main point, his mind would have told him and anger would start dying down even before you start pleading for forgiveness. You alone knows how to bring out his soft spot out and i believe he will forgive. But before you apply number 2, make sure you're out from that work zone and tell him the whole truth and don't keep any away from him. But if he's the stubborn type and you feel he's going to use it against you, PLEASE DO NOT TELL HIM ANYTHING. So many things to say, but i can't type all and a voice note would have been better, NL don't have such option. I wish you all the best ma'am. |
Re: I Cheated On My Husband With A Guy From Work And I Don't Know What To Do. by BluntBoy(m): 12:24pm On May 01, 2019 |
Marbella003: Interesting. Sadly, I see a life of severe depression ahead of you. Hopefully, you won't end up committing suicide. The effort you should have made into bonding with your husband and at least making an attempt to build your relationship (including sexual relationship) has been used to complicate matters for yourself. Good luck to you. |
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