femi4:
That won't work, she is sexually attracted to his colleague at work because he is younger.

So, your advice should be "Tell your husband to reduce his age".

Well her type of woman is very dangerous, she is sexually weak. She ll always give you a reason to cheat. She can even put the blame on the company for employing the guy.

kelvinrhs:

Take it from a guy that's interested in older women
Simply do what makes you happy.
Your husband does not have to know. Ensure the guy is reasonable enough to know how to behave around you and respect you no matter what.
Peace

BarrElChapo:
Gym isn't the problem here. Its just the generational gap. Obviously a guy at 40 something would generally still want a younger pretty lady for marriage but then he may not have that high drive for sex especially if he married a trophy wife or just for procreation. It now depends on whether the woman can cope cos obviously the gifts of love such men can give just to win the lady over will leave these important issues not talked about.

Hedonini:
The thing most of these stupid women (and they're in the majority) don't realize is that sexual attractiveness is like a whiff of smoke in the wind... Sexual performance is a trifle.

The only reason why the guy performed like a stallion is because of the 'first time' thrill of demystifying you. The evil thrill of seeing his married colleague naked before him and having the pleasure of tossing her around and drilling her. This kind of mental tonic does wonders for a man's libido. But it only lasts the first and maybe second time. Soon enough, that novelty effect would wane, and he would start seeing you for the flabby, intolerable 'married woman' slob that you are. By that time he would barely be able to get an erection with you, and even before that, he would manufacture excuses to avoid your sleazy ass. The only exemption to this would be if you're a sugar mummy who doles out loads of money to him, in which case he would prepare himself mentally and physically (with sex enhancers), before performing his lucrative 'duty' each time.

I can't remember how many females I've been in similar situation with - even much younger, single and seemingly attractive ones. First and second time I am enthusiastically thrusting and tossing, pumping and puffing, and shattering everything there is to shatter with no retreat and no surrender. But by the third or fourth encounter, I'm tired of her and even the sight of her greasy face makes my intrument limp in disgust. If, by my first performance, she concludes that her boyfriend or husband is history because she has met a charming 'stallion' to hold on to for life, then the dust soon clears from her eyes.

virgoquin:

A problem shared is half solved.
I don't see anything wrong in her coming here seeking for advice.

Nigerians are too religious sha they feel prayer is the only solution to everything.

So if she prays without killing the root cause which is lust she will be free

tenmariner:
What made u settle for someone with so much age difference when u know quite Alright that your sexual urge lies on a hot grizzled male adult. Maybe u were trying to eat your cake and have if.

Thank God u admitted that u still look forward to repeating the se.x with your colleague which has totally defeated the rationale behind this post.

My advice: seek for a very remorseful divorce for the sake of your husband's good behavior towards u. Funny thing is that the so called colleague will kick your asss should u plan to have him for yourself... This scenario reminds me of the movie: confession of a marriage counsellor.

Chubhie:

It was more than 10 mins. It was glorious with lots of tossing about.

Chubhie:
Sweetest taboo

truthsayer009:


It's mentally not the same feeling with women at all, emphasis on Not at all, you can argue this all day long. Polygamous marriages have been fine for families without Women complaining for decades but a Man cannot stand this thought of another Man climbing his Wife.

He'd rather hang himself & die.

Saffi:
Ogbeni please just shut up ahbeg. Women like to fucck, women like to have sex, this is not the 1930s where women will just glue their legs together and suffer. She made a mistake that many people make including men , so what is all this emotional crap you’re typing here? Women cheat, such is life but advise her to do better instead of crying like a sissy.

cococandy:
We are polygamous in nature.

Go with the flow.

BluntBlunt:
The way people are going on about it because it's a woman who cheated. Would the advice be the same if the tables were turned!

freethinker01:

What exactly does prayer have to do with this?
All these overzealous folks self

pocohantas:
Small something...

You are obviously polygamous in nature

Don't get caught, you hear?

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

xyz123456:

But when they reach old age nko?? How will a man of 65 who is still active sexually cope with a woman of 63 who is no more active??

prince3009:
I know koyyes, trapQ, cococandy et al will avoid this thread.



How am I sure it is not even...


...make I no talk wetin dey my mind!

oboy81:
Oloshi olriburuku! Ile aiye E Ti baje!
Live With that Guy too You Hear, has he Mess Smelly Mess Near You, Him don Shit For Your Side Before see If the Strong Sexual Desire would still be there after 6 months of you both living Together. Mumu Girl
Ode! You did a Bad Thing, a very very very Baaaaaad Thing!
This is why we say Y'all Should Get married as Virgins, Can You see what's Going on Now
You are Selfish! accept it You are Not Fit to be in that Marriage or any Marriage and If your Husband Is A Loyal Spouse he definitely doesn't Deserve You

trapQ:
Hush!!!!!

Common adultery you're mentioning me. Men commit adultery and do other worse things everyday, do you condemn them?

Unlike you, I don't support evil. I'm all for equity feminism and justice woman power.

drmikeadams:
sex cheaper than indomie noddles

Slyprof:
This is why some men insist on full housewife, the dangers of intermingling between men and women are enormous. Had it been u were not working in that office this would not have happened. My advice is that u steer clear of that guy cos u will eventually loose ur husband and perhaps the guy also cos he will probably have a fiancee. If possible start a business or get a transfer to another branch.

JoeOdion:
Never marry a man or a woman who doesn't have the fear of God or the holy spirit in them..They have nothing speaking sense to them!

autonomous22:
One word.... "Olosho"

Imo1stson:
Your husband might also have same encounter but men have a locked mind. He can just decide to end it at once if he felt as guilty as you and that's why women should avoid cheating. There sex ofyen comes with emotional attachment whereas men see sex as just food that they eat and forget instantly.

bukatyne:


This thread is one of the first I am seeing men give concrete advise as regards a cheating wife.

None of the dramatics, we are getting there.

@OP: You married your husband for money hence the 20yr gap while you desire a young guy sexually.

So far, your husband has been good to you, doing his own side of the bargain. Still you found a side bobo and after round 1, you want more (naturally).

These facts tell me that you are currently not capable to think long term or deep enough to match actions with consequences.

If you were,
1. You wouldn't have married papi when it is a young man that sets you on fire.

2. After sleeping with the young man, you would have cleaned mouth because you know that long term is destruction.

That side, except you have a mind shift, you will sleep with the young guy again and again and when he is done, you will pick someone else.

It is good that you did not lay the blame on him however on yourself so the solution is not him changing or gyming but your mindset has to change.

Unfortunately in sexual matters, the intended heart wants what it wants.

So you need to retrain that heart to desire your husband and learn styles that make up in charge so you tell him what to do.

You would be shocked that your husband also desires to flip you but is scared you might not like it.

You can also initiate role play where you are his girl and ask him to do whatever he likes.

Again, older men marry younger women for their youth. Have you brought youthfulness to his life or are you waiting passively for him to initiate?

Worst case, get good dildos and fvck yourself to stupor if that would satiate you.

Need I say you should go and sin no more?

However, if you want to destroy your marriage and future of your kids, you can ride on with the dude.