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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Ginaz(f): 8:02pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Her friend will snitch on you. One day she and your gf many get into a hot quarrel and she might spill the secret and even used it to mock your babe. Guy, man up and tell her now o. I know what I am saying and I’ve seen this happen . Her friend won’t keep it a secret , she will indirectly or directly make it know to your babe when the time comes .you better expose yourself now to redeem yourself on time before it’s too late. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by NuclearReactor: 8:18pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
AdeeT:First, In anything you do after now to remedy the situation, BE INTELLIGENT AND INTENTIONAL, dont act by emotional prompt, try to find out how she might feel knowing you hurt her, try to find out the best way to approach her you'd tell her you cheated, try to act the best possible way to win her back, but bottomline tell her you did. Now see all the things you'd have to put yourself through all because you couldn't keep your dick in place My 2 cents. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by MedicH: 8:23pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
expert pocohantas come and advice this renegade we have here. i thought he got HIV already so i can tell him how close the end of his life is lol 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by mayim(m): 10:05pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
All your talks about being good looking has no bearing on the case at hand, it slightly makes u come across as immature. If u are truly that good looking, then u shd be used to lots of attention from the opposite sex so much that u shd be used to it by now, let alone fall for it when it’s coming from ur fiancées best friend. However I see u are remorseful, she deserves to know the truth. It wud count for something that u came out with the truth as opposed to her finding out. I’m talking from experience, that’s d only way u can hopefully earn her trust someday. Lastly, there are more good looking men that are faithful in their relationships, it’s time to grow up into the man she deserves. Good luck brother. 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Originalsly: 10:23pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Hmmm...... bro... is funny how now you're having all this guilt complex and can't believe how you allowed yourself to be seduced. All this talk I can understand.... if it were after the first time. Didn't any of these guilty feelings pop up? Are you trying to tell us she seduced you several times after?...or is it more you were looking forward to the sexcitement? Is it now after she left you remember your future wife? ...and what she did for you... and how much she means to you? You been enjoying the friend.... why is that so hard to admit?..... why be a weakling and be blowing all this smoke ? My advice... keep your mouth shut... be a man... act as if nothing happened. She will do the same.... but can guarantee you.... she would be looking to be serviced at every opportunity she has... whether you marry or not wouldn't make a difference. Is for you to let her know...it's over.. history... then say no more on that. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Danwakae(m): 11:28pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
kowema: Abeg no vex... U don't even know if it just a.the next Nollywood movie...sorry , no vex abeg |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by jaxxy(m): 11:45pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
AdeeT: There is Smtn good, strong and sexy about resisting temptation. Smtmes staying with a lady and resisting the urge for her is a great power and control to possess and enjoy than giving in to 5mins of worthless passion. Unless she’s the right one and the right time. Stay true to your principles. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Angy55(f): 1:11am On Nov 10, 2019 |
midnighter: Exactly my thought. I'd rather help my friend with some cash to Lodge in an hotel than taking that risk. Trust nobody. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by nlPoster: 1:45am On Nov 10, 2019 |
sweetonugbu: At old age, the arm would be around the shoulders, not on the butt. 2 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 2:11am On Nov 10, 2019 |
bestabigaelever:What a judgemental fool you are...mtcheww 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 2:14am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Angy55: Exactly! Just breeding unnecessary familiarity over nothing. What kind of friend is that that she must stay in your husbands bedroom 4 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Tarabye: 2:37am On Nov 10, 2019 |
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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by kowema(f): 6:02am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Danwakae: Lol. I vex no be small |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by NuclearReactor: 6:11am On Nov 10, 2019 |
jaxxy:Baba, you hit nail for im head wella, As much as must men derive pleasure from falling into girls advances, the joy, feeling of control and highness of refusing to fall after being tempted repeatedly is out of this world 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by omonighoblessing(f): 6:31am On Nov 10, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:good point.... as for me my advice is that since they are not yet married ..he can still remedy the situation...like someone above said try and spoil the relationship between your girl and her friend.... let them part ways .if you go confess to your girl which would have been then right thing she will either breakup with you or use it to hunt you for the rest of your stay together.somethings are better left unsaid meanwhile let’s hope it wasn’t a planned work. 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by frozen70g(f): 6:34am On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: Just promise yourself that you won't repeat such a dirty act next time, even although your marriage with her Once you can do so then you will find peace Love her more and more and your conscience will mellow down As for her friend, reduce your communication with her and use your senses, she will accept a Bleep from you even if your wife is in pains in labour room and you are tensed, she no send and not remorse from her so best option is distance before she break your home a d take over She no send ohhh Don't tell your wife because you will create a very deep hole like a pot In her heart and women don't forget such After your marriage just tell her politely that you don't want what will lead you to have problems with her that she should drop all her girl friends and start making friends with responsible married women |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 7:10am On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: You do not deserve her, obviously. I'm glad you realize it yourself. You need to risk everything by telling her. If the reverse were the case you'd want her to tell you. Trust the love you have for each other and tell her. She's going to be deeply hurt. You have to lick her shoes and grovel at her feet if need be to get her back. Show her it is a one time thing that will never happen again. Do whatever you need to do to win back her love and trust. If you don't tell her, her friend will after you guys are married and she's jealous of her friend's happy marriage. Most women have B.Sc in Withcraftology, they just don't know it. Most men have 75% of their thinking faculties located in the smaller head between their legs. 6 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Cutehector(m): 7:43am On Nov 10, 2019 |
The very very much single reason I dont like long distant relationships. Both parties keep deceiving themselves! If I can't be seeing you every week, then sorry, break up is imminent. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by AdeeT: 8:42am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Thanks to all for trying to help. I'm just more confused now than ever. I'll keep this to myself till we meet in December, by then, I pray that God will forgive me, and help me keep this that have nurtured for a long time. I've learnt my lessons now. Again, thank you all. |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 8:52am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Keep what to yourself?? Bia enyia, better go and tell her. Or you think that sociopath of a friend won't spill the beans Her so-called "best friend" who thought nothing of sleeping with you? She was obviously jealous of you guys relationship Tell her and let her decide whether she wants you or not. At least you haven't married her yet so the thing is still malleable So you are ready for your heart to start flying every time her name is mentioned? What of when you start having babies and she leaves them with that girl? You have to let her know that she has an enemy in her camp so that she will know what to do 12 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Donjazzy12(m): 9:04am On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:My dear don't kill yourself! Now let me shock you. Your supposed innocent girlfriend is a lesbian or should I say a bisexual. Her girlfriend is her lesbian partner and they have been worried how to break this to you. So she sends her to seduce you all in the guise of staying with you to reduce hotel bills! What to do? Just play along. Pretend like nothing happened. Very soon their intentions will be very clear. She will want you both to have a party eventually. Now most young girls of nowadays are lesbians but they pretend a lot. They only date guys because of societal pressure. Any day Nigeria legalizes homosexual marriage you will see Genevieve Nnaji, Linda Ikeji, Euchariah Anunobi, etc rush to get marriage certificates for their lesbian partners! For now they hide behind ridiculous excuses! Yeah, back to you. How did I know this? It happened to my Cousin! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by yeyeosoronga: 9:05am On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: Her friend will come back with an audio pregnancy. Pls, let us know when that happens. Meanwhile, invite your girlfriend over for the weekend from Friday, and make her have a good time. When you come back in the evening from your outing on Friday, get on your knees and let her know you've wronged her. Tell her you slept with her friend and it will never happen again. Tell her you were drunk the night it happened, and you realised only too late. You may need to lie it happened just once as a mistake otherwise if you say it happened more than once, it is of course deliberate. We all know you're a dog, and it was deliberate. The only reason I would advise you tell her is because it won't be a secret forever, and it will get messy sooner than later. If you had slept with someone she doesn't know or who isn't close to her, I would have asked you to keep the secret. Use Saturday and Sunday to keep begging her in tears and regret. Even fake a heart attack in your remorse if you have too, especially if she says she quits there and then. Tell her you will die if she leaves you. We all know that's a lie, but a little drama goes a long way atimes. Women being women, will forgive you but will also cheat on you as soon as she gets back to her base. Scores 1-1 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 9:08am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Donjazzy12: This is another angle! Strange but possible.... 4 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 9:12am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Some things are better left unsaid. I mean, don't lie but never say the truth when not asked to. |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by borngeologist(m): 9:42am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Just tell her it better to tell her the truth.. Last week my babe cheated on me.. She cried and told me how it happened.. I can't loose that girl because of just that single mistake. I forgave her and I even found out within myself that I love her than ever.. I can't leave that babe.. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by maak400: 10:09am On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:Bro there are some secrets that must be taken to the grave... what you posted up there is one of them. You will surely loose her the moment you confess. The ball is in your court 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by dinodesmond(m): 10:14am On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: I don't blame you bro. Your lady trusted you and her friend but she forgot that the surge of your testosterone overwrites your reason. Her friend knew this and took advantage of it. I blame her for foolishly pairing fuel and fire and hoping that it won't catch fire. As you said, that ya lady has invested so much in you so for now, don't tell her now but have it in mind to tell her someday. |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Myhusband(m): 10:36am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Do not try telling her anything because that's exactly her friend mission you gat to be smart like a street guy, tell her you want her friend to stay off your apartment that she's trying to seduce you and you've restricted her so many times. tell her you're scared she might blackmail you if you resist her seduction not everything you share to a woman, telling her will weaken her trust for you because it's the strong trust that made her not have negative things in mind to allow her friend stay with you, even if she forgive you, she won't forget and she will never trust you even when you guys married plus she might have reason to cheat on you post marriage make sure that friend leave your apartment before Monday, don't give room for another temptation that might lead to pregnancy. when that her friend is pregnant, you will hate yourself as a man 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Adoekititout: 10:36am On Nov 10, 2019 |
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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Officialgarri: 10:36am On Nov 10, 2019 |
From all one could read here is someone who is scared that the news will get to his fiance first. If perhaps the girl whom he had sex with was a random girl with no connection to the fiance, I don't think he would be scared 5 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 10:36am On Nov 10, 2019 |
It's either the relationship is dead or you would live a long life of misery and guilt. Even the so-called Jesus of the bible wont be able to redeem this guilt of yours. You are not a real ni66er. Real ni66ers should cheat only when their wife deserves it and this is when: 1. Your wife has been a cheat in her past relationships 2. Your wife has cheated / been cheating in her current relationship 3. She doesn't support financially From your story, she doesnt seem to fall into any of these categories. This is actually why you feel the need to confess. If u were dating a harlot, u may not have bothered too much. Again, you are 400lish for not accepting the blame. You had multiple sexual acts with this girl and you are saying you were seduced? Why not also claim you were raped? You are very 400lish and your story sounds just exactly like that of Busola Dakolo -- 4oolish people who would never own up to their error. (You are still quite better though ) But now, there is a catch-22. Have you for once ever thought your fiancee may have cheated on you too within this timeframe? How very sure are you? Can you stake your life that no other guy has kissed her lips or squeezed her breassts before? Are you so sure she hasnt been laid by another man. When many men cheat, they feel this need to either confess to their wives and if they are not brave enough, they act carelessly like not clearing all their chats or behaving rashly to hint their babes. Women are the exact opposite and can take their secret to their grave. Most women make the first errors, but keep it secret, usually suspecting later on that their bfs/ husband would misstep. And then they somehow feel the equation is balanced, and from there on in, they wont confess anymore SO FIRST AND FIRST FIND OUT ALL U CAN IF SHE HAS REMAINED FAITFHFUL THROUGHOUT BEFORE CONFESSING. DO ALL YOU CAN, RESEARCH TO THE VERY DEPTHS AND TAKE YOUR TIME. I THINK THE RESULT MAY SHOCK YOU I know girls and I have the experience. 4 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by thorpido(m): 10:38am On Nov 10, 2019 |
Your fiancee Na mumu.Person dey tell goat make e watch over yam? 4 Likes |
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