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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by YoungG12(m): 12:40pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
brother,get yourself a good lappy and a phone of 3gig gram upward and you're good to go,for it is written that,"man shall not leave by it's monthly salary alone" some idiot after reading this will be thinking about that illegal stuff but,there dirty mind wouldn't let them think straight about what i really mean 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by mechanics(m): 12:42pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Little is something, the Bible says we should not despise our little beginning, start from somewhere and by the grace of God, a better job will come soon. |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Nobody: 12:43pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Francisayo: First thing to do is to let the girl go. You say she is serving, meaning she is already looking at marriage in a year, max two year's time. So let her go and focus on yourself. Because if you use the time you should spend on your own self-development now, to sustain the relationship with her, even if you guys managed to get married in your currently broke condition, that type of cashless marriage would be hell on earth. Next is to learn a skill. I don't know what you studied or where your strengths lie, but any skill that brings you daily money is good enough: welding, mechanic job, dstv installation, web development etc. Throw that degree certificate into a drawer somewhere and learn how to do something with your hands. While you do that, you can also get on the track of professional certification in accounting. That's a very valuable skillset, though it can take a while to acquire it unless you studied that particular course while at school 3 Likes |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by donfeluche(m): 12:43pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
O boy your plight is that of a typical Nigerian Youth if I may advise I will suggest you leave the teaching Job is going to cage you forever, go for the sales job it will give you or create room for you to search for other jobs as a marketer in other big firm and sometimes the salary is not usually all there is, you might be getting tips that can help you, also try lookout for where to learn driving, and get a valid drivers license, it will help you to get a marketing job either in big firm or even a store outlet, by the time you start supplies to customer you will be getting 3-5k daily money, before you know it, you will start saving and become a man, but don't allow boyfriend girlfriend issue to lure you in to depression, and suicide will set in 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Blissbath(f): 12:45pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Learn a skill |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by zcee: 12:45pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
I ve learnt so much in this life.Am a student schooling in one of the polytechnics in this country,if i see the way students esp boys flex,waste money and resources even spend extravagantly on women I will begin to ask my self do these folks know how life is once they become graduates as in for me life s not a bed of rose as you think once you bcom a graduate am not saying school flexing is bad but too much of everything is not good.some will even flex and forget what they are in school to do,the little money sent to them for sustenance all they do is to waste it or by latest design to impress the public esp the once that received bank alert always.my coursemate once insulted me that i don't dress well like all those big boys in school and the day she will fall for me is when I start rocking designers I was like look at this fool,don't judge a book by its cover. School life is hard though but it has thought me how to become wise even nw am school am saving from d little sent to me in order to invest it somewhere because i knw there will be little chances of help or employment when am done with school and I pray things will be feasible for me with what i ve saved up...So brother you see that your gf just minimize your relationship and communication with her because women are unpredictable,you will see d picture clear when a rich sharp man will come for her for anything and i advice you just take d teaching job den sum it up with external lesson and at the same time be searching for another better job...life is not easy bro I pray u will find a better pathway 4 Likes |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Nobody: 12:45pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Payperboii: Preach!!!! |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 12:47pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
DonBenny77:Let's get it straight. No university forced anyone to go to school and besides, no one owes you a mouth watering job because you are graduate. NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING. A good country and working system will not fall from heaven neither can prayer bring them. A good country, freedom, good system and good standard of living will come to Nigerian when Nigerians are will to pay the price to bring it. These things don't come easy and many Nigerians are expecting to come just like that. These things cost blood and sweat. 3 Likes |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Leonbonapart(m): 12:49pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Francisayo:cut that girlfriend of yours off first. Then start from there and see how things goes |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Alphafeezay(m): 12:51pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Don't place any importance on your GF for now... TBT. Also stay online on productive forums., work hard and pray harder. ...... Your future is very bright bro!!! 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Iambond(m): 12:54pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Look at your situation and realise that you don't need a gf at this point. #nuffsaid |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 12:55pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
arinola2504:No one is making jest of him and calling him lazy. We don't hate him or wish him to suffer. Most of the time, we men, unlike women, give those we like tough love. We are waking him up to reality. He has to realise the way things are and humble himself to appreciate and take the opportunities that come his way no matter how small they are. Life in Nigeria no easy. I wish him well. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by adokhai(m): 12:55pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
I advice you take the job forget your age for now, buy a good laptop to learn some skills in a year's time you won't believe what you have become if you are focused and ready. |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by stanley000: 12:57pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Martinez39:LMAO this meme below sums it all up |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by gabicon: 12:57pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Francisayo: I can feel your frustrations bro, but the truth of the matter is that you are still living in the past. In the 60s, 70s and 80s people finished school and got jobs but in this new era you need a skill to get a good job, without a skill you will get jobs that anyone with an average brain can do n the pay is low. What I'm explaining to you takes the average graduate at least2 year post nysc to understand. The era of graduate jobs is over we are now in the era of skilled job meaning a skilled area boy will be preferable to an unskilled PHD holder. The first step for you is to stop feeling sorry for yourself, graduates in developed countries are facing similar plight. Secondly information is power, take your phone and check for the skills of the future, corelate these skills to the Nigerian environment, research on the skills and pick one skill you will like to make a career of. Like data science, 3d printing, ux design, AI, business analyst etc. Commit your time to learning theses skills and join communities (like association, WhatsApp group, social media forum and LinkedIn). Trust me in 6 months, your vocabulary will so change if you are diligent with it. You start to meet people that do the same thing and from there opportunities are shared. For example I went for a conference and met people that had similar skills like I do, a WhatsApp group was created and somebody in the group just posted that a new company from America is coming into the Nigerian market and are looking for people with my skill set. Don't lock yourself up in a room crying, go out socialize, it is seen people that get help and see opportunities. You will be surprised that in that village you are in there are opportunities, you just can't see it because of the sunshade of self-pity you are wearing. As for your love interest, you both are in the building phase, I will suggest less of fun and more of work. Lastly don't forget to make God the first priority He only can open doors. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by information1: 12:59pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
izzou: oh seriously I commend you for this... To the op, as my brother will always say.. die hard,keep pushing. Don't even think there's a limit. If the she can't bear with what your passing through then give a space. Most ladies want food that has been cooked(come back to your normal state and think well on how your gonna restrategy yourself).. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by DonBenny77(m): 1:00pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Martinez39: There was a country, maybe you don't know that. It used to be that way. After school you would have job options to choose from. So don't blame the youth who felt he could easily secure a fair paying job after service. |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 1:00pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Nnamebuka:Lol. The guy just dey give motivational speech and life tips like say hin sabi. Let just respect myself so I won't be a negative energy and vibe. |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by muelzik(m): 1:02pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Guy, do something with the phone you are using to type... Invest some cash in starting a small online business, nurture it with the same tears and pains. It's alright, things will change. You only need to change your mind about starting a job you create. # I often tell graduates who don't get to find a job. Create a job for yourself. I mean, find your own job for yourself. Start something creative. They are many. Copywriting pays, Dropshipping pays, mini importation (the smart way) pays, affiliate marketing pays, I can keep counting. Guy, brace up and search with ease, there are things you can add to your job to be the man you truly want to be. I work and run a dropshipping store. Salary is nothing, but what I make from dropshipping is cool and can be sailed up further. Let me not talk about my blog 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Martinez39(m): 1:03pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
DonBenny77:I understand that even though no one owes anyone anything, every responsible government must make jobs and platforms available for human capital and skills to thrive for the best of society. I understand. Our leaders are heartless monsters that don't give a sh!t. |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by dangoteinlaw: 1:03pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
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Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by MartinsD12(m): 1:08pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Francisayo:I have nothing to say but it seem you are lazy to work from your write up, start little, the place you are going to teach you describe it as local that's too bad shows you are not ready to work 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Dee60: 1:09pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
All the sales reps I ever hired got bigger and better paying jobs while actively doing the sales and enjoying it! My advice to you is contained in that line. Study it! And by the way, I never paid them as low as you are paid, yet they used the job as platform to get better jobs. That is the way life is. Many graduates see their certificates as achievement instead of seeing it as a platform for the next level. What is the B.Sc? It used to be something special some forty years ago but it has now become as common as what school cert used to be in those days. Think about relationships when you are some distance to getting married! If you are not in that frame for the next five years, then use your energy to build your future. Above all, believe. Believe in God. Believe and pray in the name of Jesus. And build good confidence also in yourself. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by millionboi2: 1:14pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
topsquino:Abeg how do I make money singing worship song. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by Yem007: 1:14pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
muelzik: hello bro what platform do u use for your dropshipping biz? Shopify or Amazon? |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by mascot87(m): 1:16pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
izzou: That guy is 27 and I am 32. If he knows what I am going through,he will thank God for his own situation 4 Likes |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by TemmyT002(m): 1:16pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
The problem with many people these days is wanting more than they can afford. They see other people doing well and then conclude that their lives should be the same. Most of the time, it is always about money. You have a job that many people would do anything to get. A bird in hand is better than 20 in the bush. Enjoy what you have right now. Encourage yourself to like it no matter how boring it is and assure yourself that something better will show up in the nearest future. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by emmaodet: 1:22pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
IamCharles123: My bro, time will tell and reality will don on him |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by emmaodet: 1:23pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Kenneth10110: That is the thing. Have 2-3 plans that are different. Plan on certificate, outside certificate and another plan entirely from the two 3 Likes |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by franugo(m): 1:23pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
[quote author=Francisayo post=82068843]My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate... I graduated and served d nation. I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively... I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month. I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work. A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish i Hello bro...where are u now? 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by stormborn28(m): 1:23pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
emmaodet:hohohohoooo..i have been saying it hear... Most of this undergraduates are so naive that they dream big sitting on a chair in a big company in Lagos, Abuja, P/H...better drop those eyes and start facing reality... Some girls go use puna but nothing go come out of it... Bro 25k is manageable in a village setting... Think outside the box... See if there is any farm products from that village that you can bring to city centres... God is your strength 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Understand My Life Any Longer by babtoundey(m): 1:24pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
You need to understand your dad's demise has nothing to do with what you are facing. This is a social problem it's a challenge most working class graduates battle day in day out. And my friend, you are lucky; You are JUST 27 and you are privileged to get 25k paying job. I don't really have any advice for you because I don't see what you present as a problem - it's just a trend. 1 Like |
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