Davebrown13:


She used to teach... Not until 5years ago she stopped and started business... But the business as so much squandered a lot of cash.

She's not frustrated, depressed is not it... She prefer things go her way.

By herself she has reported my dad to so many people.

When they look at the matter thoroughly, the fingers points back to her, then she cuts off with those people and they become enemies.

Davebrown13:


A lot sir, a lot. But when he plans with her its disrupts.

But when he does it alone he succeeds, when she learns of the success she quarrels with him why he didn't involve her..and believe me that quarrels goes on for days

lilwetdick:


is she working like working in a real job or is she a full time housewife, maybe she is frustrated or depressed for lack of accomplishment or maybe she is just a bitter woman...but then again, the sabotage from her part maybe not wanting her children to be better than her,,maybe i am wrong but does your father play away game, maybe that might be the cause of her anger

Iogobenz:
so all in all it seems to me your mom is just a nag?come on,this is laughable.
What woman isn't?
Seem she is not as bad as portrayed.you used way too harsh words bro.
Careful now.
If your dad succeeds alone,he can go on like that na..
I mean what else can she do but whine like every other woman out there?

Davebrown13:


Bro, when a woman calls u a beggar, despite u know his source of income... Calls u a womanizer despite u know
He's very careful with ladies, calls u an idiot for just no reason... Guy that one pass nag.

She doesn't see anything good about u and constantly compares u to his mates.

Guy how would u feel...?

You will feel withdrawn.. And feel bad especially when the next day she would still come to ask for money 200k , 100k etc and u will still give her and she would still insult u.

If u don't u would receive label and the house would be on fire

Iogobenz:
Tell your dad to try this.let him leave the house abruptly for say 2 months without telling her or financing anything around the house.
So she can find and know his true value and will learn to respect him.
Absence is the best remedy for "see finish",unless of course,there is more.

Davebrown13:


She used to teach... Not until 5years ago she stopped and started business... But the business as so much squandered a lot of cash.

She's not frustrated, depressed is not it... She prefer things go her way.

By herself she has reported my dad to so many people.

When they look at the matter thoroughly, the fingers points back to her, then she cuts off with those people and they become enemies.

SKhanmi:
Seen a situation like this before.

Only permanent separation would solve this. She would mellow when everybody has fonagbe.

Davebrown13:


Guy my dad left the house January this year came back may...

Guy the insults didn't stop.. It continued on phone and WhatsApp... The quarrel reduced because he consistly ignored her calls except if it was so urgent she would message him.

Joromi12:
My gal has this trait. Troublesome . Has no friends anymore. Meaning all her life is work and you

Davebrown13:


She's a graduate of mathematics education in unilag. She's sound.

Smart, but I just don't know the flaws thats in her body that wants to consume us. She beautiful too. But its not a situation to endure.

If I was in my dads shoes, I would have sent her packing long ago.

But my dads reasoning is bewildering... He just doesn't like separation or anything that will devour peace. And keeps his problems to himself.

At this point, there's no need to blame anyone. It won't change anything. Look at your mom as someone that is sick and needs help. Sickness isn't only when you are confined to a sick bed. I strongly suspect that your mom is depressed for whatever reason and needs to be counseled and prayed for. I don't know her, but for what I'm reading here, most times, she do regret her actions [even when you don't know], but doesn't know how to tame the voices in her head.

I'm very sure that she wasn't like this when she was young or in school. What happened? A number of factors could have a hand in this.

1. She might be harboring unforgiveness and finding it difficult to let go which led to her being depressed.

2. It could be that she promised someone marriage and disappointed the person, and then the person said to her, "Hey, you'll never enjoy your marriage to that man."

4. The devil might just be using her to shatter the family because your dad is making progress in life. I tell you, the best way to destroy yourself is making so much money in life without any root in God.

My advice to you: love your mom, forgive, and pray for her. Pray until she sense that you are praying for her. Since she's not physically sick, it may be hard for your dad to know what to do, but trust me, mom needs help. Don't just express your frustrations against her, take calculated steps to reclaim her from the devil.

Lastly, I wouldn't be ashamed to recommend you take her to SCOAN in Lagos. The family must remain together. Luckily, Ogun state is a stone throw from Lagos.

Modphase:
The entire fault is with your dad. A man should marry only a woman that listen n respect him. A man should marry only a woman he can tame. When a man marry cos of class beauty wealth or all those vanity stuff the consequences is what I think your dad might be experiencing but most of all your dad need to learn how to curtail the excesses of your mom. He can see advice from his mate or those more experienced than him. This case is simply as abc if I were u. A woman insult me over money will not get 1 Kobo from me no matter how many decade it last to have her brain resettled. If she like she can poison my food, maybe your father as an easy way of making the money he spent on insult from your mom sha.

samuelson06:
@op

Davebrown13:


She's yoruba, Ogun state precisely.. Dads delta..

Herbephe1:
no matter what, she still remains your mother!

Davebrown13:
She doesn't take to corrections she believe she's right...when she's logically wrong... Sometimes when u reason with her to know why she behaves on a particular issue u will be surprised as her reasons are so baseless and illogical.

When u feel like u could save the situation, u would have escalated the problem. U can't argue reasonably with her , at times she feels bad for what she has done...but that part of her only comes once in a while.. But when it comes to issues concerning we the kids at times her reasoning is sound. But when it comes to my dad.. Its always illogical and I'm this type of person that observes my environment and every little changes that occurs.

I always feel for my dad. He is lonely but what can I do. The only way he can get off his loneliness is by talking to us the kids and the few people he has left to call friends coz most of his friends left him because of her
attitude.

Dad is so smart, wise and very intelligent. My mum is smart but her character is killing. If not that she's my mum... We won't cross paths.

Next2Bezee:
Edit the title of your thread.

If you never had a mother, you would not have been born.

Not everyone is mature enough to manage themselves, not to talk of having children and managing them. Many parents will be there feeling like say na them know pass, but, lowkey, they are destroying the lives of their kids.

It's a real pity.

Iogobenz [b:
post=79949647]First mistake I think your dad made is trying to build a dream with a woman.
It rarely succeeds.you don't build with women,[/b]you build and bring her in to enjoy,else na yawa.
Secondly,I think you are judging her too much.
Not every woman or person can succeed in business and it is natural to have your mom favour her people over your dad's.
Just try and love her the way she is and try as much as possible to avoid confrontations!if she is making a mistake and you find out,you either let her make it so she learns from it or look for a way to help her out without any sort of confrontations.
Also,everyone is valuable.na when you go lose her weh you go know the things she did for y'all.
Be wise,you don't wish bad upon blood.
Peace

Samyj247:
pls what state is your mum from....IMO?

schoolboymatt:
Op are u the first child?

Samyj247:
pls what state is your mum from....IMO?

Elvisage:
Bro I Really feel for you, but the thing is some of us have experienced disgrace shame and other ordeals from our mum, yet we still find a way to still love her because she gave us life. I will advice that you find a way to still love her regardless.