My director's wife is a kind hearted woman but she is too sensitive and highly inquisitive. I have known her for 5 years, that's when I started working with her husband. I'm very close to my oga and his family.

My oga is a womanizer but his wife hasn't been able to catch him red handed. The woman became so friendly with me since February 2019. she will call me on phone to just say hi, recharge my phone sometimes etc.

I have always been so sceptical about the woman's attitude of recent since I know her as a very inquisitive person.

The bubble bursted in April when I travelled with oga to Kaduna, Kano and Jigawa States for some trainings organised by our department for some cooperative livestock farmers. The wife started calling me while in Kano to ask about her husband, who stays with him in his hotel room, his visitors etc which I said to her I don't really know.

Oga actually brought his secretary which I knew he has been dating with him for the trip but of what concern is that to me? When we returned, the woman actually came to our office where she looked angrily at me, hiss at me and left without answering her greeting.

My job schedule involves sometimes working at oga's house especially when we have urgent training assignments. The woman have been sort of looking at me as someone who is also promiscuous like her hubby. Yesterday, she called me a liar and deceitful person, just because she wanted me to divulge her hubby's itinerary to her. It's possible she think I'm a small boy sha.

I'm actually planning to move some of the equipment in oga's house to mine so that I'll have less contact with the woman but I don't want my oga to know my reasons since I didn't tell him all his wife have been doing so that I don't cause wahala in their home.

How could I handle this issue brothers and sisters?

I think you should tell the boss what his wife is doing. Otherwise, you will be the biggest looser in the game she is trying to play

As far as the man is taking care of her and her children 100%, don't say anything that will break their home.


But if you want to tell her, do it anonymously by providing her all the info using text messages and another phone number that can't be traced to you.

Like the previous guy above me said, u better talk to your Boss but be selective and constructive with your words so it won't have effect in their marriage. Just say "oga e be like say your wife don dey hunt you wella, she dey even like ask.me some funny questions oh. E be like say I go dey stay my end mostly so she won't have time to question me on our waka .. abeg play your game well Boss". If he's a guy man he will support u sharp sharp n even love u more

Mutemenot:
Like the previous guy above me said, u better talk to your Boss but be selective and constructive with your words so it won't have effect in their marriage. Just say "oga e be like say your wife don dey hunt you wella, she dey even like ask.me some funny questions oh. E be like say I go dey stay my end mostly so she won't have time to question me on our waka .. abeg play your game well Boss". If he's a guy man he will support u sharp sharp n even love u more

Words of wisdom.

Mutemenot:
Like the previous guy above me said, u better talk to your Boss but be selective and constructive with your words so it won't have effect in their marriage. Just say "oga e be like say your wife don dey hunt you wella, she dey even like ask.me some funny questions oh. E be like say I go dey stay my end mostly so she won't have time to question me on our waka .. abeg play your game well Boss". If he's a guy man he will support u sharp sharp n even love u more

Na so e easy.

For me, u're already handling it well.

Op is simple move the equipment. When oga asks you y tell him. Shikena. He'll honor you

Guys how are you sure its not this 9ijabet guy that cooked up this story?

Don't say sh*t my brother
They no dey put mouth for husband and wife matter, because you no go dey for under their bed to defend yourself when them go dey settle the matter,
Just play the mute game, dey watch dem like film.

You have no obligation to divulge your boss' infidelity to his wife, focus on your job description.

Pavore9:
You have no obligation to divulge your boss' infidelity to his wife, focus on your job description.

Honestly this is my position but for the wife that's just on my neck, wetin concern me with anyone's family wahala?

correctyourself:
Guys how are you sure its not this 9ijabet guy that cooked up this story?

my dear guy, I'm telling you what's agitating my mind, you're here talking about naijabet...
leave me joor

kennybabs1980:
Honestly this is my position but for the wife that's just on my neck, wetin concern me with anyone's family wahala?

Once she finally accepts you are not bulging, she would divert her attention.

cornerplus:
Op is simple move the equipment. When oga asks you y tell him. Shikena. He'll honor you

I'm doing that today, I have gotten a nice explanation to give him. I don't like seeing that woman. Just see the way she started being nice just because she wanted to use me as guinea pig whose head will be used to break coconut after they've settled everything. The husband will beg her and they'll settle, the man will surely know I'm the one who told her. If I tell oga what his wife is asking from me now, what happens if he start wahala with his wife?

Lol... guys are quick to take sides. Someone said you tell your boss his wife is suspecting him. Dude, he's your boss and not a friend. Respect his dignity (or lack of it). That you know your boss is a miscreant does not give you the guts to discuss that subject with him for any reason except he gives you the nod. You called the wife sensitive and inquisitive cause she's suspecting her husband for good reasons but the truth is that he's the one misbehaving here and not the wife.I understand you can't out him cause he's the one paying your salary and again, you don't want to break a home. But then again that's the same reason why you shouldn't tell him cause you might still end up breaking the home afterall. Do as you're already doing. Stay away from their family affairs, simple.

etrange:
Lol... guys are quick to take sides. Someone said you tell your boss his wife is suspecting him. Dude, he's your boss and not a friend. Respect his dignity (or lack of it). That you know your boss is a miscreant does not give you the guts to discuss that subject with him for any reason except he gives you the nod. You called the wife sensitive and inquisitive cause she's suspecting her husband for good reasons but the truth is that he's the one misbehaving here and not the wife.I understand you can't out him cause he's the one paying your salary and again, you don't want to break a home. But then again that's the same reason why you shouldn't tell him cause you might still end up breaking the home afterall. Do as you're already doing. Stay away from their family affairs, simple.

Honestly you're very correct. What should be my business with whatever happens in their home? What I don't like is the way the woman wanted to cunningly drag me into what doesn't concern me. See me see wahala sha.

No one is talking about the secretary lol

To marry is becoming one of the scariest things ever.

Richy4:
That's a professional environment the last time I checked... All domestic matters should be treated in her home... Do not get involved.. Do not tell your boss anything in my opinion.. be neutral

Draw a fine line between your Job and domestic issues involving your boss... Just do your Business, get paid and waka pass..

Honestly you're very correct. What should be my business with whatever happens in their home? What I don't like is the way the woman wanted to cunningly drag me into what doesn't concern me. See me see wahala sha.

Mutemenot:
Like the previous guy above me said, u better talk to your Boss but be selective and constructive with your words so it won't have effect in their marriage. Just say "oga e be like say your wife don dey hunt you wella, she dey even like ask.me some funny questions oh. E be like say I go dey stay my end mostly so she won't have time to question me on our waka .. abeg play your game well Boss". If he's a guy man he will support u sharp sharp n even love u more

Dude, he's his boss and not his friend. That chat above is far more friendly than a boss-employee relationship can accommodate. Let's be realistic. How about him staying neutral? Why give out the woman when he wouldn't want to give out the man who's actually the culprit here? OP should stay out of their family affairs, simple.

Acidosis:


No one is talking about the secretary lol


To marry is becoming one of the scariest things ever.

Bros, even the secretary sef, na her own kasala be that, e no concern me. My anger and fears stems from how the Madame just dey drag me into wetin no concern me.

kennybabs1980:
Honestly you're very correct. What should be my business with whatever happens in their home? What I don't like is the way the woman wanted to cunningly drag me into what doesn't concern me. See me see wahala sha.

She's a troubled woman and she's using all the tools within her reach including you. I understand her plight. A cheating spouse can turn one into something else. Just stay away.

Acidosis:


No one is talking about the secretary lol


To marry is becoming one of the scariest things ever.

What about calling out the man who's the real cheat here?

kennybabs1980:
Bros, even the secretary sef, na her own kasala be that, e no concern me. My anger and fears stems from how the Madame just dey drag me into wetin no concern me.

True bro, right on that. I'm only commenting generally on the level of infidelity out there. That secretary also has one unfortunate boyfriend somewhere o, or husband sef.

It is well

etrange:

What about calling out man who's the real cheat here?

Lol, well we don't know the secretary's relationship or marital status

Acidosis:


Lol, well we don't know the secretary's relationship or marital status

Secretary is a single mother of two. She once told me her man travelled to US since 2011 and has refused to show up ever since. Her relationship with anyone she like is her headache not mine. Thanks @ Acidosis.

kennybabs1980:
Secretary is a single mother of two. She once told me her man travelled to US since 2011 and has refused to show up ever since. Her relationship with anyone she like is her headache not mine. Thanks @ Acidosis.

hmn.. it is well

etrange:


Dude, he's his boss and not his friend. That chat above is far more friendly than a boss-employee relationship can accommodate. Let's be realistic. How about him staying neutral? Why give out the woman when he wouldn't want to give out the man who's actually the culprit here? OP should stay out of their family affairs, simple.

From what he wrote, the relationship existing btw him n the boss is not that formal so he has every chances of letting him know whatsup... believe me that woman 'll set op up just to get another employee who can leak all the info she needed... If he choose to be calm, his job 'll be at risk.

This is one of the mess one gets into with these promiscuous ogas and his jealous wife. Why can't women face their business and have peace of mind? She knew her husband is a Casanova yet she married him only for her to now be looking for who to use as sacrificial lamb. @OP, if you dare say anything to the wife, consider yourself sacked and you know how country be o. Don't tell the man anything for now, move the equipment first, when he ask you why, then tell him in a very serene environment and beg him never to put up a fight with his wife so that you won't later blame yourself.

patani:
I think you should tell the boss what his wife is doing. Otherwise, you will be the biggest looser in the game she is trying to play

Not a bad idea but still sensitive. The poster is in a serious dilemma and should consider looking for another job. The wife knows the husband is cheating but wants evidence. What she wants to do with it - Only God knows (women and their ridiculous ways).

She deliberately courted the poster to divulge secrets and it appears there is no headway. She would dispose of him in order to get someone to do her biddings. Her next move is to begin to poison the husband’s mind and highlight the poster’s mistakes whenever the opportunity comes.

I can only tell the poster to get out of that situation because he would be the grass that would get burnt.