Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

Kindly state why you like her and the good things about her, maybe that could help those 'advising' you here to be better informed. Instead of using just an angle to judge her already.

LordKO:
@OP

Discard her and look elsewhere for a sane woman - actually, you've been a slave to your longings all this while, strive and conquer yourself. She's both egoistic and egotistic, her kind of woman is a perfect definition of toxicity, irrespective of her financial standing, and she'll remain a toxic woman even if you're to assume her and all her lineage financial responsibilities.

And don't allow anyone to gloat and guilt trip you into thinking that there're no financially emancipated women who're independent and submissive - that's, if you're bent on marrying only a woman who's financially emancipated. Submissiveness is a product of good attribute (sane moral and psychological health), something small-minded women can't possess or give - the same way small-minded men can't possess or give love. It doesn't depend on richness or poverty - it's a product of class that money can't buy, the ethical class.

In fact, the more successful a sane woman (or man) is, the more ethically sound she'll become - it's only a small-minded woman who will become contentious in particular and more toxic in general after achieving little success. The real success isn't loud and toxic, it's humble and invigorating.

OP...This is the best advice you' ll ever receive in your lifetime. HEARKEN!

Olalan:
Relationships should be partnership...........

..................except with greed'y broke ass olosh'os forming girlfriend, fiancee and wife.


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You are clearly seeing these signs,yet you want to forge ahead so you can live in bondage.Truth is nothing is going to change if you marry her still,By then the bills will be higher,she go remove subsidy fully.Better give yourself brain.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

Don't marry a liability.
Love is symbiotic

iPhoneRepairer:
My money is mine but your money is ours... Women shaa.

they all have that mentality

You enabled this behaviour. It's all your fault. Now you know this, what are you going to do? Put a ring on her as the weak man that she sees you as or learn your lesson and change your ways in your next relationship?

iPhoneRepairer:
My money is mine but your money is ours... Women shaa.

No. Some women sha, not all

Don't go too further yet, and stop paying her bills lets see if she will go on her own. More importantly, if she is not a virgin demand for the zero with all seriousness because it is very important. Except she is an exceptional Christian lady(though i doubt the Christianity anyway)

I hate hearing manipulative cases like this. .im out

Bros i m attending my marriage course right now and i will be tru in october 26. I thing i d course of this i v learnt alot. Any woman that don't support ur struggles will never make a good wife. Remember marriage is 4 a very long period of time, since the relationship is not giving u any joy i bet u in marriage it will get worst. Beauty shuld not push u into marrying her... We could chat on whatsapp if u don't mind, we culd learn from each other. No one knows it all

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

LordKO:
@OP

Discard her and look elsewhere for a sane woman - actually, you've been a slave to your longings all this while, strive and conquer yourself. She's both egoistic and egotistic, her kind of woman is a perfect definition of toxicity, irrespective of her financial standing, and she'll remain a toxic woman even if you're to assume her and all her lineage financial responsibilities.

And don't allow anyone to gloat and guilt trip you into thinking that there're no financially emancipated women who're independent and submissive - that's, if you're bent on marrying only a woman who's financially emancipated. Submissiveness is a product of good attribute (sane moral and psychological health), something small-minded women can't possess or give - the same way small-minded men can't possess or give love. It doesn't depend on richness or poverty - it's a product of class that money can't buy, the ethical class.

In fact, the more successful a sane woman (or man) is, the more ethically sound she'll become - it's only a small-minded woman who will become contentious in particular and more toxic in general after achieving little success. The real success isn't loud and toxic, it's humble and invigorating.

How do you pack all this wisdom into one comment?
The funny thing is that the greedy woman won't allow any girl do the same to her brothers.

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Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

op, don't mind all the mumus saying you should leave her. They are prolly teens who doesn't know left from right yet. Some women just naturally love the feel of been taking care of, that might be her case, like they love the feeling that their man is taking care of them rather prolly something just to boast of. Buh if you you think you are not comfortable about this, i think you should talk to her about it since you two are already talking marriage so it won't affect your home later after marriage. Women should be a helper, remember? So talk to her about it and you can know what next to do from her response.

The reason y women won't change n are very lucky is because there are still mugus like u in large numbers out there.. if all men in Nigeria were like me.. no Nigerian lady would get married.. They are not marriageable..

Reduce your spending then you will see who she is.

Bros, kneel down make i pray for you.
A real woman will never allow u to spend on her like that's. Investigate if ur not her option instead of her priority.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

How do good guys meet one kain girls while good gehs like myself are hopelessly single?

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

The earlier she understands that marriage is a joint partnership, the better for her. I think its the height of selfishness for her to allow you shoulder all her bills. Its actually cool for a man to foot a few of his woman's bills. However, moderation is key. She needs to take responsibility for her expenses. Moreso, she needs to understand that in marriage, there is nothing like " my money" as the couple's resources is expended jointly. I wish you all the best.

Olalan:
Relationships should be partnership...........

Exactly my point.

Chi59:


How do good guys meet one kain girls while good gehs like myself are hopelessly single?

awww!!....I m here for you..do you mind i dm you?

Kapeter:
op, don't mind all the mumus saying you should leave her. They are prolly teens who doesn't know left from right yet. Some women just naturally love the feel of been taking care of, that might be her case, like they love the feeling that their man is taking care of them rather prolly something just to boast of. Buh if you you think you are not comfortable about this, i think you should talk to her about it since you two are already talking marriage so it won't affect your home later after marriage. Women should be a helper, remember? So talk to her about it and you can know what next to do from her response.

Did you miss this part in the OP

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine.

Is she a Nigerian politician/business executive and the boy is a bamboozled citizen/worker


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Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

Are u sure u know what u want and how to choose it? She clearly showing signs that will cause major issues, money conflicts and lack of understanding and reasoning and u are here thinking of taking if forward? Why are u desperate for a gal who can’t move a finger for u and yet u want to please her in every way and form? This is a recipe for disaster.

If u cant say ur mind to ur gal then Ure still a boy with no guts and not mature enough to handle her. Ure here complaining to us instead.

U better be a bad boy for once and let her know Ure not a pussy ass niggah.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

Is she a banker? Does her name start with J?
Is she from Imo state?

Op na "Client" confirmed maga ,Op you have to understand that LOVE is a SCAM ! No love guy just two people who come together with their selfish interest to help each other out. A partnership! But your case is "parasitismship" .That woman knows your weak that's why she's using you! On no account should you give a lady money when she ASKS give her WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE. Spending money on a lady carelessly will automatically make her believe your a fool for her and too much love don twist your brain,but they will Manipulate you to think it's LOVE thereby using you continues,be wise!

Op na "Client" confirmed maga ,Op you have to understand that LOVE is a SCAM ! No love guy just two people who come together with their selfish interest to help each other out. A partnership! But your case is "parasitismship" .That woman knows your weak that's why she's using you! On no account should you give a lady money when she ASKS give her WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE. Spending money on a lady carelessly will automatically make her believe your a fool for her and too much love don twist your brain,but they will Manipulate you to think it's LOVE thereby using you continues,be wise.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

I’m currently in something similar. Let her grow through at least 2 more seasons with you the you decide if you want to proceed

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

I really think you are only being used. Propose officially and she will turn you down.

You think you have a fiancée but you don’t. You are a solid cash cow. I can bet my last some those “friends’ activities” she so religiously attends is a dude kpanshing the living daylights out of her.

Sorry bro, you’ve been played.

Here to read some hilarious comments/ abi advices .

Kapeter:
op, don't mind all the mumus saying you should leave her. They are prolly teens who doesn't know left from right yet. Some women just naturally love the feel of been taking care of, that might be her case, like they love the feeling that their man is taking care of them rather prolly something just to boast of. Buh if you you think you are not comfortable about this, i think you should talk to her about it since you two are already talking marriage so it won't affect your home later after marriage. Women should be a helper, remember? So talk to her about it and you can know what next to do from her response.

Are you married?... is this the best you can do to your brother?

Get wisdom ... somethings are better left unsaid.


To the OP.

You are cage with affection and glorifying "your-self ego"

My brother you are about to marry wrong... obviously from your write up, you are hardworking... you need a woman who will complement you. Not the one who will put you under pressure.


Don't not marry that lady... if you want to know what happiness and fulfillment is in marriage.


Some people are better as Just Girlfriend! Or even baby mama. Not as live in companion.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

RUN BRO RUN!!! She isnt suitable