illitrate:
Excuse me Ma, May I nyash you?

illitrate:
Excuse me Ma, May I nyash you?

blazepascal:
I hope you practice what you preach

Pardon??

LilMissFavvy:
..... So funny. The men are showing a good display of.......

LilMissFavvy:
..... So funny. The men are showing a good display of.......

Of........?

AstroG:
Both the Topic and the Contents of the thread are INCONCLUSIVE

I have nothing to say

Magnoliaa:



LOL. That's the point. I didn't make any conclusion. I was not stating things I know to be true, I wasn't 'adopting' any views. Just questions that I was hoping will be discussed.

AstroG:




So what's your point??

Magnoliaa:



sighsss... Contributions. Opinions. Views. Or findings. Stances tendered...?

Magnoliaa:


Of........?

LilMissFavvy:
You wrote to support the men, only for it to backfire. Be wiser next time.

AstroG:




I thought you were smart,intelligent and enlightened but ah can now see that the reverse is the case

LilMissFavvy:
You wrote to support the men, only for it to backfire. Be wiser next time.

LillyVal:
The male ego is driven by recognition, attention, and action. Men are assumed to be more active beings who do important things (such as political leaders, soldiers, scientists, etc.) and who are deserving of attention by others. In this vision of the male ego, men are driven by their physical strength, sex drive, and evolutionary biology as competitors for female attention to be competitive, to strive for greatness and power, and to avoid showing any emotion and weakness. For example, in most Nigeria communities, the male gender role is typically understood and described in active as opposed to passive terms. Men are courageous, strong, competitive, independent, and stable (in contrast, women are passive, emotional, weak, and more socially-oriented). To give another example, men in many communities in Nigeria are expected to avoid showing emotion. Remember the old saying "boys don't cry?" Instead, men are supposed to be macho and strong in the face of personal challenges, such as loss, grief, and sadness

Pascopele:
In my opinion, "the male ego" determines the degree of power a man perceives and believes himself to possess. If he has a strong ego--he sees himself as strong and powerful. Conversely, if he has a weak ego, he sees himself as weak and powerless.

I have learned that there are Five Basic Needs all males must have continuously "reinforced" in order to feel powerful:

1) the need to be recognized as a special person.
2) the need to "travel light" without feeling a loss of personal freedom.
3) the need for loyalty from others.
4) the need to be close emotionally with satisfying sexual unions.
5) the need to work successfully-- since the male's personal identity is directly tied to the occupation he chooses for himself.

I learned about these basic needs through long years of reading, observation, education, experience, trial and error. And I've noticed many examples of widely spread social problems resulting from weak male egos.

I was enlightened by a very astute and honest male friend who told me during an internet chat one evening that all men measure themselves through the eyes, smiles, and words of the women they know and/or love. He said, "We are what you believe us to be. Men are made by women."

And, interestingly, after learning these simple truths about the male ego's basic needs, it occurred to me that I had these same needs, too. I discovered that "the ego" is gender neutral and directly attributed to one's self-image as a strong or weak person. Males and females are different in many ways biologically--but the same in mind and soul. That old cliché, "What's good for the gander is good for the goose" is very true, in my 66 years of human experience.

Magnoliaa:



What's the male ego?