Teaser4:
Going to court to divorce na long thing.. I will divorce you with my mouth...you dare not cross my way till I die.. I'm so unforgivable, some sins can't be forgiven...like my wife sleeping with another man... don't tell me and make i no find out...but I go find out someday...cos all days for the thief one day for efcc....we done done done...no one can talk to me...not even God...i won't listen

Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.

I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.

I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.

I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.

I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.

rafhell:
Something tells me the OP is a big liar.
Let us read between the lines. You put out your post 11 days ago asking for advice. In eleven days, all these drama had played out.
You even got a 2 bedroom accommodation close to your work place and you already moved in with the kids.
Madam or whoever you are, not everybody on nairaland is daft.

Nice storyline BTW

kunleweb:




You spoke the truth 100%. Masculinity and manliness needs to urgently be realigned. The global feminization of men needs to be stopped in its tracks. Its time for Kings to regain their knighthood and be the real men the owners, possessors and guardians of power. Nothing less my brother.


All this vagina worshipping needs to be stopped

Beckham14:
When you were spreading your legs like blue band you never thought of the love you had for that innocent man who put a roof over your head, you never thought of the "marriage" you wish to protect, Now you have lost the trust your parents had for you, and might as well lose the love of your kids when your "ex" husband tells them how promiscuous their mother is and how adventurous she can be with the dick in an hotel room.
Some mistakes are avoidable and you don't have any excuse to give for this silly mistake you brought upon yourself.
May God bless that your "ex" husband for handling that heart shattering news with such calmness, not all men can wait till you finish your sexcapdes without registering some thunderous blows on your face.
The m0ron who fuucked you like a cheap slut has dump you like a piece of trash.
Before you think of killing yourself by yourself, take those innocent children to your parents. I won't stop you from doing what you feel best for you, After all, you didn't seek for our opinions when you wanted to collect the dick.
Put yourself together and accept your fate.
Rest well.

pansophist:


In the past, soceity was structured in a way that transformed the male from a boy to a man. From apprenticeship, where a boy learn a skill, embodying leadership, expertise and mental strength, to when food was more organic, and making men stress their muscles and endurance, which inevitably transforms them to a respectable male figure. But now, men have to be masculine themselves without societal help. It is left for men to educate yourself, build themselves, and to accentuate and refine their masculinity. Unlike now when men and women are educated the same way, competing for the same job, and undergoing through the same societal path. It hurts men because men and women are not the same.

Women know what they have to do, but men have to figure out what they have to do. Now, men are growing up in a society that doesn't spotlight our innate differences, lying to them that money is the only thing that makes you a man, then you'll always find situations like this, where women will settle for a rich man but wont be satisfied by him, and will crave for something organic. What's worse? Even both the man and the women are ignorant of the fundamental Male-female dynamic, hopeless in their quest of solution, enriching marriage counselor who are also ignorant and dishing out the wrong solutions.

hybridblood07:
Nice advise. God will continue to give you wisdom. A sensible man will not divorce her but continue to show love and support.
But I don't understand why some men sleep with married women..... Is there something special about it bros?

faithfull18:

Amen. To me, it's just an act of irresponsibility and I am female

Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.

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erifeoluwasimi:
He is hurting and angry.give him time to heal.
Send important people he respects to plead on your behalf, like l pastors, friends etc

kunleweb:




From the buildup to the inner fabric lining construct of your speech its why I love you, your perspective on issues as it affects and transforms our modern world. Been able to clearly. Articulate what could have been otherwise ignored and discounted as unimportant, you've brought clear crisp brilliant insight into one of the greatest chaos and challenge the young generation or rather emerging new generation has to face. The evolution into manhood and masculinity. My brother, let's buckle our belts plenty of drama awaits us in the days ahead


Cc martinez39

Cc ubunja

pansophist:


Thanks mate. I highly appreciate your accolades

My perspective on issues like this is as a result of decades of observing society, being educated off the grid (journeymanship), and pursuing my own inner conviction. Autodidactism is a mans best friend and path to true knowledge. Men are at the most effeminate period ever, and has a direct consequence of most men inability to attract a woman genuinely without luring her with cash, retain her love and the the high initiation of divorce by women.

The fundamental difference between a man and a woman is that a man can live with a woman who loves him (even if he doesn't necessarily love her), but a woman will never be satisfied with a man she doesn't love. It is why polygamy is a thing (a man marrying more than one women) but polyandy is not. Women pre-select men, and men have to pick from the women who already selected him. A woman will rather be the 3rd wife of a true masculine figure, than than enjoy the commitment and undivided attention of a feminzed man. And that accounted for why celebs have many baby mamas, and women still flock to them.

Gender dynamics is a thing people should be educated about, for a peaceful coexistence between the sexes.

hybridblood07:
Haaaaa. That could have landed me in jail lol.... Thanks so much ma. Do u mind if we exchange contact?

faithfull18:

My contact is on my signature.

hybridblood07:
I'm new on NL. Can u share on here?

Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.

I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.

I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.

I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.

I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.

rafhell:
Something tells me the OP is a big liar.
Let us read between the lines. You put out your post 11 days ago asking for advice. In eleven days, all these drama had played out.
You even got a 2 bedroom accommodation close to your work place and you already moved in with the kids.
Madam or whoever you are, not everybody on nairaland is daft.

Nice storyline BTW

pocohantas:
Bored alfa male...

Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.

I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.

I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.

I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.

I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.

powerkey:
Be Strong.

it's better the way you confessed to him.

Yes, it's also better you pay the price of your sin now.

You are free now in the sense that you have confessed and therefore the burden is now on him.

However, you need to make efforts to reconcile. use your pastor (not the type that will take advantage of your situation).

Use your brother, any good family member will do.


And finally, Separate yourself from that useless guy/man in your office that took advantage of you.

Hate him with all the strength in you....


I will follow up on you and I assure you that your husband will return.

rafhell:
Something tells me the OP is a big liar.
Let us read between the lines. You put out your post 11 days ago asking for advice. In eleven days, all these drama had played out.
You even got a 2 bedroom accommodation close to your work place and you already moved in with the kids.
Madam or whoever you are, not everybody on nairaland is daft.

Nice storyline BTW

rafhell:
Something tells me the OP is a big liar.
Let us read between the lines. You put out your post 11 days ago asking for advice. In eleven days, all these drama had played out.
You even got a 2 bedroom accommodation close to your work place and you already moved in with the kids.
Madam or whoever you are, not everybody on nairaland is daft.

Nice storyline BTW

Altern8:


It appears you lack sense. So when someone cheats on you for a reason that’s not even your own fault, you must accept their apology and take them back by force?

What did the poor man do to deserve this betrayal? All he did was grow old into his 40s like a normal human being, acting mature and being financially stable. But she chose to be with someone younger and now said husband must be compassionate after such betrayal?

You sure you don’t need to have your brain checked? Cos I think you do.

jujunaty:
when you are married, you must be faced with this same type of situation and you are going to have compassion in Jesus name, amen.
Imagine your mother telling your father that she cheated on him last week, and she is sorry