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Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by TonieLee(f): 12:19pm On May 10, 2019 |
Laeroy: Madam asset wey sabi all the insult for this world. No be me do u oooo ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 12:23pm On May 10, 2019 |
@ sisisioge and faithful18, trust me.... The conditions are still same.... Just because my husband is aware that I have some savings, he expects that I dig into it and save the family....... Iiess..... The situation is still same...... We are on the food without fish, meat or egg parole and he is on the garri drinking mission...... As he cannot come and kill himself... I cannot either...... The weekend is here, let's see if anything changes. But as from next week, just incase no show happens from their end, I'll prepare correct soup, buy better food stuffs and hide in my upper wardrobe..... Before they all come back from work as I usually return from work before dem, I'll gladly chop, clean mouth and wash the plates before they return, carry my soup and anything I cook back to it's usual position, until the change I prayerfully seek for happens.... UNTIL THEN, MAKE I ADJUST TO THE CHANGE, WEY BUHARI TAKE GIVE EVERYBODY.... Now if this my perceived stingy and akagum habits does not sit well with any of us who have objections to my decisions... Abeg I can ask her to send account number.....u don't need to know anyone before u help...... |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 12:28pm On May 10, 2019 |
TonieLee: ![]() TonieLee: Poverty stricken man like some of your brothers wey dey village abi.... Shey u no know say no be everybody go marry rich man like dangote... I as a person no like rich man, because majority of them go use u play futubollu.... If NA lie make u ask teni... Niniola sister. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by sisisioge: 2:52pm On May 10, 2019 |
Laeroy: Oma ga ke? Who did you offend? Biko don't cook soup and put in your wardrobe. Better do beverages and eat out. Why is the oga like this fa? It is well. May the good awesome wonderful way maker who we all call God bless your home fa. Brokenness is seriously offensive! Whew! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by faithfull18(f): 3:35pm On May 10, 2019 |
Laeroy:I can definitely relate. Is your husband from Ondo state? There's a reason I am asking. How does one spot this kind of trait in a man before getting married to him. Men who still live single lives while married, men who are heroes outside their home but are something else inside, men who don't care what their wives and children eat and wear as long as they are satisfied. These men enjoy soaking garri because they don't want to spend money, once they manage to pay school fees, they don't do any other thing because they know their wives can handle it when it isn't their responsibility and most of them are usually from very humble backgrounds. Can it be upbringing?? I have actually noticed a trend. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by ImaIma1(f): 4:37pm On May 10, 2019 |
Laeroy: She is your husband's sister. You and your husband are one and you should see his family as yours. If they don't treat you well, just keep doing what you can. I have learnt from my oldest sister. She accommodated her husband's 6 younger siblings at different times. She was never hostile. Whatever she did for us, she did for them. Right now, they will do anything for her. They can go out of their way to make her satisfied. They don't joke with her. Your inlaw is even showing your child love and you are upset. What do you really want? 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by abescom: 4:41pm On May 10, 2019 |
Reading through this thread has just helped me appreciate my wife more. 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by CanadianNaija: 4:46pm On May 10, 2019 |
ImaIma1: It is quite insensitive and presumptous of you to write this, when you are not the one going to make up the difference that taking on more than she normally budgets for will make in her account. She is not your sister, so get over yourself madam. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by MiddleSpot: 4:56pm On May 10, 2019 |
sisisioge: Have you found your Ikeja apartment yet? |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by ImaIma1(f): 5:01pm On May 10, 2019 |
CanadianNaija: I am still trying to understand why you are swallowing panadol for the op. Please shift aunty 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by eyinjuege: 5:13pm On May 10, 2019 |
Laeroy: This woman, you're too funny. It is a phase, you will hopefully get through it. Pls, don't hide food. Let your heart soften towards your husband. Some of these men have skoin skoin in their heads, and purposefully chose to be daft, or perhaps he truly doesn't have. Try and look into the spending expenses at home again, and how you can cut down. Is buying in bulk cheaper? discuss with your husband again about that. It shouldn't be fight. You're a team together, and need to work together. Do you need to move to cheaper accommodation, or change your kid's school to something a bit cheaper and still relatively alright? Go back to the drawing board 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by CanadianNaija: 5:17pm On May 10, 2019 |
ImaIma1: I will swallow on her behalf, since you've deemed it fit to talk out of your ass. She should suffer in silence, and pretend to be MRs nice because it's your money that she will use to feed the extra mouths in her home. Ka sikwa na ikwu! 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by ImaIma1(f): 5:20pm On May 10, 2019 |
CanadianNaija: You are just ranting like you are frustrated. Please take the bad energy and lousy tongue elsewhere. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by sisisioge: 7:13pm On May 10, 2019 |
MiddleSpot: Yes, already an old tenant in the new place now ![]() |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by MiddleSpot: 7:18pm On May 10, 2019 |
sisisioge: Yw. Stay long in this new one plz ![]() |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by sisisioge: 7:23pm On May 10, 2019 |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by MiddleSpot: 7:46pm On May 10, 2019 |
sisisioge: You told us to help you look for house. Okey o. We won't listen to your plea again. Even if you put up your neighbors items for sale. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by sisisioge: 7:47pm On May 10, 2019 |
MiddleSpot: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Back off! |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by MiddleSpot: 7:48pm On May 10, 2019 |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by MrNipplesLover(m): 8:12pm On May 10, 2019 |
TonieLee: u get bad mouth like this? ![]() I don dey fear u ooh. |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Goalnaldo(m): 9:01pm On May 10, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:you write so well baby. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Gift7428: 10:24pm On May 10, 2019 |
Keep quiet there. No rich man came for you. Now who is suffering the hardship? Please dont use Dangote again its an insult. Laeroy: 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 11:19pm On May 10, 2019 |
Gift7428:Yes ma.... |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by TonieLee(f): 11:32pm On May 10, 2019 |
MrNipplesLover: E no too bad to make u fear na |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by nuelyoyo(m): 11:55pm On May 10, 2019 |
ImaIma1:can you please tell us the financial situation of your oldest sister and her husband the times she took in six of her in-laws? Then compare it with laeroy's financial situation. 11 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by MrNipplesLover(m): 4:16am On May 11, 2019 |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by ImaIma1(f): 5:29am On May 11, 2019 |
nuelyoyo: We both know that the Op's issue is not just financial but mostly the attitude towards her inlaws. She rightly said that she would do it for her own sister and kids but not for her inlaws. Is the money to do it for her family coming from a different place? She described her inlaws as poverty stricken. My point is not for her to accommodate all her inlaws but to handle the situation wisely. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by DonTim1: 5:35am On May 11, 2019 |
Op, I tell you sincerely, you are not wicked! And your actions are not insane, the problem is money!!! When there's enough money, you would even want in laws to come often, worst case, you create their own in law area to avoid 'nuclear family interference'. Although, hubby broke rule, the woman had the option of returning to family house, I think you should discuss with hubby how long you guys are willing to host her for and how you intend to help her when leaving so everyone has peace. I repeat, money is the problem, no one is wicked, money has a way of making you kind and show love. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 7:28am On May 11, 2019 |
sisisioge: Do beverages and eat out until when exactly ......my sister, that will eat my pocket deeper ![]() I will proceed as plan as I guess the hunger strike has began indefinitely...... I've indirectly told the sister that very soon it will be every man for himself.... If she likes let her tell all her village clans.....I'm not perturbed, because as nice as she can be.... She was a specialist in discussing her father's wife weaknesses to all her siblings when he was still alive.... I'll do the good I can to the kid... But as per the feeding.... I'll not go near there never! If her brother drops money for feeding, I'll gladly cook but if he doesn't...... I go back to status quo.... Aye yi o le. 8 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 7:45am On May 11, 2019 |
faithfull18: Yes upbringing I think, he is from a polygamous home, And both women were living separately with their father instructing them they should feed their children while he takes care of their school fees, he insisted that exactly will play out in his family too, we have had numerous argument about the matter as I can't force him to give us money for feeding... So I resolved that whenever he drops we are fine.... If he doesn't (prior to his sister arrival), I take the rest up... Now that his sister is here, she does most of the cooking, I hand over the cooking to her... Let her do whatever she wants..... There's that thing about blood, hmmmm let me stop here.. |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:25am On May 11, 2019 |
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