Belafonte:


So, what’s your real name?

Maybe I should ask in private

Atigba:


Osanobua where are you

LaExpert:


I expect you to know better if you're a doctor in training as mentioned.

You should know that kidney disease is not likely to be diagnosed until the signs are obvious and that would be about stage 4. You should also know that an acute failure may occur really fast though a transplant may not be needed.

By the way, the HLA test can take as little as 1 week to get results.

funmisticqueen:
Let her do what she wants to do. It is not by force to give him her kidney
Also, isn't it difficult to carry a pregnancy with just one kidney in future?

Acidosis:


You have not seen instances where people refuse surgery for life threatening situations out of fear but instead choose to pray and visit men of God? You think they don't love themselves?


If love is love, go and donate your kidney to your girlfriend of 3 months. Love is sacrificial but it takes some levels of love to invoke deeper sacrifices. I would not empty my life savings for a girlfriend of 3 months, but I probably would do even more for a wife of 10-20 years. Love is not love, it takes a great deal of work and commitment to invoke deep commitment and sacrifice on the other side.

naijacentric:
baba u nor well no vex a man talking like a lady

naijacentric:
i think naija women should be banned from marriage u guys don't love unconditionally just look at d nonsense u just spewed

funmisticqueen:
who is this bitter soul.

FYI, I no longer participate in the gutter that is Ubunja's thread, have other things on my mind than bitter red pill men with an entitlement, victim. mentality who has nothing to offer

Chukapage:
you are obviously the one with not just a bitter soul but a BLACK SOUL .you don't care about his threads but your always there Bitch please!!

funmisticqueen:
when last did you see me there. Carry your lowkey gay, bitter ass outta here.

Martinez39:

In your need to simultaneously defend and make excuses for the woman and soothe your conscience, you wrote me something I had repeated over and over again. For the umpteenth time, she has the right not to give her kidney but the fact still remains that she doesn't love her husband because if she did, she will give the kidney. No two ways about it.

You yourself know that you can't love any man except for his resources not to talk of sacrificing for love so to soothe your conscience, knowing fully well that you are selfish and have no love for any man except his resources, you are defending the woman and leaving out the important truths. Let's be upfront, tell it as it is, and stop deceiving ourselves. Though she has the right to refuse giving him her kidney but it stands that she has no love for him. Insecurity is truly the weakness of a woman.

yeyeosoronga:


Love has always been a scam in most relationships, and often used loosely to manipulate others. She doesn't love her husband, but nothing suggests her husband loves her either.
I wouldn't advice her to give her husband of 2 months her kidney if she's not comfortable doing so. It's as simple as that

Martinez39:
Lol. Na so. Keep defending. He partly trained her in school yet nothing suggests he loves her? Whether he loves her or not wasn't our bone of contention. The crux is she doesn't love the man. After accepting to marry a man, you suddenly start analysing whether he loves you or not because it's time to make sacrifice for the love in marriage. Aunty, let's end the issue. We can agree to disagree.

yeyeosoronga:


Because you trained even your relative through school doesn't mean you deserve a kidney, bros. It doesn't even mean you would offer them a kidney either despite freely giving up your money, if the tables were turned.
While it's unfortunate the gentleman in question is so Ill to need an organ transplant, his wife shouldn't be shamed into giving hers up unwillingly.
If she's noble and brave enough to do so, I would cheer her on and never discourage her not to. However, if she's also realistic enough and true to herself to decline giving up her kidney in the name of love, I would equally support her gidigban.

Martinez39:
This is nonsense and unrelated to our discussion. People who pray instead of going to the doctors are just being foolish and are blinded by faith. It has nothing to do with love. It's just an immense confidence in one's god. A human being can run fine on one kidney. There is no reason to deny your good husband of a kidney, let's just admit that she doesn't love her good husband and is willing to run when sh!t hits the fan. Let's say it as it is and stop giving excuses.

I don't have a girlfriend and would never have one.

Martinez39:

Note that:
1) Whether the husband loves the girl or not is not an issue of our discussion. I said this before but you are feigning ignorance.
2) Whether the man deserves it or not is not an issue of our discussion. You are bringing it up for no reason other than to build up excuses and defend the woman for the sake of conscience.
3) We have agreed that the woman has the right not to give out her kidney but it's a fact that she doesn't love her husband. If she loves her husband, she will give her kidney. No two ways about it.

The embolden is just my main point and that is what is giving your conscience a tough time because you know that even though you ought to love, you yourself can't love a man except for his resources not to talk of sacrificing your kidney to save his life despite telling him that you love him and "for better for worse". So it's natural to defend the woman and make excuses for her to The woman does not love the man. End of story.

SHOCK7:

what I want 2 know,is why the last part of 'ur paragraph of not having a gf?

tyeenigga:
If you are on Abuja or can get Human Rights Radio contact they can help the family, they needed one kidney and four people came for free donation.

sirclemzy:

It's obvious that you are just looking for excuses for your cousin not to donate.
You have already taken a stand on it with your family.

uzoexcel:

i will use something i got from John Grisham's book, 'A time to kill.
For those advocating for the woman to leave this man,i would suggest this. Close your eyes and then Imagine this scenario but with the other way round. i.e The woman needing a kidney.would you suggest that the Man divorce her?

madgoat:



That your cousin is a witch. She never loved the man or else she would not think twice of donating a kidney to a man she loves. I really hope something terribly bad happens to her and she will need the help of other.

LillyVal:
Thank you o!

jclassiq:


This is the problem with the world today. Ppl are increasingly becoming selfish.

purples25:
She can still live with her other kidney. And thats her husband.

Well, i was going to comment with all indignation and fury but thats the only piece of my mind i will show. Besides, i dont have any right to judge.

Greatzeus:

Every other girl up there supported the girl's decision expect you. Wow, meaning you would do that for your husband if you are in her shoe. You have a good heart.

yeyeosoronga:


No Naija man loves unconditionally either.