So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

What's her gram handle so I can either confirm or allay your fear(s)

sinaj:
Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

My dear I don tire for men,

What do you guys want?

it is well with you.

sinaj:
Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

Stfu

Tales of Man married to a slay queen


With what I've noticed in ladies, guys should consider settling with cripples. I mean 'faithful' cripple

@OP

It's obvious that you married another man's wife/the wrong woman. A true wife's invaluableness (to her husband, a sane husband of course) lies in the attributes of selflessness, meekness and sweetness - unfortunately she possesses only sweetness which isn't enough to guarantee you peace of mind. And a virtuous woman knows the difference between dressing classy and dressing slutty. So, I support your decision.

Ignore anyone who'll tell you that insecurity is worrying you.

Bros, i will advice you to divorce her for your health and peace of mind.

HE WHO MARRY AND DIVORCE, LIVES TO MARRY ANOTHER DAY

bomasek:
What's her gram handle so I can either confirm or allay your fear(s)

yeye Dey worey you

Hmm

If it smells like shiit bro, trust me it can't be burger, its a 100% shiit

Been there seen all...

Never under-estimate your gut instincts. Thats how nature and God speaks to you.

Was blessed with a slut for a wife once upon a time, i simply took it in my stride and pretended God was probably dealing with me for my past deeds by omission and commission. God was so merciful not to have allowed any kids between us, that would have been my undoing.

In hindsight, i actually saw the handwritings but my senses were blocked to teach me a lesson. Woman wey her mama born 6 children all for different men. Na oyibo i dey talk about o. Man don see things...

But when i do her shege...till date I know she will never recover from how I served her back. Na TV and newspapers she from dey see me now... Praise the Lord...

These days i use every bit of my life lessons to teach and educate people with zero inhibitions.

If you want, i can give you a recipe for a good dosage on her with no physical harm whatsoever. Na just the kids wey dey between una go be the only stress.

Fish wey don dry no dey let bend again.
Rubbish...

Samolaogun

You people love ladies who are “WELL” dressed.
“Ah baby your skirt should come up small na, you are not an old woman OR baby, wear bumshorts, I like it”

Please bro, manage her...God shall give you the grace

Make I sip my Akamu abeg.

When you turn a blind eye to the looks that will look back at you only for the looks every one see only to realise that the eyes you used in seeing the looks is same the looks stares back at.

mysticgal:


yeye Dey worey you

OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

bomasek:

Till they are officially divorced, she still remain “his”

You married a slay queen na.

A slay queen can never be satisfied with the attention, care, love and money of ONE man.

A virtuous woman cannot turn slutty overnight. At 24, she was a slay queen, and a slay queen she would forever be.

I’m surprised no female on here saw where he said “attending to the kids effectively is now a problem” y’all are addressing the “goodlook” aspect just to mock men.


Talk to your wife. If she doesn’t coordinate herself. Let her be and enjoy life with your kids.

I fear she can’t be tamed. You sound like a weakling sef.

What are her social media handles, so I can go and tell her.

mysticgal:


Till they are officially divorced, she still remain “his”

I come in peace

I see this is a throwaway account, one post and one topic since Aug 8 2019.

Time spent online: 29 minutes 33 seconds.

Nairaland Marriage-wahalaland

visit a great dibia for real otumokpo that will make any man that tries to have sex with her impotent

Oga my problem is not her looking good as you can see I praised her for it.

My problem is her scandalous behaviour, partying every minute, too friendly behaviour and extreme seductive dressing. No man will be comfortable with such behaviour. As it is, I just want her out of the house. Do not envy what is shallow, as you see me so I’m dreaming of a quiet decent woman who will give me peace of mind over this scandalous show off wife that I have at the moment. Be careful what you wish for.

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

I believe so. She has been like this I thought after kids She would calm down only it has become worse. No peace of mind in my house any more. Her behaviour is becoming embarrassing, everybody knows her. Wife that cannot stay in one place.

Acidosis:



You married a slay queen na.

A slay queen can never be satisfied with the attention, care, love and money of ONE man.

A virtuous woman cannot turn slutty overnight. At 24, she was a slay queen, and a slay queen she would forever be.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends


there are idiots who still believe in this nonsense?

I don't even need to read more of your crap, but one thing u know she will start saying you're insecure, that's if you're weak to fall for that


solution... TREAT HER THE WAY SHE TREATS YOU

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young. But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with. I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters. She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse. One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again. She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

Dude you're so funny!

Let me be straight with you forget all this advise that you should focus on life as a man.
Bro sometimes you don't have to shout b4 you teach Or even pass a message.

Why not make yourself the centre of attraction.
Do you dress good ?
Do take good care of your body?
Do you socialise?

Try to make a yes to this 3 questions n see how your woman attention change.


Also marriage is about commitment so don't listen to advice that challenge you as a man to carry the weight of the world on your shoulder.

Samolaogun:
Oga my problem is not her looking good as you can see I praised her for it.

My problem is her scandalous behaviour, partying every minute, too friendly behaviour and extreme seductive dressing. No man will be comfortable with such behaviour. As it is, I just want her out of the house. Do not envy what is shallow, as you see me so I’m dreaming of a quiet decent woman who will give me peace of mind over this scandalous show off wife that I have at the moment. Be careful what you wish for.

Party every minute?

Did you see this trait before you married her?

I am really curious because this 10 years of marriage. I mean 10 years no be beans oh

She has always been outgoing. The partying started heavily around last year. She is fond of leaving the children with her mum.

truthsayer009:


Party every minute?

Did you see this trait before you married her?

I am really curious because this 10 years of marriage. I mean 10 years no be beans oh