9jaRealist:


Sorry Bros, to be brutally honest and with all due respect...
If you have to ask this question, you are probably a BIG LOSER!

First, for the avoidance of any doubt, you do not have give or lend anyone your money. But if the ONLY (or even the primary) reason that you are reluctant to help out someone is because the person refused to date you in the past, then sorry you are a LOSER with a warped mentality.
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Nteogwuija:


Lol. I can relate.

I sat down one day and I went through my bank records of all cash I had sent to my ex. After doing all the summation, I discovered that the money if kept together would have bought me a piece of land in a not so developed area.

Na so my brain reset.

The relationship didn't last up to 2 weeks after I had this discovery.

Now, I no want do any relationship again.

Forget any girl wey say she no dey come for your money. It's a trap.

HEFAIROHLUWA:
Don't give or lend anyone(I mean ANYONE and not only her) any money attached to emotions.

Give without expecting back, don't give expecting back, kinda hard sometimes for some people but thats the best way to do these things.

Beside all i can see in this thread comments are just pained guys..
Hard guys, hard guys! I sabi play I sabi play die.. Na so dem go dey shout...didn't know a lot have been scammed by our girls...damn...funny..

Favor99:
Yes you should give her some money. It’s the godly and Christian thing to do. You should show love and generosity to your neighbor even when they’ve offended or insulted you.

It’s good to help those in need. Do onto others as you would like them to do unto you. If your in her situation, you would want someone to help you to.
Show her love and kindness and God will be very much pleased and bless you

Elliot2:
hag hag hag yen yen yen. Cheap blackmails. It was okay for her to reject him without any respect for his person, but he is a loser to decline her request based on her past action.

Favor99:
Yes you should give her some money. It’s the godly and Christian thing to do. You should show love and generosity to your neighbor even when they’ve offended or insulted you.

It’s good to help those in need. Do onto others as you would like them to do unto you. If your in her situation, you would want someone to help you to.
Show her love and kindness and God will be very much pleased and bless you

Stillthebest:
Not everything do you because of God. Not every help attracts blessings even when done with a plain heart. Ladies hardly remember a once enjoyed help from men even wives are not left out...

bidak:
Oga the fact she declined your advances, doesn’t make her your enemy. Besides you guys are still chatting, so uncle help if you can afford it

9jaRealist:


Nigerian men and the usual misogynistic culture of entitlement...
So declining to date someone means “without any respect for his person”?

Anyway, read my post again - it’s his money and he is NOT obligated to help (no issues with that)...
Nonetheless, if the ONLY reason is because the person did not agree to date him, then he’s a REAL LOSER!
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Originalsly:


I can see why she is asking you for money. She saw you had no backbone then...she turned you down. Now she see you still don't have backbone... but you have money.... and she goes straight to the point.... doesn't even have to apply gold digging skills... and here you are...asking us what to do.
Let me ask.... why didn't you ask why she rejected you yearsss ago?... don't have the balls to ask? Did you ask which University?...what level?..what course? I can bet my life you didn't. Bro... if you love yourself.... stick to your levels.... that babe will chew you up.....then spit you out... and you wouldn't even know.

Gisborne6:
Think of it as helping the needy nt as helping d lady dah turned u down it should be easier

kinghopex:
I really need advice on this..

I asked this lady out back then in 2015 and she turned me down completely without any reasonable excuse...

Now she is in the university studying and today while we were chatting, she told me she is seriously broke that i should help her with money!!

If i were you will you help her

Elliot2:
Lol. Op said she never gave him any reasons for rejecting his advance. If that is not disrespect, then I don't know what will make for it. And again what ever reasons that made her reject him is justified and like wise him declining her request.

molon23:
If you have the money quietly help her. The table might turn in her favour in future.

Budline1:

There is no crime in politely saying 'No I don't have money at the moment'. Even when the table turns, he hasn't wronged her in any way. She'll survive without this guy abeg. She shouldn't even ask money from him in the first place.

missjane:
Lots of useless advisors on social media..you said she refused to date u four years ago now she's studying in d university..meaning she must have been in secondary school by then, connect the dots yourself
Turn down her request for the assistance and you will see that she made the right choice by not dating u back then as what u were after was just her body.

killsmith:
It depends on your relationship with her. Me I'm hearty enough to help anyone.

Help the lady and watch her afterwards.

But don't give in to her advances.

9jaRealist:
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I hope by “offended or insulted you” you are not referring to her declining to date him...
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Elliot2:
na so. Which part of d Bible did she live by when she snubbed him? Even Jesus asked those who rejected him to go to the left.

Favor99:

Declining to date someone is not an insult, but some people may feel offended. I was talking in general terms.

9jaRealist:


I AGREE in general terms...

On the other hand, if someone feels “offended” because someone else declines to date them, it is a sad commentary on their state of mind.
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Elliot2:
Have you wondered why it is only when such people need help they come around? Why done they ask for forgiveness when they have nothing to gain,just pure acknowledgement of wrong and even restitution.

9jaRealist:


Why not? If he’s forming like he’s a real friend, why not...
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Budline1:
A real friend not a bank bro. She can get it elsewhere, money has nothing to do with their friendship. He has every right to politely decline her request.

King44:
what if her intention is pure

2dice01:
You can help her if you have the money