fuckerstard:
Pack your bags and leave while you can..


I hope you're not one of those full time house wife, if yes find your way if na to go to your folks. Staying married is not a joke, it is either you're in or out..

Who doesn't feel tempted to go out there and have fun, fornicate and live free with nobody breathing down your neck. You can't be hurting and abusing your wife, even with her present state.

Don't get married if you can't be loyal!

So why do we keep talking down the likes of tonto, Genevieve are the likes that know they'll always be unfaithful so no need taking marital vows

Until I hear from the man, I will not judge. Fear women when it comes to stories, they can paint lies better than Davinci to gather public sympathy and make people hate their man for no reason.

Solution....when done with that baby breastfeeding... Like 9 month....repackage yourself..... Stay focus with ur life and get a younger guy that will be shinning ur Congo.....with that it becomes 50-50.....clear off ur mind from leaving ur home for another woman to enter

With the above there will be balance and you will have rest of mind that you are also getting back at him

But play safe make the man no catch u o....else hmmmmm

No he me tell you this o

Na devil

Madam ur matter get as he be. How did you get to marry dis heartless man. hahaha he cheats on u with ur neighbor and still justifies himself. Every side chicks in the lives of all married men dat makes them see their wives as old cargo and would not allow them to enjoy their husbands if they fail to repent God let the side chicks fall into the hands of ritualist and teach all men to love and cherish their wives.

gosmoney:
Then why d write up when u don't need advice Do u have work at all?

don't be mean. It's obvious there was no one she could talk to, she just wanted to pour her mind out to feel better.

Or you are not aware that when you pen down Wats wrong with you, you get some kindda relief?

Always put a smile on your face when you are on a social media network.

You will see him coming around you again like flies.

Make sure you are not carried away by any feelings �

Make sure you always pray and open your heart to God.

Some problem we face in life God uses it to bring out the best in us.
Be serious with your business it may be the road to your richness � �

kennygee:
Dear woman, I can imagine the emotional and psychological pain you're going thru, however, making a decision right now might not be wise cause it will be an emotional one.

Just keep praying for him and ask God for strength to overcome. It is only when there's a crack in the wall that a lizard can enter.

Start working out the little way you can, start dressing really nice, so nice you'll get compliments outside. It will improve your self esteem, wear make up, smell nice. It might not stop him from cheating but it will build up your self esteem and confidence so much that you'll see you're not the problem.

You'll be in a better place to decide if you want to stay with him or leave.

All the best.

I hope you have a job or a business sha?

Cause the best security a woman can have is her own money.

Kennygee.
I always enjoy your comments
Keep it up

Mznaett:
You don't advise a woman who's going through so much pains in her marriage to pray .

If you do, you are not different from the "man" who put her in such a messy situation.

@op

If I were you, the moment I find out my partner is cheating on me, I'm out.

There's no point questioning his action.

Lol
What a kid!
How many relationships and boyfriends have you been able to manage well?
YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT MARRIAGE.

nwanneni:
Exactly bro.matters of the heart is a killer.
Do you know I am looking at the pics of my ex's new boyfriend?
Wow!what a wicked world.
Humans are heartless!how did she do this so quick?
I thought they say I was heartless?I am nowhere close bro.this girl is Lucifer herself.
Upon all I'm going through.she choses NOW to do it?NOW??
I won't stay here for long anymore.by tomorrow I might start coming back.
Fuckkkkk!!!!!!!!

see who wan kill himself because of a girl dimkpa like you ,i thank God i got the gift of goodbye. U know wat just nurse some hatred for her it will help u.

Madam,please follow your heart but I won't advice you to leave your home for any home breaker,doesn't worth it at all..The issue of sex,please don't kill yourself cos of it,no matter the style you give he won't be satisfied,cos he's an addict and mind you a cheat will always be a cheat no matter what..At the end,they end up regretting their senseless actions,but it would rather be too late..
Concerning your husband's mistress,Pls don't involve in any confrontation with her anymore,just cos of your life and that of your baby,most of them are diabolical,just leave her for karma to take effect,time will tell..
Lastly,pray for your husband it might not be ordinary and if it's inherited cos most men inherit adultery from their fore fathers,then it takes God's Divine Intervention..

God be with you and your baby!

Not married but if my hubby open his mouth and tell me all this kain things without fear hmmm ok o

1. Definitely your husband does not love you and he want you out of the house
2. Your husband is a tourist, you must have noticed this before marriage but you decided to overlook it maybe because you are desperate to get married ,so let him tour the neighborhood.
3. bitter truth, either of your decision the man loose nothing, only God can judge him

Tabitha03:
Madam ur matter get as he be. How did you get to marry dis heartless man. hahaha he cheats on u with ur neighbor and still justifies himself. Every side chicks in the lives of all married men dat makes them see their wives as old cargo and would not allow them to enjoy their husbands if they fail to repent God let the side chicks fall into the hands of ritualist and teach all men to love and cherish their wives.

I hope you know boyfriends/ husbands of the side chicks are praying the same prayers for your horsebands disturbing their partners and not allowing them enjoy their relationships.

No Man is a beast, Madam check yourself very well. You might as well be the genesis of the predicament you are passing through right now. Talking from experience, you married women have a way of demeaning and deflating their husband's ego (talking from experience) and when the Man reacts like yours is behaving now, you cry foul and come out to social media to write ungodly things about your husband, it is always the husband. You are 100% the woman he married?

I am not condoning cheating but if he wants a second wife, there is a way to go about it instead of frolicking with women here and there.

Did he just wake up and start having side chicks, to make matter worse, your neighbor. Madam, search your Heart very well and seek forgiveness for both of you.

HitSong:

Lol
What a kid!
How many relationships and boyfriends have you been able to manage well?
YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT MARRIAGE.

MR KNOW IT ALL ABOUT MARRIAGE

Stay put if your wife/gf is abusing you in any form, ok? Pray and don't leave for the sake of your kids. You know the society hates divorce? So endure, till you eventually lose your life.

kennygee:
Dear woman, I can imagine the emotional and psychological pain you're going thru, however, making a decision right now might not be wise cause it will be an emotional one.

Just keep praying for him and ask God for strength to overcome. It is only when there's a crack in the wall that a lizard can enter.

Start working out the little way you can, start dressing really nice, so nice you'll get compliments outside. It will improve your self esteem, wear make up, smell nice. It might not stop him from cheating but it will build up your self esteem and confidence so much that you'll see you're not the problem.

You'll be in a better place to decide if you want to stay with him or leave.

All the best.

I hope you have a job or a business sha?

Cause the best security a woman can have is her own money.

Take her advice, you won't regret it.

Mznaett:


MR KNOW IT ALL ABOUT MARRIAGE

Stay put if your wife/gf is abusing you in any form, ok? Pray and don't leave for the sake of your kids. You know the society hates divorce? So endure, till you eventually lose your life.

Look back. Think about your life. How many relationships have been into.
How many did you ruin with your own hands. Have you moved on well?
If you still reminisce on the past, marriage situation is even worst.
Marriage is not for girls that are still running from dick to dick...

It really hurts
however
There is no *bad situation/hurt* that *Jesus Christ* cannot help you to *fix-up* thus "I am the God of all human flesh is there anything impossible for me to do?" (Jeremiah 32:27)
"With God *all things* are possible" (Luke 1:37)

Please pray for God's mercy, grace and direction at this point of your life, marriage, child, husband and the lady causing your family this.pain use Hebrews 4:16.

Pray for *peace that Jesus Christ* gives (John 14:27) so that you do not shade blood or do something that you will regret.

Talk to someone you *trust/cherish* his/her relationship/faith with *Jesus Christ* remember "there is no situation any human being is facing now *somebody* has not experienced *before* yet they did not sin or got involved in wrong regrettable decisions but now are *rejoicing because God's grace which is available and sufficient inside every human being helped them overcome them* hence you will also pass through this and it will end in praise"

And now I commend you to God [placing you in His protective, loving care] and [I commend you] to the word of His grace [the counsel and promises of His unmerited favor]. His grace is able to build you up and to give you the [rightful] inheritance among all those who are sanctified [that is, among those who are set apart for God’s purpose—all believers] in Christ Jesus. Amen.
{Acts 20:32 amp)
Great Grace!!!

Ugosample:


you know the funny thing

most of the people suggesting she prays and stay put and all that are WOMEN while many of us calling out the foolishness of the man are MEN LIKE US

That should tell you something
the way a lot of women have been conditioned (by their mothers and other women in the society) is very unfortunate

the day women in general ditch such conditioning
Men in general will have no choice than to respect them at least

It's terrible

Most of our women have been programmed to think marriage is the highest achievement for them hence they ignore the red flags during courtship and even when married all in the name of saving their marriage, little wonder they end up in situations like this and if not managed properly could lead to Iraq and Iran war. Can you imagine the advice the girl I quoted gave

JoannaSedley:
WHAT IS THIS FOR CHRIST SAKE
She should pray for him to do what exactly? To continue hurting her by being an African man?
Pray for him for hurting and body shaming the mother of his kids?
It is her fault that her husband is a community penis

This advise is beyond unbelievable.


Op, you are hurting deeply so get out of that house before they kill you or you kill them. That horseband of yours will open the door of your house for his concubines to kill or maim you when you least expect it.
Be careful.

. Your advise is out of point ,two wrongs can't make a right ....those who know what God can do believes in prayer. There is perfect solution to every problem ,why should a legally married woman park out of her home for a stranger ,she must stay to fight for her marriage .Spiritually speaking her husband is under manipulation. No man in his right senses would behave as the man did .

Acidosis:

To be honest, I do not think it is so hard to identify a potential or "would-be" cheat during courtship.

Your husband did not cheat because of your appearance, what you said, did or how you behave. Your husband cheated on you because he's simply a cheat, a child of darkness who masqueraded as a saint, and pretended to be of good intention.

He failed in the sense of pretence, and you failed in the sense that, for some reasons best known to you, you couldn't discover that part of him.

You have two options;

Quit and count your losses OR stay put in the hope that he would someday change. Aside these two, there's nothing else you can do.

Even if she had the perfect figure, he would still cheat because that's just who he is. Some men sha

Oblongata:
It is well with you my sister!

At the earliest stage of marriage, many men make a lot of mistakes.

I like to believe they suddenly don't want to get tied down and crave freedom.

It's not like they were not prepared for marriage, or their behavior is anyway your fault, I like to believe they are exercising their seemingly seeping away 'youthful exuberances', some come at a far price (lifetime regrets ), others are lucky.

This is however, no excuse to treat or be treated bad.

I am ashamed to say i was like that in my early marriage, i disrespected my wife, and I took alcohol and womanized a lot!

I am quite fortunate I am part of the few that fortunately didn't lose out a lot, as I quickly found myself back on track and ensured i made up for all my wrong by tirelessly making my wife happy tiLL the end of time... No stds, no outside pregnancies, just financial mishaps, ain't i lucky?

Your husband might come around, and he might not...nobody promised us life would be rosy.

But always stay true to yourself and seek happiness, no matter what it will cost you.

Please go seek the advice of a pastor. . .

Many of them have wise counsels. . .

Please you can try 'grace point' church, very good church for marriages

Shalom

A redeem pastor will never give an option of leaving. They will say she should endure.

APOPTOSIS:
If this LADY'S QUESTION na EXAMINATION, more than 90 percent of the people that commented would have failed woefully.

She clearly said she doesn't need any ADVICE, meanwhile 95% failed that part...

Well it is not an examination.. And u don't expect everybody here to just keep typing "" okay.. You can quit and divorce him""..The person in question is clearly hurt that is why she said she isn't looking for advice.. But trust me, if this is a true story, she will surely pick one or two things from this thread

ImaIma1:


Even if she had the perfect figure, he would still cheat because that's just who he is. Some men sha

That's what majority of them don't understand.. I have seen men cheat with women that their wives are far more beautiful than... Cheating of a thing is just the quest for something different, it has nothing to do with shape or beauty most of the times

A friend once told me he can't be glued to CNN for the rest of his life when he is on premium subscription.. You understand what that means right?

ojkalito:
Most of our women have been programmed to think marriage is the highest achievement for them hence they ignore the red flags during courtship and even when married all in the name of saving their marriage, little wonder they end up in situations like this and if not managed properly could lead to Iraq and Iran war. Can you imagine the advice the girl I quoted gave

Some red flags don't pop up during courtship.. There have been cases of men who went on to be serial cheats despite getting married as a virgin...

After tasting the forbidden fruits after marriage only to find out that they are both not sexually compatible can be another reason for cheating...

Biglittlelois:



So because I'm not married means I'm not old enough to advice on marriage? Oloripelebe out of me and you who judged Op here? Tsinannu kawai, Dan iska...

You are even over growing marriage. Sorry for the man that will house u with ur bad mouth. Ajadu, ogbome amosu efifie.

HitSong:

Look back. Think about your life. How many relationships have been into.
How many did you ruin with your own hands. Have you moved on well?
If you still reminisce on the past, marriage situation is even worst.
Marriage is not for girls that are still running from dick to dick...

When it comes to marital matters, Nairaland should be the least place on anyone's mind to seek for advise.

Wtf! Guy, how about I tell you I've never been in an abusive relationship before?
No matter how long we've been together, once there's a crack, I'm out.

kennygee:
Dear woman, I can imagine the emotional and psychological pain you're going thru, however, making a decision right now might not be wise cause it will be an emotional one.

Just keep praying for him and ask God for strength to overcome. It is only when there's a crack in the wall that a lizard can enter.

Start working out the little way you can, start dressing really nice, so nice you'll get compliments outside. It will improve your self esteem, wear make up, smell nice. It might not stop him from cheating but it will build up your self esteem and confidence so much that you'll see you're not the problem.

You'll be in a better place to decide if you want to stay with him or leave.

All the best.

I hope you have a job or a business sha?

Cause the best security a woman can have is her own money.

Are you freaking kidding me? Start dressing really nice?? Are you for real?

Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

I really do not advocate divorce, but in this case, you need to quit that marriage asap. Your husband do not have little where you are.

Why cheat with someone nearby? Please leave that marriage asap

Don't fight.