Hyacenth22:
she isnt even good with sex, 15 mins of thrusting and she will complain of pains, she never satisfied me because i mostly pull out erected and wanting more, she herself is sad she does not satisfy me, secondly I do 99% percent of the work on her to get her in the mood without receiving any, thirdly did not marry her a virgin

romenna:
Women are very good at manipulating men emotionally.
You need sound emotional intelligence to understand that ur wife is manipulating u.
M9st times, wateva they tell u they dnt like is wat they like d most.
Always make ur woman comfy to tell u her sexual fetish. Dnt see that as a bad tin.
I had an ex who opened up to me that their male dog at home gives her head n bleeps her once in a while n she enjoys it cos dogs know how to suck ass n pussy very well. Some of ur gfs n wives hav such fetishes but will never ever open up to u due to fears of stigmatization.
Dnt be modest wit sex issues wit ur spouse

QueenSekxy:
Oh My!! She's obviously cheating with a woman that gives her the head she needs.
How does she know you weren't doing it well if she has not been receiving it from professionals.

And you said she gave you STD, did you bother asking her where she got that disease From? You need to stop overlooking some things before she gives you a deadly and incurable disease.

The bottom line is that she's a lesbian!!!

solasoulmusic:
Father Lord let my husband be open to us satisfying each other Amen

It is well find her love language try pre-intimacy not just straight to the do. I’m shy and I can’t beg someone for sex I can hint o but there’s always someone out there who can do us in the way we were made to be done o ...like the song by psquare

QueenSekxy:
Oh My!! She's obviously cheating with a woman that gives her the head she needs.
How does she know you weren't doing it well if she has not been receiving it from professionals.

And you said she gave you STD, did you bother asking her where she got that disease From? You need to stop overlooking some things before she gives you a deadly and incurable disease.

The bottom line is that she's a lesbian!!!

sweerychick:
I suspected as much! The main culprit is her friend she said that thought her how to do head

Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos

Wallade:


I disagree with you and I demand that you conduct a research on this. Stop being fixated in a box of outdated knowledge. The reality is that STIs and STDs can be transmitted as toilet disease or infection.

osato45:
is it possible that two females grinding their pussy together during the act can transmitt std to the other lady?

Safitu:
Her watching lesbian porn doesn’t mean she’s a lesbian. Most straight women watch lesbian porn because it’s more stimulating.

CosmicPhoenix:

if you act like NEPA in your relationship dont complain when your partner brings in generator but where did she get the STD from and how did she know you are not giving her head correctly?

Hyacenth22:
Thanks for all your contributions

The issues is no matter how hard i try giving her head i cant seem to ratify her, her reactions toward my efforts is very discouraging and secondly since am not into it from onset i belive am not good in it.

The STD she tagged was toilet infection but i later found out it wasn't, after having disccuedwith my family doctor who told me STD cant be contacted from the toilet.


Marry a second wife na. This is why Islam is the best.
I just seem lost in this as all my effort to connect with her emotionally seems dead, secondly i dont wish to have a divorced home but then again i cant continue begging for sex always, i just feel bad doing that must times i just sleep with my urge, it's affecting me and cheating is not my stuff.

Arijude:
I can't even imagine sticking my mouth to a pvssy

QueenSekxy:
Oh My!! She's obviously cheating with a woman that gives her the head she needs.
How does she know you weren't doing it well if she has not been receiving it from professionals.

And you said she gave you STD, did you bother asking her where she got that disease From? You need to stop overlooking some things before she gives you a deadly and incurable disease.

The bottom line is that she's a lesbian!!!

Modphase:
How come none of you ladies is addressing the STD issue ?

Mccullum:
To be in union is not by fire by force... It seems both of you not compatible and for you to enforcing your self on her, you may end up in early grave... Your wife is an animal, instrument of Satan who's trying to colonize to unGodly sex and way of life.

Go and retrace your steps and start all over before you find yourself in a journey of no return.

Safitu:
She is complaining because she’s not sexually aroused. Some women need extra care and stimulation to feel sexually aroused. She’s is tired of pretending, because she has finally received an orgasm from outside, which has opened her eyes. This is marriage, so there’s no jumping out. You said you don’t have interest in MouthAction, but clearly that’s what your wife enjoys. The only reason why you don’t like it is because you don’t know how to do it.

Do you know where the clitoris is? What about her nipples ? Do you touch her inner thighs? Do you kiss her neck? Are you gentle with your touch? The fact is that you don’t just shove your dick inside her vagina, or finger her aggressively and think you’ve done a good job. Study your wife’s body. Sex is extremely important.

laydoh:
that is so so rare. The only way it can be a bathroom infection is only when there are virus deposits in the toilet.
So tell me how did the wife got the infection if it ain't from the man. The man got it from her.

Wallade:


I read all information above and my conclusion is that your wife is a lesbian. Her partner is probably that her friend that you know. She has only been tolerating sex with you and she has feelings for you, she wants the relationship with you but she also wants good sex from her lesbian partners.

STDs and STIs can be transmitted through the toilet, your doctor was not correct about his position but I think your doctor strongly believes that your wife is having sex with someone else or some other people.

maynation:
I am not married so I won't affirmatively say things. Dear OP, I understand you need answers to some questions but Nairaland isn't the best platform to get this.
You've not dome anything wrong by seeking the views of others on this but trust me the mistake will be when you allow people who can't even control their home tell you how to do yours.
People who aren't even married yet, people who think marriage and dating are same thing.

Watch people whose home have been shattered come tell you trash that will end up making you towing their path.


Be careful of the kinda advice you put to use hear.
Thanks.

maynation:
I am not married so I won't affirmatively say things. Dear OP, I understand you need answers to some questions but Nairaland isn't the best platform to get this.
You've not dome anything wrong by seeking the views of others on this but trust me the mistake will be when you allow people who can't even control their home tell you how to do yours.
People who aren't even married yet, people who think marriage and dating are same thing.

Watch people whose home have been shattered come tell you trash that will end up making you towing their path.


Be careful of the kinda advice you put to use hear.
Thanks.

liberalchick:
Op, it doesn’t mean your wife is cheating don’t let NL ruin your marriage. Most porn are geared towards a male viewer, so most times the only female friendly porn available are lesbian flicks. So some women that watch porn, watch lesbian porn. Straight women are not as turned off as straight men are to anything gay. Now you guys need to have a talk on why she started watching porn, I suspect she doesn’t feel sexually satisfied.

Her saying “you are not doing it well” just means she is not getting any satisfaction from the way you ‘do’ it. You don’t need to be getting ‘it’ elsewhere to know when you are not sexually satisfied. Again, talk to her, ask her what she wants and why lately she is no longer as excited as she used to be. I will look for the article about female friendly porn, will post it when I see it.

Modified
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a61995/straight-women-lesbian-porn/

maynation:
I am not married so I won't affirmatively say things. Dear OP, I understand you need answers to some questions but Nairaland isn't the best platform to get this.
You've not dome anything wrong by seeking the views of others on this but trust me the mistake will be when you allow people who can't even control their home tell you how to do yours.
People who aren't even married yet, people who think marriage and dating are same thing.

Watch people whose home have been shattered come tell you trash that will end up making you towing their path.


Be careful of the kinda advice you put to use hear.
Thanks.

Safitu:
She is complaining because she’s not sexually aroused. Some women need extra care and stimulation to feel sexually aroused. She’s is tired of pretending, because she has finally received an orgasm from outside, which has opened her eyes. This is marriage, so there’s no jumping out. You said you don’t have interest in MouthAction, but clearly that’s what your wife enjoys. The only reason why you don’t like it is because you don’t know how to do it.

Do you know where the clitoris is? What about her nipples ? Do you touch her inner thighs? Do you kiss her neck? Are you gentle with your touch? The fact is that you don’t just shove your dick inside her vagina, or finger her aggressively and think you’ve done a good job. Study your wife’s body. Sex is extremely important.

pmc01:


You've practically offered no solution or alternative to the solutions mentioned.

kinzation:
I'm being serious about you #maynation. let's take a step with a d.m

yankison:


Sorry are you from the North? If so I do be glad to discuss an important issue with you

Eze2000:
There are various kinds of Lesbians and all can be divided into 2 main categories.



1. Those that tolerate men
2. Those that do not tolerate men.


Women who belong to the second category hate men and normal sex from day one. They are the type that gets disgusted by the sight of the male organ and the prospect of being touched by a man. They may continue in life and not understand themselves. They keep asking themselves why they are different from other women. But then one day, they get touched by another woman and all their sexuality comes alive!!!
On that day, they will know that they are full-blown lesbians.


Now the first category of lesbians is the most psychologically complex. They can have sex and live normally like regular women. They can marry and have kids But a day will come when their real nature will be triggered by another woman and that is when they will really know what they are. Some of these woman can actually love both men and woman, i.e have a male and female lover.

Unfortunately, some of these women cannot return once they cross that line.



Your wife.

Sorry, bro, you married a woman from category one and now she has reached the point of no return. She has tasted lesbianism and is not coming back to you.

It's highly likely she already has a lesbian lover, hence you are a nuisance that must be tolerated and that is why you have to beg sex now and even when you do it you don't get her aroused. You are not her food. That family issue you are talking about might just have coincided with her discovery of her lesbian tendencies and a lesbian lover.


Sorry, your marriage is done. You can try to save it but then there is a risk of AIDS as she roams with other women and brings their disease back to you.

Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos

sweerychick:
I suspected as much! The main culprit is her friend she said that thought her how to do head