mindful01:
When you marry blessings will start flowing in, people will consider you before single peeps in favour.

Really? I know many married people who are struggling.

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Richy4:
Don't listen to anyone that tells you to marry when you are not financially ready. it's like committing a sacriledge in the world of Finance..

The Bible says that money answereth all things, have you managed to ask them the meaning of that?

My bible stipulated that any man that cannot provide for his wife and children are worst than an infidel.. Maybe u should ask the person or the pastor if he has come across that bible verse... Maybe he can personally explain that to u.

Besides, we have heard cases of men running away from the hospital because their wife gave birth to twins, triplets Or even through C section.
It can happen to anyone. Especially the financially challenged brothers.. A woman is not an investment at least throughout my days in uni studying Finance, I have never heard about a situation where a financially incapacitated single man got married..Boom!! Every window opportunities involving wealth/ Assets/ riches starts opening.. That is just absurd...

Creativity, brainstorming/ planning is what changes situations not the wife but if u are gonna go by faith as some suggested to u instead of planning
Then I wish you the best of luck..

or d wife came with some money

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

You ain't Nigerian bro. Imagine you exempting in-laws and friends from bills?

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

I sincerely hope nobody takes this advice.

Where is the money to get married in the first place ?

Micholawoye:


Really? I know many married people who are struggling.

The struggling won't last long

Two is better than one they say

But have something to fall back on as a man

He who finds a wife finds a Good thing... Bible quote... But actually it's doesn't work for everyone...

healthserve:
Op he's correct. If you've tried and nothing works, get married to a good woman even on credit. Your stars will combine and break the opening you need financially. It works. Or rather has been a principle from old.

No b only star,na moon....

jesmond3945:
pastors are misleading people. please read your bible.

Thank you sir. Please can you explain further?

Because of the Notion that "when you Marry , the Doors of Blessings will be Opened*

No sensible person would advice you to get married without handwork or a job

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

Are you married?

U can't believe it,almost every pastor I know is guilty of this.

babyfaceafrica:
marry when you are financially capable of taking care of both you and your wife,the things I have seen ...eeeeeh
....house wives begging for money from ex and male friends.. begging upkeep from parents...no one gets award from marrying early or late....be wise!!. when you start soaking garri will pastor help?

hmmm

U hit it

everything is determination befor u marry u have to start doing something cos marriages is not a of manner fall from heaven .if u married Hausa you go dey change dollars ,if you married Yoruba you ho dey do abgboru if u married Igbo business sure for u ,if u married Edo. Italy is sure for u if u married calabar Dog business is sure for u , if you married Benue farm.work is sure for u,try it and thank me later

Micholawoye:


Thank you sir. In the environment I stay, I have seen young guys who were self employed and who lived fairly comfortable impregnate ladies, are forced to marry them or live with them and then you see such guys start to suffer. They spend all their money taking care of their partners with the kids and you see poverty begin to Creep in because one partner is carrying more load than he can cope with. Especially in some churches and environment where having kids out of wedlock is the main thing.

That's the reality bro

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

Please tell me you are joking because your 1st paragraph and to some extent the entirety of your post is far from the truth and misleading.

[quote author=healthserve post=83826367]Op he's correct. If you've tried and nothing works, get married to a good woman even on credit. Your stars will combine and break the opening you need financially. It works. Or rather has been a principle from old.[/quot


Can you explain further? How many examples do you know personally? Wouldn't that be a blind and silly risk(pardon me) to take?

For their suffering to continue Na ....

And some losers will jump into it

hopefulLandlord:
You're tryna apply?

Wanna dust my cv naw

Edyice:
For their suffering to continue Na ....

And some losers will just into it

That's a lie. How many rich men married rich?

mindful01:

The struggling won't last long

because?

Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.

I think this is a terrible advise and, truly, some Pastors give this advice quite a lot. Normally, when you succumb to the "advise", they will quickly suggest one "Sister" to you to marry and, "boom!" the wedding is conducted. The courtship time is so short just in case you want to change your mind.

Your eyes will open when you marry and are jobless . You will understand the HUGE responsibility that comes with and from marriage. But by then, it is too late.
Adam did not "marry" Eve when he was jobless. He had a job as a Gardner, Horticulturist, an Onomatologist and perhaps a Farmer. Perhaps, the reason why the snake did not find him idle (as he was working) and looked for the idle person to tempt= Eve.

Young men please, please please, get a job first before you get a wife. Common sense.

Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.

The thing tire me. These confused pastors have two mouths

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I know quite a few. The first time I heard it, it happened to my personal hommie who was just earning about 30k. Dude got a lady they both liked themselves pregnant. As I'm speaking to you, one contract came from no where. Bam 3-5million and he grew it. A second followed the same. This doesn't mean diligence and financial appropriatey should be exempted in such unions. There's an oil that magnifies little to become big. Work is crucial as well as planning and action

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

I am not sure where you live or where you got your math lessons.

In a sane clime, if on the average it takes you 5 liters of water to bath a day. When you the number of your house hold increases by 1 at least your water usage will double.

For cooking if you alone consumes 3 cups of rice a week and say it cost you 100 naira. When you the size of your household increases by 1 at least your expensive on rice on the minimum will be 150 naira based on the assumption that your wife consumes half as much as you do.

Well you may keep this roof but when your family size grows and the living space per individual decreases beyond the required minimum living space for an individual, stress sets in, diseases and other psychological issues creeps in. These alone reduces not only the quality of life the members of the household but it also depletes the family resources: low productivity from stress, use resources that would have been put aside for investment for treating communicable disease etc.

Sicilyjoe:
Where is the money to get married in the first place ?

Court.

ngwababe:


You ain't Nigerian bro. Imagine you exempting in-laws and friends from bills?

The guy is living in wonderland
Maybe he will continue living in one room, using table fridge, camp gas, etc since its cheaper that way.
Their children should go to the type of government school we see in katsina or zamfara states and if they are sick, prayer house straight

madridguy:
Marry with faith.

faith is no longer single. She is married.

If you marry with faith, you are on your own

mindful01:
When you marry blessings will start flowing in, people will consider you before single peeps in favour.

So why is blessings not flowing in the lives of those who are married and still suffering