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Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Kingpele(m): 1:44pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
[quote author=CanadianNaija post=83478198] You’ve come to this conclusion about the brother based on what the Op wrote up there? Have you had to carry other people before? Have you been in a position where once a family member calls your account balance is reducing? Who are you to judge his brother when you’ve not worn his shoes? If you keep pouring from a bucket without refilling, it will become empty...carry a family of 8 people including your new one first before coming here to sound off. The Op downplayed how he used to spend on the family before he married, and how he had given money and car to the first son before now. I guess the man should borrow and give them first before they recognize that he’s a good man.[this forum is full of unintelligent kids, this particular guy says, he want his brother back, not for personal reasons but to foster unity within his family and u guys are talking about money, dear brotherly relationship suppersede every other relationship, a person who looks down on his siblings for whatever reason is a fool, cos he can't be a good friend to anyone, nor a good spouse or a good dad or mum... Selfishness is what that his brother is suffering from... If my sibling call me, I won't ignore it, if what u ask of me is beyond my capacity, I will politely explain my self to him or her, or at least give what I can afford, my mum built it in us, so if u have but refuse to help your brother, u deserve to be alone in this world without anyone, 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Farmafric(m): 1:45pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
I have a similar experience as that brother. I have bought four vehicles for my siblings, helped all of them in one way or the other in their businesses and even used several millions to build a family house. Placed my parents on monthly allowances and meet all possible needs of both in laws and immediate and extended family as much as I can but what did I get in return... You will be surprised! Hatred! Gossip! Evil insinuations, entitlement, and envy. Same attitude like OP, they feel I help outsiders but not them. I still spent millions on scholarships, etc but my younger brothers will not even respond to my greetings. Yes, I will greet them first if we meet but they will ignore me. One of them feel I should have made him a manager in my company another felt there is no reason why he should suffer when he has someone like me. Even classmates, friends, far relations all have similar entitlement mentality and they don't care if you have or not. My advice is simple, don't give in to pressure of people who thinks think they have right over your life. If you have any misfortune they are the first to laugh and make mockery of you. Plan for your immediate family and invest for retirement and nuclear family. Do the much you can for loved ones and leave the rest to God. 20 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Nobody: 1:45pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Your "rich" brother isn't responsible for you.... "everyman shall work out his own salvation" Holy Bible 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Enculer: 1:47pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
emrain: Thank you abeg. Most people on here are supporting the OP because they think the same. Waiting for cash cow to milk. 2 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by grandstar(m): 1:47pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
johnmba: 7 kids is no small feat. That is a huge load to carry. Also, you said he is very rich. How much do you think he earns? johnmba: His not playing with you much may already signify what kind of person he is. johnmba: So he used to assist you in school? That was very kind of him. To say he stopped helping you simply because you guys did not support his marriage is wrong. Is he God? johnmba: If he gives you money when his wife isn't present, that is maturity. That is the proper thing to do even more so that his wife isn't chummy with you. The wife not cooking for you is petty. However, she may be worried that you may become too comfortable and want to stay over which she dreads. johnmba: Your brother tried for the first born by giving him money and also buying him a car. However, from what I've learnt from business, things can still go wrong despite our best efforts. However, your brother thinks he had done his best and that he is no father Christmas. He might also be angry that if the first born was doing well, he'll pick up some of the problems of the others and this is not the case today. johnmba: I think your expactations from your second born is too much even though you may be in denial. If he seems unready to help in your opinion, dump him, forget him. Choose on your own never to depend on him. Be 100% determined to make it on your won and pick up some of the others. Brainstorm on how to make money. And forget your children are watching. It is because you think too much about your brother. He is not the only one in the family. johnmba: [/quote] Bring him back? It is only when many of you are successful he will come back. He sees you guys as parasites and that all you'll want is money. Double your hustle 4 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by edoairways: 1:48pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
baby124:You words has wisdom. It portrays the reality on ground. It goes a long way to change people's perception about been rich. The mentality of many Nigerians should change towards people that live a comfortable life. A man be may be rich as claimed yet broke. Good bless you for this wisdom of yours. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by mechanics(m): 1:51pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Pray for him to change and keep talking to him if possibly you can meet his boss in his office to talk to him since he will respect his boss. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Enculer: 1:51pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Tosinayoko: Do not mind them. I ask again ...are they disabled? |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Ibime(m): 1:52pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Once a man is married and has his own children, siblings automatically become extended family, no more nuclear. OP cannot deal this fact. Moreso, you and your family were in opposition at the inception of his marriage, meaning you have dropped even further down his priority list. Realise that every time a father gives you money, he is taking it directly out of his children's mouth. The car and money he gave your first born which was squandered can pay university education for one of his children. This is a man who is even a salaried employee and you are expecting him to cater for 6 siblings plus his own family. Mscheeew. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Memyselfu2009(m): 1:53pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Win the wife over and everything would be resolved 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Just2endowed2(m): 1:54pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Babaalata: Omo na so oh.... Even friends you grow up with as childhood friend or a friend you thought you knew very well will disappoint you. I kind of understand how disappointment work around people you know now. Guy go and hustle legitimately. 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by TEYA: 1:58pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
My mother told me the story of a certain man in her village, he was stupendously rich, he only catered or his wife and children alone, he belonged to the "I don't owe anyone anything crew". One day he died, his corpse was brought to the village. Now it is the custom, that when a person dies, the bereaved family only mourns, nothing more, for a whole week. Other villagers will bring food and come to commiserate with them. On the day of the burial, the youth in he village will come together to dig the grave. This rich dude's corpse came but the youth in the village said they are not digging any grave o! That his ajebutter kids should dig the grave themselves. Like play like play o, dem no gree dig. Later they said if at all they are to dig, they must be paid and they will bargain well o! It was embarrassing. The elders had to come together to beg the youth o. After so much pleading, they dug the grave, the man was buried and the elders gave a stern warning, anyone that lives that kind of life is on his own when he dies, they will never beg the youths again. So to all those that are saying you don't owe anyone anything, be guided. Your life isn't yours alone. 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by cococandy(f): 1:58pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
You say you’re not expecting anything financial from him but your points state otherwise 2 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Babaalata: 1:59pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
shogsman: Yes, there was a part he said the brother doesn't give him money and when he visits the wife doesn't cook. It was later in the thread that he said he has 10 people on his payroll and also doing fine. I advised him based on the present, I never knew he was referring to the past. 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Sunnydoo: 2:00pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
pray for him every day, in the morning and at night., committing his heart to God. this is because only God can change a man perfectly as He created and made us all. Also, who know if God will reveal the real problem to you when you persist in prayer, as the real problem most times are not the superficial(what we all sees or think) so for now, keep your head up, work hard and move closer to God. things will turn around for good 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by southpole: 2:00pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Mstick:Or why should the man take care of his wife more than how he does to his siblings? This is the type of question being asked in some families where the siblings see the in-law as a parasite |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by West2019(m): 2:03pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
free him ,its a pure wickedness. if na kogi state him come from e body for done tell an , carry world put for head like say e no go die again , where is Abacha ,Yarudua ,many more ,if God bless u use it to bless ur youngers once tomorrow is a different day ..look at the case of our ex international footballer some of them are extremely broke to dey call if them .help there family's or friends I dnt think there will be in poverty stage today .Forget about him is not ur God dnt call him again 4 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by CanadianNaija: 2:04pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
TEYA: Hopefully you don’t have a reading disability, else you would have seen where I wrote that if it’s contract work then that another thing. Read slower next time. 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by aluko360(m): 2:08pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Op sounds so bittered from his post. It's your brother's way so let him be. What if he is not well to do shey all of una no go find una level? Please drop the idea that my broda na big man so he must bear all the family burden. Life no be so my broda. Even God in heaven does not answer all prayers, so pray make God bless your hussle if you have one. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by CanadianNaija: 2:08pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
jansonn: From your post and how affected you are by this I guess you’re one of those parasites that suck on the relatives? Stop being lazy, go and make your own luck...whatever rich relative you’re jealous of right now will be more inclined to help if they see that you’re making an effort. 3 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by CanadianNaija: 2:11pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
aluko360: Very bitter, and he’s covering it up by saying he’s not concerned about the money, but is quick to list out all the things the brother should be capable of doing. Mentioning big money, but pointing out that the brother only send money once or twice a year. I’m a family of 7 children if they all take turns to send money on a month by month basis shouldn’t it be twice a year? He talk about wanting their brother back all he wants, but his post states the true state of his mind and thought towards the brother. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Enculer: 2:12pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
CanadianNaija: Thank you my FELLOW Canadian. The nerve some Nigerians have is just remarkable. They sit their fat asses down expecting goodies 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Emmaxy9(m): 2:12pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
I am really grateful to God for the lessons I learnt earlier in life and that has been going for me. NO ONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE: I have seen so many peope grumble and still remain where they are in life becaude they expected someone to help them and their failure to do that makes them feel it's not their fault that theyre like that. Normally when In the university, i would whine and cry about my family and how everything has been bad and also say to myself its not my fault..but as soon as i took responsibility for my life, I became better and happy. My advice is that you shouldn't see it as anything bad but take it as his choice. Be very successful and show him the example of how he should have done. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Enculer: 2:13pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
A family with 7 kids and all the other 6 are still suckling one sibling is a cursed one. Even though I do not believe in superstition. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Coldie(m): 2:13pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
If he was poor, and ur family rejected his life partner choice and his family, would your family members be picking his calls? The guy used to be nice like u said very nice, hut for him to change after the wife issue it depends on what ur people put him through during his trial time 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by grandstar(m): 2:13pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
johnmba: Move on and don't kill yourself (Ecclesiastes 3:6) |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by InvertedHammer: 2:14pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
johnmba:/ Your motive is clear. Instead of "My brother does not care about us" you wrote "My rich brother does not care about us". You have little interest in his brotherly love. You are looking for an opportunity to be a leech. That's all. *He is supposedly rich. *He works in a multinational firm. *He helps others in the oil firm. And all you miss is his love. Yeah right! If your brother is struggling, you people will not miss him. / 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Emmaculate77(m): 2:14pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
johnmba:That is life for you. Get engaged in something productive, invest your time in your family and in people that value you. Your BROTHER must not have time for a good relationship with you. Though you are brothers, everyone still has the right to choose how to spend his time. Start investing your time in valuable relationships with mutual respect. You are complaining about your brother's attitude because you have nothing useful to do with your time. Stop complaining and take charge of your life and that of your own family. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by FindingNigeria: 2:15pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
johnmba: I now see why he's avoiding all of you. You need him back from where? From his own family? You have to grow up and understand life. A man's focus changes. A man only owes his parents above and beyond. He has tried for you guys. What came out of the business money and car? Nothing! And you want more? 2 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by clive2u(m): 2:15pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
the wife Don wash tins give him. either spiritual or she use brain control am. just pray for him and let him come back to his senses on his own. God for punish that kind wife that would say I should neglect my family |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Babaalata: 2:16pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Just2endowed2: Anybody can disappoint, that's why they are humans. People change everyday. 2 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by bravehost4u(m): 2:17pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Farmafric:God bless you for this comment 2 Likes 1 Share |
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