I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and told her it's quite early and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return.

My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.

Think Fast.

I am a single man, but I have drawn wisdom from you. Thank you

That lady needs serious wiping.

So in summary, you kissed a married woman but refuse to have sex with her... Okay. Let's just leave that for another day. Anyway, I am glad you restraint yourself.

Self discipline is a virtue that many men lack.

You are a faithful man.

Is the lady on whatsapp
Oya give me her number
Now or

You didn't resist the temptation 100%, you kissed her and flowed with the kissing for a while, that's cheating, you have to tell your wife cos you locked lips and exchanged saliva with another woman.

Modified

Thanks hopefullandlord for seeing my point of view and clearing the air.

You kissed a married woman when you are married and here you are, feeling fly that you resisted her. Tell me, how would you feel if your wife kiss another man even without fvcking him? How cool will that be to you?


Take this from me; Never you in your life put yourself in a place and position for temptations. The only reason you didn't sleep with that lady was because she didn't really mean you. If she had stylishly brought out your diiick, you would have fallen for her. That's the truth, because if you can kiss another person's wife, you can fvck her. The chances are high.

Learn to avoid temptations. She's married, you are married, why follow her to the same hotel? When deep inside you, you had feelings that such could occur. Because for she, a married woman to publicly engage in sexual discussion with strangers in a bus should be a clear signal to tell you what she's capable of. But as a nigga, you played ignorant to weigh how it'll play out.

You have to be very careful, bruv. That you escaped this doesn't mean you'll escape the next.

Avoid any damn thing that might lead you to temptation, don't allow the temptation to come to know if you'll resist or not.

Be wise! The best way to resist and overcome temptation is by not allowing the temptation to come.

Biglittlelois:
You didn't resist the temptation 100%, you kissed her and flowed with the kissing for a while, that's cheating, you have to tell your wife cos you locked lips and exchanges saliva with another woman.

Lol. Calm down aunty.
We all have moments of weakness.

His wife doesn't need to know. It'll only stir up distrust.
He could have actually cheated but he didn't.

Let's focus and learn from that.

SageMK:


Lol. Calm down aunty.
We all have moments of weakness.

His wife doesn't need to know. It'll only stir up distrust.
He could have actually cheated but he didn't.

Let's focus and learn from that.

Stir up distrust, moment of weakness, very good coming from a guy, so is it safe to say women or a wife can kiss another man cos it is a moment of weakness, then she shouldn't tell her man or husband cos it can bring distrust

Cheating is not only when sex is involved, it can be in any form, in this case he kissed her, willingly at a point, that is blatant cheating,

Nice resistance.


Sometimes I would just put myself into temptation.

I would just go to a bar that I know ladies would be patrolling, I would just keep looking at them and controlling my mind. I would look at them and keep saying," devil is this all you can do, bring more"


Sometimes I go to a place I would see sexy/naked girls just to know how strong I am in spirit and my resistance accuracy.

I can remember 2016, I and my 5 friends went to a brothel/bar just for drink, we sat on the chair in our space and table, suddenly girls started coming out and started shaking their yash, both full naked and half naked, both the ones that wore transparent cloth/thighs .

Next thing, they all started falling, saying this girl ass is hot and soft, I go like enter dis and dat.

The temptation there was much and it takes a strong heart and spirit to refute the offer.

I was the last guy remaining after all had gone to their various choice.

A fair skinned lady of average height came and told me that all my friends had made their choice, that I should take her, I told her I don't do with prostitutes, she said ok then.

I was glad I didn't fall, it is just good to learn how to resist temptation.


I would advise the op to tell his wife about this, but he should skip the" she kissed me" part.

That way, your wife will trust you more and whenever she comes across what the husband experienced, she will also resist the man.

Biglittlelois:
You didn't resist the temptation 100%, you kissed her and flowed with the kissing for a while, that's cheating, you have to tell your wife cos you locked lips and exchanges saliva with another woman.

Hey kissing is not cheating. It happened very fast and I had to nicely stop it to avoid anything further. I can't tell my wife such a thing because she might see it in a different way. However I resisted it 100%

You're a husband material 1000yards, your wife is lucky to have you most men would have slept with her just for fun. Sometimes we men need to restrain ourselves when a woman is trying to seduce us, not everytime you jump at it like a sex starved slowpoke and this also applies to unmarried men, a man who can stand by his own principles is a true man.

As for the woman I am only having pity for her gullible husband, he doesn't know his wife is a hoe, sometimes we think money can buy love but it just can't, what the woman can only give you is fake love, respect and submission when you do not have money anymore, she would drop all these fake qualities and shame you to the world.

JejeNaija:


Hey kissing is not cheating. It happened very fast and I had to nicely stop it to avoid anything further. I can't tell my wife such a thing because she might see it in a different way. However I resisted it 100%

If kissing is not cheating you won't be scared to tell your wife, you will convince her it's not cheating that it is just locking lips and exchanging of saliva, you did not resist 100%.

Lol...that woman prolly hasn't been diicked down good in a while. Its good u resisted her dou for ur marriage's sake...

But trust me, her sexual urge will find another guy and he will fall,especially if the guy is younger and broke(she is loaded after all)

Biglittlelois:


Stir up distrust, moment of weakness, very good coming from a guy, so is it safe to say women or a wife can kiss another man cos it is a moment of weakness, then she shouldn't tell her man or husband cos it can bring distrust

Cheating is not only when sex is involved, it can be in any form, in this case he kissed her, willingly at a point, that is blatant cheating,

This is why I hate quoting people on Nairaland.

They always find a way to twist someone's word and use it against that person after failing flat to comprehend.

Please where did I approve that a married woman or man can kiss someone cos it's a moment of weakness?

I only pointed that out because he wasn't even the one that initiated the kissing. She first kiss him & he kissed
back... That could have been instinctive?

After gaining back his senses, he stopped her.
So how's that cheating?

Seems like you have no idea what cheating is.

Biglittlelois:



If kissing is not cheating you won't be scared to tell your wife, you will convince her it's not cheating that it is just locking lips and exchanging of saliva, you did not resist 100%.

These days u just dey blow hot on every topic...seems you and the married woman are lacking some good diicking....

What's the sense in telling his wife he kissed another woman? He didn't sleep with her and that's 100% performance for me.

SageMK:


This is why I hate quoting people on Nairaland.

They always find a way to twist someone's word and use it against that person after failing flat to comprehend.

Please where did I approve that a married woman or man can kiss someone cos it's a moment of weakness?

I only pointed that out because he wasn't even the one that initiated the kissing. She first kiss him & he kissed
back... That could have been instinctive?

After gaining back his senses, he stopped her.
So how's that cheating?

Seems like you have no idea what cheating is.

Leave her alone bro!!!
Seems she is on her menses or something... They are always aggressive that period

Biglittlelois:



If kissing is not cheating you won't be scared to tell your wife, you will convince her it's not cheating that it is just locking lips and exchanging of saliva, you did not resist 100%.

So if your husband should come and tell you this happened to him how would you feel and what would be your reaction?

luminouz:

Leave her alone bro!!!
Seems she is on her menses or something... They are always aggressive that period

Lol

luminouz:

These days u just dey blow hot on every topic...seems you and the married woman are lacking some good diicking....

What's the sense in telling his wife he kissed another woman? He didn't sleep with her and that's 100% performance for me.

I will ignore your first comment.


That is not 100% performance, he shouldn't be scared of telling his wife if to him he didn't cheat, simple as that.

Biglittlelois:


I will ignore your first comment.


That is not 100% performance, he shouldn't be scared of telling his wife if to him he didn't cheat, simple as that.

*sighs*
What am I to do with you

Now...go to the kitchen and make akamu for me...right NOW!!

JejeNaija:


So if your husband should come and tell you this happened to him how would you feel and what would be your reaction?

If your wife should tell you something like what you did, how will you feel? I want you to look at it from another angle and be sincere to yourself, if your wife should tell you something like this, you will hate her and not touch her for a long time cos she kissed someone else other than you, that is cheating.

luminouz:

*sighs*
What am I to do with you

Now...go to the kitchen and make akamu for me...right NOW!!

You are a clown, you obviously don't have any point to make, I'm done with you.

SageMK:


This is why I hate quoting people on Nairaland.

They always find a way to twist someone's word and use it against that person after failing flat to comprehend.

Please where did I approve that a married woman or man can kiss someone cos it's a moment of weakness?

I only pointed that out because he wasn't even the one that initiated the kissing. She first kiss him & he kissed
back... That could have been instinctive?

After gaining back his senses, he stopped her.
So how's that cheating?

Seems like you have no idea what cheating is.

Mr man, sane people wouldn't like to quote you too obviously

You guys should realize that sex is not the only form of cheating, there are different types, Google on that cos it's obvious you are not well informed

In Op's case, what happen to pushing her away when she was moving towards his face or wasnt he aware her face was getting closer to him for a kiss?

I'm yet to get a good reason on what Op did whether it is cheating or not.

Any guy that supports Op should imagine his girl/wife mistakenly kissing another man.

Biglittlelois:



You are a clown, you obviously don't have any point to make, I'm done with you.

Do you seriously expect me to be like you?? Arguing pointlessly about whether the kiss OP got was cheating or not?? Or whether performance is 100%?? Are you for real?? You are so emotional and that's your weakness!!!

I'm a clown babe...but a handsome clown...its hard enough being a Nigerian!!!

Biglittlelois:


If your wife should tell you something like what you did, how will you feel? I want you to look at it from another angle and be sincere to yourself, if your wife should tell you something like this, you will hate her and not touch her for a long time cos she kissed someone else other than you, that is cheating.

So in all you have said even though you didn't answer my question, what is the point of igniting a situation that is not worth it when you have done what you could to resist it? Is a stupid kiss worth destroying the happiness of your home?

Biglittlelois:


Mr man, sane people wouldn't like to quote you too obviously

You guts should realize that sex is not the only form of cheating, there are different types, Google on that cos it's obvious you are not well informed

In Op's case, what happen to pushing her away when she was moving towards his face

It was sudden naaaaaaa....it could take some seconds before you overcome the shock and react... Who do u like this na U even questioned his sanity
He didn't cheat oooooo oooooo.....100% performance for me.

kings59:
I told her I don't do with prostitutes,

This statement of yours was very harsh to her or don't you think so

JejeNaija:


So in all you have said even though you didn't answer my question, what is the point of igniting a situation that is not worth it when you have done what you could to resist it? Is a stupid kiss worth destroying the happiness of your home?

My answer to your question is yes he cheated cos he kissed someone else


I'm glad you know the stupid kiss can destroy your marriage because that in itself is hurtful cos it is cheating.

JejeNaija:


So in all you have said even though you didn't answer my question, what is the point of igniting a situation that is not worth it when you have done what you could to resist it? Is a stupid kiss worth destroying the happiness of your home?

Why u dey quote her sef??
So if a girl gives me a peck or a kiss cuz she wan fvck me and I didn't give in...I will go straight home and tell my wife about it?? What am I,a sissy-ass parrot?? Naso I go dey report every time a girl crushes on me abi?? A matured man does what he needs to do to keep his marriage intact...n u did well...100% for me...that girl wanted u to say u gave her 5 slaps,10 kicks and then u pushed her outta the window to make her 100% grade.

Biglittlelois:



My answer to your question is yes he cheated cos he kissed someone else


I'm glad you know the stupid kiss can destroy your marriage because that in itself is hurtful cos it is cheating.

Whatever dear... I believe when you get more matured you will understand the true meaning of cheating. What about married actors and actresses who kiss in some movies and their husband/wife has no problem with that? Do you call that cheating when their partner knows its nothing but just a simple movie and a professional act?