sassysure:


I will send DSS after u o

Sorry ma

Hmm. Seems like there is something u 2 are not telling me

Okay o.

Make una kwontinu

crackhaus:

Sorry ma

Don't sorry me.


Did u ask baby 124 for that thing before she got married and she refused, or did baby 124 woe u and u did shakara for her?


U guys should tell me the truth o.

crackhaus:

Madam, answer yourself.
What is she styled as by the Queen of England, and introduced as to the general public in GB?

Stop talking to me about she's supposed to be, and tell me what she actually is as recognized by the sovereign kingdoms of Great Britain.

As I said,

"her full title is as follows: Her Royal Highness The Princess Charles Philip Arthur George, Princess of Wales, Duchess of Cornwall, Duchess of Rothesay, Countess of Chester, Countess of Carrick, Baroness of Renfrew, Lady of the Isles, Princess of Scotland, Dame Grand Cross of the Royal Victorian Order."

Of course, which one of those titles she uses on a day-to-day basis is a different matter.

seuncyrus:


You're just a sex starved fool bro, get a life

It's your parents you are talking to

GrabHisBalls:
Your fiancée is a free giver na! The economic benefit is that she'll help relieve guys of conji. We can't all be reserved.

I like you. Biko, I need free giver oh. Come Delta oh, biko

sassysure:


Don't sorry me.


Did u ask baby 124 for that thing before she got married and she refused, or did baby 124 woe u and u did shakara for her?


U guys should tell me the truth o.

God forbid evils.

izzou:


Oh bro, you're complicating issues by explaining too much

This girl has had flings with your circle in the past. She never denied it, your hommies didn't either.

If you love her, and you truly know she's changed,
wife her. If you know your don't trust her anymore, or you'll care so much about what your friends think or say, let the babe go. It's that simple

Maybe you never loved her that much initially.

bro, love is not enough! I can easily enter most of my exes even though I won't. It is never a good idea rolling with a babe your hommies(esp the randy ones) have had something

Let your instincts be your guide. But I ask you this: would you prefer a lady who has dated many guys, that you don't happen to know? Because that will likely be the case if you let her go and start dating another lady instead. At least you can appreciate her good taste in men, if you see fit to keep company with them, yourself.

Pafoma:


What if i have detached from these circles even before i met her, we had met and started dating when i found out about them.

I mean, what will their respect do for me because we dont belong to the same circle any longer. If she can prove that i will not regret my decision then maybe i might be willing to risk it

I'm this case it was useless creating a thread on nairaland. If your only problem ismat the emboldened. We don't even know the lady in question let alone knowing if you will regret marrying her or not. I think she is only person to address they very issue. I pn this case you better discuss the matter with her. We are not in the position to answer for her.

Doro is a cheerful giver - Don Jazzy

Ask Tee Bliss when bros got married to Tiwa savage that have been done like ur gf in a circle, at the end, they broke broke.

At times, we need to be brave enough to take a drastic decision for the benefit of oneself..

Decode and comprehend this bro, then digest it

Skyfornia:


How do you think she can prove it and remain steadfast after wedding? Do you have any assurance?

Honestly, there is a way men look down on any guy dating their ex, especially when the said ex is someone they didn't value or someone with negative experience.

I'm not trying to discourage you, you can go ahead if you think or sure you won't use her past to judge her, or feel unease anytime you remember so so and so person had explored your wife's Bermuda triangle.

No be only Bermuda triangle, Na compass bearing.. Guys don even destroy the girl toto

baby124:

Don’t mind them. Very stupid. They say it with all authority because they are rapists. No normal person will have the guts to beat their chest that they can manipulate or forcefully have sex with an ex. That means they have not moved on and are still obsessed with these girls. Forming all sorts of tactics to sleep with them. Jobless and immature twa*ts.

A pussy once bleeped that always be refucked but based on the fucker and the fuckee - Okafor

mysticgal:

I mean I wondered where the whole law comes from and it made me realize that it is a movie. A Nigerian movie that people has gunned to their subconscious, of all movies, Nigerian movie.

Why would I want to have sex with an ex I left. why is the word ex there for. These men on this forum are just....God

Just add "S" to your "EX" Is equal to SEX with EX - Almighty formulae. Lol

BRATISLAVA:
so you don't know. This isn't about point of views, but that you don't know. You can only assume. Some say they don't, but they do. Some say they do, but they don't. You can never know. In as much as you don't live as either of them, you won't know. The best of your knowledge can't penetrate the Shields they put up. You cannot be sure they are happy.

Oga I know. Take it like that.

crackhaus:

Story story, normal emotional banter without substance.
Leave the immaturity for those of us that don't want anything to do with a friend's ex. Na your immaturity?

I can tell you for a fact that male friendships last because I have those kind of friendships with married and unmarried alike. Speak only about your own reality which is filled with broken friendships here and there, not about anyone else.
Keeping friendships does not mean you will see everyday or hangout every weekend - it simply means keeping in touch such that whenever you meet, it always feels like you never stopped seeing the person.

You won't understand what you don't experience anyway.

God bless u. Your advise is for the matured and not for the juveniles or minors cos no matter how hard u try to explain, it is way far beyond their reasoning

baby124:

If all you do is hang out at beer parlour with men that are consumed with sex and reminiscing over sexual encounters, then you need another job or a hobby. It’s actually disgusting to think of. Let me tell you, guys have snatched me from their friends before right from secondary school when we were not giving sex sef. Guys actually don’t care and they are very selfish, much more than girls once they find a girl they like. In fact they can compete and cut off the world to have that girl. Which is really how nature works! .

Let me confess here sef, I was kind of snatched as a wife and hubby has changed his circle the moment I agreed. . I am a hot cake if I must confess. . The toaster who was toasting was feeling like a G and, even introduced me to my guy. Before he knew what happened, we don move . It’s been wonderful and I am glad we chose each other.

Your wife is probably being paraded by one idiot right now, who she knows she can’t marry. And is using him to pass time.

In summary, u snitched your Bf, ex or whatever in order to be be with his friend?.. Which simply means u can snatch your friend's husband as well.. Sorry for the bittter truth from my stable

crackhaus:

Wetin you dey talk about beer parlor and beer biko?
Did I mention anything about beer parlor or having sex gists, you just type anything that enters your head because you want to make a point.
I don't even step into beer parlors, drink beer, or have friends with whom to be discussing sexual encounters.

Regarding your last paragraph - Don't kid yourself, if your hubby changed his circle after marrying you, then he and those guys were never quite that close to start with, probably just surface friendships.
Hot cake ko, Hot manna from heaven ni

Hot cake kor, hot baboon niii.. Lol

Vivyy:


Someone whose ex(es) you don't know can also rekindle old flames or become something else too, so it's not about that.

I see that the only problem here is how to deal with seeing your friends. How about relocating and settling elsewhere while making sure she cuts all ties with them.

Having those guys out of your face can help you deal with the issue. I'd not advise you leave someone you love only because of her past with your friends. The next lady might bring worse baggage.

Las las, follow your heart sir!

Since the girl is very vulnerable when it comes to sex, relocating ain't the solution cos she can resume her dick riding anywhere, anyway, anyday and anytime.. All the lady in question needs is serious counselling which is gonna open her brain to the dangers involved in being vulnerable sexually.. Once a thief "might" forever be a thief.. Her sexcapade might be a hobby or hobbit, who knows.

Enemyofpeace:
it means she has been passed around like Champions league football

From barca to Real Madrid.. Lol

NEVER MARRY A PARTNER OUT OF PITY COS MARRIAGE IS A LIFETIME JOURNEY OF THE UNKNOWN - SUMMERFLAME

Bro.... let me tell you the brutal truth, i was once in an exact relationship, I'm thanking God now, my ex bleeped about 2 friends in my circle, one even while we were still dating, she didn't know we were somehow close not until we all met at an event, i was the MC of the event, i swear i was the laughing stock throughout that event, because the said guy was elaborating how he bleeped my girl, even in the presence of my best friend, knowing fully well, he would tell me

After several break ups, she would beg and swear with her parents and late grand father that she would change, after i accept her back, she would do the worst, i had to finally break up with her, change my address, block her on all social media platforms and run for my life, i didn't wanted a situation where my children would look like my Security or Gateman...

Its fucking hard to do but my gee, u need to leave her, i dated this girl for more than 6 years, i loved her so much, but i had no option than to run, marriage is an institution no one graduates from, don't marry because she can Bleep or suck dick so well, marry who can manage your home and who is God fearing, else you would live to regret it...

It still hurts me till now whenever i think about it, because i even aborted what was not mine, but i had to move on, bro move on, that girl na public property, else las las you go dey write dear Joro

Vyolet:
You alone can have your woman's back, you alone can give her respect and have others respect her.
The most important thing is if she is truly changed and remorseful, is she also ready to be loyal?
There are men that married retired sex workers and things work Perfectly, Marriage is like a black-market, you never know what you will meet until you get in there.
Since those people are no longer in your circle even long before you met your fiance, then you may go ahead with her, In the end though, follow whatever your heart tells you.

this could be us, can i meet ya?

calgaryFriend:

You mean to tell me that women have finished around yOu ?
That marriage you want to rush into I hope you will not rush out of it sha ?
How can you even think of dating talkless of marrying someone your friends have slept with ?
Do you have an infirmity or something ? Cant you get another lady and build your life with her ?

Just know that marriage isnt dating, that sex that is clouding your sense now go clear for your eye after marriage ....

hmm, na i know how bros feels, that girl is beautiful and bros want the fvck of beautiful frosh lady seeing her by his side of bed every morning as wife, i know the feeling, hv been there, i for don marry that olosho Remi, na God saves me.

Livecamp09:


God bless u. Your advise is for the matured and not for the juveniles or minors cos no matter how hard u try to explain, it is way far beyond their reasoning

True stuff man, true stuff.

Bless...

Livecamp09:


Hot cake kor, hot baboon niii.. Lol

8k2nuts:


Oga I know. Take it like that.

k

Nobody else will be marrying this woman but you.


If she has been with these guys in a cheating scenario, then steer clear. If not, I don't see the problem.


However, talk with your friends and your fiance, separately about the matter.

How can she be your fiance if and when you haven't trashed this problem already?

Pafoma:
Guys! I need serious, real and honest contributions.. Thanks to all that will contribute.

I have a lady whom i am dating. I truly love and care about her but she has been with people that are in my circle and this disturbs me. She didnt used to be a straightforward and totally faithful person but i see that she is making efforts towards being completely honest and straightforward but still i dont have rest in my spirit about taking the decision to marry her.

I have observed she is soft with guys and is not firm, although i am aware it takes time for someone used to a particular pattern or lifestyle to adjus. I need help because breaking up with this lady will mean that i have to look for someone else to start the entire circle with again and who knows what if the new one also comes with even worse baggages.

My questions are these

1. What do you advice i do?
2. Who has been in similar situation where you fell in love with a lady your friends and circle have been with then married her? What was the experience like including things to look out for..
3. How can be sure i wont regret the decision to go forward?

Please feel free to ask me any question and i’ll answer if they are not sarcastic or jokes..

Thank you.

pocohantas:


Yea, a law to make pricks feel good about themselves. Not anything to be taken very serious. People fck everyday- get over yourselves.

Of course ladies always deny it, but everyone knows what the reality is.

mysticgal:


If you read my second post, you’d see where I said, if you have met 100people, I mean met, not heard about, 100 people who have obeyed the law, then basically it no more a generalization. It’s true.
You people act as if this law is universal law. Besides I have met at least, 20 people, men and women who wouldn’t go back to their ex’s even with guns to their head, 21, of you include me.

I did not generalise anything, I only told you it exist and it is as common as pure water. It is so common that almost every male friends has one or two exes that are locking around and mostly women gives the chance. There is one of my friend that his wife just told him " you people should confess to me, u still love each other" he is not shagging the woman and his wife knows that, but if he wants to, he will.
Ask any male friend around you, married or unmarried about exs locking around and he might tell you. Generally women are secretive among themselves and 90% will never open up about things like this with their friends, most women will pretend they don't but inreality and what I'm seeing around, hmmmmm 'it is very common'.

Now a days of plenty exs, their are some exs we can't just let go and there are some exs we don't even want to see even with gun on our head, this is where the problems emanates from. Those exs we can't just let go are the ones we may later do things with. Most of the time it starts from just platonic friendship and if care is not taken, it may leads to something else especially if the man is somebody who wants to take advantage of the situation.

Infact some deliberately avoid each other not because they hate each other, but chemistry still act anytime they see each other and the best way to avoid unnecessary stuff is to avoid each in lonely or private place. For women, it is just chemistry but for men chemistry is secondary, ego is the main thing, the feeling is "i still have access to this things even after it belongs to another man" .

NiCurious:
Let your instincts be your guide. But I ask you this: would you prefer a lady who has dated many guys, that you don't happen to know? Because that will likely be the case if you let her go and start dating another lady instead. At least you can appreciate her good taste in men, if you see fit to keep company with them, yourself.

At least you can appreciate her good taste in men.


what does the above mean?

First you said she is soft with guys that one alone is a red flag bro, a lady like that will cheat on you at any slight mistake she might not do intentionally but do to vulnerable lady she is, she will not have that strength to resist any sexual advances especially from her ex because they might still be around her and the worst will happen is you ever travel and leave her behind like a month plus.

babyfaceafrica:
men are comfortable with not knowing the number of people you have slept with,the problem with OP is that he knows the number and they are people he knows...this is an issue!!..It is not easy to forget

Like the Philosophers would say.. Ignorance is bliss.