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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by PattyMike(m): 12:18pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:My man Christiano. The honest truth is "Men Cheat". It's our nature we can't help it, we can sleep with another woman while our heart belongs to another. So, don't feel too bad about it. You're not a failure, you're not a horrible person, you did not cheat on her cus she is not yet your wife. Believe me if you confess to her she will confess to you too and are you ready for whatever you might hear? Do not trust women! I repeat! Do not trust women. She can pray for you with the same mouth she used in sucking dvck last night. But if truly she is a pure soul like you said then keep your mouth shut and take it to the grave. She will never trust you again if you tell her you cheated and she will also cut off things with her best friend. Don't Ignore that friend or your babe will notice. Infact I advice that you should be besties with her friend and forget you guys ever had sex. You cheated once and you will cheat again unfortunately. We can't help it. 6 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by bentwood85(m): 12:18pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
bestabigaelever: Cry or pretend to cry for what?....mtchewwww!!! He better keeps his mouth shut if he does not want a break up. |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by MsGood(f): 12:19pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:This is a secret that may come out later since it's her friend and that friend wants the relationship destroyed so she will tell her. She doesn't care about her. So my advice as a lady is that you should invite her to your place and tell her face to face. If she sees how sorry you are, she will forgive you. It's not going to be easy but it's not a secret you can hide successfully. It would have been better if it was a random girl outside. 2 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Childishbanjino(m): 12:25pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: You're not even taking responsibility. Talmbout i was cornered. Bruh that's BS! Stop blaming the the friend for an Action that you both consented to, severally!!! I'm no marriage counselor, and the decision on wether to tell your girl is solely yours. All i can say is DO BETTER! And quit blaming people for your actions; you weren't drugged or coerced; own your shit. 4 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by TemmyT002(m): 12:27pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
But guys, why? Why can't you remain faithful? How hard is it? You people dey give us bad names out there. Anyway, if you love her, it is better that you confess to her. That friend is not nice. Tell your wife before the friend tells her first 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by ffo(m): 12:29pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:My brother I will advise you from my heart to free your mind, be sincere and tell her. For your heart and mind to be free, open up to her for the sake of your future. 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by meobizy(f): 12:31pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
Now it’s obvious we have budding writers in this forum. These stories don tire me. 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by ffo(m): 12:31pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:Some people's conscience is DEAD. |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 12:32pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
op go still Bleep this girl,its better he confessed if he truly wants to stop.Hide it and watch you continue fucking her endlessly and keep feeling guilty after every act,it shall be a continuous process as long as you keep it secret,the lady involved will take advantage of the secret and trap you thereby becoming her sex slave.Open up to her and she will forgive you.If you decide to keep it secret just know it will definately blow out sooner or later. 2 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Lionpikin(m): 12:34pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
midnighter:I strongly agree with you.....my girl wanted to try that shit with me, my reply was 'if she send you IV for me and her wedding, no vex o'....how a girl would agree for her best friend to pass the night alone with her guy is beyond me. Test or no test, both of them don fvck up.... 3 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 12:35pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
1StopRudeness:well he is remorseful, but it already Happened when it shouldn't have. I am not one for coddling grown men. That the lord forgives your sins doesn't mean you wont suffer consequences. His girl might have a meaner response than mine 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by MusaDanladi1: 12:36pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
The only advice I can give you is that if you are man enough and ready for the collateral damage that will come with confessing to your girlfriend then by all means relieve yourself of the mountain of guilt on your head. If not you had better keep shut there. Me I have a feeling that your so called clean girlfriend in your eyes has also cheated on you more than once in her lifetime. 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Judybash93(m): 12:36pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
Oh damn. This is sad but I'll advice you to be a man and tell her the truth. I ain't here to judge you, that'll only add to the pain, the fact that you feel something actually shows that you kinda feel bad about everything. Tell her the truth. If she leaves you, it's okay, there's always punishment for such mistake. 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 12:37pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
Your honest truth is a lie. PattyMike: |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by ffo(m): 12:38pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:Sometimes bringing personal issues to NL will leave you more confused. An average and ungodly person sees nothing wrong with what you did, some already have dead conscience, but you know in your heart what you did was wrong, your conscience is pricking you, which is a good thing. You don't have peace of mind also, you need to free your mind by asking for forgiveness from God and your fiancee. Also remember when some of the advises backfires you are on your own. DO THE RIGHT THING ADE. 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by CosmicJames(m): 12:40pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: I have an Angel like your fiance that I can't imagine hurting her as much as you have hurt your fiance. So I will write a little long to tell you what to do to save your relationship. The best way to overcome temptation is to avoid the condition that can make you fall into that temptation. Before I tell you what to do, I want to let you know that the lady didn't seduce you. You actually wanted it that way. And that you have wanted it for a long time ago. You only manifested your desire when the opportunity shows up. It's as simple as that. You're fiance's friend was also desiring you a long time ago. She just took advantage of the perfect opportunity to manifest her desire too. Both of you wanted it that way. Two of you are betrayals of trust. Your fiance trusted you and her girlfriend. Hence the suggestion. But she was wrong! I feel for your fiance. She is a good person. She was trying to help. But unfortunately, she get hurt instead. Did you know the gravity of what you just did? What you did is beyond cheating! You destroyed your fiance's pride! Your fiance can't have a say where her friend is any longer. Your fiance friend is a very bad friend. You are also a bad friend The deal have been done and it cannot be undone. So here is what you should do. It would have been advisable to confess to your fiance immediately. But it is someone she considers her best friend that's involved here. Therefore, keep it secret for now. DON'T TELL YOUR FIANCE YET. Instead, prepare to explain to her later. It can be much later probably after marriage. Maybe when and if she (your fiance friend) tries to get back at you to blackmail you with the intention of destroying your relationship/marriage. At that time, things must have cooled off. Your fiance will still be hurt though. But it won't be as bad as it will be if you tell her now. It would have been better if it was a total stranger that was involved. I repeat, your fiance's friend is a very bad friend. She can kill your fiance to have you. You must stop their friendship. Don't as me how to stop their friendship of many years? Just find a way to stop your fiance from taking her as her best friend. She's not her best friend at all. But her worst enemy. If your fiance insist that she's a good person and that you should allow their friendship to continue, then bust the bubble! You can then use it as an opportunity to confess what really happened to your fiance. She will understand better then. And will secretly appreciate the fact that you want the best for her. But she will still be hurt. Whatever the situation, just make sure your fiance end her friendship with her. Otherwise something worse than this is very likely to happen to your disadvantage in the future. 4 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by torqque7(m): 12:40pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: Hmm my honest advice is get her pregnant fast if you love her enough to marry her,and once the pregnancy don enter like 3months that cant be aborted again then confess to her what you did..there still is a high chance she might still leave you but its better to have that as your insurance than to go confess without a plan be cos the truth is there is an 80% chance she will leave you if you confess now,and if by some miracle she stays then bro the relationship will never be the same again cos she will also cheat on you soon.. Im talking from experience my gf cheated on me and i found out and ever since then,i cheat at the slightest opportunity i get. She tried commiting suicide when i wanted to leave and threathened to go and find a way to do jazz for me then kill herself so the jazz will not be able to be undone lol..complicated issue but i have it under control now and very soon il leave when the time is right,but for now she thinks all is well but i cheat like crazy lol. Funny thing is once i start trying to distant myself or we have a fight she just falls sick and stops eating and looses weight..life can be funny how u can love someone so much and yet still somehow cheat on that person..well i was going to marry her cos i really loved her and i even disvirgined her but the damage in our relationship from her cheating cant be undone,i have forgiven her but can never look at her the same way again and cannever marry her again. 4 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by skyhighweb(m): 12:42pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
feels like a planned work to test you 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 12:45pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
Lionpikin: Lol I dont understand. Which kind best friend be that |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by PattyMike(m): 12:49pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:Do you have a penis? I'm sure you don't. I have a penis and I'm telling you from a Man's perspective. Next time Mind your business you're not the OP. It's not you who needs the advice, Let him decide if he'll take it or not. No one is holy here and nobody should condemn him for what happened. 3 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by chrismex(m): 12:52pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: Sorry this may hurt but you are a weakling, if all you did love this lady the way you wrote here, you won't go ahead doing it for more than ones. Yes we are prone to temptation, but you had sex the first time and you continued continued untill she left before you started feeling guilty, I'm not judging you, shit happens but I want to clear you that you are a weakling. If not. the love you claim you have for your woman would have stopped you, even if it didn't the first time, it should have stopped after that first sex you had. Solution: you have to tell her, find some of your closest friends to be around or her siblings if you relate well with any.you just have to tell her no need to delay it. It's left for her to forgive forget and be with you or move on. I pray she forgives you and give you another chance. Las Las we are all human beings we are prone to temptation,. |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by lionphil(m): 12:52pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: Speaking from experience, if you tell her, she's lost. If you don't and she finds out later, she's still lost. Bottom line, don't tell her and hope she doesn't find out at least until after the marriage, then you can have an excuse that it was in the past and before the marriage. Some will say you should tell, trust me, she will never trust you again and that's the beginning of the end of your relationship. She'll only hear of it if her friend tells her. That will happen if they quarrel. NO TELL AM O 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 12:52pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
BrutusOj: Maybe she was testing him because it's a very bad idea 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Damdammy: 12:53pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
Keep it to yourself for now, later you can find a way of letting her know but must be face to face for her to see your sincerity. Also, cut yourself and your woman off from that friends of her. She doesn't want the success of that relationship. 2 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nickymichy(m): 12:55pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
Its OK dude...(it is d fault of both of u and ur woman) Its one of does things sha..... First and foremost, I must congratulate u DAT ur conscience is still working fine... Secondly, what u are feeling right now is what u have done would prevent u from next time.....thirdly, if she actually sent her friend to test ur loyalty... By now she must have learnt her lessons (coz u don't set man up wix D's kind thing.. Even pope fit fall).., u will confess but not now...cox she might not be able to handle it now...pls never u accept such thing as ur babe's friend staying in ur apartment for an interview or for whatever reason man...cut any conversation with d friend unless u are together with ur woman....rise up man and learn from ur lessons..its not too bad..may God forgive us all 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Acidosis(m): 12:56pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
I have a blunt truth to tell you @OP Your girl's best friend slept with you and she didn't even feel any guilt? I'm just laughing here. Seems you don't know your girl as much as you think. Stop the praises already and think! 3 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 12:56pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
PattyMike:A man's perspective is different from the truth, please take note 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Lionpikin(m): 12:57pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
midnighter:the thing no tire me? she travelled for some days, on the second day she called and told me her best friend would be spending some time with me that she just got a job on the island bla bla bla.....maybe she wanted the babe to be monitoring me, I didn't even argue, I just told her if the girl first you carry belle for me or she send you IV for our wedding, no vex o.....na she use her mouth tell the girl make she no near my house.....there is a saying that you can't ask a goat to look after your yam without the goat eating it....I would rather not be in such situation than fighting the temptation....as per the op, he had been eyeing the girl hence the reason for agreeing to the request and falling immediately, but him no come get the mind to handle the guilt....he is a weakling if you ask me.....he presents himself as a good boy, such guys usually have relationships problems .... something as easy as this, he cannot solve 4 Likes |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by jnoz23(m): 12:57pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
midnighter: Believe op @ own risk, All this joro wannabes!!! |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by InvertedHammer: 12:59pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:/ One time is a mistake; couple of times is enjoyment. You are not remorseful. You will do it again if she comes back. You are only afraid that your girlfriend may find out. Be honest to yourself for once. / 1 Like |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by PennywysCares(m): 1:00pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT:pady drink some beer and forgive urself and forget about what happened. Be warn dont tell her if u don't wanna lose her. Warn that her friend to stay away from you |
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 1:01pm On Nov 10, 2019 |
AdeeT: You are not good for her, I pray that a revelation will come out soon. Better tell her now before the wind blows,she won't take that either but if you tell her now she may consider. That so called friend have been crushing on you for a long time now. At least you enjoyed it while the offer lasted |
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