Please leave that house immediately. Thank me later

Mic96:
Pls permit my grammatical errors.

I have a girl I'm living with presently she has two children for me, 6years and the second one year and six months of which I haven't paid her bride price, not because I can't afford it but I'm not convinced yet.

She wakes up without even greeting me and she is very abusive. She doesn't cook for me even if she is to cook I must go the market to buy the soup items before she will cook for the family. I have to go the market early to buy the soup items before leaving for work.

Our relationship has been up and down but I've been enduring because of the kids, I can't take it anylonger. I'm just confused and I don't know what to do because she is frustrating me. We are not into each other I can't tell her things like secret because when we have issues she will use it against me.

I love my kids so much and I don't know what I will become without my kids. The constant fighting isn't good for the kids and I'm thinking of leaving the apartment for them without taking anytime from the house expect my cloths.

I have reported her to my pastor and my pastor have serverally counsel her but she won't change always willing to fight me at no cause. I told my pastor my plan of paying her bride price maybe she will change because she is always talking of poisoning when we get heated argument. my pastor say I shouldn't that she won't change because our relationship wasn't built on solid (right) foundation.

I notice she feels she is doing me a favour for wanting to stay with me. A woman that is 3 years older then me and has two children for me and I am the person paying the bills (the whole expenses). Her own money is for her clothes, bags and shoes not minding if the house suffer but I don't care.

Pls advise me on what to do and if I'm actually making the right decision.

Thank you.

Whatever you want to do, do but make sure you never forget your children and show them you love them

Bro, you deserve one crate of any brand of beer u drink for this piece.. walahi, it takes a whole lot of patience and perseverance to keep a woman in the house. Your head is there!!!

PatrickOkunima:
Most women are like that.

Here's a story my uncle told me on the day of my marriage.

He said,

Once upon a time, a young man went to the village to ask his dad to look for a responsible wife for him, that he's ready to settle down. The father said no problem. After a while, the father paid him a visit in the city, bringing along a small puppy (baby dog). His father asked him to take very good care of the puppy and returned to the village the next day.

Not long after, the young man returned from work one day to see that the puppy had messed up the apartment. He re-positioned it and tidied up the place. The next day, the puppy did the same thing, the guy returned from work and was very mad. He picked up a stick and struck the puppy to death.

A few weeks later, the father paid him another visit. He noticed the puppy's absence and asked the son about it. The young man replied that he had killed the puppy. He said he could no longer cope with it. And the father replied, "My son, you've just confirmed to me that you're not ready for marriage. Women can be very annoying, they'll do worse to you than the puppy. You need a lot of patience to live with a woman, which you presently have not developed."

Ask 90% of married men, and they'll tell you what you're experiencing is not new. You can abandon this one and end up paying the bride price of someone with worse characters.

My advice: Do whatever you think is good for you.

What have I just read? Is this some sort of joke?

You are in an abusive relationship to begin with. Walk away from that relationship before it will be too late.

walka dey go mah bredda

themaestro08:
What have I just read? Is this some sort of joke?

You are in an abusive relationship to begin with. Walk away from that relationship before it will be too late.

Exactly my point... Life is just too short

Mic96:
Pls permit my grammatical errors.

I have a girl I'm living with presently she has two children for me, 6years and the second one year and six months of which I haven't paid her bride price, not because I can't afford it but I'm not convinced yet.

She wakes up without even greeting me and she is very abusive. She doesn't cook for me even if she is to cook I must go the market to buy the soup items before she will cook for the family. I have to go the market early to buy the soup items before leaving for work.

Our relationship has been up and down but I've been enduring because of the kids, I can't take it anylonger. I'm just confused and I don't know what to do because she is frustrating me. We are not into each other I can't tell her things like secret because when we have issues she will use it against me.

I love my kids so much and I don't know what I will become without my kids. The constant fighting isn't good for the kids and I'm thinking of leaving the apartment for them without taking anytime from the house expect my cloths.

I have reported her to my pastor and my pastor have serverally counsel her but she won't change always willing to fight me at no cause. I told my pastor my plan of paying her bride price maybe she will change because she is always talking of poisoning when we get heated argument. my pastor say I shouldn't that she won't change because our relationship wasn't built on solid (right) foundation.

I notice she feels she is doing me a favour for wanting to stay with me. A woman that is 3 years older then me and has two children for me and I am the person paying the bills (the whole expenses). Her own money is for her clothes, bags and shoes not minding if the house suffer but I don't care.

Pls advise me on what to do and if I'm actually making the right decision.

Thank you.

why calling a grown up lady a girl?. u camp someone with two kids in yur place witout paying bride price. dont u see you are a kidnapper? u ought to be arrested for kidnapping and deprivation of privacy

PatrickOkunima:
Most women are like that.

Here's a story my uncle told me on the day of my marriage.

He said,

Once upon a time, a young man went to the village to ask his dad to look for a responsible wife for him, that he's ready to settle down. The father said no problem. After a while, the father paid him a visit in the city, bringing along a small puppy (baby dog). His father asked him to take very good care of the puppy and returned to the village the next day.

Not long after, the young man returned from work one day to see that the puppy had messed up the apartment. He re-positioned it and tidied up the place. The next day, the puppy did the same thing, the guy returned from work and was very mad. He picked up a stick and struck the puppy to death.

A few weeks later, the father paid him another visit. He noticed the puppy's absence and asked the son about it. The young man replied that he had killed the puppy. He said he could no longer cope with it. And the father replied, "My son, you've just confirmed to me that you're not ready for marriage. Women can be very annoying, they'll do worse to you than the puppy. You need a lot of patience to live with a woman, which you presently have not developed."

Ask 90% of married men, and they'll tell you what you're experiencing is not new. You can abandon this one and end up paying the bride price of someone with worse characters.

My advice: Do whatever you think is good for you.

Gaskia you no lie bro. Who never marry no go know. It takes a lot of patience cos the one that even respect may take you mother as rival. The one that did not take your mother as rival will say your sex with her is too much or you did not buy enough soup ingredient,you have not been buying clothes for her e.t.c alot of issues. A man who has no mental state to marry should not try it,it is either you kill her or she kill you. Chikena

Oyindidi:
Yen yen yen bla bla bla bla....



Thank you too

Baba u dey provoke

PatrickOkunima:
Most women are like that.

Here's a story my uncle told me on the day of my marriage.

He said,

Once upon a time, a young man went to the village to ask his dad to look for a responsible wife for him, that he's ready to settle down. The father said no problem. After a while, the father paid him a visit in the city, bringing along a small puppy (baby dog). His father asked him to take very good care of the puppy and returned to the village the next day.

Not long after, the young man returned from work one day to see that the puppy had messed up the apartment. He re-positioned it and tidied up the place. The next day, the puppy did the same thing, the guy returned from work and was very mad. He picked up a stick and struck the puppy to death.

A few weeks later, the father paid him another visit. He noticed the puppy's absence and asked the son about it. The young man replied that he had killed the puppy. He said he could no longer cope with it. And the father replied, "My son, you've just confirmed to me that you're not ready for marriage. Women can be very annoying, they'll do worse to you than the puppy. You need a lot of patience to live with a woman, which you presently have not developed."

Ask 90% of married men, and they'll tell you what you're experiencing is not new. You can abandon this one and end up paying the bride price of someone with worse characters.

My advice: Do whatever you think is good for you.

you still haven't adviced him

You just feel like typing, right?

SuperKlean:
you still haven't adviced him

Kendumazy:
Hmm. Only God knows where u na dey jam all these kind of women. May God help you with a lasting solution.

where we dey jam these kind women?
I laugh seriously, cos me sef unfortunately jam one who lived and had three sons for me,she is not that physically violent but emotionally,psychologically tormenting me for 8 years,I have explored all known options for hope of peace,at some point started keeping late outside,
at last,after like the 3rd time of reporting to her mother in 8 years time,she came next day and parked her things out of the house,on her own n by her self,this is about three years now,my kids/boys are with me,we are fairing and she is Never remorseful at all,ever minding her daily activities as if nothing had happened, would even greet and walk pass me by the road anytime we accidentally meet.


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vikithor:


where we dey jam these kind women?
I laugh seriously, cos me sef unfortunately jam one who lived and had three sons for me,she is not that physically violent but emotionally,psychologically tormenting me for 8 years,I have explored all known options for hope of peace,at some point started keeping late outside,
at last,after like the 3rd time of reporting to her mother in 8 years time,she came next day and parked her things out of the house,on her own n by her self,this is about three years now,my kids/boys are with me,we are fairing and she is Never remorseful at all,ever minding her daily activities as if nothing had happened, would even greet and walk pass me by the road anytime we accidentally meet.


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Hmmm. Have you ever wondered what could be wrong with these kind of women? God will give them a good husband, peaceful home but they will be the one causing unrest in the home. Responsible and caring man that most women are dieing to have. God will give it to them easily but they will be doing anyhow. Did my research and I discovered, most are as a result of curses or some forces controlling their lives. Imagine, she's not even remorseful. If you didn't wrong her. I will advise you to move on and remarry. Wish you the very best.

vikithor:


where we dey jam these kind women?
I laugh seriously, cos me sef unfortunately jam one who lived and had three sons for me,she is not that physically violent but emotionally,psychologically tormenting me for 8 years,I have explored all known options for hope of peace,at some point started keeping late outside,
at last,after like the 3rd time of reporting to her mother in 8 years time,she came next day and parked her things out of the house,on her own n by her self,this is about three years now,my kids/boys are with me,we are fairing and she is Never remorseful at all,ever minding her daily activities as if nothing had happened, would even greet and walk pass me by the road anytime we accidentally meet.


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Hmmm. Have you ever wondered what could be wrong with these kind of women? God will give them a good husband, peaceful home but they will be the one causing unrest in the home. Responsible and caring man that most women are dieing to have. God will give it to them easily but they will be doing anyhow. Did my research and I discovered, most are as a result of curses or some forces controlling their lives. Imagine, she's not even remorseful. If you didn't wrong her. I will advise you to move on and remarry. Wish you the very best.

I will advise you save up money and carry out DNA test first!
Has she ever said something like... Don't make me talk o... During any of your quarell session?

Kendumazy:



Hmmm. Have you ever wondered what could be wrong with these kind of women? God will give them a good husband, peaceful home but they will be the one causing unrest in the home. Responsible and caring man that most women are dieing to have. God will give it to them easily but they will be doing anyhow. Did my research and I discovered, most are as a result of curses or some forces controlling their lives. Imagine, she's not even remorseful. If you didn't wrong her. I will advise you to move on and remarry. Wish you the very best.

Some guys aren't just lucky

Oyindidi:
Go give am balls

lol thy is away to handle such women na

You're not convinced yet but she had a second child for you abi?
You are not a serious man who gives excuses for his failures

she probably forgotten you haven't married her.

Ya got a good spiritual councillor who tells you the truth, and he was damn right you built your foundation in da sea.

My phone is having brightness issues right now, but judging from all the comments I read, I can confidently say they were very selfish and should not have chase the dog out of the wedding. Because, we all are there for the same reason (food).

Very tricky. 2 kids already and you not sure?

Very odd situation indeed.

Kendumazy:



Hmmm. Have you ever wondered what could be wrong with these kind of women? God will give them a good husband, peaceful home but they will be the one causing unrest in the home. Responsible and caring man that most women are dieing to have. God will give it to them easily but they will be doing anyhow. Did my research and I discovered, most are as a result of curses or some forces controlling their lives. Imagine, she's not even remorseful. If you didn't wrong her. I will advise you to move on and remarry. Wish you the very best.

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glad to announced that God in my side I finally got re married September, 2020,we have a son now! That vacuum of my life is settled,happily moving on.