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Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by 001spice: 2:01pm On May 22, 2019 |
Teaser4:shut up ur stupid mouth u jst spoke like a succesful stupid fool |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by rita25(f): 2:01pm On May 22, 2019 |
inbox me your husband details and let me try and lets hope on God |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by gbame(m): 2:08pm On May 22, 2019 |
This is a sad one. You did the right thing though. I would have done the same thing your hubby did. Though, I may keep the kids if you allow me. That being said. From your description of your hubby, he may not marry again and he may not accept you again. Just be prayerful.There is nothing difficult for God. He is your only hope. People have done worse and there is reconciliation. Devote your time to penance and God. Give your hubby time to heal. He may remain that way. I will advise that you call your mother and brief her what has happened before your husband gets to them. Also, don't go with him to the village. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by bezimo(m): 2:20pm On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003: You lady you are funny..what were you expecting as his reaction..A pat on your back.Impossicant You choose the way of a hoeloshous shameless wife and got the embarrassment that you deserve.I can imagine how sad and embarrassed your family and parents will be when they hear of the shame you brought to the family. May God help you. You girls don't get it..Guys don't easily forgive cheating bitches. .its absolutely very hard...so when you as a girl decide to cheat on your guy..you should be ready for the marriage/relationship to be over..or as well leave. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by ImaIma1(f): 2:21pm On May 22, 2019 |
rafhell: I can't help but think that it is a guy trying to paint ladies in a bad light. I might be wrong but who knows 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by pansophist(m): 2:22pm On May 22, 2019 |
kunleweb: In the past, society was structured in a way that transformed the male from a boy to a man. From apprenticeship, where a boy learns a skill, embodying leadership, expertise and mental strength, then become a boss of his own, to when food was more organic, and making men stress their muscles and endurance, which inevitably transforms them to a respectable male figure. But now, men have to be masculine themselves without societal help. It is left for men to educate themself, build themselves, and to accentuate and refine their masculinity. Unlike now when men and women are educated the same way, competing for the same job, and undergoing through the same societal path. It hurts men because men and women are not the same. Women know what they have to do, but men have to figure out what they have to do. Now, men are growing up in a society that doesn't spotlight our innate differences. When you tell a man that money is the only thing that makes him masculine, then you'll always find situations like this, where women will settle for a rich man but wont be satisfied by him, and will crave for something organic. What's worse? Even both the man and the women are ignorant of the fundamental Male-female dynamic, hopeless in their quest of solution, enriching marriage counselor who are also ignorant and dishing out the wrong solutions. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by bezimo(m): 2:25pm On May 22, 2019 |
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Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by einsteine(m): 2:25pm On May 22, 2019 |
From your first thread you would still cheat on him when you see another tall muscular dude who will toss you around the hotel bed. so just allow the Papa divorce and go on his way. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by kunleweb: 2:26pm On May 22, 2019 |
pansophist: From the buildup to the inner fabric lining construct of your speech its why I love you, your perspective on issues as it affects and transforms our modern world. Been able to clearly. Articulate what could have been otherwise ignored and discounted as unimportant, you've brought clear crisp brilliant insight into one of the greatest chaos and challenge the young generation or rather emerging new generation has to face. The evolution into manhood and masculinity. My brother, let's buckle our belts plenty of drama awaits us in the days ahead Cc martinez39 Cc ubunja 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by alphaNomega: 2:35pm On May 22, 2019 |
Who is the moderator that brought this fake story to front page a second time? cc: Seun 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by faithfull18(f): 2:36pm On May 22, 2019 |
hybridblood07:Amen. To me, it's just an act of irresponsibility and I am female |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by hybridblood07(m): 2:38pm On May 22, 2019 |
Haaaaa. That could have landed me in jail lol.... Thanks so much ma. Do u mind if we exchange contact? faithfull18: |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by sinie: 2:39pm On May 22, 2019 |
YOUR MARRIAGE IS OVER!!!!!!!!! Anyway you want to look at it your marriage was over the minute you spread your leg for your colleague. I read where you said despite your guilt your still crave the type of sex you had with him, that says it all.... I think when you decided to tell your husband a part of your knew; maybe subconsciously; but you knew he wont forgive you and it will end your marriage. Maybe that's what you wanted all along. I mean which African man forgives his wife cheating on him. If i told my husband that I cheated on him and he forgave me then I would know for a FACT that he is cheating on me too. You may love your husband but you want more from him than you are getting and you feel like your life is passing you by. If you don't get it now you will loose the chance for ever. You sound like a smart lady so you must have thought it all out. I mean the sex didn't just happen, you met him in a hotel which means it was carefully planned. so these are the three possible scenarios that could have resulted from what you did. 1. Stepping out the first time will give you courage to keep stepping outside your marriage 2. your husband will forgive you BUT use the excuse to start cheating as well 3. Your husband will dump you; which he did... Either way your marriage is over and YOU ended it... So don't come here crying, you got what you wanted after all. Now you can F**K those your athletic bodied men you always wanted to and you don't have to feel guilty. And just in case your colleague is no more interested( what did you expect? DUH!!!) they are everywhere; clubs,gyms, heck even in church. Good luck to you and pls use a condom, STIs are real!!!! Marbella003: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Buharimustgo: 2:41pm On May 22, 2019 |
erifeoluwasimi: Can you forgive your wife's adultery? |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by pansophist(m): 2:44pm On May 22, 2019 |
kunleweb: Thanks mate. I highly appreciate your accolades My perspective on issues like this is as a result of decades of observing society, being educated off the grid (journeymanship), and pursuing my own inner conviction. Autodidactism is a mans best friend and path to true knowledge. Men are at the most effeminate period ever, and has a direct consequence of most men inability to attract a woman genuinely without luring her with cash, retain her love and prevent breakup ( the high initiation of divorce is done by women) The fundamental difference between a man and a woman is that a man can live with a woman who loves him (even if he doesn't necessarily love her), but a woman will never be satisfied with a man she doesn't love. It is why polygamy is a thing (a man marrying more than one woman) but polyandy is not. Women pre-select men, and men have to pick from the women who already selected him. A woman will rather be the 3rd wife of a true masculine figure, than enjoy the commitment and undivided attention of a feminzed man. And that accounted for why celebs have many baby mamas, and women still flock to them. Gender dynamics is a thing people should be educated about, for a peaceful coexistence between the sexes. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by kunleweb: 2:45pm On May 22, 2019 |
pansophist: Off-grid learning, same here, welcome to the hallmark of sages forged through fire. Through Autodidactism, we've evaded the contamination that social institutions feed people. No wonder, crisp and glaring brilliance permeates your perspective on issues You screwed my mind with these comments of yours : A woman will rather be the 3rd wife of a true masculine figure, than than enjoy the commitment and undivided attention of a feminzed man. And that accounted for why celebs have many baby mamas, and women still flock to them. Gender dynamics is a thing people should be educated about, for a peaceful coexistence between the sexes. Unfortunately with the rising feminization of men and alpha in women, it's sad to quickly declare that futuristic relations between both sexes is crying for help. Men are losing the battle Cc Martinez39 Ubunja 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by faithfull18(f): 2:46pm On May 22, 2019 |
hybridblood07:My contact is on my signature. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Mursz: 2:53pm On May 22, 2019 |
Welcome to social media, where it isnt everyones advice you buy. However the deed has been done, I’ld say you should give him time, and also be ready to be at your beat behavior when he forgives you. Be the first to tell your parents and his ehat you have done, and show remorse, that way your forgiveness will be quickened. Steer clear of that dude at your office, do not even touch him with a long stick sef. Good luck. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by hybridblood07(m): 2:53pm On May 22, 2019 |
I'm new on NL. Can u share on here? faithfull18: |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by faithfull18(f): 2:59pm On May 22, 2019 |
hybridblood07:Hmmn, click on my moniker, it takes you straight to my profile, my contact is everywhere there. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by fx45(m): 3:07pm On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:Sniper is the real deal these days.... But all the same there's plenty to live for than the few to die for. If your husband feels he needs to move on, by all means necessary allow him go. There are other husbands out there looking for potential wives |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by pansophist(m): 3:14pm On May 22, 2019 |
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Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by MsJackson: 3:16pm On May 22, 2019 |
rafhell:that she posted the story 11 days ago doesn't mean that that's when the whole matter happened, it myt have happened earlier |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by mondayaudu(m): 3:17pm On May 22, 2019 |
I didn’t see your old post but from this post I observed you are not really sorry for cheating on your husband. You have loads of excuses for your action. Kindly note this, there is no excuse for cheating even if your husband is unable to meet your romantic needs. You are very lucky he didn’t injure you at the point of your disclosure. I figured He is very calm and man of few words. The issue with such men is that, once they make decision, it is final.....no Abeg. I would advise you at this point to face your front and stop begging him. Let me tell you why your husband is very scared of you...... he is not very concerned that you cheated(past action), just that he is not very sure if after testing another man, you will still remain faithful! And I am very sure, if your husband didn’t take this drastic action, you will cheat again and again. Finally, You took your husband gentility for granted. That is why you have the effrontery to tell him to his face that you cheated. Few men can hear that and remain calm. You were soppose to have explained the issue to either your pastor or any one that your husband really respect. It is that person that will devise a strategy to revealing it to your husband not you. In conclusion, don’t be bitter with yourself. I guess you married the man because there was no young and rich men available. I would advise you, kindly take time and renew your mind. Study the Bible, download and listen to tapes of anointed teachers like apostle Joshua Salman. Once you are a totally renewed person, pray to God to show you your purpose in life. I am very sure, when your husband sees you as a renewed person, he may have a rethink otherwise destiny may link you with some one else. Received hope and faith! You may loose your husband but not Christ. You are bless. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by fx45(m): 3:26pm On May 22, 2019 |
pocohantas:Poco Poco... I've heard alot about you. The arch Nairaland feminist and serial spinster. Anyway I believe one day we'll get to meet |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by LofP(m): 3:50pm On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003 Why did you confess? Last time I was discussing with someone I told him restitution is not a straightforward thing. Look at the mess now. Your advisers online have scattered your home. The fact is even if your husband ever cheated he will never tell you. I doubt there's anything you can do to salvage the situation. Don't go to your parents on the date he has set. Call your parents and explain things to them beforehand. Your next move requires wisdom. I would advise you to truly surrender to God and live a righteous life from now on. The catch is I don't know what school of thought you belong to. New age Christianity, Sunday-Sunday churchgoer or a serious Christian. But you need to make up your mind to live a better life now. The problem is your sex drive remains. Now if you were a person with the desire to make heaven, you need to beg your husband or live a life of celibacy until you die. If you remarry, you are still viewed as an adulterer until the first husband dies. I feel sad for you, the rest of your life starts now. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by LofP(m): 3:56pm On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003: My advice is don't commit suicide. It won't be nice to die now, and then you get to the world beyond and then you are told: You are going straight to HELL. Sins: Adultery and Suicide. Better to live and see your days out living righteously and asking God for mercy, instead of ending on a low slow roll into the unending inferno. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by macof(m): 4:08pm On May 22, 2019 |
powerkey: Hate him.. Well I get that But it's her fault not that of the guy in her office It was her choice to cheat on her "loving" husband |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by ladiodus(m): 4:42pm On May 22, 2019 |
rafhell: my thought exactly |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by ladiodus(m): 4:43pm On May 22, 2019 |
rafhell: My thought exactly |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Chubhie: 4:48pm On May 22, 2019 |
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Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Chubhie: 4:49pm On May 22, 2019 |
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