Nnemuka:

nope
they will get married early to broke men they will feed all through their lives.
Amen

SageMK:


What nonsense is this?
How is it wrong for a woman to foot the bills?

It's this kind of mentality that promotes the “my money is mine but yours for the family” idea amongst women.

As a woman, if you settle back and allow your husband to foot everything in the house, you must submit totally.

's ovious you don't read to understand.. You just want your voice to be heard on nairaland otherwise the meaning is crystal clear and audible to the deaf..
WOMEN, PLEASR RUN AWAY FROM ANY MAN THAT WHO DOES NOT WANT TO BE FINANCIALLY RESPONSINLE IN A RELATIONSHIP. RUN AEAY FROM MEN THAT IS ONLY SAYING I LOVE YOU BABY BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MONEY HE KEEPS DEAF EAR EVEN WHEN HE HAS IT[b][/b]

Daeylar:
Team independent women. / Team women are gold-diggers won't like this.


Please ask him Also ask if it means both husband and wife must submit to each other if both contribute to the finances in the home?
Typical Nigerian man.
Always looking for who will submit to them. Smh.
Ask them to submit in return as they love to preach and they'll act like you've said something evil to them, but they'll be looking for who should submit to them.

Joromi12:
she has a child. There are several single rich babes in my office looking for guys to marry. The office guys are going for nysc or younger grads. No crime in a woman being bread winner abeg. After all woman did not work during the creation of marriage

Chicagoesontop:
But it's true

newsman101:
The Senior Pastor of the Living Faith Church, Bishop David Abioye, has advised women against settling for men with no financial commitment.

While delivering his sermon in his church recently, the clergyman stressed the importance of finances in a relationship. Speaking specifically to single women, the clergyman said


''Any man who doesn't show commitment financially is not safe for you to marry''.

According to him, any woman who settles for a man with no financial commitment will end up being the one paying for the house rent, school fees and other very important things, once they get married.

Watch a video of him speaking below>>>

https://lailasnews.com/any-man-who-doesnt-show-commitment-financially-is-not-safe-for-you-to-marry-bishop-abioye-advises-women-video/

BluntBoy:
Is it an abomination for a woman to foot bills?

Supposing the man showed financial commitments before marriage but then loses everything later, should the woman run?

akmaldini:



Bro,I know mind if you recommend one for me ooo...

shogsman:
Archaic mentality,it’s an agreement between two parties mr Pastor you cannot expect one party to provide while the other do nothing,stop putting unnecessary pressure on guys.

Briller:



You seem to miss the point. Someone up there said it doesn't have to be a fat bank account. It could even be as little as just paying the water bills, renewing the DSTV subscription, etc. No matter how little it may seem, many women just want to be sure that their man has their interest at heart and wishing they could pay the bills just that present circumstances may not allow them to do much given their poor financial status.

BluntBoy:


Abioye's advice is misleading. I would like to read the advice in full. But for that part that I read, it is bad advice.

For one thing, any man can show commitments financially just to get what he wants. It is one major reason why people lament "He/she didn't use to be like this before marriage. He/she has changed". A man showing financial commitments before marriage does not mean that he would foot bills during the marriage. Some men can go to Jupiter and back just to impress a lady. Wait until they finally marry her. Many things happen to commitments during marriages. And it is not necessarily due to the diminishing of love.

I think it is time pastors stopped dabbling into deeper/relative aspects of relationships. They should rather emphasize mutual love and respect which is exactly what the Bible emphasizes.

Gerrard59:
What SageMK simply means is: the moment the modern Nigerian lady expects her husband to be the major financial provider in the family, then she should be submissive. Nothing like do the chores or help in the kitchen. The man provides, she submits. As odd as it sounds in this age, that is the result from having the man as the major financial provider.

He who pays the piper dictates the tune.

virgoquin:
Even you talk true if your wife is the one contributing everything financially to your marriage will you be comfortable

As for the emboldened so you mean that if I provide for my family financially and otherwise my husband must get ready to submit himself to me

Hedonisst:
What does "financial commitment" mean according to Mr Pastor? He should have explained better..

But the fact is that this over monetisation of everything about men's suitability puts women at a disadvantage. For every financially stable guy, and let's say for every ONE guy that makes plus or minus a modest N5m annually, there are thousands of women jostling for his attention because he meets their unreasonable criteria.

Okay, so you're a high class babe. A graduate of Unilag and you work in one decent firm, and you're reasonably exposed. So you think you deserve a guy with a minimum of the above-mentioned standard. But the problem is that even the low class girl from Ajangbadi with incomplete WAEC, who is still struggling to write JAMB or doing secretarial work in a one man company somewhere, is also your competitor, looking for the same guy you're looking for. Her only 'qualification' is her fine face, or nice shape, or bustiness, or yanshiness, or whatever else that adds up to the feminine appeal that is the major thing that Nigerian women have to offer Nigerian men! Your degrees and job experience matters little to most men who meet your lofty criteria. Forget what they say. That's the truth. At the end, they just want to have a sexy thing with a good character beside them,. Certificate gbakwa okwu.

So with this wide net of 10,000 girls (poor or rich, graduate or uneducated) to one 'suitable' guy, how will this disequilibrium resolve itself?

Entitled women go suffer well well for this Nigeria. It is happening already. I know exactly what I'm talking about.

Hmmm!

RichBoy247:


The guys are not interested in getting married, it is the girls that are forcing marriage on the guys. Why buy the Cow when you can have the Milk for free. There are thousands of ladies to sleep with at no cost, why tie yourself to a woman in the name of marriage. If you want a child, you can always have baby mamas. So, it is the ladies that are tricking guys into marriage, guys are ready to be single forever. So, this Pastor should not let it seems as if we guys are begging the ladies to marry us. No we are not, we are happy being single forever.

toluwa1:
Awwwnnn.....thumbs up to my pastor....
No marriage for a lazy man....
A woman can assist quite alright, but the man too must not be lazy too .....

Briller:


Biko, point of correction. That marriage is based on deceit. Why would you pretend into marriage and then turn around to stop providing for your family? The Bible addressed such a man as an Infidel. Abeg check out the meaning of that in google, because truly you never believed in the tenets of marriage ever before jumping into it. People can lie to themselves sha.

Cutezt:
But if I decide not to give her my money before marriage, is it a sin?

Watch the video here


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J4t_ennGqFo

SageMK:


What nonsense is this?
How is it wrong for a woman to foot the bills?

It's this kind of mentality that promotes the “my money is mine but yours for the family” idea amongst women.

As a woman, if you settle back and allow your husband to foot everything in the house, you must submit totally.

Gerrard59:


What SageMK simply means is: the moment the modern Nigerian lady expects her husband to be the major financial provider in the family, then she should be submissive. Nothing like do the chores or help in the kitchen. The man provides, she submits. As odd as it sounds in this age, that is the result from having the man as the major financial provider.

He who pays the piper dictates the tune.

Charmingrascal:
Truly a man with no stable source of income should not think of marriage

BluntBoy:


Which makes it bad advice.

How should a man show commitments financially before marriage?

The Bible is quite conservative when it comes to dating.

I was a little less conservative by even discussing terms such as love and respect.

I will take it that Abioye wants to be more accommodating by considering the modern trend of dating and financial commitments to somebody you are not responsible to under the laws of the land and church.

Even at that, it is still bad advice.

Daeylar:
Team independent women. / Team women are gold-diggers won't like this.


Please ask him Also ask if it means both husband and wife must submit to each other if both contribute to the finances in the home?
Typical Nigerian man.
Always looking for who will submit to them. Smh.
Ask them to submit in return as they love to preach and they'll act like you've said something evil to them, but they'll be looking for who should submit to them.