Good Morning Nairalanders, I know I deserve your reproach and insults but please help a brother out.

I have been dating my gf for 3 years now. I met her in my final year in school and ever since then we have been together, though we have minor issues but we make up.

She came to visit me for some few days because of the close proximity of my House to her place of work. I made sure i pampered her and treated her nice. I noticed that she speaks to me anyhow lately, I have been keeping my cool.

She closes from work around 6pm, so last night I called to find out where she was and d way she responded was quite rude, telling me that i am adding to the holdup stress. I called her again to find out where she was and she still gave me the same attitude.

She came home around 9pm, I was expecting her to apologize for the way she spoke to me rudely on d phone. She just walked in without even saying hello, picked up her phone and pressed it for almost 30 minutes, picked up her brush and was on her way to the bathroom when I accosted her. I asked her if she feels i am a fool because i have been bearing her excesses, the next thing that came out from her mouth was that I am really a fool.

At that point I lost my temper and slapped her, she retaliated and it resulted in a fight. I tried begging her later in the night but she said it's over. she left my house this morning and she blocked me online and tru calls.

I am a very calm person and not violent but I just lost it yesterday, I dont want to lose her. I just wished I had acted different.

please i need ideas to apologize to her because she said she will report me to the police if she sees me around her.

Are you really a fool?

Just like that, you don run dey react anyhow.
No be so dem dey catch woman o

U fuk up big time...

Guy free that babe.. no fall your hand. She is already seeing another person. Give her space, if she was meant to be, she would reach out later

firstolalekan:
Are you really a fool?

Just like that, you don run dey react anyhow.
No be so dem dey catch woman o

U fuk up big time...

I know bro at that moment I just lost my senses and I feel bad right now

DonFreshmoney:
Guy free that babe.. no fall your hand. She is already seeing another person. Give her space, if she was meant to be, she would reach out later

I hope so bro because na dis babe i wan marry. I have given up alot for us to be together

Police no dey settle boyfriend and girlfriend issues
So no fear...

The attitude she has been giving u is cause she
Is feed up nd she has seen a better guy she doesn't
Want to be the one to end the relationship so she
Is giving u attitude so u can get angry and she will
See reason to leave.. which just happen.

Move on the ratio of women to men is 3 to 1 am sure
U will find one better and more mannered and loyal
To you. .

Go out tonight buy cold beer drink,
Carry Olosho fuccck all the anoyance anger, hurt out in her
Trust me u will wake up the next day feeling like u don't give
A fuvk

@Op kindly leave her alone. Those who actually love you won't disrespect or scorn you in such manner... Better suck it up and move on, she may come around on her own.

DonFreshmoney:
Guy free that babe.. no fall your hand. She is already seeing another person. Give her space, if she was meant to be, she would reach out later

just take this advice. This is just the truth

AwkaetitiBabe:
@Op kindly leave her alone. Those who actually love you won't disrespect or scorn you in such manner... Better suck it up and move on, she may come around on her own.

Thank you very much. Even my guys in the next room begged her all night and she refused

carzola:
Police no dey settle boyfriend and girlfriend issues
So no fear...

The attitude she has been giving u is cause she
Is feed up nd she has seen a better guy she doesn't
Want to be the one to end the relationship so she
Is giving u attitude so u can get angry and she will
See reason to leave.. which just happen.

Move on the ratio of women to men is 3 to 1 am sure
U will find one better and more mannered and loyal
To you. .

Go out tonight buy cold beer drink,
Carry Olosho fuccck all the anoyance anger, hurt out in her
Trust me u will wake up the next day feeling like u don't give
A fuvk

Thank you very much bro for these words of advise

Canada2021:
I hope so bro because na dis babe i wan marry. I have given up alot for us to be together

You dont force people to be with you. If the feeling ain't truly mutual, they'll act up sooner or later.

Or mayb she's on her period and experiencing mood swing! That's a possibility. You can wait it out and see if she calms down. No pressure though

Canada2021:
Thank you very much. Even my guys in the next room begged her all night and she refused

Just give it time for her head to calm down.

AwkaetitiBabe:
You dont force people to be with you. If the feeling ain't truly mutual, they'll act up sooner or later.

Or mayb she's on her period and experiencing mood swing! That's a possibility. You can wait it out and see if she calms down. No pressure though

Thank you very much I will try to give her space

Goovo:
just take this advice. This is just the truth

Thank you bro

Oya buy a flower with I'm sorry note and go to her place of work, try as much as you can to give it to her or a female colleague of hers. This is how we loose good women to rivals bro, you don't have time. There's definitely someone waiting to take advantage of the situation.

grossintel:
Oya buy a flower with I'm sorry note and go to her place of work, try as much as you can to give it to her or a female colleague of hers. This is how we loose good women to rivals bro, you don't have time. There's definitely someone waiting to take advantage of the situation.

Thank you very much

let her be for a while, she will get over it

DaudaAbu:
let her be for a while, she will get over it

Thank you very much bro

Canada2021:
Thank you very much

You're welcome, don't listen to those saying you should free the babe, she's cheating blah blah blah. Every women is a cheat to Nairalanders, I know say you fvck up, are you easily irritated these days? Cause some times when my girlfriend stays with me for a while she becomes super annoying. She'll leave me hungry and be watching that yeye Z world, when I turn off the TV she will carry phone and start pressing. If no be say I dey gentle na better slap, but I just overlook those things. Living with a woman is a whole new level, please learn to control your temper and watch how you talk, I believe that's why she talks back at you rudely. Don't conclude she's cheating yet, when they cheat they are usually super nice trust me.

Wrong approach. Whatever happened to asking if you offended her or if something was going on? You should have been more sensitive, considering you were together for three years. She shouldn’t have called you a fool but you overreacted by slapping her. No matter what, do not hit a woman!
She will forgive you, with time, but I doubt she will come back.

I wonder hw u guys dnt see d signs

grossintel:
You're welcome, don't listen to those saying you should free the babe, she's cheating blah blah blah. Every women is a cheat to Nairalanders, I know say you fvck up, are you easily irritated these days? Cause some times when my girlfriend stays with me for a while she becomes super annoying. She'll leave me hungry and be watching that yeye Z world, when I turn off the TV she will carry phone and start pressing. If no be say I dey gentle na better slap, but I just overlook those things. Living with a woman is a whole new level, please learn to control your temper and watch how you talk, I believe that's why she talks back at you rudely. Don't conclude she's cheating yet, when they cheat they are usually super nice trust me.

Thank you very much bro i I really agree with you

Next time abeg, no put hands on the woman you Love.

There are many reasons for her to be acting up. Women are not wired like men, sometimes their emotions are erratic. Apologise for hitting her but not for being offended on how she treated you.

Best of luck Bro.

Kaycee54321:
Next time abeg, no put hands on the woman you Love.

There are many reasons for her to be acting up. Women are not wired like men, sometimes their emotions are erratic. Apologise for hitting her but not for being offended on how she treated you.

Best of luck Bro.

Thank you very much bro. I feel so bad for touching her

ceeroh:
You bleeped up big time. No matter what happens, never let your insecurities show, can't you just pretend until you find out if she's up to something nasty or not? Now you don use your hot temper and jealousy spoil everything. Weak ass punk!

As for the traffic excuse, if it's Lagos, then forget it. D traffic these days na die. It's enough to make someone go nuts.
You're too overbearing, goan learn how to handle a woman.

I never suspected her to be cheating. I was only annoyed that she could point her fingers to my face and call me a fool

Don't listen to those saying all those lovey dovey trash above. Stop begging.

In this game, the last person to beg is the ultimate loser. If you want to inflate a lady's ego, beg her. Trust me, once you do that, subconsciously, she begins to see you as a loser. Don't show any weakness. Don't contact her again.

Newboss:
Don't listen to those saying all those lovey dovey trash above. Stop begging.

In this game, the last person to beg is the ultimate loser. If you want to inflate a lady's ego, beg her. Trust me, once you do that, subconsciously, she begins to see you as a loser. Don't show any weakness. Don't contact her again.

Thank you very much bro.

Don't fight for her or beg her to stay with you. Let her go . She called u a fool that means u are more than a fool to her.

Newboss:
Don't listen to those saying all those lovey dovey trash above. Stop begging.

In this game, the last person to beg is the ultimate loser. If you want to inflate a lady's ego, beg her. Trust me, once you do that, subconsciously, she begins to see you as a loser. Don't show any weakness. Don't contact her again.

Na only u be man wey sabi for here, all the remaining just dey yarn nonsense. How can a woman bodly call a man a fool, is that not verbal abuse and it is not different from physical abuse. He slapped her, she slapped him back so why should he beg.

If she tired of the relationship, let her leave, she is not diamond that is hard to find.

BigJoe19:
Na only u be man wey sabi for here, all the remaining just dey yarn nonsense. How can a woman bodly call a man a fool, is that not verbal abuse and it is not different from physical abuse. He slapped her, she slapped him back so why should he beg.

If she tired of the relationship, let her leave, she is not diamond that is hard to find.

Bro i was really annoyed when she insulted me and thing be say she dey point finger for my face.

Canada2021:
Bro i was really annoyed when she insulted me and thing be say she dey point finger for my face.

Abeg leave her alone, you thinking you can't find another girl better than her is false, you both acted wrong, so if she can't come back it's a loss for her.

Find another girl and enjoy your life, no time for stupid annoying girls.