| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Remix10(m): 8:24am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.
There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.
When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.
Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex
I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.
This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks Until she allows you to make love to her, seems you are a learner, Do you want to have sex with a lifeless being, this guy Don craze OH, men can't you do without sex, this clearly means you love sex more than you love her, you just want to rest that forbidden fruit and maybe engage in cheating spree. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nnemuka(f): 8:24am On Oct 31, 2019 |
WriterX:
lollz haha seriously I be dey reason say na pregnancy trap lol the guy wan use too but I doubt it just a bit.
lolz I just don't see why suspending the white wedding is the obvious right call for him to make he thinks every woman is silly Which one is traditional and then going ahead to cancel church wedding. He should have first done d church if he was serious about settling down. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Jamorezzi: 8:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Something fishy is cooking then .  |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nnemuka(f): 8:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
nasoeb:
Hanty, this your last sentence show sey your own virgin don scatter day tey. Your name don comot for virgin list since like 25years ago. Na dam na you carry for leg na. You are very stup1d Look for your jamb mates and exchange this type of gist with. So many of u were raised by 1diots. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Butoneday2(m): 8:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Drkeo:
She's hiding something from you.... Exactly? |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by MariaAngeles: 8:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
[s] Drkeo:
She's hiding something from you.... [/s] |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by NoToPile: 8:27am On Oct 31, 2019 |
marvin905:
let me understand something you don't support traditional marriage that's your way..
buh you support white wedding that isn't your own..
if am wrong tell me cause a nigga is confused Not that read and understand my post. 2 major points 1.He already had an agreement with her that they wont consumate the marriage till after the church wedding. HE AGREED. 2. If you are going to go through two or three marriage types, try and finish all before you consumate. Trad wedding alone plus registry plus a pastor blessing you is okay but if you still want a full service of solemnization of holy matrimony then I believe you should wait, what are you now solemnizing after the marriage has been consumated. I feel its a sort of deception and jamboree, I didnt have a church wedding personally beacuse we didnt want to but if we did we would have waited till after the church wedding. My 2nd point is talking as a christain. This is why I dont support long time between trad and church Wedding, do the trad and do a small solemnization weeks apart. It avoids all this mess. I am talking based on the assumption that the couple to be are celibate but as it seems everyone is having sex before marriage nowadays( which I know is not true) well it seems irrelevant. 2nd point is my personal opinion as a christain. Either way the OP should keep to his agreement. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by AtoningBlood(m): 8:28am On Oct 31, 2019 |
farady:
From the Christian perspective, the rites are not yet complete. That is why we have the solemnisation of Holy matrimony performed in the church; where both of them are supposed to stand before God (with the bed undefiled, even though they may not be virgins, but born again christains who haven't had sex in the course of their relationship) to take the marriage vows.
Here the pastor or priest will ask the bride's father or whoever is standing for the father if the groom has fulfilled the family rites (what we call traditional wedding).
So I'm sure that's her mindset and this was made known to the OP. Great comment! She didn't hide her stand from him. The date for the traditional and white wedding should have been fixed closely to avoid these stories. If she engage is sexual intercourse and get pregnant, how will those looking up to her feel? As a Christian, you have the responsibility to live right becasue of others. Let other see Jesus in you. The Op is not being considerate at allllll, haba. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 8:28am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Nnemuka:
You are very stup1d
Look for your jamb mated and exchange this type of gist with.
So many of u were raised by 1diots. dont insult us,because we dont understand whats going on today either.... we are men....we cant think like women.... |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Butoneday2(m): 8:29am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.
There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.
When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.
Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex
I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.
This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks Bros! Wise-up, if you enter you don't enter. Girls/ladies of nowadays are something else. |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by MariaAngeles: 8:30am On Oct 31, 2019 |
midnighter:
But you're still going to marry her in the church so what actually is the problem?
Somebody told you something ahead of time, you say you did not take her serious. now the thing is coming to pass and you're complaining. Nawa
Church wedding is important to some people because of the spiritual implications, why did you go ahead with a born-again if you can't even respect a basic decision like this
And on top of it you put the wedding on hold so you can force her to compromise on her principles Wow
Shouldn't you be happy that you married somebody who actually stands on their word and does as they say? Is this not a good quality to look for in a spouse? You say wise things 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by nasoeb: 8:31am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Nnemuka:
You are very stup1d
Look for your jamb mated and exchange this type of gist with.
So many of u were raised by 1diots. Kai e pain you shaaa. E dey pain you sey the guy still prefers virgin in this present day where people like you have lost that one priceless gift from God to all those your one-corner motor park boyfriends like kabiru..... |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by MariaAngeles: 8:32am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.
There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.
When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.
Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex
I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.
This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks Don't allow anger ruin a beautiful thing you have . That is the only thing she asks of you...why not give it to her ? 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by nasoeb: 8:33am On Oct 31, 2019 |
obidark:
dont insult us,because we dont understand whats going on today either....
we are men....we cant think like women.... Bros dont mind her. When you tell them the truth, they turn to insult. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by TinaG(f): 8:34am On Oct 31, 2019 |
What if you find out after the wedding that she ain't any virgin,what will you do? I will advise you sit her down and tell her the consequences of lying to you about being a virgin (divorce), also watch her countenance.then fast track the wedding . And don't forget to take her to the hospital for virginity test before you proceed on doing the wedding. |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by PapaAdanna: 8:35am On Oct 31, 2019 |
If she is not a virgin... Bleep her |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 8:35am On Oct 31, 2019 |
ctleurocollege:
Proverbs 3:6 'Remember the Lord in everything you do, he will show you the right way'
now I know you're confused.. how does that relate to white wedding.. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by AtoningBlood(m): 8:37am On Oct 31, 2019 |
NoToPile:
Not that read and understand my post.
2 major points
1.He already had an agreement with her that they wont consumate the marriage till after the church wedding. HE AGREED.
2. If you are going to go through two or three marriage types, try and finish all before you consumate. Trad wedding alone plus registry plus a pastor blessing you is okay but if you still want a full service of solemnization of holy matrimony then I believe you should wait, what are you now solemnizing after the marriage has been consumated. I feel its a sort of deception and jamboree, I didnt have a church wedding personally beacuse we didnt want to but if we did we would have waited till after the church wedding. My 2nd point is talking as a christain. This is why I dont support long time between trad and church Wedding, do the trad and do a small solemnization weeks apart. It avoids all this mess. I am talking based on the assumption that the couple to be are celibate but as it seems everyone is having sex before marriage nowadays( which I know is not true) well it seems irrelevant.
2nd point is my personal opinion as a christain.
Either way the OP should keep to his agreement.
God bless you. I did just court n traditional. No church wedding because my parent n I attend different churches, their church won't wed me if I'm not their member and my parent won't attend my church for wedding so we did not even consider church. We did court and a week later voom to the villa for traditional wedding. No need prolonging dates, let every thing be close to avoid stories. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Advancedman(m): 8:38am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.
There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.
When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.
Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex
I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.
This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks Any woman that talks about white wedding is a fool. Marriage is what you called TM. The court self is even because of Government, Certificate,Travel document and other officials stuff but the natural marriage is family the modern marriage is simply two adults in the presence of law and witnesses but I doubt Naija ladies can stick to it they just want everything mixed up. Any form of wedding (marriage) you do first be it TM, Court or Church that marriage must be consummated within 24hrs else it's none and void. People should stop being stupid and foolish at the same time western culture isn't ours. For me it's one court, simply because it's has power over others also when there is issue the court is still the final arbiter. |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by sammchuck1: 8:39am On Oct 31, 2019 |
stinflame:
I tell you...No woman can stand the man they truely love...
Those they truely love melt them down to ice even just your voice,reset their brain and make them act so in love.
Op she simply no gbadu you. OP that woman no too feel you I swear. A woman thats really attracted to you will do anything to please you. Even if she doesn't want sex before marriage, she will give you BJ or rub your D till you cum. If she's already doing that, then exercise patience, do virginity test IF AND ONLY IF she claims she's a virgin. If she didn't claim anything then she isn't a virgin and you're married to a religious non-virgin. Anyhow Sha. The main thing is submissiveness. If she's not doing anything extraordinary to please you as you wait for the white wedding then she isn't yours. Please ignore all the religiously blind folks here. |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by WriterX(m): 8:39am On Oct 31, 2019 |
obidark:
am i lying....??
i nyansh any woman on the first date....
when you agree to know me,why shouldnt we nyansh....!!??
i dont force any of them....never tried.... listen man like I said I got no issue to resolve or try and make a point out of my opinion for you , if it works for you am sure it's okay and fine they're saying one man's food is Another's poison so we all good bruh. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by ctleurocollege: 8:39am On Oct 31, 2019 |
marvin905:
[s]
now I know you're confused..
how does that relate to white wedding[/s].. Go for check up, your understanding of things is questionable 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by KVC1970: 8:41am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Hello fellow Naira Landers if the girl in question is a true Christian and know her Bible very well she should understand that the only official marriage in the Bible was Jewish traditional marriage. Therefore, my guy if you have paid her traditional marriage rites she is your wife official Church marriage or not. Denying you access to what you paid is wrong don't succumb to that trick she is hiding something from you. She can not deny you your conjugal right at all. |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by WriterX(m): 8:42am On Oct 31, 2019 |
marvin905:
please show me where in the Bible that says white wedding is the real wedding..
you do know that white wedding is also a traditional wedding to White's ..
do you still know we have different races and culture's so if Asians Indians africans don't conform to another race way of life
then they are not right In the sight of God listen may I ask if you are a Christian just play with me o. this one and answer my question what I may tell you next depends on your answer, let's talk, I like your views 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 8:44am On Oct 31, 2019 |
WriterX:
listen man like I said I got no issue to resolve or try and make a point out of my opinion for you , if it works for you am sure it's okay and fine they're saying one man's food is Another's poison so we all good bruh. okay.... |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Beelion: 8:45am On Oct 31, 2019 |
You both agreed to this so keep the agreement. No sex till after the white wedding! 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by josh0200(m): 8:45am On Oct 31, 2019 |
ask yourself one question, did you marry her because of sex ,if no is your answer then wait till after your church wedding before demanding for your right in bed ..Note after my traditional wedding I didn't even kiss my wife until the officiating pastor asked us to do so in church during our white wedding . 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 8:45am On Oct 31, 2019 |
NoToPile:
Not that read and understand my post.
2 major points
1.He already had an agreement with her that they wont consumate the marriage till after the church wedding. HE AGREED.
2. If you are going to go through two or three marriage types, try and finish all before you consumate. Trad wedding alone plus registry plus a pastor blessing you is okay but if you still want a full service of solemnization of holy matrimony then I believe you should wait, what are you now solemnizing after the marriage has been consumated. I feel its a sort of deception and jamboree, I didnt have a church wedding personally beacuse we didnt want to but if we did we would have waited till after the church wedding. My 2nd point is talking as a christain. This is why I dont support long time between trad and church Wedding, do the trad and do a small solemnization weeks apart. It avoids all this mess. I am talking based on the assumption that the couple to be are celibate but as it seems everyone is having sex before marriage nowadays( which I know is not true) well it seems irrelevant.
2nd point is my personal opinion as a christain.
Either way the OP should keep to his agreement.
I agree with you on the fact that an agreement was made and it should be adhere to.. buh listen the white wedding most of Y'all are saying is compulsory is a traditional marriage for whites that was passed down to US as colonies not that it is recognized by God if it is please show me where in the Bible .God is not one that creates confusion.. he created different races and different cultures and in each of these races and cultures all have different marriage rite's and none is better than the other as far as the family agrees on your Union and the bride price is paid your married it's we blacks that seems to be overzelous and ignorant.. you can do a traditional wedding without doing White buh you can't do white without doing traditional no church will wed you |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by KVC1970: 8:46am On Oct 31, 2019 |
She is hiding something from you bro. Once you have paid her traditional marriage rites she is your wife official Church marriage or not. |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by corkshell9090: 8:46am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Firstly, a lady who claims to be a virgin will be so glad to let go of it with the joy that her bribe price has been paid. It's no longer a sin and it's not premarital sex any more, she has been bought over and married traditionally which is origin and authentic.
Waiting to consummate sex on her church wedding night is something very fishy and you the spouse should take her to your doctor for virginity test.If she is still a virgin,then I would advice you fix the date and enjoy your wife.This is the only fear you may wish to conquer as regards her claim. |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by lekhad: 8:46am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Have you ever sat her down reasons to justify her action What was her parents advice after you sought their consents Is there any advice from the pastor of the church prolly it goes against the doctrine of the church she is attending? If all the above are answered, I think it is up to you to pull some inference to know your next line of action. My 2 cents 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 8:46am On Oct 31, 2019 |
WriterX:
listen may I ask if you are a Christian just play with me o. this one and answer my question what I may tell you next depends on your answer, let's talk, I like your views yes |
