Another Nonsense

Sir,
I love your sincerity in bringing your dilemma here. I know exactly the feeling. In 2012/13 I was in such pain when the lady I was getting set to take to the altar opened up on same issue. I brought it to this beautiful forum...most guys bashed me like kilode, called me all sorts of unprintable names..ONLY one precious soul of a lady, an angel I think..gave me a level headed counsel, that I should not loose that girl. Her advice gave me peace. we have 2 girls and 2boys now (the boys are deadly identical twins)..if I were to be allowed to come to this world again, i will search Biola out and marry her again and again. And I am Ibo, and definitely not a saint..BOTTOMLINE: If you have that connection, don't allow that girl slip away, she's a keeper

generationz:
The girl said she slept with other men to provide for her ex.

I hope men on this forum can see that when a woman loves you, she will do anything to make you comfortable WITHIN HER POWER. This was a broke student girl who still found a means to help her ex.


Some of you don't even receive calls from your baes.

How do we believe the babe?

Is it true that she did that to help her broke ex or she is just trying to paint a good girl picture for him?

No be woman, they can make everything sweet and you will be like u have found the best woman but deeply, na pretender and liar all join

Forgive her as how?! Did she offend you in any way? She even love and trusted you enough to "confess"

She did all these before you started dating SO E NO CONCERN YOU! You should only be concerned with her actions from the day you started dating, period!

Enjoy your woman and don't seek problems where there's none.

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

Take some days off think about it.. And see if you still love her after.. At the end of the day only you can make a decision that best for you.. Just know this people have the ability to change and shouldn't be judged on past deeds

lilwetdick:
you boys are funny ooh

what do you expect after buying lot of stuff for your broke ass or did you think it was free

everything was a game from start, a game to control your manhood

best will be to stop collecting gifts and use your brain

... Did you even read a single word of the post at all?

My Fren Go For Maltina Can One Open Is Ok Not Bottle Of Cocakola That Is Open And Close , Open And Close

Please wife her, its rear honestly these days to get and see an sincere lady.


Very difficult!

Sampam911:
My brother run for ur life.... Dis is pure deliverance to u.....

Lol

I don't just run like that na.

Deliverance from what exactly.

Do the same thing and confess your own pat sins.

She did not do wrong by telling you, it is better you hear it from her mouth than from another source if eventually, you go ahead with the relationship

Wait you need the whole NL to tell ya she f**king loves you? ...

Mumu reasons to worry about. What's your problem with anyone's past? Is there any big deal in sex? Is written on forehead? Can you eat it all? Have you not sex any woman before her? Have you not bleep her?

Leave her and meet the worst ahead.


#tell her not tell you any story like that again 'cos you're man enough to know such.


# I read sometimes ago on nairaland that some husbands lease out their wife for tourist in Kenya... It is called tourist sex.

generationz:
The girl said she slept with other men to provide for her ex.

I hope men on this forum can see that when a woman loves you, she will do anything to make you comfortable WITHIN HER POWER. This was a broke student girl who still found a means to help her ex.


Some of you don't even receive calls from your baes.

This Crack me up. You think her main objective is to provide for her ex.
All these olosho on coded runs, in message, na most of them get boyfriend and some of them are spending money on their boyfriends but thinking that their main goal of going into whoring is to provide for their boyfriends is what's funny to me. It's not a new thing.

A female student will be dating sugar zaddy and she'll be spending the money she gets from sugar zaddy on her boyfriend but the boyfriend will be thinking she's rich.
It's not a new a thing and I don see am wella.
But you saying is because of love is what crack me up. What if she has been whoring before she met her ex.

You're very funny.

Logan95:

Bros try and read well.... She bought stuffs for her ex.
I am not broke.

No mind him, they don't read to understand at all, na so dem dey kill innocent person.


My dear, it might be truth, and it might be lie(to know how you will react). If you still feel that same way you felt when you met her, please continue, but if you don't, quietly lay her off.

Logan95:

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

20 year old around the world are making mistakes dialy..

Logan95:

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

Bros everyone wants to get laid lie now say you never lay woman the fact that she told you means she wants to set it right and that is a true gem if you love am love am life is crooked sha always remember that

lilwetdick:


20 years old girl with 2 abortion and lot of body count.... it seems you are with a hoe

better go find yourself a good girl...anyway it is up to you.i personally cant cope with her.

Only if you know Nigerian girls well enough, you won’t be surprised that age 20 is even advanced when it comes to abortion. I am not saying that it is right. But that next girl you will go for. Do you know her past? Do you know what she has done too?

If I were u, I will be happy for her telling me d truth. It is difficult for a lady to tell u her past even do she loves u. She genuinely loves you. But the question is that, do you love her as much as she loves you? Common, the decision is yours, follow your heart in making your decision because you're the one in d Center of it. But I must tell u that an open-minded ladies like her are scares nowadays.

I hate that you don't deserve me, you deserve better line. That's like an emotional blackmail. Buh she loyal for telling you the truth.. Stick there a Lil bit, if you know she real!
With time you will know who she truly is, just don't use the confession for punishment, if you not liking it, take a bow in peace.

Logan95:

Bros try and read well.... She bought stuffs for her ex.
I am not broke.

Bro, thats a NL problem....

If she has changed for good, mehnnnn everyone have a past, u are lucky she told u, from all u have said she deserve a second chance.

Forgive her, she told you the truth and tell her not to go back there

Forgive her..��b4 she confessed 2 u that means she really loves u .......Okay y she no confess to her ex?

My Brother forgive and continue f*cking her if she sincerely regretted her past.
Afterall, the devil you no is better than the angel you dont no.

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

An honest gal is rare and it shows she probably has changed or wants to change and turn a new leaf. Also such a gal can’t hide anything from u ever mostly likely.

If u leave her, u might meet one that has done same or worse bt will rather hide her info from u so as not to loose u. These type can be dangerous smtmes.

Also what she just confessed is about what many other gals have done. Atleast 50/60% of gals have slept with guys for money sake. Abortions maybe 30%

At the end of the day it comes down to how u view her after all this. If u can’t handle it pls leave and don’t make her feel worse for confessing to u, sm other guy will
Appreciate her truth and love her despite These flaws and mistakes. This doesn’t make u a bad person just not the right person.


For me it will depend on the level of love and trust that exists between us. That will be the determining factor. Sm1 can tell me this and I will leave and Sm1 else and I will stay no matter what so It depends.

To confess before strong commitment is exemplary. Abortions have very bad negative effects. If both of you have slept together,it is sin. Relationship,especially marriage is the bonding of two histories. Look hard at your past history and what you will like it to be till the end of life. Does her past and imaginable future look suitable for your dream? This needs to be your consideration for the next possibly one year before a reasonable decision can be made. And you must not sleep with her in order to be objective. Most mistakes in our marriages arise from not doing such realistic reasoning. And we are prejudiced by sex.

Nobody Holy!

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

You already have your problem solved since you understood she confesses without you asking. She could have keep her secrets to herself but she choose to let you know who she was. Now the question is do you feel better hearing it from her now or you would have prefer to hear it later and from outsider?
I will advise you just focus on her new life with you rather focus on her past

rossovu:


Bros if she's changed, straight 100% and her love for you is real...forgive her past and keep her... if we check ourselves kpata kpata nobody innocent.

Case closed. Nobody holy pass.

If I were you @Logan95, I would grab her with ARADITE HANDS

For a lady to come out clean to you means that she's ready to commit her body, spirit, and soul to you
Study her.... if truly she had changed why not...

GRAB YA COPY NOW!!!!!!!!!

BatleFox:



I had one like yours. An accountant and fashion designer I wanted to marry. Met her in Port Harcourt. Her story was like your babe's but just only one abortion, hence her big hips. She sounded more like my bank account was more special to her than me so I walked. She was extremely lovely and well endowed.

The thing to understand is you girl has seen a future with you and knows that if she keeps quiet about her past and you later find out it may ruin things. What you have there is a loyal babe that has placed herself at your feet. Feel free to dump her and go and marry a virgin that will tear your life wide open.


Eh, RedCreme21, how far? You dey see my level so? And you never even enter university.

Op i will advise u not to break up with her but dont put ur 100% trust in her becaure there are two ways to this; either she truly loves u and really want to keep the relationship or thats her way of life and she just want ur pity to continue her hoeloshoism or she might even be testing u because some girls are still that daft. All these things i read here on nairaland make me to thank God, love and appreciate my girlfriend more.

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Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

everyone wants to know the past of who they re dating but very few can handle the truthful past.and to be couragous to tell u even without u asking means a whole lot.u will be more broken if u find out yourself. Most students female sleep with lecturers for mark.but non will admit to it.because no body wants to be tagged a LovePeddler.as for me i better deal with d devil i knw than the pretentious angel.gudluck bro.las las na u get d final decision