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Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by queenitee(f): 11:48am On Nov 14, 2019 |
safarigirl:I’ve always love and admire you. How do you manage to talk so much sense? 4 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Gudlite: 11:49am On Nov 14, 2019 |
The devil you know is better than the angel you know has been a common say but the question is ,can she stand the bitter side of marriage without falling back into the hands of your friends to be consoled ? After receiving all these advice, seek the face of God too. He is the only one that sees the end from the beginning. 4 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Enemyofpeace: 11:49am On Nov 14, 2019 |
If i see you marry the girl, na me go call meeting of your village people for you 1 Like |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by iwaeda: 11:50am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: Live to forget, life is too short to carry burden in your heart. It is a mind thing bro! 1 Like |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Enemyofpeace: 11:50am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Gudlite:not when different sweet pricks ate involved 1 Like |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by emkz: 11:51am On Nov 14, 2019 |
I see you are trying to hold back on some of the details. It shows you are a kind person, interested in protecting your woman. It is a huge burden to tell you whether to continue with a relationship or break up. At the end of the day, it is your decision. Behavioural patterns are emblematic in us and hardly change over time. They can be modified, adjusted, but the essential core ingredient remains. It is okay for her to have a past, but if that past has a potential of destroying your future, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship. A woman must learn to be firm to everyone, else the stories are unhealthy. It is not your job to mould her behaviour but it is your job to tolerate it. If you know you can't, my brother, you don't need our advise. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by anonimi: 11:51am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: The bold is really impractical as you are talking about the future, of which no one is 100% certain. 2 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by safarigirl(f): 11:51am On Nov 14, 2019 |
mysticgal:the law did not come from a movie, guys have been passing it around for years. The movie was just inspired by the belief. Of course, it is not 100%, and not everybody has just one ex, but some have an ex they are emotionally attached to, and may lose their guard with. You can only vouch for yourself, not for anyone else. If something was not happening, it would not be a thing. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Enemyofpeace: 11:52am On Nov 14, 2019 |
queenitee:you wan use style get closer to her and toast her abi?forget it ko le werk, she is my babe |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by pocohantas(f): 11:53am On Nov 14, 2019 |
OP, I don't buy all that mumbo jumbo of love being all forgiving and whatever. There are pasts one can't live or deal with. If you can't live with hers, feel free to pull the plug. I will do same if I were you. If your girl has a problem saying NO and standing by it, then you have valid reasons to be very concerned. Let no one guilt trip you into thinking you are being immature. As far as I am concerned, love and marriage na strategy. 30% emotions, 70% logic 15 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Khalidase83(m): 11:53am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Honestly I don't see any issue here. U surely have bleeped countless no of babes u ain't gonna marry. We all have made mistakes, we have our past. If she is ready to change and u love her, bro stay with her. If u leave her now, how sure u gonna get someone better?. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by safarigirl(f): 11:53am On Nov 14, 2019 |
queenitee:thanks dear. It is from many years of observing human interactions and studying the human mind. 2 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by lexy2014: 11:53am On Nov 14, 2019 |
enemachris: Brother, I am as amazed as u are 4 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by lollybizzu(m): 11:54am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: Relocate na if you love her that much. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by KfashionHubb: 11:55am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Just ask God for more direction.. 1 Like |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by safarigirl(f): 11:56am On Nov 14, 2019 |
pocohantas:thank you o Some people have allowed telemundo destroy their thought process. Life is not Paloma and Diego, nothing like all forgiving love, and certainly not on a continent that is so misogynistic and pro-men. A woman's sins will be counted against her till she dies. Till today, Sophie Alakija that is married with two kids, is still being called Wizkid's ex. This society does not forgive women's pasts. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Anfieldboss: 11:56am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Why are you so pained |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by babyfaceafrica: 11:56am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Akhazeme:and you think her word is enough? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by mysticgal(f): 11:57am On Nov 14, 2019 |
pocohantas: Too highly I ask myself, who exactly they are? |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by NaijaOlosho(f): 11:58am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Oga if you love the girl, and you truely know she loves u Go ahead and marry her. Forget the stupid advise these beasts here will give you. Thank God you said it was in the past! Is she still fucking around presently and has she changed?? This should be your observation. Mean while will you get married to her and still stay in that your circle?? Guys take note, in as much as no be you disvirgin woman it means more than 5 to 10 guys don chop before you. So why u want kill ya self over who don chop? You never chop like 8 girls before her, including olosho them Pls if she's good and loves you marry her and both of you leave your circle for good |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Duru009(m): 11:58am On Nov 14, 2019 |
If you don't have inner peace, Please move on my dear. Don't even contemplate marriage with her because it wont work ! |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by babyfaceafrica: 11:58am On Nov 14, 2019 |
iwaeda:easier said than done |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by sparko1(m): 11:58am On Nov 14, 2019 |
userplainly: This is a lame excuse, the only reason the first bolded is half true is because they pretend, they run to place of worship and act like angel and before you know it, an innocent guy fall for it. And for the second, there is no such thing as excellent wives, its not complicated, a woman that loves sleeping around will never be satisfied with one man! The past define the person you will be in the future, when push comes to shove what do you think will happen, everyone always return to the basics, the fundamentals! Make no mistake everyone has a past but what past can you live with? As hard as it might sound to him, leaving her might just be the only option, its bad enough she sleeps around, its another thing that you know those that used her and there is a very big possibility that she will continue to have them as friends especially if she the jovial type. (When you eventually marry her, she will turn feminist and tell you, you can't dictate who she talk to, or her circle of friends). 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by queenitee(f): 11:58am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Enemyofpeace:I’m a lady |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by queenitee(f): 11:59am On Nov 14, 2019 |
safarigirl:You are wonderful |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by mysticgal(f): 12:00pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
safarigirl:I never knew it was a thing till I heard of the movie and sincerely, this law or label or whatever, isn’t valid to say the least |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Coldie(m): 12:00pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Marry her if u want but stay away from immature friends. They won't taunt u that they have banged your wife at any argument 1 Like |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by davidodiba(m): 12:01pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: My brother, leave the girl alone. She will never ever ever ever change. There are a lot of cool good girls out there you can settle down with as wife material. Don't waste precious time hoping she'll change please. She won't |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by babyfaceafrica: 12:01pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
NaijaOlosho:men are comfortable with not knowing the number of people you have slept with,the problem with OP is that he knows the number and they are people he knows...this is an issue!!..It is not easy to forget 4 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Mordecai(m): 12:02pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
All these ones forming "leave her", "hoe" etc. If your wives told you the truth about all the sex they had before they met you, you wouldn't have married them. 5 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by midnighter(f): 12:02pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
If you know you cant cope with it then break up with her amicably The interactions you are describing here are too awkward and she hasnt completely dropped her habits Some people can forget about it and still remain but you clearly cant and its making you uncomfortable... it would be worse if you got married and you began to accuse her out of a restless mind |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Lothlorien: 12:03pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: Young man, someone already commented that you made up your mind already. I agree with it. let me echo it again: stop this pointless validation you are seeking here. You know deep in your mind you are set on marrying this girl. However, I will still tell you: it is a bad idea! A VERY BAD IDEA. Why you ask? You said it yourself: you don't have peace. That is your internal alarm system telling you to stop. That is God warning you. God speaks, even to those who are not saved or living in sin. I know a case like yours. The relationship broke because the guy couldn't get over the fact that his woman slept with one of his friends more than seven years past while they were in school. Just one friend. God will not come down and make your marriage heaven on earth for you. It takes hard work. You must be wise. The same reason a woman shouldn't marry a man who beat up all his ex or slept around is the same reason you shouldn't marry her. There is someone for this lady. But it isn't you. You can't handle it. You think you can but you can't . And what you call love and feelings that is so strong you can let go is a veil that will fall from your eyes once you tie the knot. Even for people who married chaste spouses doubts arise sometimes. Your girlfriend needs to work on herself and overcome some measure of her weaknesses before entering into marriage. Sexual temptation from an ex for someone like her may be too much to bear. That sinking feeling in your chest and gut is right. That woman is not for you. Marriage is A VERY SERIOUS THING. I know, I am married. Love is not enough sometimes. Trust me. Those deep feelings you think you cant let go will become ashes in your mouth if you make a mistake. Nothing on this earth is like a peaceful, blissful marriage. You dont want to start yours with a broken foot. A word is enough for the wise. 9 Likes 1 Share |
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