NwaAmaikpe:






God was kind enough to make your burdens lighter by making your wife leave with the kids and you are here still weighing yourself down over them.

delishpot:
She left as in she divorced or she left to a place she believes would give her chances of surviving which you declined because of reasons best known to you or for ego sake?
Cos I have seen men suffering but will not allow their wives go to her family home where she can get some support, accommodation etc. They say NEVER the woman gets tired and leaves anyways for her sanity sake and then the men start crying foul saying she abandoned them cos they are broke. Oga sir, why being selfish?

delishpot:
She left as in she divorced or she left to a place she believes would give her chances of surviving which you declined because of reasons best known to you or for ego sake?
Cos I have seen men suffering but will not allow their wives go to her family home where she can get some support, accommodation etc. They say NEVER the woman gets tired and leaves anyways for her sanity sake and then the men start crying foul saying she abandoned them cos they are broke. And I am like....... Oga sir, why being selfish?

So tell us how she left. Before we consider that part of the story. If possible we want to hear her own side of the story. Cos some men can stubborn to advise but when kasala burst they expect someone to endure the result of their decision with them.

Shinapraise:
Do u have someone in Ibadan u can stay with I will have recommended you to someone who can fixed u at a place pending the time u will get a better job it a security job bro if you don't mind at least that can still keep body and soul together pending the time u get a job that's what j do when I was sacked by this foolish bank I had no option than to join this security job and I have been substaning

Aurelius1:

genq:



Perfect example of the decrepit mindset of the average NL female. How dare you jump into these incredibly stupid and baseless conclusions?

genq:



I've just seen your previous thread on being homeless. Your wife must be unemployed too.

Sorry but you put yourself in a terrible predicament when you chose to marry someone who couldn't contribute financially. Most stable homes need two healthy incomes.

Aurelius1:
She left for her parents place in the village along with the kids. I still call and visit once in a while

My grouse is that she didn't tell me before she left
I am just concerned about getting back on my feet. that's all

delishpot:


The way you wrote it was like she divorced you. So you two are still in contact, you go visit whenever you can afford to. She left without telling you maybe because she felt that you will not allow her go so she got there and let you know where she is. Every marriage has its ups and downs you also make some decisions too that she might consider rash but you guys resolve it. So abeg, stop looking for every reason to self pity. Stay strong, pray and fast that God will help you pass through this phase with wisdom. The worse thing that can happen to a man is when he passes through fire without getting his red glow. This is time to draw to God. Seek his face without looking for who to throw under the bus. Basing your trust in man's help through pitiful stories or bashing other people won't cut it. Learn as much wisdom as you can from your circumstance. Don't think that your frustration is yours alone. While self pitying, remember that your whole family ie wife, kids also get affected by what you are passing through so be understanding of their own emotions too. All the best.

delishpot:


Joke's on you. She left for her parents just like I thought, he still calls and visits so she clearly did not dump him but men like you who hate to see women happy will never consider anything besides a man's opinion. Shior! Ask the woman her own side now and mouth will open in wonderment.

genq:


The joke's on HER really - a grown ass woman who went back to her parents house with 3 children. Lol.

Why can't she fend for herself? Its 2019 for goodness sake - should a woman's sustenance still rest on a man? What did her parents send her to school for? Where is her sense of accountability?

Now her poor aged parents are burdened with having to feed their adult girl child in addition to three extra mouths because she's proven herself irresponsible and unable to cater for herself without her husband's salary.

Such a shame.

delishpot:


Why can't she fend for herself? Did you ask the poster why he can't fend for himself without people's support or because she is a woman she should carry 3 kids on her head while going out to hussle? Or she should ask the man to stay home and care for the children while she goes out to look for job? Your yeye stinks shior!

genq:



Are you dumb? Didn't you read where he lost his job.
Where did he mention that she's ever worked?

delishpot:


Are you stupid? Don't you read where he said they have kids who need basics of life that he [b]nor the wife can not provide at the moment without help? [/b]Where did he mention that she never worked through out their married life?

delishpot:


Are you stupid? Don't you read where he said they have kids who need basics of life that he nor the wife can not provide at the moment without help? Where did he mention that she never worked through out their married life? A man lost his job and home. Wife decides to move the kids and herself to the village where they have shelter without bothering about rent yet you are here complaining that she is wicked. Do you want the kids to sleep in the streets? Sometimes you people reason like fools.

LordKO:
Let me know if you've specialty in human resources or if you're formally seasoned in human resources.

theButterfly:
Did your wife leavr with your kids in December b|c you were about to be homeless


https://www.nairaland.com/2781942/please-homeless-nairalander

genq:


My point exactly. Meaning she's a liability.

Like I said earlier, OP should be glad she's now her parents cross to bear. His calls and visitations should suffice for now.

delishpot:


You àre just a tool of the destroyer. She doesn't work as at when OP lost his job, which you don't know the reason behind her unemployment nor the history of her job search and you consider her a liability. Yet OP does not have a job but because you know his job search hussle he is not a liability. Like I said before, the demons in toy are specially projected at breaking homes by planting seed of hatred in the heart of husband's. Your plans have failed. God pass you. Op will settle bring back his wife and be happy for her move when he looks back to this moment. Shame on you.

Aurelius1:
I created that thread 4 years ago. She left early this year.

genq:




Lmaaaaaaooooo! How did we go from throwing insults to lifting holy hands

"tool of the destroyer" indeed.

NL is pure jokes I swear. Lol.

Guest007:
Public safety announcement


Threats of suicide has become an avenue to beg and maybe scam so tread with caution when trying to help op.

https://www.nairaland.com/5437068/guy-nairaland-going-commit-suicide

Guest007:
Public safety announcement


Threats of suicide has become an avenue to beg and maybe scam so tread with caution when trying to help op.