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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Yuneehk(f): 10:06pm On Sep 22, 2019
There's a problem if you're hot, and another one if you're cold. For the former, jealousy, insecurities creep in which is totally fine after all no one likes to share. For the latter, complaints of poor looks(size, dressing, etc), comparison with what they see outside and lust for that which is seen outside. It's even evident on the thread from comments above say one man meat na another one poison. Las las, this thing called marriage ain't got a manual.
You saw the signs from the onset sef but chose to ignore. This one will likely not change so bear your cross.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 10:14pm On Sep 22, 2019
Samolaogun:
She has always been outgoing. The partying started heavily around last year. She is fond of leaving the children with her mum.

Does she have any higher authority she listens to
and respect that you can report er ro?

If yes, that is what you should do.

I would like to say there is a reason for every decision. She started partying heavily for a reason. I'm not saying you have infidelity issues here but you need to investigate. People dont change or switch up for no reason.

Good luck sir.

Edit: lastly, perhaps part of the investigation is you actually join her in partying. It may sound stupid but thats how you get more info.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 10:35pm On Sep 22, 2019
Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young. But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with. I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters. She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse. One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again. She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

Good.
You have listed her perceived weaknesses.

Now can you list the good things about her before we proceed? I mean the things you still enjoy about her in the marriage.

Let's weigh the two before instant adjudication.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 10:52pm On Sep 22, 2019
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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 10:54pm On Sep 22, 2019
truthsayer009:


Does she have any higher authority she listens to
and respect that you can report er ro?

If yes, that is what you should do.

I would like to say there is a reason for every decision. She started partying heavily for a reason. I'm not saying you have infidelity issues here but you need to investigate. People dont change or switch up for no reason.

Good luck sir.

Edit: lastly, perhaps part of the investigation is you actually join her in partying. It may sound stupid but thats how you get more info.



Hmmm. One sided judgement only worsens the situation.

I think you may need to look at the other party and hear from her perspective before giving this kind of 'Report her to' advice.

As far as I'm concerned the wife may just be OK. People tend to exaggerate when they ruminate too much on little things that hurts them.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 11:01pm On Sep 22, 2019
breezy147:



Hmmm. One sided judgement only worsens the situation.

I think you may need to look at the other party and hear from her perspective before giving this kind of 'Report her to' advice.

As far as I'm concerned the wife may just be OK. People tend to exaggerate when they ruminate too much on little things that hurts them.


I already told the OP nothing was wrong with his Wife that he should join her in looking good and partying.

But he insisted otherwise, so it's best he does investigation by himself. 10 years seems like a successful marriage to me.

I'm not sure even Jay Z and Beyonce have celebrated 10 years.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by missjo(f): 11:16pm On Sep 22, 2019
Breaststroke:
OP,

I perfectly understand you and I don't think you're being insecure, my cousin and a childhood friend are the same way as your wife and it bothers me.

My childhood pal has always been a high flying, slay queen long before the term 'slay queen' hit us. Even her mother once said calm down, you want to walk before you crawl.

She's married now but there are rumours of her dating one of her organization's top clients.

Sorry I don't have any real advice other than to say, you're not insecure or crazy for wanting more and better from your spouse.
cool
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Joystark(f): 11:31pm On Sep 22, 2019
Lol.
Someone said you married a slay queen.
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by drmikeadams(m): 11:50pm On Sep 22, 2019
Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young. But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with. I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters. She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse. One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again. She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.
grin grin


So when u dey throway money do wedding u no see all these signs?

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by healthserve(m): 12:42am On Sep 23, 2019
Yuneehk:
There's a problem if you're hot, and another one if you're cold. For the former, jealousy, insecurities creep in which is totally fine after all no one likes to share. For the latter, complaints of poor looks(size, dressing, etc), comparison with what they see outside and lust for that which is seen outside. It's even evident on the thread from comments above say one man meat na another one poison. Las las, this thing called marriage ain't got a manual.
You saw the signs from the onset sef but chose to ignore. This one will likely not change so bear your cross.


This chyke again cheesy
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by islandmoon: 12:45am On Sep 23, 2019
Op! I understood you well, she's got her eyes outside and you are making her confident with your jealous attitudes, you will end up being a single father if you follow some people's advice here, she's about to ruin her home, He he he he! reduce her slay rating, load her with twin, pet her and over pamper her till she's 7 months pregnant , then change mode, stop communication, women don't value men they understood, this is the best way to switch shoes with her, start clubbing and she will be the one doing the worrying, retire her with pregnancy, prove her wrong , clear her doubt using sense.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by healthserve(m): 12:46am On Sep 23, 2019
Thrash. Ignore anyone that describes your needs as insecurities. In marriage, every spouse male or female should have what is called an emotional safety net/nest.

Your home should be your nest from the worries of this life and its the duty of your wife to create such an harmonious home. Its what my Italian friends would say give them a finger, they'll ask for the hand.

People take liberty too lightly. What an absolute nonsense. You need to communicate your needs about what you're not comfortable with without feeling shunned or damned. I see no insecurities in this


She has abandoned your emotional needs in chase of God knows what frivolous adventures of Tom Sawyer she's chasing at 94.


She's on a slippery path to destruction. I don't need a magician to foretell a bad end on this path. Its either by communication or another means, but find way to bring her back. She has drifted the course. Stop waiting for the bad to happen to say I was tight, rather fight to grown your relationship.


Have someone she respects talk to her, that her present actions is a threat to the marital union and depriving you of peace.


All this autonomous entities within marriages these days sef

Where is MissJoy29 and Aweleawkaetiti


H one last truth , she has finished seeing you and you don't have anything in stock she hasnt seen. She don see you ffinish. To beat her at this game is to psychologically defeat her in the matrix. I'll be brief on this though there's a lot to say here. Behave differently , not your predictable self as you've lost this angle. If a woman can fully predict a man, he loses the edge.



MIND YOU ALL THIS EPISTLE IS BASED ON THE ASSUMPYIONS YOUR CLAIM ARE 100% AND AS THIUGH YOUR WIFE DOESNT DISAGREE WITH ALL YOU TYPED HERE. AS PEOPLE CAN OBSCURE TRUTH TO LOOK GOOD TO PEOPLE

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Yuneehk(f): 1:00am On Sep 23, 2019
healthserve:


This chyke again cheesy
Yes, is there a problem sir?
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 1:00am On Sep 23, 2019
Hmmm.
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by yeyeosoronga: 2:49am On Sep 23, 2019
She leaves the children with her parents when she goes partying, so your children are not left uncared for.
What kind of parties does she go to, and how come you're not invited to such parties or you just don't like going to parties yourself?
Its weird that a married couple are not invited to parties together.
As someone mentioned, start going to parties on days you're available, and lighten up too.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by mrblessed(m): 5:53am On Sep 23, 2019
Breaststroke:
OP,

I perfectly understand you and I don't think you're being insecure, my cousin and a childhood friend are the same way as your wife and it bothers me.

My childhood pal has always been a high flying, slay queen long before the term 'slay queen' hit us. Even her mother once said calm down, you want to walk before you crawl.

She's married now but there are rumours of her dating one of her organization's top clients.

Sorry I don't have any real advice other than to say, you're not insecure or crazy for wanting more and better from your spouse.
What sort of advice do you give to your cousin and your pal who apparently seemed confused and insatiable? This genuinely worried man needs such a piece of advice from you. How come you are the first lady in this graveyard to absolve the OP the charge of being insecure leveled on him by our starry-eyed and highly predicitable sisters.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Kingzy4pep(m): 6:04am On Sep 23, 2019
stupidity:
I’m surprised no female on here saw where he said “attending to the kids effectively is now a problem” y’all are addressing the “goodlook” aspect just to mock men.


Talk to your wife. If she doesn’t coordinate herself. Let her be and enjoy life with your kids.

I fear she can’t be tamed. You sound like a weakling sef.
Don't mind them instead they're saying stuffs about Men not knowing what they want. I'm also wondering if they didn't see where another guy is referring her as his love. Cheating is not only when you start having sex o

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by FredasMumAndI: 6:06am On Sep 23, 2019
She has too much time.
Does she work?
Or you prefer that your wife stays home doing nothing?

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 7:35am On Sep 23, 2019
Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young. But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with. I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters. She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse. One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again. She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.
log in her Instagram and Facebook on your phone it is very easy, I can teach you if you want and if you have iPhone, login her WhatsApp on your safari browser

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 10:35am On Sep 23, 2019
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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by nlPoster: 11:30am On Sep 23, 2019
FredasMumAndI:
She has too much time.
Does she work?
Or you prefer that your wife stays home doing nothing?

Dont start.
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by hify9935(f): 1:26pm On Sep 23, 2019
bomasek:
What's her gram handle so I can either confirm or allay your fear(s)
Chimoooo...

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by davillian(m): 1:51pm On Sep 23, 2019
Is there anything wrong for the wife to listen to him and stop doing what he doesn't like.
The problem are those her friends that dressed like ashewo tell her to choose between you and her friends.
Na them go teach her bad things I'm sure she wasn't like this before.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Sparkle777(f): 1:53pm On Sep 23, 2019
Believe me, she's cheating. Just get someone to tail her, catch her red handed and rid of her. Cheating wives can kill.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Princeofasia: 4:11pm On Sep 23, 2019
abobi, u turn an olosho to a wife. you broke the code of our forefathers. if you must turn an olosho to a wife you must give her firm instructions and rules. she ust accept it before getting married. first tell her that she has to change her number and make sure all old male contacts are deleted.
2. she must not use instagram for any reason, if she must you, she must post ur pics together and never dress seductively.
3. u must have password to all her accounts including her phone.
4. she has to do away with al her olosho friends..
5. no partying or clubing with friends or what ever she wants to call it/
6. she must introduce you to all family relatives especially the guys so that you wont find her talking to one strange guy and she will say its her cousin.

any day any of these rules is broken, quit it

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 4:12pm On Sep 23, 2019
Enjoy what you married sir. were u blind

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by seunmohmoh(f): 4:12pm On Sep 23, 2019
Her friends are probably telling her that she is young and she should slay, the kind of friends you mention confirms that.

In her friend's circle, is she the only married person? Probably yes.

Sit her down and ask her if she wants divorce as you are tired of her attitude not her.

10 years isn't a joke o.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by FarahAideed: 4:12pm On Sep 23, 2019
Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

Does your wife attend ifitness Gym?

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by ehardetola(m): 4:13pm On Sep 23, 2019
Suspect?
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by DaddyMorenike: 4:15pm On Sep 23, 2019
Even me dey suspect her.

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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by elektra(f): 4:16pm On Sep 23, 2019
Maybe you should try buying her the kind of clothes you want her to wear
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Enemyofpeace: 4:17pm On Sep 23, 2019
Hmmmmmmm, no be me go tell you sey your wife eye still dey outside, if she never begin give your food to boys to eat for outside, she go soon start. If you get very good evidence to probe your case, use it and show her, talk to her, if she no change report her to her parents, if she no still change, no be for my mouth you go hear sey make you divorce her before she go carry bastard come meet you for your house as your pikin.



I'm in love with dominique and she is taking me to do yanga

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