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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by ugnoble: 10:22am On Oct 29, 2019
@OP, honesty is at play here. Don't listen to all these guys advising you to lay her off.

Ask yourself this question, what if? What if she never told you and you later found out? How would you feel?

See, there's more to settling down than mere relationship. She obviously have seen a greater future with you and decided to come clean now so there won't be any cockroaches in the cardboard or unnecessary drama.

You self wey dey talk, you no dey count scores? Swear say you no dey enjoy wetin dey inside skirt before you meet am; even en own self, you done chuck prick enter.

See, what a man needs is peace of mind, trust, respect and love. If you have it all in her, wife her and forget about all these unnecessary comments from folks here, cause las las, na your body go tell you. Make you no go carry saint abi na virgin tomorrow as virgin come come back here again to lament.

Be Wise, Be Wise.
Enough said.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by SouthSouth1914: 10:22am On Oct 29, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
Lolz.... Smooth breakup tactics so you wouldn't seem like d villian... You don't deserve me, you deserve better cheesy

We done use this line wella that year.

Lol
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by livinbygrace: 10:23am On Oct 29, 2019
FrLukas:


I disagree though. She didn't have to tell him. She did. That doesn't sound like a LovePeddler to me. Women do the stupidest things when they in love. No excuse for the lady though. Abortion is abhorrent.

Still, she told him when she could have kept shut and he'd probably never find out.

Una still be small pikin .Which girl no dey do runs dis days?U go wait tire,maybe na mumu you dey find sha

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Opistorincos(m): 10:23am On Oct 29, 2019
Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.


boss, i am to young to help with the issue at hand. I am interested in knowing about your PGD programme though, where can i contact you?

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Haabil: 10:25am On Oct 29, 2019
If she confess, which means she is ready to repent and change. What you just need to do is to forgive her and help her to get to heaven.

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Nobody: 10:25am On Oct 29, 2019
Billyanger:
OP MAN, THERE IS A POPULAR SAYING "THE DEVIL YOU KNOW IS BETTER THAN THE ANGEL YOU DON'T KNOW"

I HAVE MET HOME GIRLS THAT COME FROM DECENT HOMES AND LOOK COMPLETELY SAINT, ONLY FOR ME TO FIND OUT THAT THEY HAVE HAD PAST... MESSY PAST THAT THEY DIDN'T MENTION TILL WE SEPARATE....NOT ONE, NOT TWO GIRLS.

RESPECT YOUR GIRL FOR TELLING YOU (THAT'S NOT A TICKET TO MARRIAGE THO), DEY WITH HER TILL YOU CAN FIND A BETTER GIRL. IF YOU ARE GOING TO BE WITH ANY NEW GIRL MAKE SURE YOU DO YOUR RESEARCH ABOUT HER, I CAN BET THAT HIGH PERCENTAGE OF GIRLS HAVE THIER DIRTY PAST, ESPECIALLY IN UNIVERSITIES....

IF YOU SEE A VIRGIN BY CHANCE I CAN BET YOU WILL NOT LIKE HER, I HAVE DATED A VIRGIN THAT I BROKE UP WITH BECAUSE SHE WAS SUPER DULL.

IF YOU CAN'T COPE WITH YOUR GIRL....SEPARATE WITH HER AND FIND ANOTHER NEW GIRL....I CAN BET YOU WILL STILL COME BACK HERE TO COMPLAIN grin

IF YOUR BODY COUNT AS A MAN IS ABOVE 10 WITH MORE THAN ONE WOMAN, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE ANY GIRL

99% ARE FVCKED SEXUALLY MAN OR WOMAN...

WHAT MAKES A VIRGIN SUPER DULL?
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Nosa111(m): 10:26am On Oct 29, 2019
Most girls are liars! They never spend any money for any ex. Small thing they will do for you will look like they spend the whole world on you. Oshi
Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Pocobaby(f): 10:26am On Oct 29, 2019
We women can never change
It's in the blood
May God have mercy on us

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Nobody: 10:28am On Oct 29, 2019
livinbygrace:

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Una still be small pikin .Which girl no dey do runs dis days?U go wait tire,maybe na mumu you dey find sha[/s]

Do you think you can try (I know it is difficult for you) to express yourself without the insults? I could even barely make out sense from what you typed.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by BarrElChapo(m): 10:30am On Oct 29, 2019
1. Do you think timing dint consult with a lot of persons before marrying his wife after those revelations
2. Do you honestly feel that he didn't have sleepless nights, doubts etc.
3. Do you honestly think when he was told rape he didn't maybe think he was being lied to ?
Everyone deserves a second chance in life, even the OP has endorsed abortions in the past, which means there's a girl out there whom he has put in this same position as his current girlfriend.
Life isn't set on stone.. It changes
safarigirl:
Some of you are really messed up in this country

It goes to show how low standards have gone, that people are saying "Forgive her, she regrets it, she's changed because she told you the truth"....20 year old girl. The ex couldn't even marry her for whatever reason, but the OP that was absent in all the abortions should come and carry her. Y'all have low standards, cuz y'all are messed up people. Na people dey marry virgins for this world, but then, how many virgin men are there?

OP, I hope you prepare yourself, because that girl needs a special man that will not run away when heat comes, because heat WILL come. Nice man, nice man, one day una go quarrel and you will remind her of all the abortions, if she can't take in, you will remember the abortions, the day you meet someone who knows of her past, you will feel awkward, you will get mad and you will blame her. It's a small world after all. One day, she will be nice to a man and you will wonder if she's sleeping with him for favors, your paranoia will be off the roof.

For you to bring such sensitive information here, means, you are having second thoughts and you are not cool with the information. Leave her now abeg, let her find another nicer man, some Timi Dakolo kind of person, not you.

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by rafkollinz: 10:31am On Oct 29, 2019
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rafkollinz:
Good blooda as she willingly told n confessed to u. If u no dt her past will not hurt u in future, it's very best well to consider n let her realise if she still can eat her vomit, if she nods out ie layilahi. Let her used Bible to swear if she ready to b wit u. My blooda, its very rare n scarce to mit a lady Wu can boldly step 4ward n told u her past within short period u not her..
The ball is in ur court, may Almighty Allah gif u wisdom to make right n suitable decision 4 yasef
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by kelvinovie25(m): 10:31am On Oct 29, 2019
Life is somehow, people go Tru serious shit, some of the things we have done in the past, not everyone can be very courageous to say it in front of anyone, she came out clean cus she doesn't want to hide anything from you, if you love her that much forgive her nd move away from her last, everyone of us her sinners, the most important thing is that is is ready for a change.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Nobody: 10:31am On Oct 29, 2019
Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.
She is having a guilty conscience.She might be thinking someone would tell you about her dirty past or you have known already.So she opened up to you so that you will not be hurt when you eventually find out.
You needs to go for an HIV test.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by chuksjuve(m): 10:32am On Oct 29, 2019
BarrElChapo:


Oga abeg are you God ? with all these big English we still have a very forgiving God. Quit with these tantrums

Why are you talking as if you are the victim here!

It's apparent you all only think of God's love but fail to realize that HE always gives justice and you must face the consequences of your misguided choice !

Did you think of God when you were fornicating when His holy book kicked against it?

Anyways .. I won't proceed any further before this discuss degenerate into the use of profane words.

Cheers
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by andycom(m): 10:33am On Oct 29, 2019
lilwetdick:
you boys are funny ooh

what do you expect after buying lot of stuff for your broke ass or did you think it was free

everything was a game from start, a game to control your manhood

best will be to stop collecting gifts and use your brain

and 32 people liked this trash of a comment, so none of you could comprehend what the op was actually saying? haba, educated illiterates

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Nobody: 10:33am On Oct 29, 2019
Lamanii22:



C'mon don't be mean... "Public dog" is extreme man... What if she had kept quiet nko...
that still won't change the fact that:

she's a murderer : she aborted 2 solid kids.

She slept with hundreds of men just to pleased her ex

Once a hoe is always a hoe.

gonna support the union btw your bro and the said girl?

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by chuksjuve(m): 10:33am On Oct 29, 2019
Lamanii22:



Then she might have gotten no other choice.... She might not have the resources to take care of the baby... She could be 16 or 17 when she had the abortion(s) ... She was naive....

I get your point but abortion is still a crime before man and murder before God!

Being emotional cannot change it ..

That's all I'm just saying

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by livinbygrace: 10:34am On Oct 29, 2019
FrLukas:


Do you think you can try (I know it is difficult for you) to express yourself without the insults? I could even barely make out sense from what you typed.

Na grammar you still dey blow,by the time you enter 40 you go understand
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Davefate: 10:35am On Oct 29, 2019
Bro, you need divine intervention now, we are talking about someone who will stay with you for the rest of your life. The best advice is to seek God, then take action, don't mind some advice here oh! Lol, but for me, keep her, she's a wife material, simple.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by andycom(m): 10:37am On Oct 29, 2019
HarunaWest:

Why is she even apologizing for telling the truth sef...is it cos she told yah,u sef come dey form saint no. If she kept shut,heaven won't fall @ all....The fact that she confessed,you should respect her the more....The last time I remembered my body count was year 2016...And it was exactly 52...between then and now,I can't count.

52 in 2016, uncountable in 2019 ���
bros you're a hoe !! na play
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by TalkYourOwn(m): 10:37am On Oct 29, 2019
My advice: study her, give her instructions concerning how she relates and visit opposite sex, test her and see how she responds. You never can tell if she is genuinely sorry or not but i tell you, be vigilant and you will need no one to tell you the truth. Please, do not be harsh on her.
She might be a bad girl who has found love and the way you treat her will determine if she remains good or regret trying to be good.
One love bro.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by ofemigeorge(m): 10:37am On Oct 29, 2019
Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.
Becareful. The heart may still long for the ex wen he comes knocking. And the lust of money and fleshlydesires may still arise when the chips are downfor you guys.

Believe me guard your heart from future heart break if you must continue. Live light
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by frowland(m): 10:39am On Oct 29, 2019
Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

Bros me. Many of us are dating or got married to girls that did worst and never told. Some of them, it's only their mother or sisters that know the secrets. This one even told you her's. In my candid opinion, she's sincere and worth keeping.

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by andycom(m): 10:39am On Oct 29, 2019
lilwetdick:


ok.. but she also bought for you

anyway up to you, as they said the nice guys always get the bad girl when she wanna settle down

age is not in her side, she wants to settle down thus all these open up stories, so that you will pity her and carry her along

anyway, every man for himself, if i was in your shoe i wouldnt accept her, i have standards and i cant be comfortable with a woman with lot of body count and abortion reason is many women with lot of body count have issues, issues you cant solve, issues of bonding with their future partner, also potential std and sti. that is just my opinion

it is up to you.




and where did you get the info that age is not on her side? this guy lmfao
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by livinbygrace: 10:39am On Oct 29, 2019
andycom:


52 in 2016, uncountable in 2019 ���
bros you're a hoe !! na play
What of over 800 and still counting ?

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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by godquality: 10:40am On Oct 29, 2019
These are stories from her past. Unless she lied to you during the course of your relationship, then she didn't do anything to even warrant your forgiveness. She's being open and truthful with you.
What you do with the information is left to you. But at least now you know her and be advise, there're are few Africa nay Nigerian girls that will even provide such detailed information about themselves. So i believe she sees something in you to warrant her trusting you with her deepest secret.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Savager: 10:40am On Oct 29, 2019
What she really means about her past.
But just place her on probation on your mind, Then see if she doesn't go back to her past, but then don't ever attempt to tempt her to see if she has changed cause even you will fail if tempted.

Bro then you can forgive her past and she forgives your past.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Acidosis(m): 10:41am On Oct 29, 2019
grin grin


Be grateful bro.

This thing is not written on the face. There's no way you would know that a young girl has done one or two abortions unless you're told. Virginity is the only true test to show the next girl hasn't. So just take what you have and work on (groom) her. She might need to undergo some kind of therapy though.
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by BarrElChapo(m): 10:47am On Oct 29, 2019
Unfortunately you must be quite unexposed with this your one sided views of life. I was once like you but I'm better.. you'd grow up hopefully but if you don't well I'd pity............
chuksjuve:


Why are you talking as if you are the victim here!

It's apparent you all only think of God's love but fail to realize that HE always gives justice and you must face the consequences of your misguided choice !

Did you think of God when you were fornicating when His holy book kicked against it?

Anyways .. I won't proceed any further before this discuss degenerate into the use of profane words.

Cheers
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by blackbone989(m): 10:50am On Oct 29, 2019
First of all majority of those who commented are children on Nairaland so I don't expect u to take it serious. Now the girl in question came clean because she loves u n u av this one chance to prove to her she made d right choice. No one is perfect n we all here if we will open up we can't count the num of girls we have slept with. If u truly luv her u will mk her mistakes her strength. You have a chance to either make or break. The decision is yours. Remember everyone has a dirty secret somewhere somehow
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by 27Pushing30: 10:50am On Oct 29, 2019
rossovu:


Bros if she's changed, straight 100% and her love for you is real...forgive her past and keep her... if we check ourselves kpata kpata nobody innocent.

People DO NOT change.

Don’t get it twisted
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Nobody: 10:51am On Oct 29, 2019
Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

Hmmmm.
This is truly heavy. I will suggest you keep up with her. Her error or mistake is in the past and not enough to leave her. She came to you and told u her self instead of you hearing from someone else.
Keep up and if she is a girl of ur dream. Go ahead 100%

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

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