Carbon2Oxide:
You are actually more wicked here...

1StopRudeness:


He said he found out the wife had a child with her ex after their marriage.....that huge ooooo..

As regards starting a new life with the abroad wife...:that a Nigerian way of saying he wants to get citizenship...

Simpleete:
Dear All,

Taking this drastic decision has not been easy with me so far,but I will appreciate mature counsel only.

I got married to a lady and we have one issue(child),but she had a male child for her ex before I got married to her.However due to certain issues I discovered after our marriage and in our marriage I got offended and travelled out,and in the process I proposed to another lady who seems more appreciable to me and in the process of our relationship we had an issue as well.On returning from my travel I told my wife all that happened to make her aware.Right now with all I have been through with this other lady I feel very guilty abandoning her right now,but want to go into marrying her next week.Though I have made her know I had a family before,but want to start a new life with her in my new base,does the law prohibit this?

1StopRudeness:


He said he found out the wife had a child with her ex after their marriage.....that huge ooooo..

As regards starting a new life with the abroad wife...:that a Nigerian way of saying he wants to get citizenship...

olabrinks:
You have a wife. She lied to you about her child, fair enough but there’s a reason why she lied. The shame of single motherhood in Nigeria is so bad, she was probably ashamed. You are jumping from woman to woman thinking that will solve your problem, misery awaits you, you hear?

My friend go back to your wife and stop behaving like a child. Marriage is full of challenges, better deal with it.

liberalchick:


He knew about her first child before they got married. New issues cropped up during their marriage.

1StopRudeness:


While traveling abroad, if u didn’t disclose while filling the form online that u are married...u are free to do whateva u want... if u said u are married and have a child...
I think it’s best u have documentary evidence of divorce before u go and initiate marriage proceedings with a citizen of that country

I don’t know of other countries..the Uk home office can possibly bounce ur marriage on such grounds even though ur marriage was registered under another jurisdiction...

Carbon2Oxide:


That child came before the marriage. Thats her past even though she should have told him

1StopRudeness:


That’s not what I read..he said he found out in the marriage

liberalchick:


[s]He knew about her first child before they got married. New issues cropped up during their marriage[/s].

theButterfly:
You're legally married to someone and went proposing to another woman. Na wa ooo.


Then read it again because that's not what he said.

bujebudanu1:



He discovered during the marriage.
Read and understand again

OTayobami:

*Modified*
Wait! What if you discovered something wrong with this one later, what would you do? Travel to another base, to get another girl, to start another life again?

1StopRudeness:


U are the one that needs to go read it again...that’s the reason he said he got angry and travelled abroad...cos he found out in the marriage..

theButterfly:
The OP married his wife knowing she had a male child with her ex before the marriage, meaning this was and is not the issue for him. It's baffling that you and Bujebudanu1 are trying to make it one and saying what he did not. It seems you both didn't comprehend his post.

1StopRudeness:


Can u explain what the OP said annoyed him and caused him to travelled abroad

1StopRudeness:


Can u explain what the OP said annoyed him and caused him to travelled abroad

ireneidiva:

Oga calm down and read the story well na. The man stated other issues came up after the marriage. He knew about the baby before the marriage. Read well.

theButterfly:
He did not specify what the "certain issues" are - that led to his travelling out [he said "out" not abroad/he could've traveled to another state in Nigeria], and unfortunately I reside not in his mind and cannot speak for him nor will I concoct what isn't stated in his post like you're doing. Perhaps you should be directing your question to him.

1StopRudeness:


Let’s not argue any further...I’m tired...he knew about the baby...are u happy now...

@ireneidiva

1StopRudeness:



Please...:which one is calm down....who is fighting you??

did u read the part he said “however, Due to certain issues I found out after the marriage”

So what did he find out exactly....why is he using “however”... if not to connect the initial statement that the wife had a baby before....I don’t know how u read ooooo...obviously it’s different from how I read..

And that goes for u too thebutterfly

Simpleete:
Dear All,

Taking this drastic decision has not been easy with me so far,but I will appreciate mature counsel only.

I got married to a lady and we have one issue(child),but she had a male child for her ex before I got married to her.However due to certain issues I discovered after our marriage and in our marriage I got offended and travelled out,and in the process I proposed to another lady who seems more appreciable to me and in the process of our relationship we had an issue as well.On returning from my travel I told my wife all that happened to make her aware.Right now with all I have been through with this other lady I feel very guilty abandoning her right now,but want to go into marrying her next week.Though I have made her know I had a family before,but want to start a new life with her in my new base,does the law prohibit this?