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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 6:44pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by MakyavelitheDon(m): 6:54pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988: Seriously this op seems fake, the story is fake.... Are u here just searching for uneccesary attention? Go siddon for one side o |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Novemberaura(m): 6:59pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988: every easy to guess you just above thirty. I fear the fuss is really about enjoying life and not necessarily improving thy affairs with the husband. I suspect you didn't get a huge feel of life before your imprisonment in this supermax prison. on an enlightening note love is a compendium of so many other things, love isn't a single thing sacrifice appreciation endurance fortitude patience etc. off course any good quality you can think of can fit into love. to solve thy problem get a new guy or new guys beside the husband and check things out. most folks at times requires to taste different soups before the can be comfortable eating one sadly you required this tasting protocol but didn't get the shot. married the first Man that came thy way. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by koladebrainiac(m): 6:59pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Try something,leave or divorce your husband,marry another person n you would see that there is no marriage made in heaven anywhere. It has its low moment,it has its high moment just focus on the high side,if you can't get the love you desire from your husband, withdraw n focus on your kids or find something interesting doing. I believe the husband is way older than you reason for this |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by unbitchable(m): 7:03pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988:hope you won't stab him to death someday. Just park and go stay with the other guy you are cheating with. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by femi4: 7:06pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988:Are you here to argue or seek advice .....smh 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 7:18pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Femsyn: No mind her. She doesn't need help yet. Maybe this is an English class. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by SURElee(f): 7:20pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988: You only emphasized young virgin and not the marriage issues you are facing. How do we know what advice to give? Do I now tell you to step out and when you have aged, you can go back in? 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:28pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: Words on marble. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by VicM6: 7:41pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Tony142:Signs and wonders no dey marriage o. once a man wants something, he fit do good pass God self and after ward, he go change. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Evans2019: 7:44pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Any marriage counselor in the house |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by bigl: 7:49pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988: Well, since you were not really explicit on what you meant by "not being loved" and "coupled with some other marriage issues", i'll talk generally. 1. Every marriage will go through its own "fire" during the first 0 to 10 years duration. Your maturity etc will get you guys through it. 2. Secondly, are you and your bobo "friends"? As in are u guys "paddy"? If not, develop the friendship as you learn to love and also discover each other. For instance, my wife is my paddy and gistmate. We do have our moments when we quarrel but we ensure we resolve it before going to bed. Sometimes, she has a point but i will simply refuse to acknowledge it immediately. (Of course, i do tell her that later). The reason why i mentioned that concept of being friends with your hubby is that "when the love gets cold, your friendshipness will keep you guys going". The friendship thingy will help sail through the storm without having resentments. Meanwhile, if what you meant by not being loved it that someone somewhere is pointing out what your hubby doesn't do for you, to you and u are going with it, you are not being smart. Read about the 80/20 rule pls. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by meobizy(f): 7:53pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
This is greed I’m sensing, right? |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 7:56pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
MakyavelitheDon:Sorry to disappoint you sir, if I need attention,I know were to get it |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by slimjosh231(m): 8:01pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
I won’t waste my time and resources on such a rude fellow. The OP is too rude, that might be the problem in your marriage. You came online for advice and you acting like you know it all already. Why disturb us then? Go and sit your ass down jaree. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by ForbesHomesNG(m): 8:16pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988:What a case!!! 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Blackfriday: 8:16pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
fulaniHERDSman:Lol..... I swear. At the end, re-echoed ur point. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by dorofloxy(f): 8:18pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
May God restore peace and love to your home. Divorce is never an option my dear. sweetmelanin: |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 8:22pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
LordKO:Lol Foolish men deserve no civility, if you feel offended by that sentence check yourself. So yes that sentence is civil enough for the audience it was directed at. Women aren't capable of love in romantic/marriage affairs? Well you may be right, If you have never experienced unconditional love from a woman, what do I type to convince you otherwise? One can only believe what he or she has seen or felt. However I put it to you that you are wrong to put the whole world in a box with the belief that you have seen all in it. Now on submissiveness and love. These two goes along , Love begat Submissiveness. You can only agree or comply with something you agree with.Neither can you fight or rebel something/someone you cherish. Separating the two is a huge error. Or are you saying it is possible to agree or obey or submit without acceptance? . When you love someone, you do their wish. They are together. Love and submissiveness. @bolded, if sane people love unconditionally and according to you women don't love unconditionally, then it is safe to assume that women aren't sane. Right? 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by victorian(f): 8:22pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Almaigaa: But he married her as a Virgin nah How can she then be loose woman? Shebi men says virgin women are the best to marry, so why criticize her so hard as she's not experiencing love in Her marriage? And want out. All I see is a selfish husband, who feels marrying a virgin wife will make his wife not request any emotional and extra care and loving in a marriage. Such men expect such women to be robots in marriage. Well news flash, a virgin lady When disvirgined becomes a typical woman who wants all the works in romance, care and love. Nature cannot be cheated. The Op feels empty in Her marriage. No spark, no feeling, No emotional care, simply nothing. Soon she will divorce her husband when she meets a passionate loving man out there. It's only inevitable. Clock is ticking. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Kbs468(m): 8:37pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988: Very True but you didn't mention anything in particular that your hubby does that negates loveliness Is it that he doesn't appreciate you? Never compliment your domestic undertakings? Doesn't help out with the fatherly requirements over the family? Is He Not Romantic enough during intimacy? Is He always Outdoors during weekends too when He is supposed to be with you and the kids? What in particular is the problem? Look, the moment you could provide answers to the above questions and so much more, Then you would definitely feel loved for you certainly know how to go about and around everything by continually keep loving him irrespective of His shortcomings and ultimately, He would change for guilty conscience of not reciprocating your love for him would not allow him peace of mind. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by kelmicheal: 8:37pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
make peace with your hasband you must complete what you have started. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 8:39pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Alexk2:Post wey never pay my own bills, nah yours he go come pay? Lol!.... Sir, I didn't say love does not exist ooo. It does,I believe it because I know things I do for love and how I love.Love exist just that most times people stress love too much. They put so much expectations on it that they do not realize that sometimes loving someone means letting go. To them Love must be reciprocal or must be a bed of roses. You are very correct Brother, people confuse attractions with love. And I know about God being love too, so pure and agape love. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 8:44pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Ariza:Love is never a feeling, rather its those little acts that shows we care. Its a personality that goes beyond the ego selfishness in man. The issue with life and most marriages is that spouses are afraid to loose themselves in the relationship and would rather stick to power and passion play than fully commit or admit their unwillingness to fully commit and instead rationalize their actions in relation to their perceived notion of their partners behavior. In essence I am trying to say that love in marriage requires continual acts that elicit fleeting feelings of love, as scientist agree that the basic feeling which attracts in the initial stage which we call love doesn't last past about 3years... 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Born2Breed(f): 8:47pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988: Marriage is more about understanding. Those that put love first always get disappointed. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 8:48pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Mrpsly247:Love is built . Good point. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by mechanics(m): 8:51pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Discuss with mothers who are experienced in marital advice, the problem is that you kept to yourself and never associated with women who can give you good advice before saying I do, one has to be matured also before he or she get married so as to be able to take up any challenge that will come during the marriage. |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 8:56pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
To love someone who does not love you in return is like shaking a huge iroko tree to make a tiny dew drop falls- Ovonranwen Nogbaisi Acidosis: |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by owendei(m): 9:04pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
merit1988:p5 go work on your marriage and stop sympathy seeking strategy abeg 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by LordKO(m): 9:05pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
Ariza: Foremost, conceit remains God's gift to small-minded people. Meanwhile, on this "@bolded, if sane people love unconditionally and according to you women don't love unconditionally, then it is safe to assume that women aren't sane. Right?" Well, only altruistic women are sane under the subject under discussion. That said, the word love is ambiguous; love - marriage/romantic love - as a variant of goodness is encompassing, while that of humaneness isn't encompassing even though it's a product of goodness. And they're different from fancy, care, admiration all of which independently are called love, albeit smaller/constituents of the former mentions. On this "Women aren't capable of love in romantic/marriage affairs?" Yes. Women are only capable of submissiveness - the difference between submissiveness and love is their respective nomenclatures and applications, none is superior to the other. Just as women and men are human beings and have their respective distinct differences with none being superior to the other. . . On this "If you have never experienced unconditional love from a woman, what do I type to convince you otherwise?" Well, a woman by virtue of being submissive, is automatically altruistic/or automatically has unconditional interest in a man. So, I have always experienced the best of sane women. About this "Now on submissiveness and love. These two goes along , Love begat Submissiveness." Love doesn't automatically beget submissiveness, instead they go hand in hand because sane people innately possess their attributes - their applications are always spontaneous rather than planned. It takes a sane man to give love, just as only a sane woman can give submissiveness. And it takes a discerning person (man or woman) to know possessor of the attributes of love/submissiveness either from afar or near. . . About this "When you love someone, you do their wish." That is balderdash - a sane man doesn't do the wish of someone he loves, instead he acts conscientiously all the time without negating altruism. Only dummies do what others wish and that's the reason why they always fall into the machination of small-minded women. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by kenkel: 9:24pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
I can't advice you due to you didn't go deep in explanation, are you regretting because you married early? Do you love him, or is he not reciprocating the love back 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by erico2k2(m): 9:24pm On Nov 07, 2019 |
PrincessNZ:Seriously? Marriage is an institution,you got to RUN it |
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