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Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by OmniSparrow: 5:12am On Aug 16, 2019 |
zeb04:This write up should be in bold. Men please do better. If you have such thoughts on marriage, kindly let your partner know before marriage. Not after entering you start doing all this. 2 years with another woman. If the tables were turned, the entire village would have heard but he's convincing her to keep this to herself while dying in silence. Madam Op, 26 years and you want to start this? Bring it out to the light. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by uuzba(m): 5:12am On Aug 16, 2019 |
bitingcool:Sorry about that Marriage is meant for open heart . You totally open your heart to someone else. You have to do it. Both of you. All your weakness. The husband has a very dirty agenda and is justifying himself. OP must open up totally. Stops keeping secrets in your innermost heart Marriage issue is meant for you both. The seriousness of your issue concern you both. NOT general public (we online). None of us online, here, are marriage counselor. Even if we are, you cannot know. You can't just be reading comments and select the comment your like. Maybe the comment you hate most is the actual solution to your problem. If you want to be solving serious marriage issue by reading comments on this website, you will hear all kinds of nonsense comments . How do you select the correct one? Selecting only what makes sense to you? Your poor judgement already led you to this problem. How can you rely of same poor judgement to lead you out of it? |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by femi4: 5:16am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Oma307:What you do expect from common Omo Alata. She insults people both online and offline. She was brought up in "Alatas" way |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Roma4shot: 5:17am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Madam, your stories is not different from the usual crisis a thousand an one marriage face but mind you is your own side of the stories so I will never take it to heart. Main while I will advice you to leave your husband out of it n check your self properly, from experience is posible that they may be things that has changed in you that's making the marriage tiring to your husband. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by bigcil2(m): 5:18am On Aug 16, 2019 |
miss00000: Well if you guys actually did court wedding he can’t legally marry another wife else he’ll be open for prosecution and some serious jail time. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by XhosaNostra(f): 5:19am On Aug 16, 2019 |
You don't have to stay in a marriage where you're not happy. 26 is way too young to be putting your own happiness on the back burner for someone else. Start planning an exit strategy because if you think things are bad now, imagine how they're going to get once this other woman becomes a permanent fixture in your lives. You're right, you didn't sign up for this shìt show, thus you don't have to partake in it. Fùck him! Do you still love him after this revelation? This would have killed feelings on the spot for me. I hate two-timing men with passion. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by TB9ja: 5:24am On Aug 16, 2019 |
So many wrong advice here. Most of the people telling the OP to leave, will never leave if they were in her shoes |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Profcamsey(m): 5:26am On Aug 16, 2019 |
You have been with an unfortunate all this while but you didn't know. Whether you remain in that marriage or not, he'll keep disrespecting you. This is why women should be financially independent. He knows you can't stand without you and he's using that to maltreat you. Please leave this man. Mrs status is not the key to wealth or long life. Don't a woman kill you because they want your husband, African people are fetish. Take your son and leave Asap. Learn a skill or get a job. Grow yourself and see him regret losing a great woman. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Honeysweetest(f): 5:27am On Aug 16, 2019 |
u see this country eeh, the next story is about a man whose wife is exchanging nudes with guys,cheating,saw the advice given to him,dump, and find another,y still wasting time, but now the table is turned,is a man cheating and u all are saying,stay for the sake of ur kids,men cheat,I have to bear it,try and find happiness in that home. tufiakwa,this is the highest form of sentiment that exist in the country,women can bear abi,but men won't. madam dump him, he has broken the vow. find ur happiness,but outside his home. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Nobody: 5:36am On Aug 16, 2019 |
zeb04: Seconded. Let her leave |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by semyman: 5:37am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Christians are selfish and gullible at the same time Why will you slowpokes always have this type of mentality, that a man can only marry one wife? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Nobody: 5:42am On Aug 16, 2019 |
SirVintageCock:lol its shocking sha, the disparity between comments on two consecutive threads |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Nobody: 5:42am On Aug 16, 2019 |
bekpo: Sharp! |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Oritsewhandey(m): 5:45am On Aug 16, 2019 |
miss00000:..................................... Listen up, my friend! Do you love your life? Your child's tomorrow?? Your story lines resembled ALMOST MY MUM's marital episodes. Try on below: 1. Collect whatever monies he gives you. 2. Family establish a sustainable business, as QUICK as possible. 3. Take that business as your 2nd husband. 4. Try build a mini 2 or 3 bedroom for YOURSELF. 5. NO WOMAN FIGHTS A MAN & WIN!!! 6. Moment your husband goes with other woman, move to your QUICKLY BUILT flat. 7. Never worry. Being Grass Widow is just temporary. 8. Your child still BEARS his/father's name. 9. Change all your online IDENTITIES. To forestall spiritual attacks from the 3rd party. 10. DON'T REFUSE ANY MONIES HE GIVES YOU AT THESE EXTRA TIME. YOU WILL NEED THEM BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE. 11. Don't fight his attempt to marry outside. YOU CAN NEVER WIN OVER SUCH. Think business. Think fast. 12. Build your business. Build your mini flat. Move on. 13. We went through same thing. Except by God, if you don't listen, the collateral damages MAY RUIN YOUR LIFE & CHILD's too ( God forbid that) I am an Architect today by God's grace & MY MUM's life-threatening agony to sail us through. Wake up & stop whining. WHEN LIFE THROWS YOU A SOUR LEMON, MAKE A LEMONADE FROM IT. God be with you, my sister. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Oritsewhandey(m): 5:49am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Try these, below: 1. Collect whatever monies he gives you. 2. Family establish a sustainable business, as QUICK as possible. 3. Take that business as your 2nd husband. 4. Try build a mini 2 or 3 bedroom for YOURSELF. 5. NO WOMAN FIGHTS A MAN & WIN!!! 6. Moment your husband goes with other woman, move to your QUICKLY BUILT flat. 7. Never worry. Being Grass Widow is just temporary. 8. Your child still BEARS his/father's name. 9. Change all your online IDENTITIES. To forestall spiritual attacks from the 3rd party. 10. DON'T REFUSE ANY MONIES HE GIVES YOU AT THESE EXTRA TIME. YOU WILL NEED THEM BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE. 11. Don't fight his attempt to marry outside. YOU CAN NEVER WIN OVER SUCH. Think business. Think fast. 12. Build your business. Build your mini flat. Move on. 13. We went through same thing. Except by God, if you don't listen, the collateral damages MAY RUIN YOUR LIFE & CHILD's too ( God forbid that) I am an Architect today by God's grace & MY MUM's life-threatening agony to sail us through. Wake up & stop whining. WHEN LIFE THROWS YOU A SOUR LEMON, MAKE A LEMONADE FROM IT. God be with you, my sister. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Oritsewhandey(m): 5:50am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Try these, below: 1. Collect whatever monies he gives you. 2. YOU MUST establish a sustainable business, as QUICK as possible. 3. Take that business as your 2nd husband. 4. Try build a mini 2 or 3 bedroom for YOURSELF. 5. NO WOMAN FIGHTS A MAN & WIN!!! 6. Moment your husband goes with other woman, move to your QUICKLY BUILT flat. 7. Never worry. Being Grass Widow is just temporary. 8. Your child still BEARS his/father's name. 9. Change all your online IDENTITIES. To forestall spiritual attacks from the 3rd party. 10. DON'T REFUSE ANY MONIES HE GIVES YOU AT THESE EXTRA TIME. YOU WILL NEED THEM BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE. 11. Don't fight his attempt to marry outside. YOU CAN NEVER WIN OVER SUCH. Think business. Think fast. 12. Build your business. Build your mini flat. Move on. 13. We went through same thing. Except by God, if you don't listen, the collateral damages MAY RUIN YOUR LIFE & CHILD's too ( God forbid that) I am an Architect today by God's grace & MY MUM's life-threatening agony to sail us through. Wake up & stop whining. WHEN LIFE THROWS YOU A SOUR LEMON, MAKE A LEMONADE FROM IT. God be with you, my sister. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by MarianaTrench: 5:51am On Aug 16, 2019 |
miss00000: So long as your husband handles his responsibilities as a husband and a father it's not your business what he does outside! |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by MarianaTrench: 5:54am On Aug 16, 2019 |
bigcil2: Legal prosecution here in Nigeria? |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by TSRC: 5:55am On Aug 16, 2019 |
If you were my sister, I would advise you to leave that house immediately and divorce him very quickly. Turned a 26 year old to a first wife. What nonsense |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by somez(m): 5:58am On Aug 16, 2019 |
OP. Kindly follow this advice Cased closed akinade28: |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by TGM2015: 6:02am On Aug 16, 2019 |
miss00000:Allow him and support him at least for now. Your husband seems to be responsible, he feels obliged to marry the lady in maybe because of the favour she has done for him and some past history the lady has disclosed to him. There is no genuine love on the part of your husband. Let me tell, there is no reason to leave a marriage that is not violent and no emotional blackmail. The only solution here is if the lady decides not to marry him. Marriage was done because you become pregnant, there is high possibility that he has chosen the lady over you long before the marriage. The same reason he went ahead to marry you is the same reason he feels he MUST marry the lady. The only solution is to come in terms with the reality or fight the battle spiritual by praying for God to take control of the Lady's heart and mind to lost interest in marrying your husband and declared same to him. Remember, happiness and joy are free, you need them to enjoy your life. Seriously, polygamous marriage is not bad in itself but it depends on all parties involved to be understanding and the husband to be fair to all. I believe you husband can be fair enough to both of you and God has a way to compensate wives that their husband is not fair to them. For example, Jacob's wives, God closed Rachael's (I think I am right with the name) womb to forced Jacob to love Leah. The lineage of Judah, David, Jesus came from Leah also. Broken homes have never helped the society, except for violence, abuse and emotional blackmail, in extreme, being separated is better than divorced. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by XhosaNostra(f): 6:05am On Aug 16, 2019 |
TGM2015: What a load of tosh! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by gbagyiza: 6:09am On Aug 16, 2019 |
lilmax: This is d perfect advice. Go n stay with your parents, he will come to his senses n look for a way to settle this. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by oxiide22(m): 6:10am On Aug 16, 2019 |
DATMAT: |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by majamajic(m): 6:16am On Aug 16, 2019 |
bmos: am not the Op pls or are drunk ? |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by jossytech(m): 6:18am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Sorry for the way he behaves and it saddened my heart for this, but i wont suggest what all are saying to leave, report him to your parent and his with the solution, tell em you want them to talk to him, claim your love and loyalty to him and that you want him to take care of his son or daughter, u dont wanna raise a child without a father, dont try to be a living widow, be a real wife, provides and do ur responsibility, when he comes take ur child to him to greet, you can turn him back to you, he will see difference, who knows maybe hes under charm with d woman, dis one of the reason i hate any biz dealing with single or married woman, i just hate it before you see, they will want you by force Dont forget Romans 12:12 [/b] Let your hope keep you joyful, be patient in your troubles, and pray at all times. [b] and 2 Corinthians 1:3-4:[/b] Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 3Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God[b][/b] And lastly Romans 10:11: [/b]For the scripture says: [b]“No one who rests his faith on him will be disappointed, disgraced or shame"[b][/b] As you rest your case into the hand of God and do ur best to have peace and hold your house, you will not be disappointed |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Ibkay32(m): 6:18am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Gwwwrd!!! which kind of advice are you giving this woman? you people that said she shud leave her marriage, you think is easy like that? marriage that never last for a year.. madam the only advice I can give is that ur man need prayer intervention, that's not ordinary eyes..your man don eat èfó, firstly discuss it with ur parent to hear what they will say.. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Nobody: 6:22am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Topshow4real: While I’m not an advocate of divorce, what the world has become now has made sanity, happiness and good health far more important than the conventional need to remain in an disrespectful marriage hoping a man will change. moreover we dont have the same strength and zeal with respect to using the same coping mechanism for challenges. U can tell a person to remain in a marriage, being a strong personality she will cope and weather all the challenges, another woman will stay nd in three years what will be left of her will shock you. Love sometimes is what makes it difficult to continue with such a relationship... as much as love makes it easy for u to forgive, love also make the pain hurt to the marrow and difficult for some women to adjust with their man entering another woman....for some women this issue is no big deal, so far the man is not gonna being the woman home and money keeps flowing they are good to go... but for some the betrayal is like a thousand knives to the heart... |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by ScotMisile: 6:23am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Seriously, am a guy but I still don't understand why men cheat. I guess it's upbringing and life style.... Women start loving with your senses and stop loving to survive.. .Sex, in itself is irritating... With all the water, saliva, fluids... Yukkk.... But, the sweetness is outta this world. So, stick to one and endure the irritations And Sweetness.... If you must be dirty it shou be with one woman. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by Nobody: 6:26am On Aug 16, 2019 |
miss00000: Hello OP; There is no need regretting anything. What you need is serious prayers and God will intercede for you. #RemainBlessed |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by ghettochild(m): 6:27am On Aug 16, 2019 |
When this one now use confirm juju now for her hubby.. Men will come out and see she's a wife from hell..... Una no talk now ooo.. If na woman do strong thing now...we go dey hear end time wife... Aunty26, u r too young to be experiencing this thing... Just move out...let him enjoy his business partner.. Ur marriage has been based on lies since u knew yr olosho hubby... Can marriage just be b banned for Pete sake...that thing is a sham.... This generation don't know what marriage really is... We see it as an achievement ooo or a status u must attain if u r to be regarded as being successful.. |
Re: My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me, Help by MiddleDimension: 6:31am On Aug 16, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: when you were younger and had it all, your attitudes is always ''to hell with any man who cannot put up with your dating multiple men!'' i really like the way time flies and power changes hands. @op, please talk to parents on both sides and any other mature person. take the necessary actions you need to take in order to stay healthy in the mind. good luck after helping to mediate in a marital dispute, a priest once told another priest that if this is what marriage is all about, that means they both made the right decision. |
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