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When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Textra(m): 6:25am On Jun 01, 2019
I think one of the major reason for break up is because we have given too much priority to Procreation.... given birth, rather than building a partnership first.
I think couple's should wait at least 2 to 4 years before allowing a kid to come in between them. Build your finance and grow your love.
Women are meant to be help meet.
What do you guys think?
Happy New Month.

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Zane316(m): 6:32am On Jun 01, 2019
Agree-ded. tongue
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Easybela(f): 6:37am On Jun 01, 2019
undecided the reason you were single all your years back before the marriage was to "BUILD YOUR FINANCE"
The reason you dated was to"GROW YOUR LOVE"
There is time for everything.

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Nobody: 6:38am On Jun 01, 2019
2 years after. Except u marry at ur 40s (esp for women).

But a lot of Africans think marriage is majorly for procreation (wrong motive).

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by BanjiRaymond(m): 6:44am On Jun 01, 2019
Thanks for bringing up this topic.
I once told my mom this same issue, she was angry, you can't get married and not have a kid in two years. Everything about Nigeria is old. old President, old people, old culture

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by DREagon(m): 6:58am On Jun 01, 2019
!!A.S.A.P!!
if possible get your wife pregnant that wedding night. !!NO Time to waste time!!

Easybela:
undecided the reason you were single all your years back before the marriage was to "BUILD YOUR FINANCE"
The reason you dated was to"GROW YOUR LOVE"
There is time for everything.

Correct

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by DREagon(m): 7:02am On Jun 01, 2019
sherylbakky:


But a lot of Africans think marriage is majorly for procreation (wrong motive).

No vex o! your papa marry your mama make dem dey read Bible together?

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Brown14: 7:17am On Jun 01, 2019
Textra:
I think one of the major reason for break up is because we have given too much priority to Procreation.... given birth, rather than building a partnership first.
I think couple's should wait at least 2 to 4 years before allowing a kid to come in between them. Build your finance and grow your love.
Women are meant to be help meet.
What do you guys think?
Happy New Month.

I can't say you are wrong on this.
I believe that's why most marriages are the way they are.get married and learn to live with your spouse and grow together for some time before children come in.
that way it'll never get boring.
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Mutemenot(m): 7:19am On Jun 01, 2019
If u like wait for 10 years, marriage can never be perfect ...better have kids at early age once you are sure of caring 4 them ..
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Textra(m): 7:21am On Jun 01, 2019
Brown14:


I can't say you are wrong on this.
I believe that's why most marriages are the way they are.get married and learn to live with your spouse and grow together for some time before children come in.
that way it'll never get boring.


Exactly!
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Textra(m): 7:29am On Jun 01, 2019
Easybela:
undecided the reason you were single all your years back before the marriage was to "BUILD YOUR FINANCE"
The reason you dated was to"GROW YOUR LOVE"
There is time for everything.




Dating someone in a real sense of it(no sex, no sleeping over, eyes pleasing attitudes), will never allow you to get to know the person u r marrying because you never spend 3 straight month together in the same room, pretence and fake life through dating will never allow you to unravel that.... Many secrets are know in marriage, dating is sweet not marriage but when enough time preceed giving birth you begin to endure and understand each other with time.
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Nobody: 7:42am On Jun 01, 2019
DREagon:


No vex o! your papa marry your mama make dem dey read Bible together?

Well, make I just chip in cos u say make I no vex.

But d tin is, U sud av at least made ur question different from ur kind of creature. Ur question wud av been sensible if u av asked like a human.

A human who is totally opposite to "you", who is commonsensical wudnt av an answer to this kinda question u know.

Nevertheless, say hi to ur progenitors who has failed in their duties to train u.

#cheers wink

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Preshy561(f): 7:43am On Jun 01, 2019
Nice one op
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by abiolamitodun(m): 7:52am On Jun 01, 2019
DREagon:


No vex o! your papa marry your mama make dem dey read Bible together?

Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by DREagon(m): 8:06am On Jun 01, 2019
Take it or leave it, Children (child) are what solidifies marriage (relationship), one of the major cause of broken home, is when couple don't make children their priority
Love will not always be there in a relationship it comes and go like 9 mobile network, so the children will be more like a bond holding both partners, till they recuperate from what they are going through,
Most couple take bull sh*t from their partner, not because of the love they have for each other but because of their children, so the earlier you start having children with your spouse, is how early u start solidifying your relationship.

Pls don't mind the language I'm a bit occupied right now just focus on the message.

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Yide10(f): 8:08am On Jun 01, 2019
sherylbakky:
Well, make I just chip in cos u say make I no vex.

But d tin is, U sud av at least made ur question different from ur kind of creature. Ur question wud av been sensible if u av asked like a human.

A human who is totally opposite to "you", who is commonsensical wudnt av an answer to this kinda question u know.

Nevertheless, say hi to ur progenitors who has failed in their duties to train u.

#cheers wink
Best Savage reply I have ever seen on NL since 2005. Na u try pass aswear, d bolded got me oooo

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by nwakibe: 8:16am On Jun 01, 2019
My own be say you must get belle before I Marry you.

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by DREagon(m): 8:31am On Jun 01, 2019
sherylbakky:
Well, make I just chip in cos u say make I no vex.

But d tin is, U sud av at least made ur question different from ur kind of creature. Ur question wud av been sensible if u av asked like a human.

A human who is totally opposite to "you", who is commonsensical wudnt av an answer to this kinda question u know.

Nevertheless, say hi to ur progenitors who has failed in their duties to train u.

#cheers wink

Your reaction show say my question PAIN you reach bone, if possible you for take Juju follow me up. Lol
Though my question was a rhetorical one, not an insult to your parents, if your progenitors did their job as you claim, you would have known better not to insult but respect others

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Desmondum: 8:57am On Jun 01, 2019
Yide10:
Best Savage reply I have ever seen on NL since 2005. Na u try pass aswear, d bolded got me oooo
U dey mind those people wey no sabi talk, I no know who carry hin Papa/Mama com NL.

The moniker try well aswear, kudos to him/her for that reply.

Nice one @Sherylbakky.
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Textra(m): 9:08am On Jun 01, 2019
nwakibe:
My own be say you must get belle before I Marry you.

Smile... we've seen couple who lost their children at there 50s... will you advice them to break up coz they no longer have kids to bind up the relationship. May that not be our portion.
Marriage is a partnership wether there is children, money or not.
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by lovelybugs(f): 9:38am On Jun 01, 2019
Lol. Ikr. I don't get why people rush and give birth. That one year is the period to observe and Japa if you notice anything you can't bear cause once a child comes into the equation forget it that marriage is for life!

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by DREagon(m): 9:44am On Jun 01, 2019
cry grin grin grin grin grin grin
Desmondum:
U dey mind those people wey no sabi talk, I no know who carry hin Papa/Mama com NL.

The moniker try well aswear, kudos to him/her for that reply.

Nice one @Sherylbakky.

If you like use 20 different monikers, you still get the message lol
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Hurrikane3000: 9:45am On Jun 01, 2019
The fact is that when you get married, everybody expect you and your spouse to start performing the miracle (children) so what are you waiting for, the sequel of romeo and juliet,?
I'm getting married January next year and I'm expecting my first child before Christmas.
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Desmondum: 9:52am On Jun 01, 2019
DREagon:
cry grin grin grin grin grin grin


If you like use 20 different monikers, you still get the message lol
Lol, I just get little time this morning, I no dey even com NL like that, wia d time dey?

No b d same moniker wey reply u dey among d people wey dey view so?

Ur conscience just dey disturb you cos u know wetin u do.

Enjoy ur day.
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Deepfeel(m): 10:16am On Jun 01, 2019
Textra:
I think one of the major reason for break up is because we have given too much priority to Procreation.... given birth, rather than building a partnership first.
I think couple's should wait at least 2 to 4 years before allowing a kid to come in between them. Build your finance and grow your love.
Women are meant to be help meet.
What do you guys think?
Happy New Month.
It will be good but you see, marriage in Africa is an entirely different institution, compared to the one in the Western world, in Africa marriage is not just about two people tying the knot but two families tying the knot, you are not just married to your partner but his or her family so the decision to daily procreation is not entirely up to you two to decide, cause people will start asking questions whether she's barren or his impotent, the family pressure to see the fruit of the marriage will be there,
In the Western world people marry and wait for 3 to 5 yrs before having a child the decision is entirely left for them to make, but not here in Africa

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Hurrikane3000: 10:28am On Jun 01, 2019
If not for procreation why will I get married, I will just leave a free life, date like 5 girls, go where I want, and do what I feel like, no much responsibility on head.
I observe that ladies here are against early childbirth, because they are afraid of losing their shape, but they forgot that giving birth early shuts all critics.

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Headlesschicken(m): 10:29am On Jun 01, 2019
undecided My pipx did it, would probably do same...
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by DREagon(m): 10:45am On Jun 01, 2019
Most people are here condemning our African way of life, sh*ting on our culture, using westerners as an example,
Most of those westerners came from a broken home they don't really no what family value is all about, they are just selfish that is why they easily get divorce,
We must not copy every thing from westerners, we should retain some of ours no body is perfect.

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by handsomebanana(m): 10:51am On Jun 01, 2019
Easybela:
undecided the reason you were single all your years back before the marriage was to "BUILD YOUR FINANCE"
The reason you dated was to"GROW YOUR LOVE"
There is time for everything.

All those womwn wey wan marry less than 18 months of dating nkor

Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Hurrikane3000: 10:55am On Jun 01, 2019
DREagon:
Most people are here condemning our African way of life, sh*ting on our culture, using westerners as an example,
Most of those westerners came from a broken home they don't really no what family value is all about, they are just selfish that is why they easily get divorce,
We must not copy every thing from westerners, we should retain some of ours no body is perfect.

GOOD BRAIN, which school you go?
Na Hollywood and Telemundo cause all this problem wey make us dey debate here.

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Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by MarianaTrench: 10:55am On Jun 01, 2019
Having children should be a priority once you get married
Re: When Is It Right To Have A Baby After Wedding? by Textra(m): 12:35pm On Jun 01, 2019
DREagon:
Most people are here condemning our African way of life, sh*ting on our culture, using westerners as an example,
Most of those westerners came from a broken home they don't really no what family value is all about, they are just selfish that is why they easily get divorce,
We must not copy every thing from westerners, we should retain some of ours no body is perfect.




Giving birth early or later should be decision of the new couple not pressure from family.

Giving birth early and making too many children even when they should be working together to plan their finance and a beautiful future for their wards.

See celebrity marriage crashing before it clocks 2yrs leaving most kids to grow up in broken home. this could have been avoided.

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