Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.

Marry with faith.

"He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord"

Marriage is not a Magic Wand to escape Poverty and Wretchedness.

If you like, take his advice. I promise you your pastor will not be found on the days of hunger and your wife shall become his play toy.

Who will you blame, the one who gives bad advice or the one who is follows the bad advice without question?

If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

Sir, how many people do you know who married with faith without a job? What's their living standard now compared to when they were single?

Acidosis:

If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than when you're single.

Thank you sir. In the environment I stay, I have seen young guys who were self employed and who lived fairly comfortable impregnate ladies, are forced to marry them or live with them and then you see such guys start to suffer. They spend all their money taking care of their partners with the kids and you see poverty begin to Creep in because one partner is carrying more load than he can cope with. Especially in some churches and environment where having kids out of wedlock is the main thing.

Faith without work, is useless my brother. If you get married without anything to fall back on, you're on your own. Same pastor would tell you to keep trusting when you meet him for counselling or money to feed your family. Rather, pray to God to provide you a job and other things would fall in line.

After graduating and serving my fatherland and my gf was always pressuring me that we should get married when I didn't have a job, my pastor said marriage wasn't what I needed at this stage but job. Unfortunately, she couldn't wait as all her friends were busy getting married and she too felt like copying them. I stood my ground because if push comes to shove, na me go suffer am. She went and married another guy whom she met in less than 6 months and they settled down . The guy too no get job.

Almost a year later, I got a job with one of the blue chip companies, found a woman I could marry and 2 years later I got married. This lady who refused to wait didn't have an issue until 4 years after marriage. Now, she always calls for help which I didn't turn down.

marry when you are financially capable of taking care of both you and your wife,the things I have seen ...eeeeeh
....house wives begging for money from ex and male friends.. begging upkeep from parents...no one gets award from marrying early or late....be wise!!. when you start soaking garri will pastor help?

Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life. Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.
I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.
Thank you and God bless.

A lot of people say this but did you not see the caveat in the prophesy?

Women who carry stars are not in abundance brother of God.
If you marry wrong, you will be drained emotionally & psychologically...financial draining will be the least of your problem.

fairfora:
Faith without work, is useless my brother. If you get married without anything to fall back on, you're on your own. Same pastor would tell you to keep trusting when you meet him for counselling or money to feed your family. Rather, pray to God to provide you a job and other things would fall in line.

After graduating and serving my fatherland and my gf was always pressuring me that we should get married when I didn't have a job, my pastor said marriage wasn't what I needed at this stage but job. Unfortunately, she couldn't wait as all her friends were busy getting married and she too felt like copying them. I stood my ground because if push comes to shove, na me go suffer am. She went and married another guy whom she met in less than 6 months and they settled down . The guy too no get job.

Almost a year later, I got a job with one of the blue chip companies, found a woman I could marry and 2 years later I got married. This lady who refused to wait didn't have an issue until 4 years after marriage. Now, she always calls for help which I didn't turn down.

you are the real man.

Your type scarce honestly.

If it was me ehhh. As far as she can't wait for me then she is on her own ooo.

pastors are misleading people. please read your bible.

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

What if the woman is jobless?

Don't listen to anyone that tells you to marry when you are not financially ready. it's like committing a sacriledge in the world of Finance..

The Bible says that money answereth all things, have you managed to ask them the meaning of that?

My bible stipulated that any man that cannot provide for his wife and children are worst than an infidel.. Maybe u should ask the person or the pastor if he has come across that bible verse... Maybe he can personally explain that to u.

Besides, we have heard cases of men running away from the hospital because their wife gave birth to twins, triplets Or even through C section.
It can happen to anyone. Especially the financially challenged brothers.. A woman is not an investment at least throughout my days in uni studying Finance, I have never heard about a situation where a financially incapacitated single man got married..Boom!! Every window opportunities involving wealth/ Assets/ riches starts opening.. That is just absurd...

Creativity, brainstorming/ planning is what changes situations not the wife but if u are gonna go by faith as some suggested to u instead of planning
Then I wish you the best of luck..

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

So, are u married now

The unemployed ones are very fertile because the only thing they do is eat, drink, and sleep. They are the ones most deserving of the companionship of a woman.

In fact, in my three decades on earth, I have never seen an infertile jobless man.

Can anyone update me on the accident that happened at ikire?

When you marry blessings will start flowing in, people will consider you before single peeps in favour.

He that can not provide for his family is worst than an infidel.




Pastors: another name for con artist.

X2 suffering.. One of 1000 ways to die

Very common with afonja



#irritatin

What may work for Musa may not work for Adamu....

There was this church member of mine in my former church... He got married not employed. Church even contributed money for his wedding. His wife was employed and had a small car but both of them were close to 40 years of age or more but the got married.... After he got married, things started getting better for him, he even became richer than his wife and bought her a better car... They have at least two kids now...

Even if pastor advice them,is it a must to Listen?

Because they're mad

Nigeria is a marriage-obssessed society. In Nigeria, nobody cares whether you are financially able or whether you have found love.
You see a senior person harassing a young person into marriage, but they will never help the young person get a job or start a business.
Most people who aren't financially capable who allowed themselves harassed or brainwashed into marriage with the "Marriage-brings-blessings" sermon are finding themselves in serious troubles...and guess what, they are abandoned by the same people who goaded them into it.

Op he's correct. If you've tried and nothing works, get married to a good woman even on credit. Your stars will combine and break the opening you need financially. It works. Or rather has been a principle from old.

They are just being Superstitious

Richy4:
Don't listen to anyone that tells you to marry when you are not financially ready. it's like committing a sacriledge in the world of Finance..

The Bible says that money answereth all things, have you managed to ask them the meaning of that?

My bible stipulated that any man that cannot provide for his wife and children are worst than an infidel.. Maybe u should ask the person or the pastor if he has come across that bible verse... Maybe he can personally explain that to u.

Besides, we have heard cases of men running away from the hospital because their wife gave birth to twins, triplets Or even through C section.
It can happen to anyone. Especially the financially challenged brothers.. A woman is not an investment at least throughout my days in uni studying Finance, I have never heard about a situation where a financially incapacitated single man got married..Boom!! Every window opportunities involving wealth/ Assets/ riches starts opening.. That is just absurd...

Creativity, brainstorming/ planning is what changes situations not the wife but if u are gonna go by faith as some suggested to u instead of planning
Then I wish you the best of luck..

Thank you sir for your advice. Personally I hate seeing young people rush into marriage and then begin to suffer. I have always held this view and still do but recently I have almost begin to doubt myself. Thanks for setting me on the right mental path again. God bless.
PS: They always give examples of a man who got married and when the wife gave birth, things started to turn up for him, then I always wonder people who lives in a room with multiple kids, why haven't theirs open up.

AwkaetitiBabe:
So, are u married now

You're tryna apply?