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Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Avayahery: 12:17pm On May 31, 2019 |
Preshy561:Lol easier said than done. This particular man is loaded and a real man. Real men cheat 15 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Avayahery: 12:18pm On May 31, 2019 |
zeb04:I’m giving you advice now. Better listen and stop being emotional unless your husband is a weakling who would not throw you out for cheating 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 12:22pm On May 31, 2019 |
Hehe bukatyne has cum ![]() |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Optimus212: 12:26pm On May 31, 2019 |
Preshy561: Being sincere is now a crime right? U are single & knows nothing about marriage OK. Face ur boyfriend, girlfriend matter. When u're wise enough,..The gods will notify you. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by bukatyne(f): 12:28pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212: @OP, I will be back. |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 12:31pm On May 31, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by zeb04(f): 12:33pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212:the side chick you were sleeping with, no be boyfriend/ girlfriend matter she they do before you started licking plate. Only God knows the number of Lagos Agberos that deposited there before you came to lick plate. Anyways, I no judge you oh. Carry on. Oga sir. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by bukatyne(f): 12:34pm On May 31, 2019 |
Planet3xi: Hahahahaha I wish I could decipher your previous moniker. |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 12:35pm On May 31, 2019 |
bukatyne: Come meet the real person. Which would it be. Chicken republic. Mega Chicken or A local restaurante. I know a Lady that makes the most tender and sumptuous meat on the island. |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by bukatyne(f): 12:56pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212: I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no. From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking). Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon. I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance. You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me. If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped. Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse. What is the solution? 1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed. If she does not change, then: Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her. Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it. By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her. If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc. When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go. Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom. In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame. Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do. Goodluck. 54 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by ThundrCork(m): 1:03pm On May 31, 2019 |
Newly married obviously. revisit your statements few years from now zeb04: 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Optimus212: 1:25pm On May 31, 2019 |
bukatyne: God bless U real good. As for d mode of dressing & looks, I believe am at d top of my game, one of d things she brags to outsiders about. She always compliment my fashion sense & extra great taste for good colognes which she says I spend fortunes on. As for sexual performances, by God's grace am blessed sexually which she can also attest to. I am still trying to figure out why these acts, she's complaining I use to insult her. My brother, is cautioning someone insult? There are things I don't like, if I take drastic measures or refuses to adhere to her suggestions, she gets mad & later uses sex as a weapon against me. I cnt be pleading to a woman I legally married for sex, its un-manly. I have stopped all advances, let's see where this her pride will lead us to. Its jst that I dnt want to go out again cos of d kids. But I'll try to resist her for as long as I can. Thank God i have something doing. I have my own firm. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by LordKO(m): 1:28pm On May 31, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 2:14pm On May 31, 2019 |
bukatyne: My apologiesm didn't know you was married. |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by bukatyne(f): 2:47pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212: 1. You are welcome 2. Good one 3. Hmmmmm 4. We are not there when you 'cautioned' her so yes, correction if not done respectfully and in love will be disrespectful. I would have said maybe she felt disrespected however, playing with you till it's time for sex is odd. As per suggestions, depends on what it is on, how your family is run, validity of previous suggestions and stakeholders in the matter. 5. I agree it is unbecoming for anyone to beg their spouse for sex. It is abnormal. 6. Good for you. 11 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by bukatyne(f): 2:48pm On May 31, 2019 |
LordKO: Gracias. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 3:06pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212: When last did you buy madam gifts? Or do a family hangout? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 3:06pm On May 31, 2019 |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by bukatyne(f): 3:12pm On May 31, 2019 |
Planet3xi: It's all good. |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Jorussia(m): 3:16pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212:I really feel what you are going through in your marriage.Personally,and as a Christian i think it's wrong and a sin to deny a partner sex in marriage without any tenable reason(medical or spiritual circumstances). Can you confirm with all sense of certainty that your wife didn't engage in sexual intercourse for 13months? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Nobody: 3:17pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212: 1. Gain back the trust you've lost. 2. Stop yelling at her. The two of you should communicate your needs better. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Jorussia(m): 3:21pm On May 31, 2019 |
Planet3xi:I doubt he hasn't done this countless number of times.I want the op to reply my mention first before i say my mind. |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 3:24pm On May 31, 2019 |
Jorussia: Yesterday was his wife. Today we will deal with him together. ![]() |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Deepfeel(m): 3:25pm On May 31, 2019 |
Op you call it minor issues, what type of minor issue will keep a woman bitter for months? I don't get it you two discuss and laugh together but when it comes to sex she says no? I believe u just don't do it right when it comes to sex and she lost interest in it, not like she's keeping malice over minor issues she's only using it as an excuse, hope you are not a 40sc man, cause 40s men irritate women 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Optimus212: 3:27pm On May 31, 2019 |
Jorussia: I don't know but, I didn't engage her sexually for 13 months, then she was with child (my second child's pregnancy). Immediately I noticed she was pregnant, I didn't meet her again till 4 months after delivery. Medically, a man should engage in regular sex with his partner whenever she's with child. Though its optional but advisable. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 3:44pm On May 31, 2019 |
Op bros. Nwanne ayam waiting for the reply to my last question o |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Optimus212: 3:45pm On May 31, 2019 |
Planet3xi: 1. As for surprise gifts,....very regular. 2. Outing is also regular, both with the kids. My worry is, is it that I can't get angry or disagree sometimes agressively with her options? Because I have noticed whenever we have such arguments is when she uses it against me or is she been immature in marriage? but she ain't no kid, a married graduate with kids, not 1 nor 2 but 3. She ought to have learnt or somehow be experienced in a way in marital issues. Anyways, am just keeping calm at d moment & have restricted myself from making any advances of sex towards her. Let her use her head & judge herself. I believe with time, her reset button will be activated. I can't be begging my own wife for sex, for what?? That's improper!! 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 3:47pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212: She loves you that's why shes doing al this sir ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Optimus212: 3:52pm On May 31, 2019 |
Gbpereluvmama: GOD Bless U real good bro. Noted!! |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Jorussia(m): 3:58pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212:My brother the truth is this your matter is very delicate.Either your wife has a very low sex drive/libido or she is discreetly getting sexual satisfaction outside in a very intelligent manner.I urge you to do a thorough background check on your wife before ruling out any possibility of infidelity on her side.For a Lady to comfortably be with her husband without sex for 13months under the same roof with or without pregnancy is not ordinary. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Optimus212: 4:05pm On May 31, 2019 |
Planet3xi: Women too like petting. A friend of mine posted this too on Facebook in a marriage Forum, na so so pet pet pet & prayers prayers, dem just dey talk say make I dey pet her. Is she a baby? For how long should I continue petting her, it is the same petting that I have been doing that is warranting this her attitude. This is reality, it is a psychological issue not spiritual. I think am getting the best advises here on Nairaland than that Facebook of a thing. Its jst as if the people here are different in terms of Wisdom. ![]() 15 Likes |
Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by Planet3xi: 4:10pm On May 31, 2019 |
Optimus212:i .. 1 Like |
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