I wrote this thread last year about a guy that I had met who was into all kinds of rubbish
https://www.nairaland.com/4861952/god-showing-me-signs
Well after deceiving myself and going back and forth with him, I finally said enough is enough. I broke up with him early last month after i went through pictures on his phone through his email, and I saw that he had taken a picture of my bank card details to possibly steal from me. I also saw screenshots of him having friendly conversations with another girl in his church. Although there was nothing to serious in their chats, I just felt it wasn’t appropriate to have friendly conversations like that. So it’s done and it’s over.

Now I recently just turned 25. I feel like I’m getting to that undesirable age and I just feel that I will never find a serious guy. I feel like I’m never going to find someone, I’m so lonely all the time I’m just fed up. I’m that anti social type that hates being in crowds so it’s sooo difficult to meet people. I’m just fed up of everything. I just feel damaged and I feel like I can’t trust anyone and i don’t want to waste my time with unserious men.

I need help.

First thing first, it's good you know and admits that you are getting to that undesirable age, and about finding a serious guy! You wrong babe, and as for not trusting any body, girl, we are on the same boat.My sacred advise, you don't need to go front and back anymore, there's no need for that. All you gat to do is email me and i help you fix this sh#t, better days ahead babe better days ahead.

Madam biko go sit down somewhere and relax. 25yrs is hardly 1/3 of your life span if God pleases. So relax, you've got plenty of life, love and everything in between ahead of you. Cheers.

The spirit of desperation.
Have you got nothing else going on in your life to focus on? You have been barley single for a month.
There is nothing like undesirable age if you take good care of yourself.

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Send me PM let us discuss off here.

Wait till you turn 35..25 is nothing. Engage in self improvement until the right time

Are you employed and independent?
You should work on other aspects of your life.

At that age, companionship should be the last of your troubles. Build yourself up & you'll attract the right man.

I am the most antisocial & introverted person you'll ever come across but I have never found myself wanting or lonely. That is because I am too busy loving myself.

Never envy people. Surround yourself with the best.
Sooner or later, that guy will come. Stay positive.

Imogenn:
I wrote this thread last year about a guy that I had met who was into all kinds of rubbish
https://www.nairaland.com/4861952/god-showing-me-signs
Well after deceiving myself and going back and forth with him, I finally said enough is enough. I broke up with him early last month after i went through pictures on his phone through his email, and I saw that he had taken a picture of my bank card details to possibly steal from me. I also saw screenshots of him having friendly conversations with another girl in his church. Although there was nothing to serious in their chats, I just felt it wasn’t appropriate to have friendly conversations like that. So it’s done and it’s over.

Now I recently just turned 25. I feel like I’m getting to that undesirable age and I just feel that I will never find a serious guy. I feel like I’m never going to find someone, I’m so lonely all the time I’m just fed up. I’m that anti social type that hates being in crowds so it’s sooo difficult to meet people. I’m just fed up of everything. I just feel damaged and I feel like I can’t trust anyone and i don’t want to waste my time with unserious men.

I need help.

.How can you be lonely when I'm here.

we can make it work. What's your location?

MissJoy29

See what I told you.

There is this alfa male that is looking for wife. If you are so desperate, you both can hook up. https://www.nairaland.com/5234028/it-difficult-me-get-wife

Just 25 and u want to Develop HBP ... Can u even imagine the nonsense coming out from your mouth?... if I were to be your dad I will just send u inside the house and flog u six strokes for even thinking that u are not desirable anymore.. who gave u such notion in the first place?

Besides is marriage the beginning and end of a fulfilled life? Have you not seen people rushing in and rushing out of it?

If marriage is your definition of a wonderful life, then use two years to work on your insecurity and self esteem ... because I can't see a reason why a man will not be friendly with a woman because he was befriending u or married to u..
Unless you can try a physically challenged person like a blind man who cannot see but feel only your presence or talks only to u.. if not, no man on this earth will seclude himself just because he was married to u... it's not gonna happen... Even if you were the queen of England...

Get yourself prepared because there's a point in a marriage when the paradise screaming wonderful love life will reduce....then only trust and tolerance will take over... if that should happen in your situation, then What will u do?.. don't beat yourself up for nothing.u are not ready..
if u rush it u will be miserable... I guess because some of your class mates or course mates were getting married like it was an epidemic and feel u too must join the band wagon.. it doesn't work that way..

This is not what you should be thinking about at 25. Don't be quick to rush into what people are rushing out from.

AntiBrutus:
There is this alfa male that is looking for wife. If you are so desperate, you both can hook up. https://www.nairaland.com/5234028/it-difficult-me-get-wife

Why are you like this

you've never been this right in your life

useless thread

You're just getting out of and you're already thinking you'll be single forever. Spend some time by yourself for once. Focus on other aspects of your life instead of relationship relationship relationship.

Imogenn:
I wrote this thread last year about a guy that I had met who was into all kinds of rubbish
https://www.nairaland.com/4861952/god-showing-me-signs
Well after deceiving myself and going back and forth with him, I finally said enough is enough. I broke up with him early last month after i went through pictures on his phone through his email, and I saw that he had taken a picture of my bank card details to possibly steal from me. I also saw screenshots of him having friendly conversations with another girl in his church. Although there was nothing to serious in their chats, I just felt it wasn’t appropriate to have friendly conversations like that. So it’s done and it’s over.

Now I recently just turned 25. I feel like I’m getting to that undesirable age and I just feel that I will never find a serious guy. I feel like I’m never going to find someone, I’m so lonely all the time I’m just fed up. I’m that anti social type that hates being in crowds so it’s sooo difficult to meet people. I’m just fed up of everything. I just feel damaged and I feel like I can’t trust anyone and i don’t want to waste my time with unserious men.

I need help.

Relationship aside, what else do you have working for you?

What are your aspirations in life?

I am working atm, in a nursing home. I am a graduate But that’s about it.

bukatyne:


Relationship aside, what else do you have working for you?

What are your aspirations in life?

Ranchhoddas:
MissJoy29
See what I told you.

Gist me.

Mindfulness:
The spirit of desperation.
Have you got nothing else going on in your life to focus on? You have been barley single for a month.
There is nothing like undesirable age if you take good care of yourself.

Do you actually believe some of the things you type?

I understand and can relate with you. Its ok to be scared but you will be fine eventually. It will pass

crackhaus:

Do you actually believe some of the things you type?

None of your business.

Stop thinking about marriage too much and focus on developing yourself all round, marriage will form when it wants to come but till then enjoy the best of life .

You'll be fine... I think it's normal to feel like that after a break up, especially when you invested so much in the relationship and it feels like you were not appreciated. You'll find your own man in due time.. but it's not healthy to go into another relationship feeling this way, focus more on building your self esteem.

Imogenn:
I wrote this thread last year about a guy that I had met who was into all kinds of rubbish
https://www.nairaland.com/4861952/god-showing-me-signs
Well after deceiving myself and going back and forth with him, I finally said enough is enough. I broke up with him early last month after i went through pictures on his phone through his email, and I saw that he had taken a picture of my bank card details to possibly steal from me. I also saw screenshots of him having friendly conversations with another girl in his church. Although there was nothing to serious in their chats, I just felt it wasn’t appropriate to have friendly conversations like that. So it’s done and it’s over.

Now I recently just turned 25. I feel like I’m getting to that undesirable age and I just feel that I will never find a serious guy. I feel like I’m never going to find someone, I’m so lonely all the time I’m just fed up. I’m that anti social type that hates being in crowds so it’s sooo difficult to meet people. I’m just fed up of everything. I just feel damaged and I feel like I can’t trust anyone and i don’t want to waste my time with unserious men.

I need help.

You are not yet close to that age, but that doesn't mean you should wait until the eleventh hour before getting into another relationship.

And about relationships:

1. Try to avoid guys who are into all kinds of rubbish you hear.

2. Unserious men are everywhere. In fact, even the serious ones can become unserious after 6months and you'll be back to square one. Work on your intuition, fine-tune it and you'll be fine.

3. A relationship is not a cure for loneliness. If that's your motivation for wanting a man, you will definitely fall into the arms of an unserious guy or the one that's into another brand of rubbish different from the last. Get a hobby instead.

4. You're asocial, not antisocial. Join and participate in virtual groups consisting of people with a shared ideal. 'Virtual', so as to accommodate your asocial tendencies.
Could be on Telegram or WhatsApp - alumni (high school & university) group, singles group, etc

5. You feel damaged & feel like you can't trust anyone. For your own good, work on this and figure a way around it, otherwise number 1 to 4 above will be an effort in futility and you will just keep breaking up with guys who have friendly conversations with the opposite sex.

Cheers...

Mindfulness:


None of your business.

I think you're right.
Should be your therapist's business.

crackhaus:

I think you're right.
Should be your therapist's business.

Coming from NL's psycho obsessed with women topics.

Mindfulness:


Coming from NL's psycho obsessed with women topics.

I love women, that's why.
How can this be a sign of psychosis?

But for someone who can confidently say there's no undesirable age for a woman and believe it? *whistling*

You going coocoo...

crackhaus:

I love women, that's why.
How can this be a sign of psychosis?

But for someone who can confidently say there's no undesirable age for a woman and believe it? *whistling*

Going coocoo...

Nobody said it was a sign, just another disorder. And psychopathy is different from psychosis, you should know by now.
It seems like you have too much of the female hormones, I would think you are gay if I didn't know better.

Mindfulness:


Nobody said it was a sign, just another disorder. And psychopathy is different from psychosis, you should know by now.

Of course you can differentiate them, your therapist did a really good job identifying the spectrum you fall under.

It seems like you have too much of the female hormones, I would think you are gay if I didn't know better.

"I love women", I said. "Seems you have too much of the female hormones", she said, even after explaining my obsession.

If this isn't added proof of you being coocoo, I shudder to think of what you might type next for final confirmation.

crackhaus:

Of course you can differentiate them, your therapist did a really good job identifying the spectrum you fall under.

"I love women", I said. "Seems you have too much of the female hormones", she said, even after explaining my obsession.

If this isn't added proof of you being coocoo, I shudder to think of what you might type next for final confirmation.

We can all see how you "love" women.

sisisioge:
Madam biko go sit down somewhere and relax. 25yrs is hardly 1/3 of your life span if God pleases. So relax, you've got plenty of life, love and everything in between ahead of you. Cheers.

Are you God to assure her of 75 years? Can't you advice without bringing this hogwash up?

Mindfulness:


We can all see how you "love" women.

I'm a lover.
Those who know, know.

But of course, people like yourself who can confidently type make-believe can also see what they want to see.
Must be a superpower of sorts.