Harrymig1:
This matter is strong

eleyi gidi gaan

Airtel Nigeria is cheating. This is a problem. I received a message that my bundle is finished when I barely used it. I was on wifi for a majority of the time. I will not keep quiet. If nobody is going to stand up to them, i will.

liberalchick:
Are they newly weds? The first 1-2 years is always the hardest in a marriage, the couple are adjusting to their new living situation. It’s very hard to live with someone with a different background and personality from yours that’s why marriage is not easy. Sometimes time is needed to adjust the kinks.

Cooking is a skill not everyone will be good at it, with time he will get used to her cooking, that’s why everybody will swear their mother’s food is the best. I have a friend that her cooking is anytime she invites me for dinner I always eat before I go, I eat very little at dinner and claim I am watching my weight. However, you need to see how the husband will be eating with gusto like he is eating party jollof rice.

OP I know you mean well and you are looking out for your best friend but maybe you should give them a little space since they are newly wed so they get to figure it out. Also, when he comes complaining always urge him to be open with his wife as he is with you.

I wish your friend luck.

Finally a brilliant comment....

I sincerely see no problem here, not to talk of one strong enough for divorce. Op, please stay out of their marriage, give them time to figure each other out as this is the time they need to avoid 3rd parties like you who unknowingly gives bad advice. If your friend values his marital vows and commitment and also the happiness of his marriage, he'd do everything to help her and not run at the slightest flaws he observes in her. These things can be taught and worked upon when they both sit together to discuss. We really think all should be perfect in marriage, but that's us being unrealistic, and this to me is a minor problem, your friend is just looking for a quick excuse to sample different ladies thereby blaming his wife just to justify his filthy actions.

Westsida:



Nah me bro, but now, I don japa! The matter nah grade 1 chit!

He's a Muslim remember & entitled to three more wives islamically.so my suggestion is its better he married someone else & bring to the house, a well mannered & cultured Hausa girl,even if its not Hausa maybe Yoruba Muslim which he can get& they'll agree to marry him cos the resources(money( is there.if he can take your advice advised him on that.

He's a Muslim remember & entitled to three more wives islamically.so my suggestion is its better he marries someone else & bring to the house, a well mannered & cultured Hausa girl,even if its not Hausa maybe Yoruba Muslim which he can get& they'll agree to marry him cos the resources(money( is there.if he can take your advice advised him on that.

Benbisco:


OP, I feel for your friend and wish him well but I have a bone to pick with you on this matter.

Lastly she doesn't flow in bed(dead wood) and my friend through me has tasted some igbo girls and we know igbo ladies are beasts in bed(we love it like da)he complains of her being too modest in bed and this is funny cause I believe he solely got married cause that was the only way he could have her.

At this point, I reserve my comment.

Hmmmmm... Okokobiokor

.No wonder! oga FFK like igbo ladies like kilode.I must have a ipob beasts too to taste their honey pot aka OFE NSALA,UGWU /ONUGBU soup.No time

Nyamiri:
Igbo girls are beasts in bed.
Them full King's Hotel, Dragonara, Rita Lori, etc
Nyamuri don suffer.

Sexual slaves of Nigeria.

i just spotted an idiot

Nyamiri:


That must be your father.

you are a big fool

Harrymig1:
This matter is strong

This is not a strong matter. The husband can help in developing n reshaping those attitudes of her. Let me categorically say, that marriage is for matured minds.

uniquehealth:
Well permit me to say that even if this story is not true (as some claimed), yet i like the manner of expression especially the op's grammatical structure.
Keep it up!

Same here. I like the OP's style of writing and enjoyed it.

TANID:
That Man Would Blind Again If He Fail God Test

na dem, commenting before reading.

Human being , that's his cross he should carry it abeg

In a simple words Hausa's don't no how to cook
In this case I suggest you should advice your friend to schools her in terms of cooking if he can cook?

We need pictures.

Dreamz77:
young Lad am asking for solution not dissolution

It is not your place to ask for solution

Dreamz77:
A friend of mine happens to be in a serious dilemma, he is a Successful young man, a Muslim but Unhappily Married! The gist -.

Some few years back my Buddy (Ibrahim)was fortunate to secure a Federal govt job which as we all know in naija is like hitting a jackpot! His family are quite rich and he happens to be the last born so he had so much benefits and little or no responsibilities.

Dude was living large and as such was able to Conquer quite a number of ladies and you know our Naija girls, once you are a "money spender" you Automatically become their dream Man! Love of their life and all those rubbish etc.

Every damn thing was good, we always balled together, i made him stop takin codeine and all this crazy syrub which I noticed most some part of Hausa's Cherish more than their O level(dats mostly their max anyway)well I introduced him to taking proper Alchohol like Hero, legend and my ever favorite "Budweiser "!
He always payed the bills coz financially he was bigger!

The main problem began wen he traveled to Philippines to meet with his dad, a Consultant in Manilla, their he met Zainab who was a med practitioner. This lady drove my guy crazy! Like literally crazy! First, wen she got back to Nigeria he became more obsessed ,their was no conversation we could make without he mentioning or Linkin it to her. He was becoming bitchy! Even wen we all go out together she always had dis disdainful grimace on her face like the people around there are beneath her. Imagine ordinary Philippines naim she school (no disrespect for) dats not my headache atoll.

In a nutshell, he wanted her badly and as we all know, as a Muslim its a serious taboo to lose ur virginity before marriage! Ibrahim wanted dis lady soo badly and I don't know mayb it was her beauty cause to be honest she was glaringly radiant in beauty and very erudite in speech. or maybe twas his percievd pedigree of her, I couldn't tell what the oomph was all about.

She liked him too dou but he never took the time to understand that marriage is different from the normal menalin quest!

They never kissed; touched nor romanced before he proposed which I agitated against but my friend went on with his plan and they got married. Yes! He got married Blindy and ever since Dia marriage has been more like its a hell in a cell match.

First, this lady knows nothing about cooking,she can't even cook shit! Ibrahim always have to come eat at my place after work cause according to him she only prepares indomie and Egg!

Secondly she is not a playmate unlike before she doesn't gist while watching tv or have naughty talks aside work and normal stuff like dey use to.

Lastly she doesn't flow in bed (dead wood) and my friend through me has tasted some igbo girls and we know igbo ladies are beasts in bed (we love it like da) he complains of her being too modest in bed and this is funny cause I believe he solely got married cause that was the only way he could have her.

At the moment, they not on talking terms cause he doesn't touch her anymore nor even eat her food (indomie).

My friend was blind to get married with a wrong perception but I really feel for him dou he causd the drama himself. He is considering cheating on his wife at the moment just to relax his urge but I don't support cassanovering wen one is already legally married.

The wife already believes me to be the shenanigan confusing her hubby not knowing m trying to save her marriage .pls dam, Any reasonable advice would be much appreciated guys cause I really don't know how to help out here. Tanx

I think best option is for him to make marriage worl... the second one may not be better

am not sure u are a true muslim u introduce ur friend to be talking alcohol and bold to say in wen u know well in islam it a taboo to take it smh... tell him to take her catering school.

Fourwinds:
it is your father

You obviously are confused as to your paternity. No history, bleak future and you just added doubtful paternity into the mix.

Congrats

It is better you advise your friend to go for marriage counselling so that he will be able to explain his marital problem to the professionals to help him out.