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Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Simpleete: 4:49pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Dear All, Taking this drastic decision has not been easy with me so far,but I will appreciate mature counsel only. I got married to a lady and we have one issue(child),but she had a male child for her ex before I got married to her.However due to certain issues I discovered after our marriage and in our marriage I got offended and travelled out,and in the process I proposed to another lady who seems more appreciable to me and in the process of our relationship we had an issue as well.On returning from my travel I told my wife all that happened to make her aware.Right now with all I have been through with this other lady I feel very guilty abandoning her right now,but want to go into marrying her next week.Though I have made her know I had a family before,but want to start a new life with her in my new base,does the law prohibit this? |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by OTayobami(m): 4:52pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
You are not 1 serious person 32 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by OTayobami(m): 4:54pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
You had a wife before, and you want to marry another or had plans settling with another in the name of starting a new life at your new base? *Modified* Wait! What if you discovered something wrong with this one later, what would you do? Travel to another base, to get another girl, to start another life again? 50 Likes
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Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Carbon2Oxide: 4:57pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
You are actually more wicked here... ![]() 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Carbon2Oxide: 4:58pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
And you type like an arrogant person too 9 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 4:59pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Big boy!!!!! The guy got offended and travelled. when me I get offended, I go to ketu junction to drink jèdí...... 23 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by 1kbusiness: 5:00pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
![]() ![]() They wee soon come for you. Lemme grab a chair. 2 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 5:03pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Carbon2Oxide: He said he found out the wife had a child with her ex after their marriage.....that huge ooooo.. As regards starting a new life with the abroad wife...:that a Nigerian way of saying he wants to get citizenship... 4 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Carbon2Oxide: 5:05pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
1StopRudeness: That child came before the marriage. Thats her past even though she should have told him 6 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by olabrinks(f): 5:08pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
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Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 5:08pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Simpleete: While traveling abroad, if u didn’t disclose while filling the form online that u are married...u are free to do whateva u want....if u said u are married and have a child... I think it’s best u have documentary evidence of divorce before u go and initiate marriage proceedings with a citizen of that country I don’t know of other countries..the Uk home office can possibly bounce ur marriage on such grounds even though ur marriage was registered under another jurisdiction... 2 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by liberalchick(f): 5:09pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
1StopRudeness: He knew about her first child before they got married. New issues cropped up during their marriage. 20 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 5:12pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
olabrinks: It’s enuf reason to end a marriage..it’s called deception....why bring out the child later.....she has assumed well the marriage is done already, there’s nothing the man can do...that’s bullshitt. a lot of men don’t want women with children, and some men don’t mind...why hide such when it’s a factor for men..: A child is a whole human being..... u don’t hide that and trick a man into a marriage saying u have reasons... 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 5:13pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
liberalchick: That’s not what I read..he said he found out in the marriage 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by liberalchick(f): 5:16pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
1StopRudeness: OP, this except the bolded. Most countries where polygamy is illegal accept marriages from another country as valid, so your second marriage to this woman will become invalid if there is proof you have contracted marriage to another. If you want to get married again, you would’ve to legally divorce your first wife. It seems you like running away from issues rather than deal with them. Please do the right thing and give your wife closure. 12 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 5:17pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Carbon2Oxide: It’s her past.... but it’s the guy’s present. she never allowed the guy process such information b4 making marriage decisions..... This is clear deception... everyone in this world knows that a child from a previous relationship is a possible deal breaker for many guys...while some guys don’t mind.....it’s almost like hiding the fact that u lost ur womb to a past abortion from a previous relationship....and u just expect him to forget just because the marriage ceremony is done...when there’s a huge possibility he might not have gone ahead with the marriage if he knew the fiancé was an after-1 5 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 5:18pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
You're legally married to someone and went proposing to another. Na wa ooo. 1StopRudeness:Then read it again because that's not what he said. Don't put words into his mouth or make excuses for him. 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by bujebudanu1(m): 5:21pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
liberalchick: He discovered during the marriage. Read and understand again |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 5:25pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
theButterfly: U are the one that needs to go read it again...that’s the reason he said he got angry and travelled abroad...cos he found out in the marriage.. |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by StPete: 5:29pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
bujebudanu1: You’re the one who seem not to understand his write up. The person you quoted was right, read and understand. As for the OP, my verdict is that you’re not mentally mature for marriage 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by boldx(m): 5:34pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Will comment later |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by liberalchick(f): 5:46pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
OTayobami: lol very confused being. He had issues with his wife, he ran away to start another relationship. He had issues with the new woman, he ran away again, back to his wife. However, his 17 Likes |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 6:09pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
The OP married his wife knowing she had a male child with her ex before the marriage, meaning this was and is not the issue for him. It's baffling that you and Bujebudanu1 are trying to make it one and saying what he did not. It seems you both didn't comprehend his post. 1StopRudeness: 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 6:17pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
theButterfly: Can u explain what the OP said annoyed him and caused him to travelled abroad |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 6:20pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
If I understood you then I could advise you but I ain't got a scobby doo... ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by ireneidiva(f): 6:30pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
1StopRudeness:Oga calm down and read the story well na. The man stated other issues came up after the marriage. He knew about the baby before the marriage. Read well. 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 6:46pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
He did not specify what the "certain issues" are - that led to him travelling out [he said "out" not abroad/he could've traveled to another state in Nigeria], and unfortunately I reside not in his mind and cannot speak for him nor will I concoct what isn't stated in his post like you're doing. Perhaps you should be directing your question to him. 1StopRudeness: |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 6:52pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
ireneidiva: Please...:which one is calm down....who is fighting you?? did u read the part he said “however, Due to certain issues I found out after the marriage” So what did he find out exactly....why is he using “however”... if not to connect the initial statement that the wife had a baby before....I don’t know how u read ooooo...obviously it’s different from how I read.. And that goes for u too thebutterfly |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 6:55pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
theButterfly: Let’s not argue any further...I’m tired...he knew about the baby...are u happy now... @ireneidiva |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by Nobody: 7:12pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Yes, I am. ![]() 1StopRudeness: 1 Like |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by ireneidiva(f): 8:02pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
1StopRudeness:You really don't know how to read o. You connected 'however' to that? For real? Me sef don tire abeg. |
Re: Can I Still Marry Her,advise Needed by drmikeadams(m): 8:19pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Simpleete: ![]() ![]() ![]() U see as ur prick dey make u dey complicate ur children lives 1 Like |
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